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Relationship Reset: Reignite, Reconnect, Rebuild
Feeling stuck in your relationship after years together? Relationship Reset is your go-to podcast for busy, high-achieving couples ready to break free from autopilot and rebuild a thriving partnership. Join relationship expert Katie Rössler, LPC for practical tools, real-life stories, and actionable advice to reignite passion, rebuild trust, and reconnect on a deeper level. Whether you’re navigating communication breakdowns, struggling with intimacy, or just feel disconnected, this podcast is here to help you transform your relationship—and create the love you’ve always envisioned.
Perfect for couples who want to reignite their spark and reconnect with purpose. It’s never too late to hit reset.
Relationship Reset: Reignite, Reconnect, Rebuild
Why You Can't Stop Resenting Them: The Shame No One Talks About with Kyira Wackett
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You didn't just marry your partner. You married a suitcase full of shame you don't even remember packing.
In this episode, Katie sits down with therapist Kyira Wackett to unpack the thing quietly running most long-term relationships: shame. Not the dramatic kind. The kind that shows up as over-functioning, resentment about the dishes, or going quiet the moment things get real.
Kyira introduces a metaphor that reframes everything: the shame suitcase. It starts light, a single belief picked up in childhood about what you have to do or be to earn love. Over years together, more gets attached to it. By year fifteen, it's heavy enough to explain why you snap at your partner for sitting down, why vulnerability feels dangerous, and why the same fight keeps circling back with new words.
Katie and Kyira get specific about what actually shifts this. The difference between empathy and absolution. Why couples need to separate love from logistics. How the resentment you feel toward your partner is often really about the permission you haven't given yourself. And why healing has to happen inside the relationship, even though the relationship is where the shame gets triggered in the first place.
This conversation will make you rethink what you've been calling a communication problem.
Watch my interview on Kyira's podcast HERE.
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