How to Reclaim Your Power (Vault)

Welcome to Balance & Beyond Mindset Moments, a brand new bite-sized short from Jo. This week we explore the powerful concept of being "at cause" in your life, calling back to Season 1 Episode 18.

This is about recognizing that while we can't control all circumstances, we can choose our responses and intentionally create our lives within the context of our responsibilities.

If this resonates with you, you can find the rest of Episode 18 here: https://www.balanceinstitute.com/podcast/2023/18

Thanks for taking this moment for yourself. If this resonated, share it with a friend who needs to hear it today, and don't forget to subscribe to Balance & Beyond for full episodes and more of these bite-sized breakthroughs.

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Transcript

Speaker 1 0:04

Welcome to Balance and Beyond Moments. Your weekly dose of insight, wisdom and mindset shifts, all in 10 minutes or less. Whether it's a powerful truth, a fresh perspective or a spark of inspiration, this is your space to pause, reflect and reset. Let's dive in.

Speaker 2 0:24

So if you're out there and you're listening and you're wondering, why is life not going the way I want it to go, this just might be a big game changer for you as well. And so the concept is called being at cause in the matter of your life, and another way of saying that is being the creator of your life. So many times we're actually in reaction mode and we are at the effect of our lives that, instead of being the one who says this is, you know, being intentional about how we want our day to go, the kind of work we would love to be doing in the world, the kind of relationships we would love to be having. Instead, we're constantly responding to stimulus and letting life actually dictate the way our life goes, and we're constantly responding and often in negative reactions, to how life is going and to circumstances. So, yes, essentially deciding that you're the creator of your life, and it sounds a little bit easy, doesn't it?

Choosing Your Response to Circumstances

Speaker 1 1:15

Because I have women tell the time yes, but Jo, I have a job and I have to earn money and I have to take the kids to soccer practice and I don't have a choice. I just have no time. This is my lot in life. If I want to be somebody who has a career and I've also got children, I just have to suck it up and there's nothing I can do about that. So life can be very compelling, can't it? This feeling like we are a victim of our circumstance?

Speaker 2 1:41

Absolutely. I mean, there is a reality too that we're contending with, that we are moms and professionals and all these roles that we hold and things that we are responsible for or to. So I'm not denying that. However, it's kind of it's owning all of that, like, yes, I am a mother, yes, I am a professional, and I own that, I'm responsible for these things. However, I am going to be intentional I think that's a really powerful word and I'm going to create a life I would love inside of that context, the context of the relationships that I choose, the work that I choose. Now, we don't choose all of our circumstances, but we do choose the context and the way that we respond to those circumstances, and that is the game changer. A lot of people don't realize they're actually choosing how they respond to their circumstances.

Speaker 1 2:29

And that's where it becomes powerful, right, because it's the constant suffering that we go through where something happens to us and it's, you know, my boss has asked me to do this last minute thing and then it's the story, and it's the suffering, and it's the emotional anguish and it's a beating ourselves up and it's the guilt. That's what takes away our power, which is exhausting.

Speaker 2 2:50

Exactly, yeah, and we've even identified three ways that we often step out of our power when we think that life is bigger than us or circumstances are bigger than we are, and we forget that we are the ones who choose how we respond. There's three, three main ways that we've identified, so I thought we could break that down today in this conversation as well.

Breaking Down Power Traps

Closing and Call to Action

Speaker 1 3:07

I love it. So let's get into what is the first you call it. Call it trap or thing that we fall victim to, and giving away our power is a is a bit of a buzzword. I've heard a lot lately, but it's a really, really important concept that I want you to understand. So, Jacqueline, what's one of the first ways we do this? Thanks for taking this moment for yourself. If this resonated, share it with a friend who needs to hear it today, and don't forget to subscribe to Balance and Beyond for full episodes and more of these bite-sized breakthroughs. See you next time.