From Bullied to Bold: How Dazed and Delulu Was Born, Redefining Failure, and Embracing Self-Worth

In the debut episode of Dazed and Delulu, meet the hot mess that is your host.
 
We're spilling the tea on how and why this podcast was born and the journey that led to its creation. We explore the personal struggles of being bullied, how it shapes your perspective on self-worth, and the courage it takes to embrace who you truly are. 

Tune in as we attempt to redefine what failure means in a world obsessed with success and how leaning into life's chaos can help turn "delulu" dreams into a reality. This is just a taste of the unapologetic conversations to come—raw, relatable, and completely unfiltered.

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Chapters

• 1:40 Introduction
• 5:10 Why Dazed and Delulu: Mission and Purpose
• 5:19 Who I Am: The Formative Years
• 13:40 Bullying and the Impact on Self Esteem
• 15:31 Limiting Beliefs
• 16:35 A Fresh Start
• 17:55 The Power of Vulnerability
• 19:49 Chasing Dreams in Music and Travel
• 21:14 Finding My Place
• 22:57 Love, Loss and Lessons Learned
• 24:02 The Challenges of Starting Over
• 24:45 Living Unapologetically and Redefining Success
• 26:32 Embracing Life’s Zigzags

Transcript

Welcome to the very first episode of Dazed and Delulu. First of all, before I even say my name and what this is about, I have wanted to start this podcast for as long as I can remember. I even wrote down the name Dazed and Delulu in my notes back in 2021 when I was like in a completely different place, in a completely different country, and it's finally happening. 

So if you're listening to this right now, I just want to say thank you so fucking much for being here for whatever reason this podcast stood out to you. Perhaps we know each other, perhaps we don't, we've lost touch. We may have never even met, but the point is you're here. And for that I am so grateful to you. 

Whatever it is that you came looking for in this podcast, I hope you find it. Even if you just want to be nosy. I'm so excited to hopefully kickstart what will go on to become a beautiful community and just to be on this crazy little adventure called life with you. 

So, episodes are going to flip between guests and solos. 

So some weeks you'll hear my solo ramblings, which I'll be calling my Thoughts on the Loo, whilst others will feature stories from my very real guests. 

Hopefully all of the episodes will contain interesting topics of conversation where we get into the nitty gritty of some of life's biggest challenges like relationships, parenthood, sex, or lack thereof in my case, dating, self care, career, mental health, and more. 

Literally nothing is off limits, I want this to just be raw and unfiltered. I am anything but perfect. So I'm not going to pretend that this is going to be perfect. 

So for those of you who may not know me, my name is Lauren Ralph. My nickname is Ralph or Ralphy if you want to be besties. And I started this podcast for anyone who thinks they've failed in life or thinks they should have their shit together by now. 

I've just turned 36. I'm unmarried, childless and single. I just quit my full time job to pursue a career. Sorry, to pursue my dream, which hopefully I can turn into a career. So you could say that by society standards, I'm a big fat failure but I'm here to remind you and myself that you don't have to have it all figured out by any fucking age. 

If you still don't know what you're doing at 50, that's okay. I'm sure that there's still people out there that are like, what the fuck am I doing with my life? Am I on the right path? Am I happy? Is this where I belong? It's actually so normal. 

You'll find a lot of people don't care to admit that, but I am not one of those people, my friend. 

Now I wrote the mission statement of Dazed and Delulu in my journal as I was watching the sunset in Greece on the night of my friend's wedding. And that's when I decided that I was unfulfilled, deeply unhappy, and that my life needed to change. So in keeping with the theme of this podcast which is 100 percent authenticity. I want to read it for you now, word for word. So you can envision where my head was at at the time that I decided enough was enough and it was time to make my dream a reality. So I'm going to read this fresh out my journal, which I have sat next to me now. 

You'll come to learn that, um, I fancy myself a bit of a writer. So yes, my journal is very descriptive. You'll soon come to realize that about me. So this is it word for word. What I wrote back on the 6th of June, 2024 in Greece. 

There's something about the way the waves of the ocean slap the shore. The sound of the waves rolling in and out. 

The breeze softly tickles my skin. It's like a warm embrace from the universe that just says, everything is going to be okay. I've got you. I'm always so happy and relaxed by the ocean. 

It's my dream to own a house by it one day. I started off the day hungover and slightly anxious and now I'm just so zen and calm it's almost euphoric. 

I find myself soul searching again, looking for answers from the outside when deep down I need to look from within. 

I want to create, I want to build a community and foster connections to help others feel less alone in this beautiful, albeit sometimes brutal world. And then this is where I wrote the concept in big capital letters. 

Dazed and Delulu, for the girl who thinks she's failed at life or thinks she should have her shit together by now. I want to build a brand and a community that helps you feel less alone. I want to build a podcast with guests with real stories who are real people navigating life in different ways and still smashing it. 

There is no right way to live life and I want people to know that what goes wrong is their right. I want to be vulnerable and say things people might wish they could say but are too afraid to admit. I want to facilitate conversations and connect people. I want to inject humour into situations that may usually depress you. 

I want to create content that entertains, helps distract from a reality you might hate being in right now. I want to be the best friend I never had growing up as a teen, but so needed. Who knows if risking it all to create will pay off. Maybe I'll have no money, but I don't now anyway. So that is literally it fresh out of my journal. 

And more than that, I just want to have open and honest conversations, discuss the harsh, but insightful truths of everyday life and how messy it can get. But how we can still find beauty in that. I just want to give you something to relate to. A lot of my friends are married with kids, they don't always sympathize with my lonely single self. 

So episode one is just a little get to know me, who I am, how I got here and I want to go back to the very beginning, the formative years when I was a child which explains a lot about who I am. You're very impressionable as a child and a lot of experiences that I had as a child really shaped the person that I am today for better and for worse. 

So as a child, I was always pretty creative. My mom would probably say a little madam, but I loved being the centre of attention. I was always writing songs and dancing around the playground. Before I was even 10 years old, I'd written a song and I can actually remember it now. I can remember exactly where I was in the playground in Benfleet, where I went to school. 

And it goes something like, he's a criminal. Yeah. He's a criminal. Whoa. Yeah. And I literally remember thinking I'm going to be the next, Britney Spears wasn't around at that time, but like if you could imagine who you would emulate to be, it was the next Britney Spears. So I was very confident as a kid and I was always dancing in front of people. 

I was making up dance routines for the Spice Girls, Billie Piper to perform at the school talent show. And I was your typical Y2K girly. So my mission in life was just to have fun and just to laugh all the time. I just wanted to laugh, kick ass and just have so much fun at school until one day I was robbed of that and I began to get bullied. 

So my first experience was in junior school. There was me and four girls that I used to knock about with and we used to be like inseparable, the very best of friends. And then I remember I went on holiday. So I was away for a week with my family and on that holiday I missed my friends so much and I bought these necklaces. 

I remember them exactly, they were like little blue crosses and they were on a black cord chain and there was four of them because I obviously brought them back for all of my best friends. And I remember skipping into the schoolyard when I first got back from holiday and wanting so eagerly to give them these presents in their brown paper bags. 

And I remember running over to the girls and going to hand them their presents and they all turned away from me and just walked away. And this continued right the whole day. 

They wouldn't speak to me. I had absolutely no idea what I'd done and I was racking my brain to think what I could possibly done. 

But I'm thinking I wasn't even at school for a week so I couldn't have said anything. Bearing in mind I was about 10 years old at this point. So how can you process what you may or may not have done as a 10 year old? Anyway, this was before phones, so we didn't have mobile phones, so when I got home that night after school, I called my friend on the house phone and then she proceeded to tell me that they had actually all voted in swimming class that they preferred the group without me. 

Obviously, I was away for a week, so they decided to say, yeah, I, let's all vote and see if we prefer it without Lauren. And unfortunately, everybody unanimously decided that they did prefer it without me, so therefore I was no longer part of the friendship group. Luckily for me at this point I only had six to seven months left of school, which was still obviously very very difficult for me because I was very lonely at that time and I went through a hell of a lot, like being cast aside and rejected was really hard to take and I don't think people realize the effects that it has on you in later adult life and to be honest I don't think I really felt the weight of it or knew the weight of it back then. 

So then obviously I moved on to senior school and I had one very best friend in senior school. None of the girls really went to the same school anyway so it wasn't a huge issue. It's kind of like I was moving on and starting fresh. I was an absolute nerd at my senior school. I would wear my tie so long that it would tuck into my freaking Simon Cowell trousers which were like literally up to my tits and they were like boy trousers as well. 

They weren't like sophisticated flares where your ass looks great. No, these were like oversized man trousers. My Nan convinced me to get a very awful haircut as well. So I had like this really disgusting boyish haircut that just did no favors for me. So I went in obviously quite a geek, but I found a best friend in my form and we like snuck around together and we had loads of fun and just kept ourselves to ourselves. 

I was also very academic as well. I really enjoyed the educational part of school. So I was getting straight A's and I was really happy. Until my best friend happened to go on holiday and then unfortunately I found myself without anybody for two weeks and I thought oh god I feel like I did back at school when I didn't have anybody again. 

Then I fell into the popular crowd by accident. I was really good friends with one of the girls who by association was super popular and she came with the popular crowd. So we used to go out together and I never used to be around the popular girls without her until one night she couldn't come out and I'd been invited out and the girls were at my door and I was like oh well is so and so coming out and they were like no not tonight but you just come out. 

So, I spoke to my friend and she was like, go, you'll have fun. Went to the park. When I got to the park, they told me that a girl had been prank calling my house phone. I knew who this girl was and I knew that she had in fact been prank calling my house phone. And they were like, we've got her here. We've told everybody to come down because we're gonna see you fight her. 

And I am not confrontational. I hate fighting of any kind, like even just like heated conversations, they're not for me. So I said to them, I was like, I'm really sorry, but I'm not going to fight her. Like I've got absolutely no reason to like, she's not really done anything. Yes, she's been prank calling my house phone and it's not great, but no, I'm not going to fight her. 

They were very angry about this because they'd obviously organized this big hoo ha and everybody had come down to see this kickoff. And unfortunately I wasn't playing ball. So then one of the girls turned on me and said, right, well, if you're not going to fight her, I'm going to have to fight you because you've been slagging me off behind my back. 

Which is a load of fucking bullshit, by the way, because I didn't know these girls well enough to slag them off behind their back. I was friends with the other girl who didn't come out. So anyway. 

Obviously everybody is here in this field waiting to see a fight. She's off to the side talking to me about how she's going to hit me. 

And then she convinces me that after two weeks it'll be fine cause we'll be friends again. And I thought, you know what? I can't go back to not having friends. I need to have friends. So I let her hit me. When I look back on it now, I just want to hold that little girl and just be like, babe, what were you thinking? 

But I was too young to fully understand and the last thing I wanted was to have no friends again. So she hit me, unfortunately I'm not a fighter, I'm a lover, so I didn't hit back, didn't really know what to do to get her off me. She had very long curly hair, so my first instinct was to grab her hair, so I did, I grabbed her hair and that soon got her off me. 

Luckily I only lived about five minutes away from the park, so I raced home and obviously went crying to my mum. She couldn't believe it, my eye had swollen up almost instantly, like I had this huge black eye. It was just an absolute nightmare. And then obviously I spoke to my friend. I told her what happened. 

She couldn't believe it, but I still went to school the next day because I was like, it's fine because we're going to be friends again anyway. It was just because of like, she just had to fight someone. So we'll be friends again. Well, well, I can go to, I can go to school. It's absolutely fine. Went to school. Absolutely horrendous.

Everyone thought it was absolutely hilarious that I'd been punched in the face and like walking around with this big black eye just basically said, yep, you're a huge loser. And unfortunately, we didn't become friends again in a couple of weeks. In fact, life for me at school just got harder and harder. 

I'd actually lost touch with my best friend who went on holiday because I had fallen into the popular crowd. So we weren't really friends. So I didn't really have anybody. So I was at the point where I was saying to my mom, I'm not going to school. Like, I actually would rather die than go to school. It was  horrible. After going into school with a big black eye, it was like I just had a target on my back and I would always wonder what the hell I did wrong. I could never see that it was everything to do with them and nothing to do with me. And the thing is, my name at school was Lauren Rolfe, spelt R O L F E, and everybody nicknamed me Lauren Rough after that. 

I became Rough Girl. Oh, she's so rough, you know, Rough Girl. Oh, Lauren Rough. And the name calling Every day was relentless. People would spit at me in the corridor. I didn't know what the fuck was wrong with me and I really hated myself. So from that day on school just became horrendous for me. A place that I so loved and I loved the educational side of things. 

My grades started slipping. I was getting D's and E's. My reports were awful and I just spiralled out of control. My self esteem was completely in the toilet. I was so depressed and so miserable that I kept questioning if anybody would ever like me in this life. Like, it was horrible to have to go through it at the end of primary school and then go through it again in senior school. 

And, it does things to somebody's self esteem when they get rejected like that because you're so impressionable at a young age. You just consider this evidence that you are not likable, you're not lovable, and you're worthless. And those are all of the beliefs that then started to take hold of my brain, which then went on to limiting beliefs, which if you've ever done therapy, you will know are very fucking hard to shake, especially when they come out when you're a young person. 

So these are things that I'm taking into my teenage years, I'm just hitting puberty. I'm thinking I'm not worth anything. And school became like literal hell for me. So my mom pulled me out of that school and I moved schools and I couldn't just move to the next school over in the catchment. I had to move areas because I was so terrified that this Lauren Rough would follow me everywhere. 

Because obviously when you're in the same area, you're going to have best friends that are also in the same school. So I was like, if I move over, they're just going to tell their friends to bully me. I can't do it. I have to go completely out of the area. So I did. I went over to Rayleigh and when I got to Rayleigh, I was terrified that Lauren Rough would just be bullied again and I would literally just hate my life. 

But as luck would have it, I got there and I remember, I can't even remember who it was, the first person that said this to me, but whoever it was, I am eternally grateful to you. They said to me, Oh wow, your name's Lauren Ralph. You're like Ralph Lauren. And I was like, YES, yes, I am. My name is Lauren fucking Ralph. 

This is who I am and it gave me this new lease of life like yes, I'm a different person. I am renouncing Lauren Rolfe and Lauren Rough. She is nobody This is who I'm meant to be. I am Lauren Ralph and because there were so many Laurens in our school year we all got called by our last name. So I was forever called Ralph So I went from being Lauren Rough to Lauren Ralph somebody who people cared to listen to who thought was funny And then things got really great because I started dating the hottest guy in school who was super popular. 

So then I became popular by association. All of his friends became my friends. They were such a beautiful group. And I was just a completely different person. Those girls are still my very best friends to these, to this day. So from the age of 14 years old, my life just changed. My confidence grew. I started getting back into singing and dancing. 

I started finding joy in everyday life again. My confidence came back. I started to actually believe that maybe I was likable. Maybe I was doing something right. And here's an exclusive for you. Later in life, I actually went on to legally change my name because sometimes people would see documentation with Lauren Rolfe on it and wonder why I spelt it different. 

So I started working for a solicitor's firm and I actually legally changed my name to Lauren Ralph, so I would never have to be associated with that name ever again. My granddad still to this day doesn't know that I did that and that makes me feel awful, but the way that I was treated at school and the person that these bullies turned me into, I couldn't be associated with the name anymore. 

So now officially for about probably like 10 or 15 years now, I've been Lauren Ralph. That just goes to show how detrimental that bullying was for me and how it changed me literally as a person literally changed my name and those people that bullied me still found it funny even later in life like sometimes I'd be out walking or I'd be at a club and I'd see these girls that bullied me, and they would turn to their friends and laugh a bit like I punched you in the face once. 

And I'm like, you will never know the lasting effects that you have on me. And to be honest, it actually upsets me a little bit that I'm giving them this airtime by even talking about this on the podcast. But I've never spoken about this before, and if you don't actually know me, you know Lauren Ralph, you'll never know that a little girl called Lauren Rolfe used to exist, who hated herself, who didn't believe that she was good enough, who was always told that she was ugly or rough. 

And I want people to know that I have not always been this confident, self sufficient person. I was a shell of her really and if you look at my Instagram or any of my social media like obviously we always show the best bits but I don't want anybody to think oh she's so confident because that was never me. 

And I just think that it's really important to show that and be vulnerable and be honest about my story. Something that I'm now willing to admit because I never wanted to admit that I had changed my name before. I never wanted to admit that I was called Rough or Rolfe. I was so mortified, humiliated, embarrassed. 

I thought, how can I ever let people know that this was the person that I used to be? But now, it’s time. I'm 36 years old and I won't be belittled or be in fear of who I used to be because that little girl, Lauren Rough, got us where we're supposed to be. She got us where we are today. And I know that that sounds dramatic, but it's true. 

And I just think be kind to people because you'll never know the effects of what you say will have on them even 10, 15 years down the line. 

So fast forward to leaving school, everybody's going off to uni, I didn't really want to study anymore, I didn't really know what I wanted to do, I just knew that I wanted to see the world so I decided that in true Britney form I wanted to continue with singing and dancing so I went abroad to Cyprus to do a season as an entertainer. 

Six months out of the year, absolutely loved it, I was doing aqua aerobics. Kids disco, doing the cabaret live shows in the evening and I loved being on stage. My confidence was back up again and I was really really enjoying it. Unfortunately it was seasonal so I was back and forth every six months when the season shut down and then I'd be over there again. 

I did this for four years and then I started missing home so I decided that I would come back and I would try and get a proper job and see where it took me. Started working in the music industry. I just wanted to be around musicians and hoped that maybe I would get to do something within the music industry. 

Realized pretty quickly that not many people make it as a singer, funnily enough, and I just really didn't have the Je Ne Sais Quoi that was transcending onto Glastonbury instead of a Ayia Napa hotel stage. So I decided that I'd probably have to jack that in and think about what I wanted to do long term. 

Again, I felt really lost and really misunderstood when I was in my twenties, even in my late twenties, I didn't really know what I wanted to do. And I felt like everybody around me knew what they wanted to do. And the first instinct for me was just to run away. So I decided again that I would go and travel only this time I would backpack and I would go across the world. 

So I would go and see it all. So when I got to 28 I thought, you know what? I've got nothing. I don't have a boyfriend. I don't have a mortgage. Don't have anything really tying me here. So I'm just going to go and run away. So I packed everything I owned into a backpack and set off onto this solo

adventure around the world. Started off in Africa, went and did the big five, saw everybody on safari, then I went over to Thailand, Vietnam, Laos, Bali, and then eventually I settled in Australia. I got to Cairns, I found a job that I loved and kind of fell into it. I was in sales for a travel company which then led me to marketing for a bungee jumping company. 

I did a lot of social media and I finally found a career that I loved. I thought, I want to be a storyteller. That's always really what I wanted to do. Whether I was telling stories through music, through writing, through anything really, I was always telling stories and marketing just made sense to me because I was telling a brand story through social media, through video content, through photos, and literally being able to write emails to people and tell them why they should come and do this amazing thing called bungee jumping, which would change their life. 

And, i fell in love. For the first time in my life, I was in a real adult relationship. We were together for five years. We moved in together. We had two cats and I remember sitting there at the age of 30 years old on the corner of my bed as I was preparing for my 30th birthday party in Australia in Cairns, which is where I resided up by the Great Barrier Reef. 

And my mom and dad had flown in and my best friend Scarlett had flown in and I just remember sitting there with tears in my eyes thinking we did it. We finally found our place. We know exactly where we want to be. We found the career, we've got the guy, we've got it all. And I just remember feeling so elated that this lost little girl who was misunderstood and never thought that she belonged had finally found her way in life. 

And then happily ever after the end. 

Unfortunately for me, the story didn't end there. COVID hit, life got hard. We got no money because obviously we were not citizens of Australia. So therefore we weren't able to have any government support. Our relationship broke down and I found myself alone on the other side of the world not knowing what the bloody hell to do with my life once again. My world had come crashing down all those limiting beliefs that i had as a child came flooding back you're never going to find happiness, you’re never good enough, things always fall apart why is it you can just never have your happy ever after, you are a piece of shit and these are things that i told myself consistently for two years when my relationship broke down as if it was all my fault when obviously we all know it takes two to tango. So for two years I agonized over whether or not I should go home. 

There were so many things to consider. I wrote so many pros and cons list over that time because Cairns is very transient. A lot of my friends had drifted. They'd either moved back home because of COVID or they'd moved cities. So my once fully formed friendships were now few and far between, which made it even harder because I felt like I was alone with my thoughts a lot. 

I was so far away from family and friends. Like we're not even on the same time zone. So. I agonized over the decision and then I came to the realization that I was deeply unhappy and that I couldn't continue to be unhappy. So I prioritized my mental health and I left. 

My best friend Scarlett came to pick me up and we did Bali. 

I wanted to make sure that I went out with a bang when I left Australia and we did two weeks of traveling around Bali before I came home. She was kind enough to put me up and I started this new life. And don't get me wrong, it was fucking hard, when you're coming home as a 35 year old and having to start again from scratch knowing that everybody else pretty much has their life set up with their marriage and their kids and their careers and I was coming back to nothing. It was hard.

It was a huge adjustment, even just being back in the weather. 

Cairns is a very tropical place. It was 40 degree heat every day. So coming back into the cold, dark mornings and the winter and rain, it was very difficult, very difficult. And again, I had to really soul search and do a hell of a lot of work to try and get myself to a place where I would be happy. 

I have flitted around from a few different jobs and realized that I still felt unfulfilled. And that's when I wrote down in my journal that I was still unhappy and I thought I didn't come home from Australia to be unhappy. I came home from Australia to hopefully find a new lease of life. And that's when I realized I'm not going to find it working for a toxic asshole in London, not earning enough money, not really doing the work that I feel passionate about. 

What am I going to do about that? So I decided to create this podcast and do freelance marketing, work for myself, go after what it is that I want and remind myself that it's okay to do that. Not to beat yourself up when things don't go right. It's not like I didn't bloody well try to make a life of myself elsewhere but we just have to let go of the life that we thought that we'd have. 

Sometimes things don't work out and you can rack your brain trying to figure out why things don't work out or why these people don't like you or what it is that you could have possibly done wrong but it doesn't get you anywhere. All you can do is trust that the universe has a path for you. And I know that sounds woo woo, but rejection is redirection. 

I honestly think that wherever you end up in life, you will get there. You will get where you're supposed to be. Even if that route is here, there and everywhere and you take the scenic route, you will get there, but you just have to keep the faith that you're on the right path. And if ever you're not happy with any part of your life, relationships, career, the place that you live. 

Anything that makes you even slightly unhappy, please take a step back and reassess, because I know that people are like, I have to have this 9 to 5 job, I have to make a living, and I do appreciate those things. Luckily for me, I don't have a mortgage, and I don't have a marriage, and I don't have kids. 

But life is short. I really think that people just need to regularly check in with themselves and just ask, am I truly happy? I'm not stupid. Like nobody's going to be happy a hundred percent of the time, but if you are stressed out more than you're happy, I believe that something in your life needs to change and that can be a change that happens 10 times over. 

I mean, how many changes I've made in my life. I lived in Cyprus, I lived in.Mallorca. I’ve come home. I went back. I lived in Australia. Like I always found myself moving around until I was happy and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I used to beat myself up about that. I'd be like, God sake, you just need to be happy in one place. 

But if you don't like something, change it. And it's like going back to what I was saying in my journal, there is no right way to live life. Some people live like a horizontal line. They literally go to school, they go to uni, they get married, they have children. There's nothing wrong with that. But there are others who have a very big zigzag in their line. 

Everything's going great, then it goes tits up, then it goes up, then it goes great again, then it goes here, then you change, and then you pivot your career. There is nothing wrong with that. And I think with this podcast, what I want to do is have conversations with people who may have lived life differently, who may be unconventional, but they're also unapologetic. 

I have experienced a hell of a lot in my life. Like I said, the experiences at school really shaped who I was as a person, the self esteem issues. And then obviously when things don't go right, I then go in on myself as if I'm the one to blame. And I think a lot of people are guilty of doing that, which is why I want to have these conversations and be open about how I feel and what I've been through. 

If that helps even one person just by listening to this, then I've done what I set out to do. You know, I, I want to be honest about the fact that I don't know what I'm doing. I've never known what I'm doing. And then even when I do feel like I'm finally on the right path, it all goes to shit anyway. So I think that there needs to be a level of sensitivity, a level of understanding, and just to give people a break. 

Like life is not fucking easy. It's downright difficult sometimes, and anything that you can do to make your time on this earth happier, more positive, do it. 

Just remind yourself that you're doing the very best that you can and that's all you can do. We're all guilty of being hard on ourselves, being unkind to ourselves, telling ourselves that we're not good enough, telling ourselves that we need to do better, telling ourselves that we should have achieved x, y, and z by now. 

But what we really need is compassion for ourselves, for others, and just to ride the wave. It's not always going to be easy and to be honest, if it was, life would be boring. Like we want some kind of a rollercoaster because it keeps life interesting. Not to the point where obviously we're throwing up and we just want to get off, but you need a little bit of excitement in your life. 

We've all got a story and that's really what makes life interesting. I wouldn't actually go back and change anything that has happened to me because it's made me who I am. Maybe if certain things hadn't happened to me, I wouldn't be who I am today. And that person is resilient. If I've learned anything and I've still got a hell of a lot of learning to do, I have learnt to be resilient and I've even got it tattooed on me - she is resilient. 

So if you got to the end of this podcast, thank you so much for listening. Thanks for being here. Hopefully you got something out of this episode and feel like, you know me a little bit more on why I've started this podcast. If you think somebody else could benefit from this, please share it with a friend. 

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