Episode 20: Stop Letting Life Pass You By - Here's How

"Enjoy yourself, it's later than you think."

If you were to live to 73 (the average lifespan of a human on planet Earth) how many summers do you have left?

That's a question that'll bring your life right now into sharp perspective I imagine.

If you're waiting for the 'right time' or the 'perfect moment' or for 'the stars to align' stop waiting and start moving towards the thing that you really want.

The time to begin is now.

In this episode I share:

- How self-sabotage and procrastination are keeping you stuck
- Why imperfect action always trumps inaction
- Navigating the impact of fear and imposter syndrome on your goals
- How to pay attention to what you want
- What inaction really costs you
- How to feel the fear and do it anyway

I'm of the opinion that as difficult as it can be sometimes, life is a gift and you get to choose how you experience it. If there's something you know you want to do be or have, the time to begin is now.

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Transcript

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Emma O'Brien: Hi, folks, welcome to episode 20 of the lemons and pineapples podcast with me, Emma O'brien. Today, I am going to be talking to you about why you should stop letting life pass you by. And why? Now is the time to step up and do that thing that you want to do. And now is the time to get going in the direction that you want to go in.

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Emma O'Brien: Google. AI has just informed me that the average life and expectancy of a human on planet Earth is 73 years.

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Emma O'Brien: If you're lucky, if you're lucky, it'll be more.

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Emma O'Brien: If you're unlucky, it might be less. And it's really interesting to put it into perspective here with this. So if you have an average of 73 years on Earth, I'm 44. Now.

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Emma O'Brien: I have 29 summers left, 29 summers.

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Emma O'Brien: and I think it's so interesting that we walk through life, and we waste time, and we stay stuck in situations that are rubbish. We stay in marriages that are rubbish jobs that we hate

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Emma O'Brien: struggling because we're like, well, this must be it.

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Emma O'Brien: And my favorite phrase that I hear people say, Well, some other people have it worse.

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Emma O'Brien: Yeah, they do. But it doesn't mean that you have to play smaller

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Emma O'Brien: because other people's lives are worse than you. If you're in a position to play bigger, go for it. Why are you not going for it?

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Emma O'Brien: And I think it's great to just have a bit of a perspective and a reminder that time is finite. Every day you sit

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Emma O'Brien: in a situation you don't want to be in is a day you are never going to get back, ever. You can't get it back. There's no do over. You can't reach back and have another 10 years back.

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Emma O'Brien: So if there is something that you would rather be doing, or somewhere you would rather be, or something you would rather be experiencing. Why are you not going for it right now?

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Emma O'Brien: And the reason often is because it feels like it's too big. Who am I to do that? How do I even begin. It's going to uproot my whole life, and I think change doesn't have to be

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Emma O'Brien: huge.

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Emma O'Brien: I've said it before. I'm going to say it again. You don't have to get hold of your bag of your bag. You don't have to get hold of your life like it's a handbag, tip it upside down, empty it all out and shake it loose. You can, if you want. I'm here for that, but

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Emma O'Brien: you can do it more incrementally and more manageably.

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Emma O'Brien: so you can start to have a look at.

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Emma O'Brien: and I think I'm always one for looking at the positive in things. Where in life am I having a good time right now?

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Emma O'Brien: Where? What feels good? What am I enjoying? Who are the people I like spending time with? Where do I like to go. What lights me up currently in my life right now?

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Emma O'Brien: Why aren't you doing more of that?

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Emma O'Brien: How can you do more of that?

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Emma O'Brien: And then to have a look at, what do I really not enjoy?

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Emma O'Brien: And what would it take for me to be able to shift so I can do less of what I don't like, and more of what I do.

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Emma O'Brien: Spurred on by one of my coaching clients, who also shares a love of books, she said to me. I've read the art of happiness when we did our discovery call, and I went. So I've probably got that I did. I reread it. I have a whole massive book collection. And the Dalai Lama basically sums up happiness as that is doing

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Emma O'Brien: more of the things you enjoy and less of the things you don't. But we overcomplicate this so much. I think some of us walk through life thinking, Well, how dare I have fun?

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Emma O'Brien: How dare you not have fun, hell. So

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Emma O'Brien: this may this podcast be an invitation for you to start to have a look at.

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Emma O'Brien: Where do I need more fun and joy and fulfillment in my life.

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Emma O'Brien: And what would it take for me to make some incremental or huge shifts, so that I can do more of that?

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Emma O'Brien: I had a situation in 2012, where I exited stage left from a relationship. It was a relationship with the guy I'd actually moved from the Uk to South Africa with.

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Emma O'Brien: and he turned out to be

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Emma O'Brien: psychotic, would be putting it mildly.

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Emma O'Brien: And I kind of went. Oh, this is really not very good.

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Emma O'Brien: but I wasn't in a position to just get up and leave. It was his house, and I was financially reliant on him and everything else. But I realized this in the long run is not what I want.

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Emma O'Brien: I do not want to be living this life, so what can I do to change it?

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Emma O'Brien: And I started to stash money separately. I started to really double down on my photography business, and I started to get my ducks in a row and get prepped for the day when he went to work, and I packed all my stuff, and I took everything, and I left.

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Emma O'Brien: But it took me nearly a year of prepping to get to that stage. So sometimes change takes a little while, and it's something that you have to do every single day to get yourself extricated from something you don't want to be in. Let's switch the relationship. We don't want to be in to a job you no longer want to be doing. If you want to have a career change.

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Emma O'Brien: you might need to retrain for something. Is there an evening class you can do?

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Emma O'Brien: Can you go and research it. When you finish listening to the podcast, go find, what do you need to be able to do that career shift and what is stopping you from starting right now with making a small step of making that a reality

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Emma O'Brien: change feels difficult because we go well, I'm here, and I want to be here, but the chasm between the 2 is so huge I don't think I can do it.

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Emma O'Brien: You won't be able to do it in one. Go, but you can do it incrementally with some planning and some strategy.

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Emma O'Brien: and getting yourself into the right headspace with it. If you're stuck. Being a victim of circumstance, you're never going to move anything. I talked in the previous episode of how your inner landscape and your inner reality shapes your outer reality when we can start to shift our beliefs and shift the way we are internally, we can start to make changes externally and take your power back.

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Emma O'Brien: The quiet ache for something more won't go away.

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Emma O'Brien: You can try and shut it up. You can try and numb it. You can try and ignore it. But that little nag in your soul that says we're destined for something more.

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Emma O'Brien: It'll never go quiet.

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Emma O'Brien: So what would it take for you to listen to it?

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Emma O'Brien: And what would it take for you to start taking small action steps in the direction that it is calling you.

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Emma O'Brien: How many summers potentially do you have left? If you're lucky.

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Emma O'Brien: and I think putting it into that kind of perspective you go. Oh, time is a bit finite. Do I want to spend the next 29 summers doing something I don't like.

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Emma O'Brien: Do I want to spend the next 29 summers going? Yeah, it's fine. Everything's fine. My life is fine.

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Emma O'Brien: And actually, I don't know about you, but I'm not here for fine.

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Emma O'Brien: I'm here for a good time. I'm here for an experience I'm here to enjoy and ring out every moment of this precious human experience, because being alive is a miracle in itself. And this human experience is a gift. If you're walking around in a body that allows you to to play and laugh and dance, and connect with other people, and talk and everything else. You are privileged. So why are you wasting that privilege.

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Emma O'Brien: And what is it to go on to a deeper level with it? What do you have to offer the world

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Emma O'Brien: that maybe would make life a hell of a lot better for everybody else. If you just stopped getting in your own way.

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Emma O'Brien: This has resonated, I will invite you to do one of 2. Well, 2 of 2 things, actually. But you can pick, do them all is to go to the show notes and go and get hold of a free Pdf, I've created, which is 30 questions to reconnect you to your purpose. You don't have to answer all 30. You can pick which questions and sit with a journal and reflect on them. If you're feeling lost, if you're feeling stuck, if you're feeling like, you know, you want something more

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Emma O'Brien: that this isn't enough for you. You're not prepared to settle, but you actually don't know what that more is. You don't know which direction to go. You don't know how to shift it. Go and download that and have a look through and start to reflect on some of those questions. They're really powerful. They're really, it's easy, but it'll start to get you going. Okay, this could be a direction for me. Actually, this could be what I want. Often we don't listen to ourselves

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Emma O'Brien: is we've lost connection with ourselves, and the most powerful connection you can have is the connection with yourself, and to be self-led and to

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Emma O'Brien: have life being an active choice every day rather than just this passenger ride that you're on the train, and you can't reach the emergency brake. You know that sucks. It's it's not cool. The other thing you can do if you're listening to this, and you're going hell. Yeah, I'm totally down for this journey is to book yourself a free strategy. Call with me, and we can talk about how one-on-one coaching

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Emma O'Brien: will help you to really get in touch with where you want to go actually who you are, actually what you want and get you a strategic plan to get there. If in case, you haven't gathered from all of the podcasts. And the way I show up is, I am pretty, no nonsense, and I am here to help people get from where they are

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Emma O'Brien: to where they want to be in the most efficient way possible. So if this is for you, get in touch.

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Emma O'Brien: really looking forward to speaking to you, thank you for being with me over the next few podcast episodes. We've got something special coming up. I'm going to be co-hosting with Sam Shrosbury, who is a functional medicine health coach. We have a brand new group coaching program in the works which is going to be amazing for all of this work as well, so keep an eye out for that. Thank you for listening folks. I will see you very soon, bye, for now.