What The Death of My Son Taught Me | with Bethany Shelton

Losing someone can flatten your world in a single moment, but the story never ends there... Bethany Shelton, who experienced the loss of her only child, her son Cavan, describes that moment as the crack that opened up everything. A pain that shifted her axis, and propelled her unto a journey that challenged what she believed about life, death and love.

We talk about the signs that stopped her in her tracks, coins appearing where they shouldn’t, birds showing up on request, and music turning on with no logical explanation. Bethany connects these experiences to a bigger framework of energy, frequency, and vibration, including how grief and shame can lock the body into fight-or-flight and narrow what we’re able to sense. From emotional frequency charts to nervous system regulation, we explore how living in the head can keep us stuck, and why she believes the heart is where choice and healing actually begins.   

You’ll also hear practical, listener-friendly tools for coping with grief and reconnecting with a loved one who has passed: writing a letter to ask for a clear sign, describing the feeling you want to receive, reading it aloud, then releasing the need to “hunt” for proof. Bethany shares an energy-clearing practice for when you pick up other people’s energy and stress, plus grounding and nature-based healing that brings you back to your own field. If you’re searching for grief support, spiritual awakening stories, or a new way to think about loss, this conversation offers a different map.

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Transcript

Welcome And What’s Ahead

Kertia 0:00

Hello everyone, welcome again to The Other Side of Fear. I am your host, Kertia Johnson, and in this conversation I am speaking with Bethany Shelton, who serves to guide others from suffering and grief to deep transformation. Now Bethany experienced a great loss, and in this conversation, she walks us through what she learned after the death of her son. She often says that upon losing her only child, she found her soul. This is a death that cracked her wide open and propelled her onto a spiritual journey, a path of mystery and miracles, and of self-learning and remembrance. And in this conversation, she shares what she learned from her son and her spirit guides, asserting that her story is not one of grief, but of expansion. In her own words, I wasn't broken, I was activated. So for those of you who are experiencing your own grief, may you also find your silver lining.

Memory of Being In the Womb

Kertia 1:51

Who I believe is your only child, right? And how that led you to this spiritual awakening. So yeah, I guess we'll just jump right into that.

Bethany 2:04

Yeah. Well, you know, and it's so interesting because when I take a look back at when I first went through trauma in this body being, um, it all kind of started back in, you know, before I even embodied, actually, I was in my mom's womb. And I tell you, I can I sure know how to do stuff because when I was in there, you know, I I asked my teams later on. I went and asked them, I was like, what was that about? So when I was in my mom's wound, I had my feet over my head for six months. Then as it came time for delivery date, I was like, oh no, I know what this lifetime's about. It's about, you know, grief, loss, separation, addiction, incarceration. No, not doing it, not doing it. So as it came closer to my due date, I managed to shove my head through my mother's ribcage and wrap my umbilical cord around my neck to the point, oh yes, to the point that it literally dropped my heart rate. And I was, I mean, they didn't know if I was gonna make it. So they had to do an emergency C section. And they, when they extract me out, I'm lifeless, girl. I am absolutely lifeless, blew the whole thing. And so they finally resuscitated me and got me back and put me skin to skin to my dad. And still to this day, my dad, you know, is a very much a protector, uh uh, my biggest fan. So that was a bond that him and

I Felt Like Something Was Wrong With Me

Bethany 3:40

I shared, you know, in that moment. But fast forward, you know, to third grade was really a huge, huge, huge turning point, not only mentally, but emotionally. I absolutely flipped. And so in the third grade, my teachers came to my parents and said, Hey, we think Bethany is on the spectrum. We need to go, we think that you need to go get her tested. And as any great parent would do, they took, went and got me tested. So of course, the the psychiatrist's like, yeah, Bethany's tested on the spectrum. We are gonna diagnose her with ADD, which is attention deficit disorder. So back then, they the psychiatrist wrote my parents two prescriptions, which is now of Adderall and Ritalin, which is now a Schedule II narcotic, and it's nothing more than speed um synthetic methamphetamine. It's it's what it is is amphetamine, but yeah. So my parents in the fourth grade, as coming into the fourth grade, they started to give me this medication. And girl, when I tell you when they gave it to me, I I was absolutely drugged out of my mind. I began to just sit there like a zombie, you know, zoned out. The kids started to make fun of me because they knew this isn't the Bethany that we knew from that we know. You know, I wouldn't play on the playground, I wouldn't eat food. I was just literally just sitting there zombified. So I went to my parents and I was like, yeah, I went to my parents and I was like, you know, I I can't take this. This I can't do it. And they're like, no, we think you need it. So I was like, well, I think I'm gonna outwit my parents. So I decided to, when they would give me the medication, I'd hide it under my tongue, I'd stuff it in my sock when they walked away, I'd throw it in the garbage, I'd do whatever I could to get it out. I just could not take it. Well, I guess my either my brother told off on me, or they caught on to my shenanigans. And they um, and here's where the shifting moment for me happened. So one day I'm sitting down to eat my lunch at the house with my parents, and I I had noticed that I hadn't they hadn't been giving me the medicine for quite some time. Well, so one day I'm I'm take a bite of a hamburger, and what do I buy? What do I bite into? You got it, the medicine. And when that happened, I had a complete mind shift. I was like, what's wrong with me? I felt I I wasn't good enough, less than blame, shame, guilt, all of these feelings that society, something's wrong. I'm not, I'm it's not okay to be myself, you know? And so in that moment, and later on in my in many years in my life, I began, I was mad, angry, agitated, aggravated. I had a lot of anger built up in me because I thought I there's something wrong with me.

Kertia 7:02

Yeah.

Bethany 7:03

Yeah. Yeah. So many of my years, I let that, I let that, you know, um that program, and that's what it is, a program that I was less than not good enough. And um that followed me through many years of my adult life. And then, you know, in 2000, I I had an amazing child.

Losing Cavan & Asking For Signs

Bethany 7:30

And, you know, yeah, yeah. Just an amazing, amazing being. And, you know, my son now is still my greatest teacher. Still, and um, if if your audience doesn't remember in 2020, uh 2020, my only child crossed over back into spirit, and you know, something really amazing started to take place. Um, the day of his funeral, I was in his room on my knees. God, I don't know how I'm gonna do this. I don't know what I'm gonna do. You know, can you please give me a sign that Kevin's okay and that I'm gonna be, you know, make it through this? Well, as I'm walking away from the burial, you know, just absolutely devastated beyond devastation. And it's a cloudy day, and I look up and the clouds parted and a rainbow popped out. And in that moment, I fell to my knees. I was just like, oh my God. You know, there there was a nice sign that I had just asked for earlier that morning. But I didn't realize how big that sign was until later on in my uh healing process. So um that that next year I

Discovering The Truth About Energy

Bethany 8:49

really took a deep dive into NDEs, which is near-death experience. And what these people were telling me was blowing my mind that they, when they crossed out of their body, they were absolutely in heaven. I mean, it was just that on a frequency vibration level, it was so euphoric. It was, they did not want to come back into the body and into earth and you know, into their reality. They were totally fine over there. And so, you know, I found that I was starting to soak this information up like a sponge. And I later on in my healing, I realized that when I was listening to these people, I though I was doing something with my energy, with my vibration, with my emotions, with my mental body. And so what so I, you know, I because everything I'm gonna talk about from pretty much here on out is everything, energy, frequency,

Your Departed Loved Ones Are Trying to Communicate With You

Bethany 9:53

and vibration. So it was really amazing. Um, one day I'm sitting on my couch and I was like, oh my God, I gotta go take a shower. Oh you know, so I go and I pull my shower curtain back and I look, and inside of my bathtub were coins, nickels, dimes, pennies. Now, I don't know about you or your audience members, but I don't shower with coins. I don't have I don't have them in my hands, I don't have pockets for them to be inside of my tub. So I picked up one of these coins and I looked at it, and it had my son's death ear on it, 2020. I said, man, that's that's kind of interesting. So I I still wasn't able to put it together, but several days had passed, and I get up out of bed as I normally do each each morning, and I make my bed, tidy up, put everything together. That night I come get in the bed, pull my sheets back, and what do I find in my sheets? Coins, coins that were not there that morning. Yeah, coins. And I'm like, what in the world is going on? But I still wasn't able to put it together. So two weeks had passed, you know, and here's where it starts to get fun. So I vacuum my whole house. Vacuum everything, I go put the vacuum cleaner up, I come back into my living room and I look, and what do I see on my freshly vacuumed floors? Coins. Now, do you know these coins were not just there? I just vacuumed. I just vacuumed. I pick up one of the coins and it had my son's birth year on it, 2000. I said, Oh, what? You know, at this point, I'm like, what is going on? This is crazy. So I pick up the phone and I call my mom. I was like, mom, something strange is going on. I am finding coins all over my house. She said, Oh my goodness, Bethany, your father and I were finding coins all over our house too. I said, What? What? She said, Yeah, right. What? She said, Bethany, I think it's Kevin trying to communicate with us. I said, What? I hung up the phone. I ran outside on my deck, and I said, Hey, Kevin. Girl, I'm tripping. I am tripping. I am so tripping. And I'm like, Kevin, that's my son, you know, Kevin. If this is you, buddy, I'm gonna need you to show up for me like a blue bird or a red bird. Girl, the very next day, everywhere I turned and looked, there was either a blue jay or a cardinal. Everywhere I turned, I stalked me the whole day. Wow.

Kertia 12:47

Oh my god.

Bethany 12:50

That's insane. Totally insane. Insane. And I said, oh my gosh, this boy is trying to communicate with me. Now, when I when I had that awareness, I like right now, I mean, I got so excited. I said, holy sh shit. This is this is a thing. This is possible. I we weren't we weren't taught anything. You know, what? So I started to take a look at how I each morning I'd get excited. I'd get you know, elevated emotion because I knew that the possibility of him communicating with me was possible. And that's all I needed was a possibility. So I started to just get so excited. Well, my son was just only getting started with his shenanigans. Just getting started, mom. Just getting started. And you know, it's so hilarious to me now because I mean, I'm talking about his dad and I would be sitting on the couch, and out of nowhere, on his dad's phone, his dad's phone would be sitting on the couch, and out of nowhere, one of my son's favorite songs would play on his dad's phone. Now, his dad does not have any of his playlists, has no, does not even vibe to the same music he does, but we could not shut it off. We could not shut it off for nothing.

Kertia 14:19

Wow.

Bethany 14:21

So my son, I know, right? It's so interesting,

Grief, Frequencies, Vibration & The Body

Bethany 14:25

you know. And so Kavin came to me and he said, Mom, he said, when I was in my physical body, and he calls it his his concrete shoes, he said, Mom, because your body, the body, is the densest thing possible. He said, So when I was in my body in my in my concrete shoes, he said, You and I vibrated on the same frequency, just like I'm talking to you right here, right now. He said, But mom, when I crossed back over into spirit energy, I rose in vibration. He said, But mom, when I crossed, you dropped because you went into grief, sorrow, bank plank, blame, shame, hurt. He said, Mom, do you see how far that it is to communicate? You see how the distance in that? And I said, Oh my goodness. So my teams came in and they're like, Bethany, go take a look at that. And I was like, go take a look at what are we taking a look at now? Emotional intelligence frequency chart. So check this out. When you are in grief, grief has a vibration of 75 hertz. All right. Now, when you're in sorrow, it has a a frequency of 50 hertz. Shame has 20. Now, guess where death vibrates at? Zero hertz. So you mean to tell me, you mean to tell me when I am in grief, sorrow, shame, I am vibrating on a vibration right next to death. Okay, so what we all have an electromagnetic field, right? And a late is an invisible field that precedes you six to eight feet out in front of you, 360 degrees all the way around you.

Kertia 16:24

Yeah.

Bethany 16:25

All right. Now, when you are in grief, sorrow, shame, your electromagnetic field constricts and restricts in on you. It like collapses. And what that does to the body, it puts the body in fight or flight. Now, if you are in grief, sorrow, and your body's in fight or flight. Now just imagine in time, weeks, months, years, and that's all you do is you you're in this emotion, thought forms, all of this, and in time, and you constantly keep that body in fight or flight, you are going to see dis-ease uh show up. Yeah, dis-ease. Yeah, so it's we weren't but you know, that's something we weren't taught any of these things.

Kertia 17:19

Yeah, nobody tells us these things. Yeah.

Bethany 17:22

No, but isn't that interesting? Isn't that then would it be safe to say that there we were taught about grief, sorrow, blame, shame as a child. Now, and here's the interesting thing. Children from zero to seven

Programming Through TV And News

Bethany 17:40

operate on a waveform of theta. Children intake information through visual and audio on repetition. Guess how we were all programmed, and still to this day, we were all programmed through guess what? A television. A what? Yeah. A television. It is telling you a vision through visual and audio on repeat. So children from zero to seven are operating on theta brainwave, and that is the same waveform as hypnosis.

Kertia 18:19

Yeah.

Bethany 18:19

Now, what happens when we put the Disney movies on, you know, the Lion King that operate in sorrow, grief, blame, shame, hurt, separation. You know, Simba was thrown out into the Badlands because, you know, he wasn't on the program with Scar. And they we were taught these frequencies at a young age.

Kertia 18:43

So true. So true.

Bethany 18:45

Yeah. I mean, and I've got a whole list here, girl, of of all of the movies and all as children that I know I watch, that I know I I put my son through to watch. And here's the thing is that even as adults, we're still running the same damn program because we tune in the television and we turn on the news. The news is nothing but the same bullshit.

Kertia 19:12

Program.

Bethany 19:13

Fearing, you know, ah, we're all gonna die. War, blame, you know. The world is yeah, all of this.

Kertia 19:23

Yeah.

Bethany 19:24

And what does that put the body in? It puts the body in fight or flight because it's a frequency, it's an energy that you are taking in, processing. And before, if you, you know, play in that realm, yeah, your your electromagnetic field is gonna contract, contract on you enough, and you're gonna form fight or flight and disease. That's how that's just how that is.

Kertia 19:50

Not to mention what that does to your brain function and how you perceive things, right?

Bethany 19:57

Well, yeah. Oh, yeah. You know, and that's

Get Out of Your Head

Bethany 20:00

and that's one thing that another thing we weren't taught about. You know, your mental body, we have several bodies. We have a mental body, an emotional body, a physical body, a spiritual body, and a light body. And we got several more, but I'll only touch on a few. You know, when you are operating only out of the mental body, guess what you're doing? You're thinking. Think, think, think. We were taught. We got to think, we got to study, think, think, get the right answer, be a good human. Yeah, live in your head exactly. Live in your head. Come to find out thinking is really stinking because yes, it's it is. I'm telling you, it is. Thinking is stinking because your powerhouse is your heart. Yeah, this is your magnet. This is your your your thinking thoughts are is like a broadcast. It's your antenna, it's a frequency that you set out into the field. But here's the powerhouse. Your heart is your magnetic. You know, we were only taught that our heart is just an organ pumping blood through the body. Well, not so much. This is your power. This is your powerhouse. This is what you're gonna pull and attract to you because like attracts like. So if your thinking is stinking and you're thinking all negative things, guess what's keep you're attracting back to you? More of that negativity.

Kertia 21:27

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Exactly.

Bethany 21:30

Yeah, yeah. Yeah, but again, isn't how convenient? We weren't taught any of that. We weren't taught any. Yeah, no, why would they teach us that?

Kertia 21:41

Oh, I know.

Bethany 21:42

I mean they thought of that, they wouldn't be able to program us, right? And that's

Heart Over Mind And Real Choice

Bethany 21:48

the thing, you know, understanding and gaining awareness that you have choice. You know, when you step into your heart and shut your mind off, what do you get? Absolutely nothing. You get awareness, you get presence, you get choice, and to say, okay, I am, I am focused right here. Because all there is is right here, right now. There's no, not what happened back then, not what's going to happen. The only thing that matters and where creation is formed is in the now. Yeah. So when you operate from presence out of the heart and drop the mind, you gain choice. Okay, do I do I really feel like thinking about sorrow and and and grief and you know, fear, false evidence appearing real, anger, you know. No, when you realize that you have a choice in what you think and feel, you then become the a sovereign person. You then have choice. You then drop out of the victim mindset because you now know that, hey, I don't have I don't have to think this, I don't have to believe this, I don't have to do this. I have choice in how I want how I choose to proceed from this next now moment.

Kertia 23:04

Exactly. Exactly. Exactly.

Bethany 23:08

Yeah, but so many people don't even have the awareness that they have choice. It's so much easier to stay in the victim mindset and blame somebody because they don't feel good. Uh you know, it's your fault. You know, and that's once you gain power that you are the creator of your reality, you can no longer blame anybody for anything that you do and think and feel.

Kertia 23:36

Yeah. Yeah, and that's the thing. When you just continue subscribing to the programs, you kind of stay at that frequency. So it's hard to recognize that you do have a choice. It's hard to see that you do get to choose, that you have the power to shift and to recreate your life, right? Because you're just completely at that frequency, living in your head, you're in this fight or flight, you're living in fear, you're living in anxiety, and you're completely bombarded and reprogrammed every single day into this whole shenanigans of separation from ourselves, from other people, thinking that you know, someone out there is always out to get us, like the economy, your your coworker, your sister, someone's always out to get you. So you live in this constant state of anxiety, thinking, just I guess waiting for the next thing, the next shoe to fall, the next thing to happen, the next disaster to occur. So you're constantly living in a state of internal chaos. So of course, you can't see how much of a choice you have, how much power you have over your existence, over what happens to you, over how you feel, over your emotions, right?

Bethany 24:53

Right. Yep. And that's one thing, you know, that I assist my clients with. I'm like, if you want to see a change, sweetie, you got to be the change. You are the change. There's nothing outside of you to fix and do. It's right here. You everything is from within. When you operate and and step into your power, your powerhouse, yeah, baby, because you are the change, and then you are the ripple effect. And when you change from within, everything that you you see has now changed.

Kertia 25:23

Yeah. Yeah. So why can you tell us?

Redefining Grief Through Connecting to Spirit

Kertia 25:26

Like, what does grief mean to you right now, coming from the stance of you reconnecting with your son and having this conversation, these conversations with him and learning from him? What do you have to say about that now when it comes to gifts?

Bethany 25:42

Well, you know what? Okay, I I've got a great story for you. You know, this Mother's Day this year. Okay. Mother's Day. I could have totally chose to say, Oh my god, my son's not here. What am I gonna do? This is horrible. You know, I could have done that, but I chose because I know that everything is frequency, energy, and vibration. I know if I would have chosen that frequency, I was only gonna attract more of that negative frequency back to me. And it would have just been like a whirlwind, you know. So what I did is on Mother's Day, I said, whoo boy, Kevin. I said, Man, buddy, I need you to show up and show out for mom today.

Kertia 26:28

Yeah.

Bethany 26:29

And hon, when when I walked out of my garage, now, like I said before, we all have an electromagnetic field, right? So I walk out of my garage and a this beautiful blue bird flies into my three feet into my electromagnetic field. And that bird was there to share its frequency, its love, its vibration with me. Because if that bird was not that, it would have flown into another yard, into another fence, another tree. But when you start taking awareness of frequency, energy, and vibration, you everything can come, you know, starts to communicate with you. So that bird flew in, and I'm telling you what, just speaking about it, I get so excited. I got goosebumps. That was the best Mother's Day gift I could have ever gotten. Just that bird in my field, and I could sense, you know, read, understand everything. And it was absolutely magical. Magical. Because, you know, when I I used to think that Kevin, you know, the if Kevin was going to communicate with me, you know, he's the only way I could communicate is like how we are right here, right now. But that's so not it. You know, spirit can can can communicate with you in so many other ways.

Kertia 27:49

Many ways.

Bethany 27:50

But gaining an awareness of it is key because they, you know, my son can't talk to me as a human because he's not a human. You know what I mean? So he talks to me in so many other ways. And when you expand out, when you start to choose those higher, elevated, you know, frequencies, such as grateful, grateful vibrates right next to God's consciousness at 900 hertz. Love vibrates right at 800 hertz. Joy is at 540. And I think you're you can feel and and your audience can hear or see that I vibrate uh in those higher aspects, higher frequencies, because once again, like attracts like uh like when I'm operating in those elevated states, I'm only attracting more of that to me. And my son is in a very high frequency bandwidth. And so the only way I can connect and get the downloads, the communications, and now the telepathy, not now, not um um what do you call it? Uh channeling. That's totally that's I want to be clear about that. There's two totally different things. There's nothing taking over this body, this being. No, no, no, no, no. No, but I can uh we we have complete telepathy. I get the downloads from him, and it's just absolutely amazing. And how I did that was I had to expand my field out and step into those higher, loving, compassionate, gratitude, gratefulness, all of that frequency, all of that love, kindness, joy, and just feeling that through my heart, through my heart. And that's what I'm allowed to. Yes, it's huge. It's it's a game changer. It's a game changer because I then I found out that I haven't lost anything. I've gained so much.

Kertia 29:46

Wow, wow. Do you like share some of the messages that you've

Signs in Nature & Spiritual Downloads

Kertia 29:50

received through the downloads that you've had?

Bethany 29:54

Oh my gosh. So one day, I mean, like all of the downloads with the the emotional frequency chart, the the programming of the television, you know, everything, energy, frequency, vibration. I didn't have like I said, I didn't know any of this stuff before my son's crossing. So this is just a huge, you know, um awareness in that, that everything that he's taught me, everything I'm talking to you about now, is what has been guided, has sent been sent to me. Um, but one day, one day I was out on a walk, and I had my my son's dog, um, his name's Buddy, and Buddy is a uh a big male pit bull. And Buddy and I were on this amazing walk out in the country, and um so all of a sudden Buddy starts just going crazy, like he's playing, and I was like, what the hell is this dog doing? I mean, there's nothing that I can perceive, and why is he acting like somebody's throwing a stick for him? But and that's exactly what he was doing. Well, all of a sudden, this hawk flies down and lands on this branch, and buddy runs up to the tree and is just absolutely wagging his tail, just so excited. And all of a sudden, I get this, I hear my son's voice. Mom, throw the stick, throw the stick for Buddy. And I was like, Oh, my and this hawk just sat there and stood there and looked at me, and that was a complete download. I mean, yeah. Oh my god, uh yeah, and I mean, like, there's been so many times, like I okay, I'll go because I like to go out in nature because I have found one of my biggest healing modalities is putting my feet on the earth and just being present. I'm gonna tell you what, healing is so stupid simple. I'm serious, I know it sounds crazy. Healing is so stupid simple that once you do the most easiest thing, like just go outside and put your feet on the ground because you're discharging energy out of your field. Yeah, that yeah, and Mother Earth takes it on. And I know we weren't taught that, but isn't that interesting that the bottom of our shoes are called soles? The soles of your shoes. Yeah, it's taking the your soul, your frequency, it's robbing you of the one thing to discharge and and alchemize and balance your chakra, your your core. It's big, it's huge, huge. So anyway, I was out walking one day and I said, Hey, bet, hey Kevin, you know, let's go on a walk, man. Let's go on a walk. Sweetie, when I tell you I had two deers, four rabbits, all I mean, 14 dragonflies that all just circled me. And I had another, like when another one of these things happened. I went to my son's, I went to the burial site, um, and I was like, hey, Kevin, I'm fixing to go to Memphis. Come ride with me. And I had no, it this is from where he's buried to to Memphis is like an hour and a half ride, right? Yeah. And I have my car has a sunroof, you know. Now, when I tell you that for the whole hour and 20 minutes, I literally had to stop counting at 20, I think it was 27. 27 birds flew exactly right on top of my sunroof. I counted them going through here, not a little bit to the left, not a little bit to the right, but it they flew exactly on top of my car for the whole hour and 20 minutes. And I had asked him, please ride, you know, come with me to Memphis.

How To Ask For Your Own Signs

Bethany 34:00

Stuff like that. I mean, it's just like exactly. Exactly. And you know, this is one thing that I could give to your audience if they are in um grief, sorrow, and they really are looking, because I promise you, your crossed over loved ones are trying to connect and communicate with you. But here's the thing that we are unaware because we've been taught to you have to see it to believe it, but in energy frequency and vibration, that's not a thing because guess what? We only see four percent of the light spectrum on this realm. So you mean to tell me I am literally walking around here blind as a bat, thinking I see things. No, that's not a thing. That's not a thing. You know what I mean? So it's about sensing, feeling with that heart. Here goes that heart thing again. But if they are in grief, sorrow, and they are looking for signs from their loved ones, I would suggest for them to write a letter. Write a letter, and in that letter, write to their loved one and say, how, you know, please show up for me. And whatever that could be, you know, it could be um pennies, feather, you know, however, I don't know, you know, how it were, whatever it works for them, but please show up for me through this sign. When I see this sign, it's going to bring these emotions and tell your crossed over loved ones how you will feel when you see the sign, how this will make you feel. Now, read it out loud, read it out loud to them, and then throw it away and forget it. And don't go searching, just allow the communication to come through. Be open enough, get out of the mind and into the heart, and be open enough to gain the awareness when you see the sign. Be like, you know, because a lot just like with me and the coins. Hell, it took him three times with the coins to gain my awareness of it.

Kertia 36:16

Yeah.

Bethany 36:18

You know, so gaining the awareness that when you do see the sign is huge because my obviously I was a little slow getting to the getting to the party.

Kertia 36:31

Yeah, well, granted, I feel like, yeah, it's you know, when you're in the midst of it, the grief, that pain, the sorrow, the guilt, the regret, all sorts of things that you feel when you've when you feel like you've lost someone, when when when a loved one has transitioned, you're in this state, this your frequency is quite low because you're in such a state, right? So that connection, first of all, the awareness is just not there, it's just not happening sometimes for some people. Some people do have that awareness, but it still takes them a while to have that connection, that direct connection. But even so, so how do you then I guess when you're working through your emotions, when you're working through the sorrow and all of that, the pain of the loss, how do you then I guess clear your field so that you can begin to reconnect with your

Practical Tool for Clearing Your Field

Kertia 37:30

loved one?

Bethany 37:32

All right. Well, I'm absolutely gonna give a this is gonna be a bonus to your I don't usually do this because um, yeah, but uh my teams are saying yes to it. Okay, um, let's see. To clear the field. All right, I'll I'll hold on, let me write this down because my teams are saying okay. All right, any energy, I could tell they'll have to take a big deep breath in. Any energy that is not of my most benevolent outcome must move in all seven trillion miles in all directions on the count of three, and they leave. One, two, three. Now, what that does right there is we weren't taught about energy high hygiene. So by me just clearing that field, that is getting you back to your own frequency. Now, here's the thing. I want your audience to really think about this. Okay, how many times have we gone to a grocery store and we're like, oh man, you know, I'm gonna give a story real quick. I was down in Florida a few months ago and I had my family, and we were having this amazing cookout. We ever all my family members brought all their stuff. Um, for the first three days, we didn't leave the house. We were there at the beach house. We were having a good old time. Well, my aunt comes up to me and she said, Besnie, I need you, I need, will you mind going to the store and getting me some hamburger buns? I said, sure, sure. So I go get in the car and I'm headed to go get hamburger buns. Now, girl, I'm so excited because I already know what my Aunt Kathy's, you know, potato salad is gonna taste like. I'm so super excited. Well, you know, and so I am totally thriving and vibe and on the way to the grocery store. I get to the grocery store and I notice nobody's there. I was like, all right, this is great. I get to the hamburger aisle, and I, you know, I did a few others, um few other aisles before I get to the hamburger aisle. But when I get to the hamburger aisle, I look up and girl, there's like 10 people on this hamburger aisle. And I'm like, what? Okay, whatever. So I I get, you know, I got my buggy and I'm getting pushing it down the aisle. I grab my hamburger buns. Well, I get to the other end. Now I have got 10 people I have got to shimmy and shake to get by. Well, guess what? Guess guess what they met before they met the met Bethany the Bean. They met my electromagnetic field that precedes me, six feet up. Well, guess what? I had to shimmy and shake next to Train Wreck Thomas, negative Nancy, you know, uh Debbie Downer. Well, guess what? Guess what's in their field? Because they are operating and choosing all of these lower thought forms, energies, frequencies in their field. Guess what happened when they came in contact with my field? That residue of their negativity then rubbed off into my field. At the time, I was unaware of it. As I'm pushing up to the um uh cashier, all of a sudden I'm frustrated. I'm aggravated. I'm like, man, God, just let me get out of here. Oh, you know, I'm frustrated. I go get in the car and I'm headed back to the beach house. Well, guess what? Somebody has now pulled out in front of me, and now I am raging. I am pissed, I am aggravated, I am just like, you know, ready to blow a casket, you know, gasket here. And I've I I my teams come in and said, Bethany, get to the house. I was like, oh, okay. So I run, uh, get back to the beach house, I run in, I throw the hamburger buns down, and I run exact right up to my uh balcony. I was having these all this negativity in my field. Well, what I call and what I help my clients with is that is called what we called a hitchhiker, a lower denser energy form, a frequency that is in your field, and what you have to do to clear it before I went downstairs to to my family members and they got in my field because I if I didn't clear it, what I just did that um just a minute ago, if I hadn't have cleared it, that would have that could have jumped off into their electromagnetic field. How many of us operate in public and we go to the grocery stores and we agitated, aggravated, you know, frustrated, and we don't know why. Because if you remember, before I went to the grocery store, I was fine. Everything was great. I was excited for that potato salad. And then when I get around a bunch of people, the collective, then I am now on my way back to that, and I am ready to blow a gasket.

Kertia 42:32

Yeah.

Bethany 42:33

Because I I my energy, my frequency, my electromagnetic field now has been in 10 other people's other 10 other people's fields. So I had to go home and clear any energy that is not of my most benevolent outcome, must move in all seven trillion miles in all directions, add on three and it leaves. One, two, three. And that right there is what will get you back to your organic field. So then you can take and observe and gain awareness of any, if there's a negative thought form, if there's something that comes in, you can say, Well, hold on, that's not mine. I cleared it, and and yeah, that's huge when going out into the public. Huge. I cannot tell you how huge. And before you come home from work, from working in a factory at the airport, you know, whatever, grocery store, movie theater, to clear that field so you don't come into your home and spew that that that frequency all in your family.

Kertia 43:35

Mm-hmm. Yeah, thank you so much for sharing that. A lot of us aren't aware of this. A lot of people aren't aware of this. And people feel the shift. You feel the shift in your emotions, in your mental space. But then, you know, like I'm sure a lot of people will relate to when they suddenly get aggravated for no reason, they don't know why. Don't know why they're feeling the way that they're feeling, right? Yeah. And that's an example. That's yeah. Yeah.

Bethany 44:08

We weren't, and here we go. And here we go again. We weren't taught this. Well, how freaking convenient. You know, this right here, what I just went over, any energy that is not in my most benevolent outcome, this right here will absolutely save you when you are having feel like, okay, I know this isn't mine. Where did this come from? This isn't me. You know, you are you've been in some kind of you know argument with your boyfriend, whatever. Whatever, to use that clearing and get back to your organic frequency. So then you have choice in what you choose to think or feel. Yeah. Instead of being like, you know, that's being breached by uh uh what like I said, a hitchhiker, and people will take it on and and and run it like it's their own energy frequency thought form, and it's not you picked it up, you know, because energy is like a velcro, you know, uh when you when you go into other people's like electromagnetic field. Yeah.

Kertia 45:18

Yeah, that is so true. We have no idea how much we pick up when we go out there, no idea, and we bring that with us at home amongst our family, but because even with children, children are susceptible susceptible to the same thing as well, because you're so sensitive, right? Yeah, it's so true. So, you know, just going back to the beginning, because what you said at the beginning was very telling of your experience in this world, because you being a baby and you're freaking out, you're like, oh shoot, I'm coming here on this mission, and I know I'm not gonna like this, you know. Like, do you feel like like that moment of anxiety or panic, the last minute panic of you coming into this world? How do you feel like your your experience? Because even your experience as a child, that was tough. Like, as you were telling me, I just felt

Honoring The Soul Contract With This New Mission

Kertia 46:20

like in my heart, oh my goodness, you poor baby. That was hard. So, now how do you then make sense of all of this, this experience that you came here to have? And you know, you now being in this like very self-aware state, how do you make sense of that and put that into context?

Bethany 46:42

You know, everything all of my hardest moments in life have been my greatest growth spurts, you know, mentally and emotionally. Uh, so I you know, here's the thing is that Kavin came to me and said, Mom, he said, Mom, we had a soul contract that you and I had made before you embodied mom, that I was gonna, I chose you as my mom, and I was gonna come down into this world and give you the experience of death, grief, sorrow, separation for your soul's evolution to so you could grow. Wow. So when you look at it from that standpoint, you know, uh i I it blew me away. Mom, you you agreed upon this, but you when you embodied you have amnesia, you forgot the process because how fun would the test been if you had known all the answers? Yeah, yeah. So when you look at it from that point, you know, it's like, wow, yeah, okay, cool. So any any, you know, all of this has been for my soul's evolution to grow, expand. And believe me, it, you know, like when my sons first crossed over, this was not an expansion awareness. It was horrible. You know, it was absolutely, I didn't know. I'm just gonna be honest with you. I because I my son ride rode uh street bikes and motorcycles, and I do too. And so I would get on my son's street bike and I'd put my son's helmet on, and I would think, you know what, it'd be easier for me to go a hundred and thirty miles an hour and wrap myself around a tree than it would be to have to go through another morning without him in my life. And that that's you know, that was serious. That's real. But I'm so that's real. It is, and you know, the thing is, is that I am just so grateful that not only my son, but God, source, however, anybody labels that has been right there with me and has been my greatest teacher because I'm on his mission and he's helping me co-create all of it. And it's just the most beautiful connection that I have is him. Yeah. Yeah. Wow. Wow. Yeah. And so, you know, God told me, He said, Bethy, you're on a mission to show that grief can be done differently.

Kertia 49:38

Yeah.

Bethany 49:38

Not only, not only through a a physical representation, but I'm here as a energy and a frequency and a vibration to flip it on its head and show other grieving families that, hey, let me let me show you through what I have experienced, what has transformed my life into the, you know, I am now thriving and vibing, living my best life possible after I have, you know, lived through my worst fear. And that was the loss of my child. So yeah, I'm here to assist, you know, other people that have experienced

Be Limitless Now And Free Call

Bethany 50:15

that and show them, hey, let me show you what I know.

Kertia 50:19

Yeah, tell me more about Be Limitless Now and the work that you're doing with that.

Bethany 50:25

Yeah, so thank you so much. So I, you know, through all of this, through all of this, you know, I was told and led and guided to open this company Be Limitless Now, like a Bumblebee, B-E-E Limitless Now. And because you know what's funny is that the nobody told the Bumblebee that they're not supposed to fly. The Bumblebee, they're not even supposed to fly because their wings are so short. It's all about frequency that keeps them, their bodies from. So I was like, oh, that's perfect. That's perfect. I'll take that. And bees have been such a big thing in my life. So yeah, I I I assist my clients. I go in when they get come to me. And just like you know, the clearing before, I go in and I take on an energetic look, uh, look um at their frequency, their body being, or in reality, and see what's what's keeping them locked, blocked, and stopped in all space, place, time. And I can go in because I can see it just like I can see you, you know, energy. And I go in and I and I clear it out because it sometimes it's it comes from ancestral, you know, bloodline has been which you know pressed down from generation to generation. And so yeah, I go in and take a look at that, and I've got some really great uh programs and um healings that I do. So yeah. And then guess what? I I had to I had to do something to counterbalance, you know, um, because when I work with my clients, it's a it can be a lot of sorrow, you know, grief. Yeah, and so for my own sanity, I was like, I need something that's gonna uplift me. So I opened I started this podcast called Check This Out. No, it's hilarious. It's called Holy Shift Balls, like a shift, S-H-I-F-T. Holy shift balls, where I am talking, where I am talking to all of I know it, right? Where I'm talking to all of the thought leaders, the healers, the entrepreneurs, um, the innovators that have been able to shift something in their life that has allowed them to step into their purpose. And so, yeah, in a funny, comical, elevated way. So, yeah, I've got holy shift balls and be limitless now.

Kertia 52:44

So good. I love that. I love that. Yeah, because you have to rebalance, you have to reharmonize your own energy and when you're working with so many people, especially with something that can be so heavy.

Bethany 52:57

Yeah, yeah, yeah. And you know, that's the thing too. Um, because I I I want to bring comedy and fun and and energetic, you know, of something that I think we all have done is shift something. There's something that's happened that's brought some kind of shift in our lives. So yeah, holy shift balls is is that wow. Wow. Yeah, that's so good. But if you're yeah, but anybody in your audience, if they want to, you know, connect with me, that the best thing that I can give is my time. And so I am giving a free 30-minute discovery call where we you know, um, they can go to my website, BEE Limitless Now, and um book a free call. And I'll take that, we'll take that time to go in and I'll do a clearing and and and and see where you're at, see what we can do um to get you thriving and vibing again.

Kertia 53:57

Thank you so much.

Bethany 53:58

And so they can be limitless now too. Exactly.

Kertia 54:02

Exactly. We're all we're all already limitless. We just need to remember, you know, because we've forgotten, as you said, like you come into this life, this mission, and you forget, you forget a lot of things, right? Because of course you can't have all the answers to the to and that's everything.

Bethany 54:23

Yeah, that's something that brings for you for sure. And that's you know, like once again, we weren't taught about energy. And so when my clients get to me, they get to me and their cup is already full. So going in and extracting some of that out so the the the uh infinite amount of limitless possibilities can then flow in. Because if you're already you know operating with a with a field already full, yeah, we got to clear some of that out and get some of that flowing right back to you and through you. Yeah. Of an elevated, of a higher.

Kertia 55:02

Yeah, and just jumping off from that, like thinking

Sound Healing & New Children’s Energy

Kertia 55:05

about frequency and your own journey, like in its totality, when you talk about even some of the traumas that you've been through in your childhood. I know you spoke about nature and grounding yourself with the earth has been a very healing. Is there anything else that you have done to also help along with your own healing process and healing those traumas and moving a lot of those energies through your body?

Bethany 55:32

Yes. Well, you know, um I've spoken several times on this podcast today that my teams, my um Galactic, my indigenous, and um uh my angelics. Now I work with these beings every day, and they have brought to me some of the best sound healing frequencies that I have ever heard. And so I use those in my um programs that have uh, you know, I I I cannot stress to you enough how everything is energy frequency and vibration. And once, you know, the audience and and humanity really understands how big that concept is, that's when this whole paradigm is gonna shift. It's gonna shift. So yeah, you know, just and another thing is you know, subconscious programming, you know, getting in at nighttime, if you are really struggling to attract new possibilities, going in and doing some re um subconscious, subconscious reprogramming and getting, and I assist also with uh getting new neuropathways opened up and and and aligned where you know these things can really start to gain new programming, new thoughts, feelings, and emotions.

Kertia 56:55

That sounds so good. That sounds so good, yeah. Yeah. Yeah, it we all need that reprogramming, all of us.

Bethany 57:04

Yes, yes, but you know what? And here's the here's the here is the amazing thing that my teams came in and told me, said, Bethany, you know, you hear of all this ascension, which my personal belief, I feel the ascension is within. Each person is elevating their own. But here's the thing too, that these children that are being born now in the pat in in the past you know, five to seven years, these children coming in now are absolutely at a totally different frequency than both you and I. These children are absolutely something special. And you know, the hundredth monkey program, I don't know, we're almost out of time, but the hundredth monkey, us as an adult, us as a humanity, are gonna hundredth monkey in on the frequency of these new children because they get it. They they already got it. They are here to flip this this planet, this this place on its head. And I promise you, oh, I got chills, they are going to, they are something so magical. So these children are here to teach us. These, you know, it's not about putting put, you know, like how we were all taught, be put in a box. No, you can't wear your princess dress to church, or no, you can't wear it to the grocery store. These children are are they will not fit in the box at all. Yep, yep, yes. Yeah, I know. I have one at home. And I'm they are the best. I mean, right now they are so absolutely amazing. So instead of trying to program your children, maybe listen to them because they're here to teach us something.

Kertia 58:54

Yes,

Where To Find Bethany And Closing

Kertia 58:55

yes, yes, all that, Bethany. Thank you so much. This was a wonderful conversation. I I just could have gone on so easily. Thank you. Um, just tell us again, just plug yourself and tell us again where we can find you and your work.

Bethany 59:13

Yes, you can find me at BeeLimitlessNow, B-E-E-LimitlessNow.com, and you can find me on holyshiftballs.com um podcast, and that's on streaming on all of the things. So um YouTube, um, all of the things. So yeah, go to the YouTube, you can you can follow us from all over there. So yeah. Thank you so much. This has been, and I just want your audience to know that they are so magical, they are so powerful, they are so divine, and I am just so grateful to have gotten to share my energy, my frequency, my heart with them today. And you know what? Much love all the way from my heart to you guys.

Kertia 59:57

Yes, thank you. Much love, Bethany. So amazing. Thank you for hanging out with us here on The Other Side of Fear. I hope that this conversation offered a new perspective on loss and grief and the deeper meanings that we can gather from that experience. Bethany's story is so beautiful and is such a great reminder that nothing is ever truly lost, that love carries on in many different forms, and that physicality is not the end all be all because we continue to exist even after the body dies. Thanks again, and just a reminder that you can also watch these episodes on our new YouTube channel. I would encourage you to head on over there and subscribe, engage with the content as well so that these beautiful stories can continue to get out into the world to spread more love and beauty. Alright, until next time.