Tips for Navigating Relationships

How do you respond to people you care about when they are hurt, sad, vulnerable, fearful, difficult, triggering, or even infuriating?

In this episode I’ll share tips on how to navigate relationships from our core self. I’ll explore how to respond to other people when they’re hijacked by the parts of their psyche that are operating from fear and pain. We’ll look at how you can embody your power by accessing your core self in the presence of others that can knock you off your center.

I explore wisdom from Dr. Bruce Lipton author of The Honeymoon Effect and The Biology of Belief.

Our subconscious programs are default programs, meaning they’re automatic and we don’t have to think about them. This is a really good thing for the helpful programs that we have, however, when it comes to the programs we downloaded that are limiting, destructive, and self sabotaging it’s a major challenge. I see this in my work everyday. Everyone is struggling with the subconscious programs that don’t serve them and are creating great hardship in various areas of their lives. It’s a major cause of suffering. 

Bruce Lipton would say if you want to know what subconscious programs you have take a look around at the major areas of your life. The things that are easy for you, you have the subconscious programs to support those things, the things that are challenging and difficult to achieve you don’t have supportive subconscious programs for. 

I explore some examples of our subconscious programs that we learn in the first decade of our life from an integrative perspective. Physically, Intellectually, Psychologically, Physiologically, Emotionally, Relationally, Nutritionally, and Spiritually. I outline some major areas that influence our subconscious mind to emphasize that all of us are dealing with a set of subconscious programs that got wired in at a young age. Unfortunately we didn’t have a say in which subconscious programs we received when we were young and some of the programs were helpful and supportive while others were destructive and harmful. Perhaps this alone can make space for greater compassion for others.

I share some advice that comes directly from a personal conversation with Richard Schwartz, developer of the Internal Family Systems model.

At the end of the episode I offer some action steps for navigating relationships from our core self: 

• Listen to Episode 5, 6, 7, and 10 to learn to work with your own parts so that you can stay connected to your core self and have greater clarity and understanding for others.
• Avoid frustration by seeing the situation clearly when others have been hyjacked by their young parts. Even though someone is in an adult body they may be driven around by a young part.
• Practice bringing curiosity and compassion to others the way you would with your own parts.
• When someone you care about is hyjacked by their parts it’s loving and supportive to see and reflect their core self even though they aren’t accessing it at that time.
• This a practice, it’s not easy, and we’re human so we’re not always going to be able to access our core self and were going to have our own parts popping up that need our attention. It’s important that we have compassion for ourselves first. 

Thank you for listening.
With gratitude,
Danielle

Danielle Carron holds a Master's Degree in Contemplative Psychotherapy from Naropa University as well as Master's Degree in Holistic Nutrition. She trained in Internal Family Systems with Richard Schwartz, Somatic Experiencing with Peter Levine and Diane Poole Heller, Shamanic Healing with Malidoma Patrice Some, Functional Neurology with Know the Brain, and Quantum Field Meditation and Healing with Joe Dispenza. Danielle Carron teaches her own integrative model called Embody Your Power.