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125 From Obligation to Overflow: Giving That Doesn't Deplete You
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TW: Fawn response, trauma response discussion.
It's International Women's Day week, and this year's theme is "Give to Gain." But what if you're already depleted? What if you're already giving everything you have?
In this episode of Rooted in Presence, we explore the complicated tension in this year's IWD theme and what sustainable generosity actually requires.
Host Carly Killen breaks down the difference between generous giving (from overflow) and obligatory giving (from depletion), and why knowing the difference matters for your capacity, your boundaries, and your wellbeing.
You'll discover:
- Why "give to gain" might land differently for women already stretched thin
- The difference between generous giving and fawn response
- What capacity actually means (and how to build it)
- Boundaries as living, breathing practice - not rigid rules
- Why receiving is part of sustainable generosity
- How to know if you're giving from overflow or obligation
- Practical questions to ask before you say yes to one more thing
- Carly's personal journey from over-giving to sustainable generosity
This episode includes a compassionate exploration of the fawn response (coined by Pete Walker), with appropriate context about complex trauma and clear signposting for deeper support.
Perfect for anyone who tends to over-give, struggles with boundaries, feels guilty saying no, or is exhausted from trying to keep everyone else happy. If you're navigating midlife with less capacity but the same demands, this conversation offers a different path.
Not about doing more. About building capacity so giving feels joyful rather than depleting
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