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The Business Lounge Podcast with Kimberly Ann Jimenez
S7 EP9: Disciplining Disappointments: The Secret Ingredient to Entrepreneurial Success Through Failure
What if I told you failure is actually the secret sauce to success? In this episode, we’re diving into the art of "disciplining disappointments" and how turning setbacks into comebacks is the real entrepreneurial flex. We’ll talk about why navigating those challenges isn’t just a “nice-to-have” but a must for growth. Get ready for some real talk, practical wisdom, and a few pro tips on how to turn your failures into stepping stones. It’s time to build resilience, stay laser-focused, and keep pushing through – because success isn’t a straight line, it’s a journey. Tune in for the fire you need to level up and crush your business goals!
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Welcome to the Business Knowledge Podcast. I'm your host, camille Ann Jimenez-Familia. Let's talk about disciplining your disappointments In a season, in a time, where a lot of online businesses are struggling quarter four. There's been a lot of interesting conversations that I've been having in our coaching group as well as with our clients in one-on-one coaching around disappointments, around failure. How do you actually get past failure? How do you discipline your disappointments in such a way that you can actually fail forward and use failure as a catapult to your success? So I hope that you enjoy this episode. I'm going to encourage you, I'm going to pour into you, I'm going to coach you from afar and I hope that my own failures, my process, how I actually recover from failure, helps you to actually bounce back from anything in your life that you might be walking through right now. That might be a challenge, that might be a disappointment, that might feel like a failure in this season coming up. So listen, podcast peeps. You guys are freaking amazing. Thank you so much for all the love.
Speaker 1:On the latest episode, where we talked about uh, the state of the economy, what trump's win actually means for online business owners, consumer confidence, slow black friday, slow quarter four, quarter four, quarter four and I really appreciated all the messages that I got. Um, these two stood out in the fan mail, but we got some email ones and also some more here on the podcast, so thank you so much. One person said this is everything I've been reading and seeing over the past four years. You will own nothing and the great reset are must reads for anyone to help them prepare for what's to come. Great episode, charmaine. Love you, charmaine. Thank you so much. I also got another episode from sorry. Another comment from Anonymous. Kim, please do have a podcast on the economy. I love hearing from you and your husband on these topics as you bring in the Christian perspective, and I love that about your podcast. So, anonymous, from Grand Rapids, michigan, you're the best. I appreciate it. Thank you so much, and we will absolutely be releasing a special segment all about the economy. We even got, like our podcast studios, set up our new podcast studio so Chris and I can be in the same room. We will be able to discuss all these topics, show you graphics and, yeah, it's been a very popular conversation inside of our coaching program, so I'm excited to bring you just a little bit of that here on the podcast too.
Speaker 1:So let's talk about the power, the importance of disciplining your disappointments. This is a famous quote that I've heard many, many times. I've heard Tony Robbins talk about it, but I think the origin is from Jim Rohn, who's an amazing, incredible coach, personal development guru and one of the things that has been just a resounding sort of grounding framework for me. Every time that I hit a wall, I hit a challenge, I hit an obstacle or I fail. I just flat out fail on a project, I fail on a promotion, I fail on an offer, I fail on a client relationship. Failure is inevitable. It's part of the journey. It's part of growing as an entrepreneur and as a business owner, and I feel like such few people actually talk about failure. All we hear about on the internet is about everyone's successes. Right, we see the highlight reel of their accomplishments. Oh my gosh, this person you know hit a million YouTube subscribers and, look, they're becoming super popular and influential. This person is doing all the rounds of all the podcasts. They must be killing it. And so we see the upside, the extreme. You know the accolades of glory, but we don't actually see all the work. You know the sweat, the tears, the failures, the rejection, the no's that person actually had to go through to achieve that success. And so, every single time that I have a major disappointment in my business or I feel like I have failed, I remember this quote by Jim Rohn discipline your disappointments. Learn to navigate the emotions and the feelings that come as a result of failure. And so one of the things that I've been telling our clients consistently is that we seem to have this like fallacy in our mind that all the people who are succeeding, they just bat you know a thousand and they never fail at anything and everything they do is perfect. And that's not true, and I feel like it's been really refreshing recently to see a lot of the online leaders like talk about their failures.
Speaker 1:I remember by accident watching Ali Abdaal's video on you know. He said he failed on his keyboard business and or like not his keyboard business, but launching his keyboard as part of his new business I think it's called Light Mode and it's such an amazing, touching video because he's actually walking you through. Um, you know all of the process. Like he, he released his amazing keyboard. He uh, you know, didn't get the sales that he expected to get. He dumped. I think it was three hundred thousand dollars into this business venture and then a keyboard expert, which I follow because I'm into mechanical keyboards and that's how I found the video, which is crazy just ripped the keyboard to shreds. I mean horrible review.
Speaker 1:And I so respect Ali because he specifically went and even like clipped, you know, portions of that negative review and actually shared it with his audience and talked about his failures and responded to it, even talked to the guy and had him on his channel to talk about his recommendations, and it's really challenging to fail in public. And so one of the things that we need to learn as entrepreneurs and as online business owners is like listen, if you don't learn how to fail in private, you're never going to have the privilege of succeeding in public. But know that every single level is a new level of expectation. If you think failing in private is hard, imagine how hard it is to fail in public. You know Ali has an amazing community. I think his channel is up to like 6 million subscribers at the time of this recording. He has a very successful business, a very lucrative business, but this project failed right, even though he has launched so many amazing things. This is a failure, at least in his book, at least right now, and so I think he showed some statistics where he's only been able to recoup like $26,000 of his $300,000 investment. So not only is he really in the hole, right, he did not get the orders he expected, now he also has like a little bit of bad PR out there which everyone is going to get at some point.
Speaker 1:So it's one of those things where I want to encourage you, because I noticed this pattern when I'm coaching clients and I this is exactly what I went through too but we have a failure, like a promotion doesn't work, or a client gives us really bad feedback, or someone bad mouthed us on the internet, and immediately we start kind of at least as women we do this a lot where we start like really taking it very personal and really questioning, you know, whether we're on the right path, like what are we even doing with our lives? We have thoughts like, oh my gosh, am I just going in the total wrong direction right now? Do I need to rethink my entire business? Do I need to rethink my identity? Do I need to rethink the way that I show up in the world? And it's hard, because criticism is hard, rejection is hard. Failure is hard. There is no getting around that. I was even telling one of our coaching clients. I was like, listen, the only way out is through. The only way out is through.
Speaker 1:I get the feelings. It's valid to have negative emotions. It's valid to feel sad, to feel frustrated, to feel angry, to feel resentful, even to be frustrated and disappointed. Feel the feelings, but do not unpack and live there. You have to learn how to get back up and try again. And if you allow the failure, if you allow the disappointment, if you allow all those negative feelings of rejection to completely be the thing that derails your progress and ultimately keeps you from achieving your mission, then the devil has won.
Speaker 1:One of my mentors, jennifer Alwood, she says this beautiful thing. She says the devil does two very clever things. Number one he distracts us. Number two he discourages us. If he can get you distracted and not focus on the right things, and if he can discourage you into stopping right, into halting your progress, into just abandoning the mission altogether, then he's won. Don't give him that privilege. Don't give them that joy to see you stop what you're doing because it didn't work the first time or the second time, or the third time or the fourth time.
Speaker 1:Now I'm not saying that you need to be a masochist and just keep trying the same thing over and over again until it works. You do need to take a step back when you have failure, reflect. Think about your game plan. Think about how you're going to shift things. Think about what rooms you need to be in, who do you need to surround yourself with? Who do you need to learn from? Who do you need support from? Right? Rethink your strategy and then go at it again. But do not let one failure, one disappointment, or a bunch of failures and a bunch of disappointment completely derail you from the calling that God has on your life, because at the end of the day, we're all going to fail.
Speaker 1:In fact, I remember listening to Jim Rohn and he was talking about how, if you, you know, bat even just like one out of 10, if you're batting like you're batting, average is like 10%. If 10% of the time you're winning, you can make a living. If you bat two out of 10, right. So 20% of the time you're winning, eight of those 10 attempts are total and epic failures is like you can make a lot of money. You will be in a really good position. You will win at life. But if you can bat three out of 10, right, that's 30% of the time you're winning. 70% of the time you're losing, which is what most of us do. Right, if you get to 30%, you are going to be so wealthy, you're going to have more money than you know what to do with. You're going to really be an A player and win at life. And I thought, wow, that's a really good way of thinking about it.
Speaker 1:In fact, most of my mentors, most of the people that I follow and have learned from and have sat at their feet and kind of learned from their strategy. I see them launch things and I see them talk about their failures behind closed doors, right, and group coaching programs and one-on-one coaching programs, and tell us about these wild stories where they tried a bunch of different things that just didn't work. And I see that exact same thing in my life. In my story. I remember one specific mentor told me you know, kim, eight out of every 10 Facebook ad campaigns that I launch epically fail. But the two that do well make me millions of dollars a year. And I was like, ooh, that's actually super helpful. See, that gives us context. It helps us have a benchmark that we can orient ourselves and really discipline our disappointments by understanding that the reality that all of us are walking through is we are going to experience more failure than we do success, and that's part of life, that's part of growing a business, that's part of learning, that's part of evolving as an entrepreneur and maturing and reaching that next level of success.
Speaker 1:In fact, I want to encourage you to think about failure as a major learning experience. I know it doesn't feel that way, especially when you're really in it, but if you really think about it, it's only a failure if you did not learn from it. I've heard that over and over again from mentors and coaches and people who've gone before me, and I feel like that's so true. Where's the learning experience here? What is the thing that you're going to glean from this disappointment, from this failure, from this painful season? The key is to get back up, to learn, to readjust your strategy and get back in the game.
Speaker 1:I think Michael Jordan famously said right, you miss 100% of the shots that you don't take. So if failure is the thing that's going to prevent you from taking the next shot, that's a problem. Another one of my mentors said listen, you get to pick your suck, and I love this concept. You know what sucks more. Does the pain of failure suck more, or does the pain of regret, 20 years from now, that you didn't actually get back up and try something new suck more? For me, the second one sucks more.
Speaker 1:My greatest fear in life is being on my deathbed and realizing I wasted my life, I did not reach my fullest potential. I have regrets about how I could have, you know, really answered the call that God had on my life in bigger and more meaningful ways. So for me, I'd rather push through that pain of failure. I'd rather get back up, as painful as it might be, as uncomfortable, as challenging, as just draining as it might be, as just draining as it might be. I know that I am way more concerned about the fear or not the fear, but the pain of regret that I am about the pain of failure. So I'd rather just walk through that pain, push through that pain and stay stuck and regret it 30, 40 years down the line. Now I want to leave you with this.
Speaker 1:There's three things that I do after I have a major disappointment or a failure in my life that are really, really helped me. I always tell our coaching clients listen, guys, you don't get perfect at dealing with anything in business, right? It's not like you get to a certain point and you're so successful that you just win, win, win, win, win. There's never something you fail at. That's not the case right In every level. You still experience a lot of the same things. You're going to experience disappointment, you might experience betrayal, you might experience failure. I'm pretty sure you will experience failure and you just get better at dealing with all of that. And so I've gone to a place in my career where it's easier for me to deal with failure now than it was 10 years ago. And it's probably gonna be even easier five years from now, 10 years from now, because I've done it and gone through it over and over again and I have some tools and some resources that help me get through the emotions and the crazy chaos faster.
Speaker 1:So the first thing for me is I need to get my mind right, I need to get in prayer, I need to get in the word, I need to journal, I need to go on a walk. Those are like the four things that really help me gain perspective, Because if I just listen to my emotions. My emotions are going to tell me you need to stop this. This hurts, this is too hard, this is too complicated. There's way too much responsibility on your shoulders right now. You got to go in a different direction, girl. This is not working out right. My emotions will lead me to quit. I know that every single time. That's where my head will go, so I have to get perspective. Single time, that's where my head will go, so I have to get perspective. And the way that I get perspective is I ask for divine wisdom, divine understanding. Holy Spirit, help me understand where I went wrong. Holy Spirit, help me discern between an actual failure and just preparation for the next platform. Help me discern between what was my responsibility and under my control and what was pure, just seasons that are difficult, markets that are difficult external conditions that I could not control. Help me gain perspective.
Speaker 1:And then the second thing is I talked to my coach, right, but if you don't have a coach, I didn't have a coach at the beginning. I just went and I listened to great podcasts, great YouTube videos. I just shared Jim Rohn. He's one of my biggest personal development heroes. I love him. He's phenomenal. He's since passed, but a lot of his content is on YouTube. So I will go listen to a Jim Rohn talk, I will listen to a Tony Robbins, I'll listen to some of my mentors, some of the people that I admire from afar, and I'll gain perspective. You know, I talked about Ali in the beginning. I think Jasmine Starr also had an amazing YouTube video about one of her failures in her launch this year.
Speaker 1:And just watching the realness, the rawness, the vulnerability, the fact that these are two strong leaders, um, that will lead with strength but then connect with vulnerability, is amazing. Just to know, hey, I'm not the only one. There's other people who are going through this. In fact, most people are going through this. They just don't necessarily talk about it is really, really helpful. And then I give myself a pep talk.
Speaker 1:I think getting to myself, getting to a place where I can actually talk to myself about my failure Sometimes I do this in front of the mirror and I'm just like listen, I know this is hard, I know this sucks, I know you're hurting, baby girl, but this is where you actually get to meet who you really are. Okay, nothing shows you who you really are, what your character is like. Then failure, then rejection, then criticism, then pain. That's where you meet the real you, and so I will talk to myself in the mirror and be like what are you going to do? Are you just going to sit down and feel sorry for yourself? Are you just going to cry and just give up Like, go ahead, close the business, you know, go ahead. Close this program, go ahead. You know, walk away. Close this program, go ahead. You know, walk away.
Speaker 1:You have the option to do that right now, but you know what that means, right? You're not going to be in obedience, you're not going to reach the goals that you set out for yourself and, unfortunately, there's going to be repercussions for your future and you're going to have to give account at some point to God about this decision. So, are you doing this for yourself? Is this your ego talking, or are you really thinking about your? Why? Are you serving in the highest level? Is this like the thing that God has called you to do? And so? I know that sounds like.
Speaker 1:I know I'm a little rough on myself, but that's just because I'm a Puerto Rican. My parents raised me to be like OK, just roll, you know, a little bit of dust, or not. Just rub some dirt on it is the American expression. Rub some dirt on it and keep going. And so that helps me. It helps me. It helps me check myself, to be like, yeah, I'm wallowing for sure. Yeah, I'm definitely falling into self-pity.
Speaker 1:Like, yeah, you're right, I probably need to just get myself together and keep moving, and then I'll be like, listen, you have a warrior inside of you. I know what the Holy Spirit has put in your heart. Like you're all feminine and cute and you love all the girly things, but there is some savagery inside. You know what I'm saying? Like there is some fire, and that fire is the thing that you need to tap into when you feel at your lowest, when you don't feel strong. This is me talking to myself, not talking to you, in case it's helpful, and that helps me to remember OK, this is who I am, this is what God has called me to be. Like I'm a. I'm a warrior. I need to just tap into, like my brave heart era and just keep moving forward. That helps me a lot to just kind of shake it off and keep moving forward, and then I cultivate joy and I do this in a variety of ways.
Speaker 1:For me, it's really making sure that I do something uplifting that takes care of my soul, that fills me up, because I still acknowledge my feelings and acknowledge that it's hard to go through a failure, a disappointment, some kind of hurt. So I like spending time with my family, with my friends. I might go out and get a massage, I might go watch a movie with Chris, I might cuddle up with my baby dogs on the couch, whatever it is. Maybe I'll do one of my hobbies. Get outside, do something fun. I do something for myself, something that helps me heal, something that helps me move forward, whether it's a small failure or a really, really big one.
Speaker 1:And again, this might take you days, it might take you weeks, it might take you over a year, depending on how big of a failure this is. But the point here is not to necessarily like judge yourself, but to have tools, to have a strategy, to know how to deal with disappointment and how to discipline your disappointments so that they don't become the obstacle that actually holds you back from achieving the mission. So, listen, I hope this episode was helpful. I hope that you got inspired. If you did, would you send it to a friend? Would you send it to somebody who maybe is struggling with the disappointments of failure, with the pain of going through a tough season. I would hope that this episode encourages them, that it gives them a lot to think about, some tools and some resources, so that together we can continue walking in the calling that God has given each and every one of us. All right, I love you. I'll see you in the next episode. Un beso, bye for now.
