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Self-Sabotage in Business Growth

Speaker 1 0:00

When it comes to growing a business , what we often find is that , as business owners , we are and can be our own worst enemies . And so today's episode , we're going to talk about all the mindset stuff , all the excuses , all the doubts that we all go through , and we're going to break them all down right . We're going to cover all of them . We're going to go through each one , debunk them and empower you to move forward and not have those things lingering and slowing your business growth . Let's get started .

Speaker 2 0:28

What's up , Amiya ? It's Kim and Chris and you're listening to the Business Lounge Podcast .

Speaker 1 0:33

In each episode , we'll break down all the latest in online marketing , give you all the details on what's working now to turn your content into customers , boost your leads and sales and scale your business fast .

Speaker 2 0:43

All without compromising on what you care about most faith , family and freedom . And listen , it's all real , raw and unfiltered . So let's start the show . Welcome back to the Business Launch Podcast . I'm your co-host , kim Jimenez . I'm here with Chris and man . This is a topic that is long overdue for us to talk about . I feel like Chris early on in my career I'm like the queen of excuses . Were you . The queen of maybe not excuses , but definitely of self-doubt . Yes , right the queen of doubt , for sure .

Speaker 1 1:18

I don't remember excuses . I remember some doubts .

Speaker 2 1:19

You don't remember ? Excuses , it's not in my blood as a Hispanic ?

Speaker 2 1:24

No , she's Puerto Rican remember excuses , it's not in my blood as a hispanic , she's put . She's puerto rican , no , but really the doubts were so freaking strong , I mean , the imposter syndrome almost completely halted my entire journey . I don't think I would be here if it wasn't for amazing mentors , amazing coaches , a supportive family . But this guy , specifically guys guys like for real , for real , you saw something in me that I could not see for years and you just kept relentlessly encouraging me and being patient with my self-doubt and course correcting me like no , you can do this , and that was so impactful , so thank you .

Speaker 1 2:00

Thank you , I appreciate it .

Speaker 2 2:03

But I don't know , like like early on , I think for me and we hear this so much from our clients it's like , at least for women , I think the imposter syndrome is really really strong when you first get started because you're like well , I'm not good enough .

Speaker 2 2:15

Well , you know yeah I don't have the experience . Well , she can do it and he can do it because she's charismatic or he's really successful , and it's hard for us to actually move through those self-doubts and excuses that we often make . But what's crazy is that's usually what holds us back the most . It's not the strategy , it's not the tactics , it's what's in between . You know your mind and what stories we tell ourselves about why we can't do the things that we're called to do .

Speaker 1 2:47

Yeah , and a lot of it is just it's conditioning , and so Kim came from a very strong background in academia , and so it's about titles and seniority and you know there's a process , you have to do it for a certain period of time and you have to achieve a certain title . And I came from a completely opposite background where it was like more of the like just go do it , just go do it , you know , and so so that's really all that I think it was for me , and I'm also too crazy to know that I'm being crazy .

Speaker 2 3:17

He's being very humble .

Speaker 1 3:19

I'm too crazy to know that what I'm doing . And actually one of my brother's friends actually said this when we were in college and I had all these crazy things that I was going to do , like flying to New York on Black Friday as a college kid , right To buy clothes at Saks Fifth Avenue , to go flip on eBay , like that's the kind of stuff that I was doing in college , right , just wild stuff . And I remember my brother's friend who was also our joint roommate there was three of us right and I remember my brother's friend who was also our joint roommate there's three of us right and he said Chris says like crazy ideas and unrealistic expectations , and I'm like he's kind of on the nose with that one . But so I do think there's something in me that's a little bit broken , that I don't realize that what I'm doing is crazy .

Speaker 2 3:58

You know like I just do things . You are the boldest person I know , that's for sure .

Speaker 1 4:02

Yeah , see , but again , that's that's conditioning , because my dad growing up um sales don't want to get into the whole backstory but like he would just walk into places like he owned it , like for his clients , you know , he would just walk in there like , yeah , so he serviced qvc slash fast food restaurants like they made the actual menu boards for the . You know , like the rbs and the taco bells and like if when you order off that board his company made those and he sold them and like we would be like a random , literally like a random location in the middle of nowhere , we're like in Jackson , mississippi or whatever , like en route to somewhere .

Speaker 1 4:33

And he's like , oh , the Taco Bell , I'm going to check it out . And then he'd just go in there . But he'd like walk in the back Like he was like part of the company . And then he's asking like a minimum wage cashier . He's like what do you guys think about your menu boards ? And I'm like my brother and I are like he's crazy , like they've never even noticed these menu boards ever , like they're literally just cashing in or checking , like clocking in to get a paycheck right , to maybe pay their bills . And he's like what do you think about your menu boards ? So for me , right , that was my upbringing , it was completely the opposite . So me just going and pursuing like mowing lawns or flipping clothes on eBay was like this level of crazy compared to like the level of crazy that's walking into the back of a Taco Bell in the middle of nowhere .

Speaker 2 5:18

But that's how he got business . He just talked to people . And I love that because it's such a good example of just being willing to do the work and show up and not waiting for people to come to you like your dad is the definition of like I'm going to sell this period . There's no .

Speaker 1 5:33

Yeah , he's amazing and then he'd grab a cup and then he would go . This was actually brilliant . So he would before like we had a meeting , like his arby's was one of his big clients . This is before they're . We have the meats . They were really struggling with like who the heck they were in the world , cause roast beef was a big fad in the nineties and then roast beef Cause there was a whole attack on red meat Right , which was nonsense , as we know now . Um , so basically , this was they were like in a state of like we don't know who the heck we are anymore , right , and so , anyway , bottom line is we were , we had , we had a meeting , and I would shadow him from a very young age , like elementary school .

Speaker 1 6:06

I was always just really interested in business , anyways . So I remember one thing that I picked up that was really smart in many things my dad's a brilliant salesperson . He's like

Breaking Through Conditioning and Backgrounds

Speaker 1 6:13

Jedi mind trade level , like for real . Like for real . I would be like dang , that was good , and I'd be like nope , writing that one down . But he would go by the location nearby the corporate store and he'd be like how do you guys like your men ? You know it's all routine , right . How do you like your menu board , but he would bring a cup , like he had just gone to Arby's cause . We did to Arby's corporate for the meeting . So he knows that like we support the brand right .

Speaker 2 6:35

Like super smart , right , he would stop by an Arby's and like pick up something to eat .

Speaker 1 6:39

But yeah , we had like Bojangles or like all these different like big names , right , like Great American Cookie Cinnabon , like we work with all of those , and so I would shadow him for some days and he would always go with the product and be able to speak to it , right , but still like the boldness of just going in there and doing those things .

Speaker 1 6:57

Right , it was just like so that was my world . So being 12 , literally , and being in a massive like corporate setting , for me it wasn't a big deal to then like step into . Oh , I'm going to go pitch a bunch of realtors because I have a moving business . And if they refer me , I'm going to get like a $10,000 . Like cause , that was my upbringing and for you , I think it was different .

Speaker 2 7:16

Yeah , that's not the reality for most of us . Um , like , most of us don't grow up in the business space , but it's still an amazing testament of like , how you can number one , how you can instill that into your kids yeah number two , though I think that was really uncomfortable for me at the time and now I would now I would do probably more than that yes , you know what I mean . Probably you know what I mean , like you do do more than that .

Speaker 1 7:38

Yeah , like I would so , but everybody starts somewhere exactly like it's just who you are .

Speaker 2 7:43

I think we have this huge , massive , limiting belief around that , and I also think people confuse being self-assured with having doubts , and so I think my parents built a lot of self-assurance in me In that they really made sure that I knew oh , you are capable . But in a particular avenue I would feel so nervous and discouraged because it was a new thing and I didn't go to school for it . I think you know for me starting exactly the marketing .

Speaker 2 8:13

It is the classic . But I wasn't going to go to there . When I started social media at my social media agency , there was no bachelors in social . Now you can I . I believe there is a university who has a whole bachelor's on being an influencer . Oh my God .

Speaker 1 8:29

These are the smoothest brains in America .

Speaker 2 8:30

I know right so it's hilarious . Sorry if you're attending and you're listening to this , but this idea that and also like Puerto Rico , like we don't have that many opportunities like we do in the States . It's like , okay , you are either going to be a lawyer , you're going to be a doctor , or you're going to be some kind of engineer , so that you have guaranteed job security , whereas here it's like , oh , you can switch careers five times and it's not a big deal .

Speaker 2 8:55

But I think a lot of our clients struggle with this idea that they have to prove themselves to the extreme . At least the women do . I don't see that as much in the men , in terms of imposter syndrome , but I see it a lot in our girls , in that , you know , they're constantly comparing themselves to other people . Um well , I haven't , you know , achieved X , so why would someone ?

Speaker 2 9:15

listen to me , or why would someone buy my course , or why would someone actually hire me ? Um , and there's a lot of head junk that keeps us small in many ways .

Speaker 1 9:23

Yeah , the men . We only realize it when we got in over our butt . No , for real , we get in over our butt and literally .

Speaker 2 9:31

You said it again . Then what does that even mean ?

Speaker 1 9:34

Well , the other term is a little bit more abrasive , but we get in over our butt and basically what happens ?

Speaker 2 9:39

You can just say we get in over our head . That's how you say it . That too .

Speaker 1 9:44

Yeah , that too , lord Jesus . So , but what happens , though , is that , like we'll , like we're like all gung ho and fired up right and then we sell the thing and then we're like , oh my gosh , I am totally an imposter . I just sold some stuff that I have no idea how to deliver on . I remember when I sold my first in the business , in the moving business right , the first business I'm like 25 and I sold a $60,000 installation contract and they're like you've done this kind of stuff before I'm like yeah of course I have and we kind of had I mean you installed a lot of furniture in residential homes

Speaker 1 10:18

right exactly . Well , we did do some stuff for like university , like kind of like installing stuff in the university . I mean it was a very strong kind of like installing stuff in the university . I mean it was a very strong kind of right . So , so so and I remember the guy said something to me too . He was like you got big , whatever you know the things that men have . Anyways , he said that cause I kept , cause I kept selling the fact that like on the contract I was really aggressive about it thing anyways so so anyways , um but I .

Speaker 1 10:45

But then the imposter syndrome kicked in oh , it did .

Speaker 2 10:48

Yeah , I didn't . I didn't think this ever kicked in for you no , so it'll show up in different ways .

Speaker 1 10:52

So men kind of have two different ways we go about it . Right , we either like we either like the full court press . We either rise or we sink right like . It's like hey , it's sink or swim homie . So I I went nuts and I got a . Um , I started going crazy like researching how I was going to actually do this ?

Speaker 2 11:08

No , but when did it sink in and how did you feel ?

Speaker 1 11:09

When we signed the contract .

Speaker 2 11:11

Okay , so you signed the contract and you're like oh my gosh , I have to deliver on this thing .

Speaker 1 11:14

Well , first I had to get it , but I already sold and I sold very confidently .

Speaker 2 11:18

How the heck do I make this happen now ?

Speaker 1 11:20

I sold it without even having the pro the appropriate insurance in place . They're like you have the insurance too , right we're gonna go to jail .

Speaker 2 11:26

Yeah , just this podcast . I'm totally outing myself .

Speaker 1 11:29

But yeah , so the the premium , just so . First of all , no one wanted to give me , they didn't want to underwrite a policy because it was high risk and I'm in my 20s , right . And so it's like getting your driver's license , or rather getting your insurance for for driving when you're 16 . It's really no one wants to cover you . You're an idiot . So no one wanted to cover me in this business , because this is a high risk , high exposure business , right ? So I , literally I'm selling the contract and I'm driving all over the place trying to get insurance to be able to do the project . Yeah , well , the lowest price that I got was thirty thousand dollars for a sixty thousand dollar project for a sixty thousand .

Speaker 1 12:00

That was for the year which so if I didn't get another , I mean I was going to be way in the hole and then I had to have $7,000 as the first like payment and then the rest of them came out . Every pay run they take a percentage out of you know like however much you racked up in payroll .

Speaker 2 12:29

And I'm like , and I sold the contract knowing that like wanted to insure me on the three towns over . Okay , but this is after the contract was signed , I think right before , right after , yeah , yeah regardless , I have , I had verbally committed so you without having insurance ?

Speaker 1 12:37

yes , I knew well , I knew it was gonna be expensive . I know it's gonna be seven thousand .

Speaker 2 12:41

I'm gonna figure it out but anyway .

Speaker 1 12:43

So then the imposter started to kick in , because I'm like I don't have the insurance , and then I was like wait a minute , how are we going to do this ? Like I don't even know if I have a crew big enough to actually deliver on this . They were like we're sending all these trucks . It was 316 bedrooms and it was all the furniture .

Speaker 2 13:05

Like centers , the nightstands , the bar stools , I mean a whole apartment assembled . It's not just installing .

Speaker 1 13:07

You have to assemble it and then you have to install it . Think ikea , but like 10 times worse they don't even say so .

Speaker 2 13:10

It all comes from china , from china , yeah it all .

Speaker 1 13:12

Well , this one particular comes from china , this particular manufacturer , they were all chinese , and so there's not even instructions like , and they don't even send it like in a box with the conclusive like this is a nightstand this is how you send all it together .

Speaker 1 13:23

They send all the legs together , they send all the tabletops together , they send all of the seating pads together , because it's cheaper , because it's cheaper to ship it that way , because you can pack the truck tighter . So all this stuff's arriving and you're like I don't know . There's thousands of parts , thousands of parts , and again , I've never done this before .

Speaker 1 13:39

Yeah , imposter syndrome kicked in real hard so I feel like with men , if you're gonna do that , you better willing to accept the trade-off that like you're gonna have to bust your behind to figure out how the heck like it's jump off the cliff and figure out how to build a plane on the way down . And so I went nuts till like three in the morning .

Speaker 2 13:56

Is that your philosophy ?

Speaker 1 13:57

yes , so it has burned me , this has burned me , this has burned me , but I would go up to the property at like midnight and I would just . It was a . It was a new apartment , it was a . It was off-campus student housing was what we were doing an install job for , and and so I was walking around like timing , like how long it took me to walk here , there and wherever , and like mapping out what the best routes would be and this and that , and so we crushed it you did .

Speaker 1 14:19

Yeah , they said it was the best job that anybody'd ever done and , and the next thing you know we got a half million dollars more contracts from just that one person , and then that led to us working with five more furniture manufacturers and student house in turnkey student housing .

Speaker 2 14:32

So the takeaway is when you're starting something new , no one knows what the heck they're doing .

Speaker 1 14:36

Nobody knows . No one knows they're just pretending .

Speaker 2 14:39

And so you have to go and take the leap , even if you don't feel ready . Because that's

Choosing Discomfort for Real Growth

Speaker 2 14:44

the number one excuse that we think about when we coach people is like I'm not ready . Well , there's never going to be a time when you're already like that's the fallacy , Thinking that you are ready to invest in a big coaching program , thinking that you're ready to expand your team , thinking that you're ready to take on a bigger project . You are never ready . You got to just do it and you'll learn in the process . And I think for us to kind of getting into the whole imposter syndrome thing for women I love how you talked about for men , but for women too it's I think we get so self-focused . Where the spotlight is on us , you know it's like we have to perform and we have to make it happen . And the reality is , business is about serving other people , Business is about providing a solution to a particular problem , and so , for all of our clients , we're always telling them you're making this about you and it's not about you .

Speaker 2 15:37

It's about the people that you are trying to serve . So when it feels scary , when it feels like you don't have the capacity , when you feel like , well , I'm just not smart enough or I don't have enough experience or I haven't , you know , done enough with clients , or I have an X , y or Z , you really need to remember that you are here to serve a bigger purpose . That it's about calling and it's about what God is calling you to do , even if you're scared , moving forward with strength and like doing it anyway , regardless of how you feel , is so important . I think sometimes we get so self-absorbed and we put the spotlight on us .

Speaker 2 16:09

I remember coaching . One of our clients was just had a hundred thousand dollar launch and she's she's done bigger launches than that before , but she was so in imposter syndrome one day before she was doing a training and I had to remind her like , listen , you have already . The burden of proof of the results that you get people is so staggeringly high . You have to remember what you've been able to achieve in the past and how you've already helped so many people . This is a walk in the park . You've done this five , six , seven , eight times now .

Speaker 2 16:41

You know exactly how to refine your process and you're showing up not for you . You're to refine your process and you're showing up not for you . You're showing up for the people that you're meant to serve , and I think that releases a stress from us , from being like , oh , we have to be perfect to know we just have to show up and we have to do our best . That's not to say that you have to do things without having experience . I don't necessarily recommend what Chris did no .

Speaker 1 17:02

If you're going to be dumb , you better be tough necessarily recommend what , chris ?

Speaker 2 17:07

no , if you're gonna , if you're gonna be dumb , you better be tough , exactly , oh my gosh we need that in a shirt . That is so good , but but it's true the mantra of my early years in life and the thing you're just derailing my whole thought process and I love it , but it's too much .

Speaker 1 17:22

But anyway , um , I think sometimes we have to remember that it's not about us yeah , and that we just have to step boldly yeah , I think um thinking along that same line of thought .

Speaker 1 17:33

There you know about making it about you I think what we end up doing and um , and I and I tell people to do this um , in other areas too . Like you know , if somebody , a customer , does something , I'm like okay , but what does it say about them more than what it says about you ? Right , like you always have to kind of think about it . Like it , there may be not a good place , they may be you know , there's something crazy going on in there . Like it doesn't mean that you're not rendering a quality service . It may be just having a day . Right , we always make it about us . But I think too , the way we do it when it comes to doubts and excuses and limited beliefs is like we tend to hyper-focus , like we're the only one that's ever gone through this in the history of the world .

Speaker 1 18:07

And I remember several people . I remember specifically Russell Brunson talking about he's like the more I've grown , the louder the voices of doubt have gotten , the more the imposter syndrome has set in . And so it is something that you wrestle with and I do believe this . I really do believe this . But I believe , specifically , if you are in a calling , and God is calling you to multiply your giftings in certain ways in your business , then I believe that you're going to hear those whispers of doubt from the enemy of this world .

Speaker 2 18:31

It's absolutely true .

Speaker 1 18:32

And so that to me , is you have to make it more than about the flesh and you have to walk with spirit , because God is trying to do something supernatural and powerful in your life , and it's going to be uncomfortable and those things are going to come up , but I think , recognizing that there is an adversary and that those maybe aren't your thoughts , like we aren't called to live in a spirit of fear , and so I think sometimes it isn't just us , it's something speaking into us , whispering lies into us , and so that has given me a lot to be like . No , no , no . This is what I've been called to , this is my North node , and I'm walking , not in fear , but I'm walking towards that courageously right .

Speaker 1 19:07

And so I think that's a big part of it , and I think that having that as your I guess your guiding North Star , I think , is probably the most impactful thing that you can do if you have a faith practice like what we have .

Speaker 2 19:18

A hundred percent , and I think , too , what you said is so powerful about you know what Russell was sharing , where the more successful you are , the more pressure there is , because now you're performing in public , and so if you have to fail , it's much harder to fail in public than it is to fail in secret , and so I think , exercising those muscles before you're in the limelight it's so important because it teaches you and trains you .

Speaker 2 19:42

The more you do it , the more confident you become . It's that confidence , competence , you know , circle , that we always talk about , that cycle of like doing it more . The more reps you get in , the more you say yes to doing things scared , the less scared you become to do new things and get uncomfortable .

Speaker 1 19:58

Yeah , I think , too . A resource that I would recommend is the book Mindset by Carol Dweck , and she talks about a fixed versus a growth mindset , and I think you have to realize like , yeah , you are going to make mistakes , and yeah , you are going to get your butt kicked , and yeah , it is going to be painful , and yeah , yeah , yeah , but the reality is is that these look , you only lose if you give up it's true right .

Speaker 1 20:22

Like everything is a learning experience . There's no such thing as failure in life . I mean , that's not like some woo-woo comment , like that's real , because it's just part of the story . If you watch a movie and then the main character experiences some kind of a challenge along the way , that's what makes the story worth telling . If there wasn't the adversary , if there wasn't the , the , the pitfall or the know , that main challenge that they experienced , both internal or external , the story is not a good movie . Like it's not even worth watching , it's not a good show , it's not a good story .

Speaker 1 20:52

And so what you're doing is is you're not responsible for the tests , but you are responsible for the testimony . And so to craft that testimony , there are going to be those things that you have to overcome , the things that you have to go through the valley that you have to cross , and I just think that normalizing that but also having a growth mindset through that process of like , okay , cool . I've always talked about this and I made a reference to it in a previous episode where I said , like marketing was like my infinity , my last infinity stone and my infinity gauntlet . And a lot of people are like dude , you've lived like 10 lives . I'm like , yeah , I have . But here's the thing I've gotten my butt kicked at every single thing that I've done , literally .

Speaker 1 21:29

But somewhere along the way I picked up something that I was like powerful , that's powerful , that's going to help , that's going to help , and it didn't come easy . None of it came easy . In fact , kim can literally tell you and this isn , I promise you , it's not , we have our complete shortfalls and shortcomings . Right now that we deal with Like it's just again , it's part of it . You never arrive . You literally never arrive . But I'm not joking you guys . Some of the stuff that we do with technology now , personally , I can't believe that I actually like when Kim's for real . When Kim started dating me , guys , I wore the clip for my phone on

The Comfort Trap and Complacency

Speaker 1 22:02

my belt .

Speaker 2 22:09

Like for real , for real , like pause , pause , what he's trying to say is that he had a blackberry .

Speaker 1 22:14

Yes , that he wore on his belt with a clip yes , and he was 25 years old , okay , and iphones existed , like I was like no , I don't like it because it didn't have buttons .

Speaker 2 22:25

It's not a business phone .

Speaker 1 22:26

I was the only I want to be respected in business . And if you have a business .

Speaker 2 22:30

You have a BlackBerry .

Speaker 1 22:32

I was already a boomer at 25 , 24 .

Speaker 2 22:34

I mean Chris is 25 , going on 60 .

Speaker 1 22:36

Guys , I could barely log into a computer Like for real , like that was not . I remember when I had like a anyways , I don't go down to rabbit holes , but like I could , I wasn't using CRMs . The first year in in the business , in the moving business we started guys . I took every request , phone call , I wrote down their request with no formatting , just on a yellow notepad , and sometimes I couldn't find the notepad and it was a day of the job and my guys would show up and they'd be like what are we doing ? I'll be like okay .

Speaker 1 23:04

Literally . Let me look at my notepad and I couldn't find the job details , nor their address , nor their phone number .

Speaker 2 23:09

If you , found us or me through a Trello video . This is why ? It's because we have lived experience of what it looks like to not have a productivity system .

Speaker 1 23:19

So my point is that now , sometimes I'm doing things with technology and I literally am like I can't believe that I can actually do this , like I can't believe people look at me as like a tech sophisticated person .

Speaker 2 23:29

Yeah , like you're out here . That's not who I was at all Building apps with Replit .

Speaker 1 23:34

Yeah , I'm like working with AI agents and like doing all this , I'm like I can't code but I can do a lot with technology and that's not . That wasn't my thing at all . That wasn't my thing at all . Kim is shocked that I'm in marketing , like shocked , like it blew up . It's crazy , like I literally people think that like oh , it was just some great marketing . No , I was terrible .

Speaker 2 23:49

I could not get Chris to post any content whatsoever or even be aware of the platforms and the things that were happening , Like with ads . Oh my gosh , I had to sell you so hard on doing ads or doing anything for the movie company . And now you're like freaking genius level with marketing thank you .

Speaker 1 24:08

She would put a camera in my face and be like say something for social media , and I would literally like twist my arm , be like , hi , have a good summer . You know , like it was the worst , like I had like literal charisma level negative 400 , like it was so bad , like you could clearly tell that she made me do it no , but now you have like a freaking awesome podcast and your youtube channel and like a whole media company it's wild , so that tells you that . But here's the thing who ?

Speaker 2 24:35

you are now doesn't mean it's who you're going to become , and god knows that and what is amazing about that is you have to get comfortable walking through the doors that God opens in your path , and I think that's what you've done so well . You really have . You've said yes to the uncomfortable things .

Speaker 1 24:50

I just think we compare our now to someone else's like 10 years in , you know , and that's not fair , and I remember I did that . No , I'm literally . I love Lewis house . This is not a shot at Lewis house , but I remember when I first started my own podcast , I went and I listened to a couple of his first episodes , and it was like good gravy .

Speaker 1 25:09

This is terrible . It's so bad , but you know what You're going to suck at everything at first . I promise you you will , and then the deal , though , is that people will get to see that growth . You get to experience that growth , and I think what ends up happening is it becomes a practice . It becomes a practice that you just that's become . It becomes who you are like . You're just constantly focused on growth and improvement and progress , and you strengthen that muscle and develop that as a habit . Yeah , and I think , like next thing , you know , like you , just the fear of something new . It , or some of these imposter syndromes or some of what like it , kind of starts to go away a little bit , or at least , maybe it doesn't go away , but you feel up for the challenge . Yeah , I think you learn how to deal with it .

Speaker 2 25:52

I feel like you have tools in your tool chest that you can pull out and you just get better at dealing with the discomfort . I think we all have to get comfortable in the discomfort , and knowing that in the discomfort is when we actually become the best version of ourselves , because we cannot grow if we don't have any challenges .

Speaker 2 26:11

It's like going to the gym right , you put pressure and resistance on your muscles so that you actually grow them , and so , without putting in the reps , without putting that challenge , without putting that extra burden on your muscles , you can't actually grow , and so a lot of people are watching and listening to this podcast and you're expecting that growth is just going to happen to you , like it's just going to come out of nowhere and all of a sudden you're going to become this like expert in your field or a thought leader . No , my friend , it comes from doing the reps , it comes from saying yes when you want to say no , it comes from walking through the doors that God opens for you and it comes from really being okay in the discomfort . I think we coach a lot of our clients who are so uncomfortable and they're so desperate to move into comfort .

Speaker 2 26:56

It's like no , no , no , listen , listen , listen , listen . Child , you grow in the discomfort , in the challenges . God builds into us resilience , strength , determination , and we become a better version of ourselves with every single obstacle . I think the people who grow the most in business , who achieve the most in business , are the ones who welcome the discomfort . They're not trying to move into comfort . They're okay in the discomfort , and they might even seek it on purpose , so they're not staying stagnant constantly .

Speaker 1 27:27

I was going to say . The other one too , is that we find complacency in our comfort . Ooh Right . So it's like we're trying to get out of discomfort , but then we get real complacent in comfort to the point where you're like I haven't grown at all in like years .

Speaker 2 27:41

That is such a trap . I think that is one of the strongest , craziest traps from the enemy . Can you speak more on that , because I feel like we've been in that ?

Speaker 1 27:50

well , it's a lie , it's a yeah , it is . We have been there um , it's a lie , because when it's up happening is that you fall out of touch yeah um , you lose sight of your audience .

Speaker 1 27:59

You get you're not sharpening your skills yeah , other people are and so like they're closing gap on you and the next thing you know you're not sharpening your skills , other people are , and so like they're closing gap on you and the next thing you know you're kind of obsolete . And so then you get it , you're forced into discomfort by seeking refuge in comfort . You actually end up falling involuntarily , involuntarily , into discomfort again . And so you can choose whether I'm going to deliberately enter myself into discomfort because I'm going to continue to grow , or if I'm going to deliberately enter myself into discomfort because I'm going to continue to grow , or if I'm going to fall into discomfort because you got a little comfy cump .

Speaker 2 28:31

Yeah , I think we've talked about that right in previous episodes about choosing your suck you know , we get a lot of complaints . A lot of our clients are like they're experts Not everyone , but we hear a lot of complaints and excuses , because of the nature of what we do we're with people , we're humans , that's what we do , right ? It's like , well , I can't great at it , yeah , I can't make it happen because of this , or I don't have time , or I don't have money , whatever , everybody , everybody has a unique thing that is

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Speaker 2 28:56

only only them never in the history of humans has it applied to anybody but them .

Speaker 1 29:00

And then okay , but no , and I'll give examples right , of other people that I know that I work with right now that have this same problem . Oh , but that's different , because mine is this way . I'm like okay , it's a different flavor Skittle .

Speaker 2 29:12

It's a different color Skittle .

Speaker 1 29:13

It's the same dang thing . Shut up , so stupid .

Speaker 2 29:17

It I , you know , we we got what is it , mr no herself .

Speaker 1 29:22

Like Is it , mr no ? Herself , Like we just whenever we present , we get into that mindset , we get into that mindset .

Speaker 2 29:26

We present solutions and it's like , well , no , that's not going to work because X , y or Z . It's like you know what ? I don't have time for this , but the reality is I think a lot of times we're so passionate about getting back into our little comfort zone that we forget about picking our suck . We've talked about that . It sucks to be uncomfortable , but you know what sucks more ? It sucks to not have a job . It sucks to not have a business . It sucks to not be able to actually accomplish the goals that you've set out for yourself and then look back and have regret because you didn't take the step , because you were too scared or you were too lazy , or you made every excuse under the book to say I can't't do this because of X and you gave yourself an out . Do not give yourself an out . It is such a trap . We see it every freaking day in coaching .

Speaker 2 30:13

In fact , I would say that a big part of our job is holding people accountable and challenging them to not make excuses , because any and any situation you can make an excuse to not get up in the morning , to not go to work , to not serve people , to not post the content , to not shoot the blog post , to not write the blog post or shoot the podcast , or shoot the youtube video . It's so easy to stay comfortable , yeah , but the reality is nothing happens in comfort . It doesn't I would .

Speaker 1 30:43

So , as business owners , we really set ourselves up to fail in so many ways . One is we try to bring like our you know , industrial revolution , you know era education , which was made for us to literally be a corporate stooge in a nine to five and just do as we're told , right , and that's the whole education system . It's just I'm going to tell you this and remember and regurgitate on the day that I say it's not critical thinking . If you took a critical thinking class in college , kudos to you . I did . It was incredible . It helps unlock your mind in many ways .

Speaker 1 31:15

But anyways , all I have to say , you know , I think when we get into the real world as business owners , we've had someone in our lives , be it a teacher or whatever . Like in athletics , you have a coach . In school , you have a teacher and they're holding you accountable to doing the things that you need to do in the order that you need to do them . They don't just give you the books and say , all right , see you for the final exams in three months . They're holding you to account , they're giving you the process , they're giving you and I'm setting up a big soft pitch here , guys but the reality is I don't understand , as business owners in this one particular area , how we think we're going to do this alone With our mindset , that we have from our nine to five this , and that we're going to change our mindset , hold ourselves accountable and see our blind spots on our own . That just doesn't make any sense . So for me , you need to have someone in your life that's helping you think a different way .

Speaker 1 32:05

I mentioned , you know , the industrial era revolution , industrial era mindset with the schooling system and what have you ? The nine to five mindset , right , the accountability instruction in which you're doing things , which is huge . It's not about doing the things , it's about the strategic order in which you're doing the things but also somebody to call you on your ish . Like , right , call you on your ish because all this stuff , guys , when I , if I bring this mcflurry stuff to my coach , all these excuses and doubts , if I bring that mcflurry to my executive coach , he gonna call my butt on it like he's gonna call me hard on . He's gonna be like bro , like for real , like we were literally just talking about how we had a couple therapists and he would look me dead in my face . Shout , a couples therapist and he would look me dead in my face . Shout out to Dustin . He would look me dead in my face and be like Really .

Speaker 1 32:51

Really , and I'm like you're right , you're right , you're right .

Speaker 2 32:53

He just had to give you a look . Yeah , but staying with me , but I don't understand how we expect , guys .

Speaker 1 32:59

We literally enter into a new thing , something we've never done before Never and we think we're going to apply this other data that has no relevancy whatsoever to what we're doing . We're going to somehow fit it in there oh , because I what ? And then we have no mindset about how we should be approaching this thing . No skills , never done it before , and we don't have anybody to hold us accountable or give us a protocol in which we should follow . Like , could there be a bigger recipe for failure than that right there ?

Speaker 2 33:25

Yeah .

Speaker 1 33:25

You know , like , dude , get a coach . I'm not saying it has to be us , I'm really not . But most of this stuff , like as I read through this , I'm like you need a coach , you need a coach , you need a coach , you need a coach , you need a coach , you need a coach .

Speaker 2 33:37

Yeah .

Speaker 1 33:37

Like you need a coach and no one does this without coaches . Coaches have coaches . Yeah , like Tony Robbins has coach . We went and saw the amazing John Maxwell I was going to say Jack Canfield , john Maxwell . We went and saw him a couple months ago .

Speaker 2 33:53

He's incredible .

Speaker 1 33:54

Bro's like 80 .

Speaker 2 33:56

Yeah , and he still has coaches . He's hustling .

Speaker 1 33:58

I'm like who the heck ?

Speaker 2 34:00

Who could possibly be your coach ?

Speaker 1 34:01

Like is your coach Yoda , Like who For real . How ?

Speaker 2 34:04

do you have somebody ?

Speaker 1 34:05

older than you coaching you . But you know what he actually has younger coaches now . Why Relevant ? Because he's falling out of touch . Maybe because he's in his 80s and , like he stayed hip , he's in shape . He's still on . He has you know . Oh , I've made this way too long-winded , but honestly , every time I read one of these , or as I read through these , I'm like get a coach , yeah , link is in the description of this video , and you can get into group .

Speaker 2 34:32

That's what he's talking about .

Speaker 1 34:33

You can get into group programs , like if you're brand new and you're like I don't have the money , okay , sure , fine , we've all been mentors from afar through their digital programs in their communities . Like you've never had more of an opportunity to join programs that literally before would have . You would have had to like go to their office , but you know right and like spend thousands of dollars , let's get the real real .

Speaker 2 34:56

you guys , if you're listening to this , you probably gone through courses and programs that you don't actually show up for . True , that is the biggest problem .

Speaker 1 35:07

It's actually show up for true . That is the biggest problem . It's true like there's so much information .

Speaker 2 35:09

There's so many books . Yeah , you haven't read the books and you haven't actually gone through the courses and you're not participating in coaching . It's like , listen , you have to show up . There's only so much that people can do for you . Ultimately , we need to be disciplined enough and mature enough and wise enough to actually show up and do the work too , because I think a big reason why it's just really interesting , a big reason why people don't want to buy courses anymore and they're like kind of tired of courses , is because they don't show up for the freaking courses . Yeah , they don't . Actually , I have never bought a course that I haven't finished . Do you know how many people can say that ? Very , very very few .

Speaker 2 35:42

You're an alien most people be like I can't fathom and that's not being self righteous . I have many other flaws , faults , and I have a coach for that , but the reality is you gotta show up too . You can't be a lazy schmuck and expect that the work is just gonna magically happen because you signed up for a program . It's like , oh , now the market is tighter courses , yeah , but you didn't show up and do the work either . That's a problem and we need to call it out .

Speaker 1 36:05

The average ROI on coaching hiring coaches 788% .

Speaker 2 36:09

That's insane 788% . That's amazing .

Speaker 1 36:12

So it's yeah , it's absolutely crazy . It's why we do what we do . And I would say this I almost posted this in our app , because we have an app for our community that's exclusive to people in our world . Um , I almost posted . I was thinking the other night . I was like okay , the people that show up for the things that we do and the people that actually apply the things that we teach and they actually are willing to be coached , I would say there's like a 99.5 success they're winning , yeah , like like legitimately it's almost a guarantee like , legitimately , are winning .

Speaker 1 36:42

Now maybe they're like still on their way to winning , like the big , big win , like they want to make multiple six figures or whatever . But like they are , they are way further along than they would be otherwise , admittedly , and they will tell you that um and and again , I'm not saying that like we have a magic wand , they're the ones doing the work . Like I take no credit in their successes , but we all need those people to see . It's a paradox . We don't see those things , we don't realize we're living in limited beliefs , we don't know how to overcome our doubts , we don't know how to reframe those things . Again , it might be just blind to you outright , like I said . So sometimes having that person in your world , or having those people in your world in like a group coaching setting , it literally changes everything . Where we'll see somebody come in , where they've been struggling for years , next year they triple or quadruple or more their business in like less than six months .

Speaker 1 37:31

Yeah and they've been stuck for years and then all of a sudden they're like why didn't I do this sooner ? And so for us . We're big advocates of that and that's why we got into this is because we hired coaches . Guys , we've spent like stupid money like deposit on a house multiple times and then some like a 20 deposit , not this fha stuff down payment .

Speaker 2 37:51

You mean , yeah , what I say , deposit , deposit .

Speaker 1 37:53

I'm sorry a down payment on a house . That's what I meant to say , but like I'm not talking to fha deposit or I said it again , I'm down payment . I'm talking like I promise we've done this before .

Speaker 2 38:02

Yeah , we have um , I'm talking like down payment . I'm talking like I promise , we've done this before .

Speaker 1 38:05

Yeah , we have . I'm talking like down payment , that like you got bad credit kind of down payment . No , no , no , like when I'm 20% or more , you know yeah .

Speaker 2 38:14

You're talking about the big , big , the big , big yeah . Yeah , but it's wild too , because I think of these problems are solved , like you said , with coaching , but we have to show up one , two . I think we need to get out of our own way because we've seen more than more than enough times we'll try to coach someone , um , and they're in a full-blown no state yeah like it is a no negative state and nothing that you present as a solution is going to change their mindset , and I think I think this was in Gary Keller's book the One Thing .

Speaker 2 38:50

He was talking about a conversation he had with his mom and she I guess he was making an excuse about something and she was like you should never agree with your limitations . And I was like whoa , that's powerful , because I think sometimes people want to give themselves the out of the excuse . No , that can't work for me , because I'm in X or Y situation or I have this commitment , or I have this business model , or I have this inclination , or I don't have that talent .

Speaker 1 39:20

And then they're not coachable . Right , they're not coachable .

Speaker 2 39:22

It's like all of the solutions . You have friends right now who are in this situation and it's so frustrating because there's a simple solution to their problem and yet they want to just complain and complain and agree with their limitations instead of being like you know what . That's actually a good idea why ?

Speaker 1 39:39

Because it requires them becoming uncomfortable and actually solving the problem and actually solving the problem . But some of this manifests especially when you're in that negative no state , because the repeated issues with not reconciling these doubts and excuses . When you let these things fester for so long , that's when you enter into like I would say it's like a sliding scale , like your optimism is dwindled because of all of those downfalls , all of those failures-ish right , I don't like using that word learning experiences , but left unaddressed yeah it will lead you to that negative no state where everything is no , everything is negative , everything is bad , you've lost any semblance of optimism .

Speaker 1 40:17

So I do know gary says to I believe it was gary . But he says the thing about your excuses is no one's going to take them from you like . You get to get to keep them , you get to keep them . You get to keep them .

Speaker 2 40:27

Okay , maybe that's the quote . If you argue in favor of your excuses or your limitations , you get to keep them .

Speaker 1 40:33

Yeah , you get to keep them . That's what he said . Yeah , that's what he said .

Speaker 2 40:35

That was so powerful and it's like listen's a trap in itself and I think it keeps so many of us in a very small mindset that doesn't allow us to grow .

Speaker 1 40:55

Something Kim has been pushing me to do and it helps me a lot when I do it and I don't give myself the permission to do it as much as I should , and I'm going to make that a point to do this more . We go exercise our physical body . I go to the gym every day because I don't function well If I don't like I , just from a methylation standpoint , I don't want to get into like nerdy epigenetic stuff , but my body .

Speaker 1 41:17

My body functions better when I'm methylating well and me going to the gym , I start methyling better and I have better days . I think we all benefit from , you know , whether it's movement , just getting 10,000 steps or 8,000 steps , whatever , but you know we don't do that really drives me crazy , myself included . We just wake up and expect that our brain's going to roll out of bed and bench press 450 pounds Like we're not flexing that muscle . We're not in some cases , you know . In some cases , you know , there's like a crazy statistic about the amount of people that actually have read a book , cover to cover , after schooling has ended and it's like .

Speaker 2 41:48

Less than one book after it's obscene , and I read another stat that like after the age of 30, .

Speaker 1 41:54

most men will never sprint again in their lives After the age of 30 . Like they'll never sprint again ever .

Speaker 2 42:00

Is that true ? Yeah , I believe so what ?

Speaker 1 42:02

That's what I read on the internet . So it has to be true what ? But no , but seriously look that up , because it was something really just outrageous . That's wild . So we don't read anymore , right ? But for me it's journaling . My mind is a very crazy place and sometimes these doubts or limiting beliefs or whatever the case may be , they're underneath the surface , they're not overt . They're underneath the surface , they're not overt , they're not obvious to me . If I'm in a negative no state , I don't realize how I got there and I don't realize the things that are leading me to be in that negative no state . And so for me it's sitting down with my thoughts , journaling and doing that mental exercise ,

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Speaker 1 42:37

Having that mindfulness or meditation practice or prayer practice or whatever you do , Sitting in the word , All those things like sometimes we don't see things and and we're showing up in a way it's a by-product how we're showing up .

Speaker 1 42:53

It's a . That's what I was trying to say . It's a by-product of the things that we're not doing . It's a by-product of the things that are underneath the surface , that we're not even conscious of , and so I don't want anybody to feel like we're picking on them by talking about this stuff . We see it every single day and it's like dude , you constantly sabotage yourself like it's not to do with your business . You have a beautiful business , you have amazing skill , you have an amazing product , you have an amazing service .

Speaker 1 43:13

You is the problem , sometimes even to the point where I literally got into the two with some of the people that I've mentored in the past when I was involved with , like accelerator programs , stuff like that .

Speaker 1 43:21

I'm like you need to hire ceo because you've been sitting on this for seven freaking years and you're still the problem and despite everybody telling you all the things there's pride , there's ego , there's this , there's that , there's whatever but it's you stuff , it's you stuff and you're still sitting here , whereas someone else with the right mindset approach would have scaled this to the moon right in one case and I'm not going to say specifics because I don't want to , I'm sure I think this person actually listens to the show , but I got him a connection with like guys . This was like the golden . I got a golden ticket . This was the golden ticket . It was the gold . Like the player , like the player in this space . Like when you see this brand , the logo , they're the only one , they're literally the only player . They supply in this particular industry . They plot , they're the number one supplier in the world . I got him an intro and he's in the same field and it was a thousand percent like a merger acquisition situation , like millions and millions of dollars .

Speaker 1 44:17

I mean just completely pooed the bed , completely pooed the bed and I was like you are the problem , you're your own , we're sending and we see guys this all the time . Like don't get to the point where you look back at your life and say what could have been if it weren't for me and my nonsense and my baggage and my BS . Like that . To me there's no bigger regret of like that big what if ? Right , and a lot of people say like they look back about their family and they should have spent some time with their kids and should spend more time and all that I think is layered into this as well .

Speaker 1 44:46

All right , right , but man , to me , like it's like we gotta unpack what's in our brains and really like see what's going on here , because I don't think we even realize how much is actually a hindrance to the things that we want to achieve . I think was it true about the sprinting , by the way , uh grok says um , yes , but it can also be .

Speaker 2 45:08

Uh , it's plausible , but it may not be 100 based on trends okay , well , the internet lied so there's there's just like conflicting studies on that data , but I think that's interesting um anyway , I'll try to find the article that I read . You're good I'm sure there's many , because it referenced quite a few , but really I think , really I think as we like , wrap up this first part because we're going to have to do a part two because there's so many of these .

Speaker 2 45:31

I want to touch on one last thing , and that is , I think , the fear of failure but , also the fear of too much success , and so , again , I know we talk a lot about women as men , I think , the Christians wrestle with the fear of success , one big time For sure , and I think people feel guilty about it . Might feel like we're being sexist . We're not .

Speaker 1 45:53

We're just kind of showing trends based on our experience . I mean , I said the men are dumb and we gotta be tough .

Speaker 2 45:55

So I think we're being fair here . Yeah , I'm just saying .

Speaker 1 45:56

I think we're being fair here .

Speaker 2 45:58

You know I could just I could hear the woksters oh , it's so sexist . Yeah , anyway , get over it .

Speaker 1 46:02

The point is that I think they don't believe in genders anyway . So what are we talking about here ?

Speaker 2 46:09

Um , but at least for me you know , I've had both and I think I still wrestle with both . In many ways , I think the fear of failure is stronger sometimes than the fear of success . But especially as someone who , you know , has experienced a lot of craziness in terms of lots of success , lots of failure in business , and there's been seasons in our life that have been super chaotic I wrestle with both . I wrestle with not having , you know , achieved the things that God has called me to achieve , and I think my greatest fear in life is being in my deathbed and having regrets about not pouring myself out completely or like god didn't , wasn't able to use me to my full potential because ,

Speaker 2 46:54

yeah , he had to use someone else because I was too afraid or I made excuses , or I couldn't move past my discomfort , etc . Etc . Etc . But I also , when we're having conversations about scaling our business or getting to a new milestone or launching something new , the first thought in my mind is always yes , but this is going to be really challenging , it's going to affect my lifestyle . We're going to be so busy . People are going to be screaming at me because all these things have happened , right .

Speaker 2 47:22

So I've validated with real life and it's almost like a trauma that I'm always working on Because it's so crazy . But I think , as women too , we do this all the time . It's like that's great , but there's always a but of why you can't do it , and that's the first thought . So I'm really working , especially in this season of being like no , even if this happens that's like my word right . Even if , no matter what , I love being able to be like even if that happens , god has a plan . Even if that happens , I know that I'm smart enough to figure out a different way , even if that happens . I've been here before and I know that I have the tools and the resources around me to overcome whatever stress and chaos can come from having too much success .

Speaker 1 48:09

Yeah , I think those intentional reframes when you so um , there was uh , Dave Asprey talked about that when you say like a negative , you catch yourself . At first you're not going to catch all of them , but then you'll find yourself where you start catching these negative statements and you reframe them when you correct yourself . Right , remember , for a while I had I'm add massively , as you guys have probably already picked up and I've already talked about , but add people .

Speaker 2 48:31

We can procrastinate everything and I remember that was really funny , that was actually hilarious I need to pause to laugh because you're like I'm very and I'm sure you picked it up dude , what is wrong , but you just like moved into the next thing I had to laugh .

Speaker 1 48:47

It's hilarious . So we're notorious for procrastination , like everything's tomorrow , right . And then tomorrow is 10 years and we're like , oh gosh , I just have to clean my room .

Speaker 2 48:56

Okay , pause , you are never procrastinating about work at all ever .

Speaker 1 49:02

I never see you doing that .

Speaker 2 49:06

No , but that's been intentional you have the opposite problem .

Speaker 1 49:08

You do too much . Yeah now and so , but but that's again like that was . That was a struggle , that was a . That was a thing that I wrestled with my entire youth , um , and literally I looked like a hoarder . I just closed my door like , oh my god , it's not happening in there , and my parents would go in and be like , where is he for real ? So , um , so for me , I remember I got so tired , I was so sick and tired of the procrastination because it was bleeding into my professional life as well and I just I feel like I wasn't showing up consistently , which , again , kim can tell you .

Speaker 1 49:38

That is not the person I am now . In fact , brian recently , uh , her brother and our um and who works with us in the business , he was like , yeah , you know , like chris is like always like this , and I was like , dude , I was not always like that , like not at all . He's like really , you know . So anyways , uh , for me it was intentional correction , it was like what kim's saying with the reframe , like catch yourself yeah make it conscious to you , right like catch it in the moment .

Speaker 1 50:01

So I remember , uh , whenever I try to procrastinate something , I would stop immediately and do the thing that I was procrastinating . And now that short-term drill sergeant , you can't do that long-term , but if you can start to develop those like habits around like just do it , just do it , just do it . And then you start tricking your brain because you're like dopamine , dopamine , dopamine . I got it done . I got it done . Achievement , achievement , achieve , go , go more . So now I'm such a thirsty dopamine person that I love achieving , I love doing , I love accomplishing , I love getting things done , I love putting a stamp on it . So I've tricked myself into overcoming some of that procrastination , which has been really , really , really effective .

Speaker 2 50:35

Yeah , so like rewiring your brain .

Speaker 1 50:37

Rewiring completely .

Speaker 2 50:44

On purpose , being intentional , knowing yourself , knowing what your downfalls are , what your weaknesses are Ideally working with a therapist who can help you figure that out give you really good tools . It makes a huge difference . Therapy has been a massive you know kind of tool in our toolbox , as have been coaches , and so I think that the really positive side of this because we were pretty strong on you today I mean we told you like it was right . Now we have to like pat you in the back a little bit , give you some encouragement is that you absolutely can rewire and become a much better version like .

Speaker 2 51:12

It doesn't mean that because you have this challenge or this weakness or this struggle , that's the way it's always going to be yeah , I wanted to say one more thing .

Speaker 1 51:19

It was super important and I lost my thought talking about add right , um , but again something in line with the countering some of those negative , you know , whatever right . So I'll give you a bts right behind the scenes , um , today we have one of our programs . We've had some like things come up . This is what prompted the episode is because we've had some like negative situations come up , a lot of complaints and not complaints , excuses , excuses , and we just get really like we're exhausted by it . Right , and like when I can't because , when I can't because , when I can't because , it's just been a coaching day where everyone's in a no mindset .

Speaker 1 51:50

Sorry , I'm not trauma dumping here , I'm not but but it but it was a relative , it was a relevant . Things have been hard in the world , and so we're seeing it kind of percolate , more for sure , uh , and so what a what a non-mature , less refined entrepreneur will do is they'll let that fester , they'll see a problem and they won't address it . It becomes this like habitual complaining-ism , where you're just complaining , complaining Well , they don't , and the next thing you know again now you're in that really negative mindset where you're like people suck , and you're like getting really cynical , and I've been there many times , like I've had some nicknames specific in the moving company , where it was like I was so cynical , I'm just do your job , you know , like I didn't have anything to do with them , I didn't want to see them , just go do your job , shut up . And so the problem , though , is that , when you don't correct it as entrepreneurs , this isn't a job Like no one's telling you you can't do this and you have to do it this way , and you can't fix it and you can't take a different approach . And so , today I just said I was frustrated I went to the gym and I messaged kim because I had an idea .

Speaker 1 52:51

I was like I'm fixing this problem today , like I'm fixing it , and so I texted her . I'm like this is my proposed solution . She was like it's brilliant , it'll change everything , and I'm like perfect , let's implement that immediately let's correct the thing that's giving us , the thing that's giving us the frustrations , and so- .

Speaker 2 53:07

Whereas before we might've avoided it .

Speaker 1 53:09

Yes , and then ?

Speaker 2 53:09

it festered and then it blew up because we were so frustrated by the problem .

Speaker 1 53:14

Yeah , so we've developed what we call the issue solution map and we're gonna show you guys in the next episode how we go through . That'd be a fun thing to do in part two . But like we put all the issues down in one column and then we derive solutions in the next column and then we put a level of difficulty and a level of importance ranking on a scale of one to five with how like , is this urgent ? Like , is this the house on fire and we need to fix this now ? Is this going to be an easy thing to fix or a long thing ? If it's a hard thing , we develop a project for Right , so like it allows you to kind of be like OK , this sucks , how to fix it ? This is going on , what do I do ? And then just notate all those things . I feel like you just brain dump all those right .

Speaker 2 53:47

So that'd be a fun thing to do yeah , maybe we could do in the next episode , but with that , you guys , thank you so much for watching . Stay tuned for part two , because we have so many other amazing strategies for you to actually overcome those fears , those doubts , those excuses that keep us from achieving our highest calling . So I'm really excited . Make sure to give this episode a big thumbs up . Share it with your friends . You guys are sharing these episodes and they're getting views and we're like what ? This is a new thing . I'm so excited . So the more you can be on mission with us to help 10,000 online entrepreneurs double their business in the next couple of years , the better . So if there's someone who needs to hear this message today in your life , do not hesitate , send it to them . We'd love to have a new member to our little familia here on the podcast and we will see you in the next one .

Speaker 2 54:37

Let us know also in the comments , what was your biggest takeaway from this episode . We'd love to use it in the next one . So we love you . We'll see you in part two . Bye for now .