Before You Cut Bangs
Hosted by Laura Quick and Claire Fierman, “Before You Cut Bangs” is full of hilarious conversations about real life, common and uncommon crises, and possible cosmetic errors that come along with it. Through storytelling and therapeutic wisdom, Claire and Laura share how to NOT fuck up your hair (and life) while walking through similar situations,
Produced by Will Lochamy
Before You Cut Bangs
2.16 Our Family's Vindication: Part 1 (Bob Lochamy, Will's Dad)
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In this inaugural "vindication episode," Laura and Claire are joined by Will's father, veteran radio host Bob Lochamy, to set the record straight on some of the show’s most memorable family stories. With wit and warmth, Bob revisits tales involving a Michael Jackson joke gone wrong, a softball injury mix-up, and even a surprising run-in with Taylor Swift. Along the way, he shares heartfelt wisdom on parenting and the importance of cherishing everyday moments. A funny, revealing look at how family legends evolve—and what really happened behind the stories.
Episode Introduction
Speaker 1Welcome to, before you Cut Bangs. I'm Laura Quick and I'm Claire Fehrman. I am a professional storyteller and I'm currently working on my first book.
Speaker 2I have worked in mental health for many years in lots of capacities and this is a really important time to tell you our big disclaimer this is not therapy. We are not your therapists or coaches or anything like that.
Speaker 1Yeah, I mean you shouldn't really trust us very much at all. Unless you want to and it turns out well, then you can trust us. That's great. Storytelling is important. Obviously, we love it the best. My favorite part of telling a salacious story is just making people laugh Like I really want to get that laugh. Yeah, All right, what about you?
Speaker 2Or cry.
Speaker 1Oh, I love to bring them to tears. That's a win. Yeah, that's true.
Speaker 2Laugh, cry on par, but we're connecting. And when I was in fifth grade, I got an award called Let Me Entertain you, and nothing has felt better in my life than that day.
Speaker 1And my senior superlative, where everyone else is getting best dressed and you know, highest GPA. I got class clown.
Speaker 3Sweet.
Speaker 1Did you get?
Speaker 3anything Most theatric, but hang on, hang on. Or dramatic, maybe, but here's the deal. Most theatric, but hang on, hang on. Or dramatic, maybe, but here's the deal, it's because Of the world of Wheel. It's because I actually starred in the play, in the big play, junior year and senior year.
Speaker 1Can you tell us more about the play? What was it called?
Speaker 3Guys and Dolls, that one and the Romancers.
Speaker 2Those two.
Speaker 3This is a shocking so I wasn't like, personality-wise, dramatic.
Speaker 2We know. I didn't think you were laying on the floors crying at school.
Speaker 1Yeah, we thought it was a Phantom of the Opera type of situation.
Speaker 3Yeah, it's a weird one, though, when I tell people that, because I'm like no, Do you want? To check on her. It's not my. Yeah, this is another outside episode and yeah, we have birds, we have cars, we have neighbors, we have stuff and you know, maybe it picks up on the mic, maybe it doesn't.
Speaker 2You never know, but if you hear some chatter, someone in a very animated phone call.
Speaker 1Good for they're telling stories. Probably, they probably are okay. Well, interestingly enough, I got a call from my sister who, this last weekend, was like hey, I caught up on five episodes of the podcast and I just wanted to let you know that I think you guys have done enough episodes where it is finally time to let people come and vindicate themselves and tell their side of the story. And I was like what do you mean?
Speaker 2And I was like what do you mean? What did she mean? Like did we say something really bad? We?
Speaker 3I'm just being generous, what?
Speaker 2did you do to her? Okay?
Speaker 1I didn't, I wasn't, I didn't get. I have some assumptions about some things that maybe she feels like I was less generous toward her in my storytelling.
Speaker 2You said she's like a Disney princess.
Speaker 1She is all of that. I think she'd like to come on and be like I'm not a Disney princess, I'm a real girl. I'm a real girl and I think she would also like to be like. Okay, first of all, I don't know, I don't want to speculate, but I do think we need to just kind of lean into this idea. And since our favorite uber driver has some time on their hands today, his name is bob lock me yeah, it's my dad.
Speaker 3It's my dad. He's the only person I really talk much about on this show, just because nick nick a little bit, but I just tell like, oh, this one time nick and I went and did this thing or whatever. I don't say Bob I've like told stories that he would probably cringe if he knew.
Speaker 1I told them OK, so he's going to come. What did you tell him about this invitation?
Speaker 3I said, hey, you know I produced this podcast and they mentioned having you on because I've talked about you and they want you to come kind of tell your side of those stories. He's like, okay, uh, is it gonna be about this and this? And I said I can't tell you that.
Speaker 1I said I don't want you to know beforehand, because I don't want you to formulate know how hardcore you've thrown him under the bus? Oh, he has an idea.
Speaker 3Okay, he has an idea just because he knows it's he on the radio show. We talk about these stories all the time, so he knows that it's probably some embarrassing stories about him.
Speaker 1So for me it's my sister, obviously. I mentioned Shelly a ton, and then for you the main one is my mother. Obvious, Steph is going to come after you hard, I feel like on a vindication episode.
Speaker 2It's hard watching your parents talk publicly.
Speaker 1Oh yes, my whole life, oh yeah, my entire life, luckily for you guys, my parents are never going to read my book and they are never going to listen to this podcast.
Speaker 2Well, I know my parents don't know how to find the podcast, but Steph, poor Steph.
Speaker 1But whatever she can come on, she's going to come on Really let me have it, but we're going to start with Bob because he's around the corner. He's got just a little bit of time before he has to pick up the kids from school.
Inviting Family to Share Their Side
Speaker 3All right, let's do it. Here's my dad, bob Lockerbie. It's interesting because I really don't like say as much about my personal life as you guys do at all all Except for Bob. Except for Bob, Because there's some good stories. I don't it's all positive stuff, but yeah, I mean, I mean it is positive but it's positively funny.
Speaker 4His mom is relieved, but she's jealous too.
Speaker 1Oh, she's relieved.
Speaker 3She's mostly relieved. The microphone is not her front.
Speaker 2Well, I'd like to get a full picture of the family.
Speaker 1Oh yeah, we could do that at some point. I'm mostly thankful so we could ask some questions about Will. This is actually an intervention for Will All right, let's start there, let's start there she might be a good subject then. Okay, good, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2Well then, we always start with a warm-up question or a mixer and buckle up. Buddy, I think it's going to be our favorite quality about you today. This is like a Laura Quick thing where if you're at a dinner table, she's like let's all go around and put a fork in. No, she'll say let's all go around and answer this really meaningful question. So our warm-up instead of a ridiculous question like what makes you gag. It's your quality of Will that you just really appreciate, gosh.
Speaker 3This is a big leap from I don't have a microphone and I'm just producing the show to this.
Speaker 1I know, Now you're like the subject matter. We're going to start with Bob Bob. What's your favorite quality about Will?
Speaker 4Oh, let's see His energy, his energy when he's awake, oh okay.
Speaker 3When he's sleeping. Oh because he knows, yeah, I can't Now. Look, I wake up now on my own with an alarm clock, that's good to hear yeah, but back in the day it would take me, you know I still I'd snooze for 30 minutes.
Speaker 1It's the most artist thing of all time, though.
Speaker 4Well actually snoozing in the shower is risky business.
Speaker 3Yeah, I would sleep in the shower.
Speaker 4I'd put my hand up on the wall like this so his now newfound energy over the last few years Wow.
Speaker 3Now I just have more responsibility, so I know, like I can't sleep in the shower, I'll just get my snoozing done in the bed and then yeah, but once I was bitten by a scorpion in the shower. Do we know this?
Speaker 2What While sleeping no.
Speaker 3Excuse me, yeah, so I would sleep in the shower. Get in the shower.
Speaker 1This is to like play the game of like I'm awake, but really you were just going to take another nap in the shower. Yeah, 100%, Got it 100%.
Speaker 3And then he would come and bang on the door and that would wake me up from that nap and then I would actually finish the shower morning. I I did that and then was stung by something which you'd think is a bee, and so I went back and, like, hit you know that area where I was stung. It was right on my butt and I crushed a scorpion like, and so there in the shower, this is my literal nightmare on the floor was a dead scorpion did it break that habit? No, god, no no.
Speaker 2Pavlov's dogs.
Speaker 4It took many years for him to break that habit.
Speaker 3I think, yeah, but no more, I'm a grown up.
Speaker 1What about you?
Speaker 2I think my favorite Will Lockmead. Quality is you make everybody you meet feel important. Oh, thanks.
Speaker 3I do try. What do you care about them? I try to pretend you asshole.
Speaker 2Oh wow, I do try, I try to pretend.
Speaker 1You asshole we thought we were important.
Speaker 3I'm just kidding. You know that we've talked about this. I always try to act like I know them if I, even if I don't.
Speaker 2I just think it's a nice quality. I think you can make anybody feel comfortable.
Speaker 3That's cool. All right, I like it.
Speaker 4Oh, as is dad, I'm excited to hear that. Yeah, see, this is.
Speaker 3Oh well, that's a Bob treat. I get that from Bob.
Speaker 2I can feel it.
Speaker 1Yeah, I deeply admire curious people and I think you're very curious. I love how much you love to learn. Even if you trash whatever you learn, right after you learn it you're like all right, I learned it, I'm done with it. I still think that's like such a characteristic of somebody that I admire is someone that's like deep into your 40s still learning.
Speaker 2He's not deep into his early early 40s.
Speaker 1By deep I mean deeper than me Very deep into your 40s.
Speaker 2I haven't even seen him yet. I'm still thriving in my 30s. Now that tells me something.
Speaker 4His two children, lila and Liam, early on in their lives. They would always say I'm very curious.
Speaker 1That's such a sweet.
Speaker 3Lila more than Liam, but yeah.
Speaker 1That is such a like. Oh, what a little sweet sentiment.
Speaker 3I this morning on the radio show, used the word yeet properly for the first time ever and I texted Lila. I was like you'd be proud. I used yeet the way it's supposed to be used.
Speaker 1And she's like, oh, can you time out and tell me what that is?
Speaker 3Oh yeet, it's a word that Lila used to use all the time.
Speaker 1And so I said it a bit ironically. That's not cool either.
Speaker 2She was like oh cool, isn't it like throwing something Throwing something, yeah, or being tossed, yeah.
Speaker 3So this kid was like tossed off of a rope swing and I was like, oh, look, it yeeted him Wow.
Speaker 1Yeah, okay.
Speaker 3I'm sure, like I can't hear the response because people are in their cars, but you know. But, I'm sure the crowd went wild.
Speaker 2They hazed you so hard, I'm crashing out. Hmm, no, I mean he says that, but that I think he's always said stuff like that it is big with my 20 something year old clients and I had to look that up and now my kids are saying it so like if you're really overwhelmed or something bad happens, it's like, oh, I'm totally crashing out right now.
Speaker 1Okay, yeah, clay does say that I'm like well, guys, it's not that bad Just toughen up a little.
Speaker 2Okay, so we have Bob here as our first person to either defend themselves, elaborate on stories we've told make Will uncomfortable yes, which he is.
Speaker 3Oh no, I'm good, I'm great, I'm watching you. You haven't heard anything yet though.
Speaker 1Literally.
Speaker 3Totally fine.
Speaker 1He's like I'm good.
Speaker 3Everything's fine. This is going to be. This isn't about me, it's about Bob.
Speaker 2It's all about Bob? Yeah right, what about him? So it's okay if the answer is no, but have you ever listened to this podcast before?
Speaker 4And you say it's okay to say no.
Speaker 2Yes.
Speaker 4I have not, at this point, no.
Speaker 2Yet.
Speaker 3But he also doesn't listen to podcasts at all.
Speaker 2Well, yeah, my parents wouldn't know where to find one.
Speaker 4Okay, well, like I'm going to be your first guest, I mean as far as whatever.
Speaker 1You're not the first guest ever, family, but you're the first family guest, family guest.
Speaker 4You'll be the first podcast.
Speaker 1We feel so honored.
Speaker 3We are amongst royalty in the Stuart Tillich and that means a lot because I've been hosting podcasts since 2009. All right?
Speaker 4Oh, wait a minute. I did listen to two old brothers, okay.
Speaker 1Back in the day, and that is both your children. That's right, both of his kids.
Speaker 3Sweet yeah, both of his kids.
Speaker 2So we have talked about you quite a bit. Before I give you, or we give you, some of that context, tell us something, give us your bio. Like who are you? Tell us why you're so good on a mic.
Speaker 4Well, years and years ago, commuting back from Gadsden to UAB when I was in school at both Gadsden State and UAB to stay awake at night I listened to a radio talk show out of Cleveland, got a Pete Franklin and I was actually quoted in Sports Illustrated in an article that I thought Pete Franklin saved my life because he kept me awake all the way on the drive back to Gadsden and I just got hooked and then from that point forward had different opportunities to participate.
Speaker 2Hooked on radio.
Speaker 4Hooked on radio, hooked on talk radio, and I think it's very therapeutic, totally.
Speaker 2I really do.
Speaker 4I can see that, so that got me started and then things evolved. I worked with sports teams here in Birmingham and had the opportunity to go on talk shows and talk about the teams and all that type thing, and so then eventually switched places.
Speaker 2When I'm making an assumption that you're an Alabama football fan.
Speaker 4I was why aren't you. Well, a lot of my friends went to Auburn Okay, okay, and. But years and years ago, before my wife and I knew each other, we were both at the same football game Alabama-Auburn football game and the Auburn band was playing the alma mater for Auburn and the Alabama student body began to sing out. Oh, mcdonald had a farm. And I just didn't take that. Well, I mean, I just thought that's not good, you shouldn't do that. And then I evolved. I mean, I just thought that's not good, you shouldn't do that.
Speaker 4And then I evolved, I evolved.
Speaker 3I still want Alabama to win their games, except for the playoffs. It doesn't root against.
Speaker 1Alabama. Yeah, yeah, it is an interesting. That's an interesting flip my dad brought us.
Speaker 4My dad raised us to pull for both Alabama and Auburn and then make a decision going into the Iron Bowl. Who?
Speaker 1based on certain criteria.
Speaker 4I blew that away later, though.
Speaker 1Okay, like a statewide, we're for everybody until we're just down to one.
Speaker 4Yeah, until we're down to one.
Speaker 1I like that. But then when you were on radio, tell people about that show that you had.
Speaker 4Oh, with Feinbaum. Yeah, oh, my goodness, how long do?
Speaker 3we have One minute One minute, one minute.
Speaker 4Paul is a very unique individual. He was Johnny Carson, I was Ed McMahon. Okay, okay, and that sums it up. All right, and I tried desperately never to interrupt him.
Speaker 3The truth is this Paul was a writer, bob had done a ton of radio already, and so they became friends and they decided to start a nighttime AM radio show called Sports and Stuff, and so that's what it was, and Paul pretty quickly became this radio figure and the callers became the center of the show, and it then evolved to the Paul Feinbaum Show and the Paul Feinbaum Radio Network and all that. So that's how that started, though I mean there wouldn't be Paul Feinbaum.
Speaker 3No don that, so that's how that started, though I mean there wouldn't be Paul Feinbaum no don't. Okay, he would still be alive, I assume. Yeah, but there wouldn't be the massive media giant.
The Michael Jackson Joke Mishap
Speaker 4Well, nobody had faith in Paul. Everybody was afraid of Paul. I was not, and I got with him and I said look, why don't we try to put a nightly show together? He had dabbled a little bit in radio, not much as a guest, and he said well, good, put it together. And three other people have told me they're going to do that. And click. He hung up and I called him back the next day and I said we've got two meetings with two radio stations and the rest is history.
Speaker 3It was very popular. Now, if you had a nighttime AM radio show, you'd be lucky I'm not kidding to have five people listening.
Speaker 4Totally, if you had a big family.
Speaker 1If you had a big family, that's a good point.
Speaker 3That's a good point.
Speaker 2But it was so meaningful. My dad can still list exactly the stations he listened to and exactly what shows. It was a huge piece of culture until we all ruined it.
Speaker 4That's right, and I do profoundly believe talk radio is therapeutic.
Speaker 2I agree. I think it makes well for me relatable, less alone entertained. I mean, there's a million reasons why it feels so good Informed occasionally.
Speaker 4Yeah, more entertained, and that's the key with Paul. He crossed his wit and his intellect and we just rolled along.
Speaker 1Are you all still friends oh?
Speaker 4yes, as a matter of fact, he moved back to Birmingham yesterday, aw, and I'm looking forward to going and visiting him in his mansion in Mountain Brook soon.
Speaker 1That's so good.
Speaker 3Hopefully he's going to save you a guest room.
Speaker 4Yeah, I love that I wanted to be a doorman for him there, but he said he already had someone.
Speaker 3It was a weird situation when I started working at the SEC Network. The first time I went up there for this meeting. I'm in the lobby like waiting for my pass to go in and Paul walks in and he didn't get us that job. It's just a weird. Like Reed and I had already had this other TV show, so it was a weird thing. But then he's like explaining to the security guard TV show. It was a weird thing. But then he's explaining to the security guard. He's like you know, linda and I never had kids. He's like it's going to sound weird, but he and his brother are kind of like the closest thing we have to kids. Aww.
Speaker 4Paul, actually when it was, you were in elementary school no middle school and Paul would go up. They had a little TV show and the first thing in the morning at the school and Will and two or three other guys hosted it. Well, paul would go up and be their guest.
Speaker 3It was a big deal. We had Paul Feinbaum and we had Julie from the real world Wow yeah.
Speaker 1Okay.
Speaker 4Never invited.
Speaker 1Famous since seven years old at Wheel World, not to be confused with Will World.
Speaker 3Oh yeah, that's a whole world of wheels. I was never invited.
Speaker 4I was never invited to do.
Speaker 3But here you are now, and where's Paul Feinbaum?
Speaker 1Oh, exactly, preach. Okay, all right, all right.
Speaker 2So we've got to roll out a lot of these things, but I will say, like we don't have a ton of men that listen to our show, this could be the episode oh good. They're like Paul Feinbaum Bob.
Speaker 4AM radio.
Speaker 2It'll be my dad's first episode to listen to as well. I think Excellent.
Speaker 3All right, Tell them some things We've talked about you a few times and I really am just guessing at what they are, but surely there have been a few things that have happened where a little faux pas, if you will, and I want to start with this one. So we were having dinner once at the house and there were a lot of people there, I remember, like ron and chrissy were there.
Speaker 2You're not going into, I'm going here, yeah, we've already been here, I just want to get your.
Speaker 3So also. I remember that our preacher had just retired. He was at the house yeah, because we were friends with them as well, and so we're all sitting around and you had learned a joke that day. Do you remember this? Do you remember?
Speaker 4this joke?
Speaker 3It was the Michael Jackson joke. That's right, You'd learned the joke and when it was told to you that day it got a huge response apparently. So you thought I'll tell this joke, but you didn't really get the joke, I missed it.
Speaker 4I don't tell jokes well, no, no, no, I don't really get the joke. I missed it. I missed it. I don't tell jokes well, well, no, no, no, I don't. Or riddles, do you know?
Speaker 3we do a riddle each week at our family dinner.
Speaker 4Yeah, what, at family dinner, we do a riddle each week. It's a table.
Speaker 3He doesn't understand the difference between a joke and a riddle.
Speaker 2Okay, he'll hash that out.
Speaker 3So the joke. Do you remember the joke?
Speaker 4I'm trying to forget it, okay.
Speaker 3It was about a it was.
Speaker 4McDonald's I thought at least this was not about a softball game.
Speaker 3I played no, we're getting there.
Speaker 4It was about a hot dog. No, no, it was a hamburger.
Speaker 3McDonald's had a new McJackson burger.
Speaker 4Yeah, something whatever, but you just said it.
Speaker 3Why don't you tell it Okay?
Speaker 4Yeah.
Speaker 3Well, so he says at dinner. He says I don't know if you guys heard about this. He didn't set it up Like I have a joke to tell you. He says I don't know if you guys heard about this.
Speaker 2Your dad's going to be watching this. Well, yeah.
Speaker 3Yeah, he said, yeah, it's called the McJackson Burger, and of course we all this was in the heyday of Michael Jackson being on trial and all that, and we were just like, oh no, pedophile stuff, sure, yeah, everyone's familiar, yeah. And so we immediately knew where this was going, even having not heard the joke. And then stop me. No, why would we stop you? And so then he goes on to say yep, that's right, it's 12-year-old meat in between two 32-year-old buns.
Speaker 4And at that moment did you realize he got it backwards, that's okay.
Speaker 3Oh, 32-year-old meat in between two 12. Yes, sorry, that's right yeah.
Speaker 4Hate to have to repeat it. Integrity in this joke.
Speaker 3Okay, so you realized at that moment, idea in that moment, yeah, what, what the punchline meant?
Speaker 4well, the preacher and and your mom yeah sort of gave me a clue, yeah yeah, reed and I were too.
Speaker 3We were crying, we couldn't, uh, say anything because we were crying. Yeah, at that point I couldn't say anything either at that point.
Speaker 4Yeah, it was good, I'd said enough.
Speaker 2So you said it in hopes that it was just going to bring some laughter, some joy, and then it really A riddle, Frivolity.
Speaker 3Yeah.
Speaker 4It'll lead to something you know.
Speaker 3If any conversation at dinner gets anywhere serious at all, he's like no, no, no, we got to turn this somewhere fun.
Speaker 2I see where this comes from for you.
Speaker 4Especially if it goes in a political direction.
Speaker 2And then we got a preacher and a wife and a wife and children, friends of the family, good friends, how old were you?
Speaker 3I bet you I was 12.
Speaker 4You weren't much older than that, Jim 12,. Yeah, Rough time to hear that Jim Fatherly direction.
Speaker 3Right, yeah, I know right. The ripe age, mm-hmm, it would have been 92.
Speaker 1You had 12-year-old buns actually. That's right, I did, I did, oh goodness Safe safe, thankfully All right.
Speaker 3so another one, and I know there list okay, but there's one where you had an injury.
Speaker 4Can I come back sometime? You had an injury once and this is also at dinner. Well, this is uh, and we go back to eli gold and his wife claudette lived across the street years ago.
Speaker 3Okay, where we're sitting now on my porch, as you hear the bird no idea will would be living here at that time.
Speaker 4Oh, come on now. Yeah, okay. So I got, uh, I was playing softball for the church team, okay, and ran into the center fielder I was playing second base, and no, I was playing center field second base and ran into me and hit me right square in the middle of the chest. Okay, so then later that afternoon I was on the phone with eli and I said oh, oh, do you really want me to tell?
Speaker 3you, yeah, I mean yeah. You're here to defend yourself and tell your side of the story.
The Taylor Swift Encounter
Speaker 4Yeah. So anyway, eli says Claudette said you got hurt in the game or something. I said yeah, but you just tell her my scrotum's fine, Everything's good. Oh see, and that's not the version I have. Oh yeah, well, I got the right version. And so, anyway, eli goes what, what Call that? And I said no, no, no, no, no, my sternum.
Speaker 3Oh see, and I told the story and this is how I have it in my head is that you said to everyone. Oh, I can't believe this, oh gosh. And rubbed your sternum and said oh my scrotum.
Speaker 4No, no, no, no, no. It came later in the day.
Speaker 3That story has evolved.
Speaker 4Eli's never forgotten that. Oh, the story has evolved.
Speaker 2So you have a moment because I know you're on kid pickup duty, which is really kind I'm the Uber for the grandchildren.
Speaker 1You are the coolest Uber driver.
Speaker 3I've ever, ever met. It's his favorite job, so it is my favorite that is really special.
Speaker 2I know my parents live very far she's.
Speaker 1Don't get her crying literally.
Speaker 2I've already cheered up several times already um, so before you have to uber, for free um, anything that you really need our listeners to know from when your son has thrown you under the bus with these stories. Well, that he embellishes Sure.
Speaker 4He has a you know, I don't know what he's told you about Taylor Swift.
Speaker 3Oh, you know we don't have time, not today. Oh, bob, I don't think so. Bob hung out with Taylor Swift.
Speaker 1Are you a Swifty?
Speaker 4He hung out with her. No, no, no, no.
Speaker 1Well.
Speaker 4I don't mean that negatively, but I mean no.
Speaker 1You hate her? Oh no, he likes her.
Speaker 3He doesn't know her music, but he likes her personally because he knows her.
Speaker 4We visited Taylor in her hotel room and 15 years ago in Nashville, I was babysitting Will's first child, lila.
Speaker 1Uh-huh, you want me to do this, yeah it's great.
Speaker 4Yeah, so we ran into, we were getting back on, they had all gone to a wedding and we weren't going to take a crying baby to a wedding, and, um, so we were, lila and I were getting on the elevator and there was this guy and this older lady and not that much older, but you know and the the.
Speaker 4The guy said well, that's a cute baby. And he's kind of looking at me like that's not yours, is it? And I said well, it's my granddaughter. And about that time the lady said would you like to go out with us? And my daughter just loves small children, yeah, taylor. And she then says to the guy Taylor, and I'm not really thinking that clearly at this point, where are we going? We walk in and there's Taylor Swift and Bob and Lila hang out with.
Speaker 3Taylor.
Speaker 1Swift. How old was Lila?
Speaker 4baby. No, she was not a year, not one. Yeah, yeah, almost one, wow, and so anyway, Wow, what a legacy story for Lila she took Lila and you know that was a heck of a coronation. I guess you know.
Speaker 3She was playing at the arena Bridgestone Arena, next door to our hotel. It's that hotel that flooded a few years ago, or whatever. We were in that hotel. And so she was yeah, had a concert that night at Bridgestone.
Speaker 1Bob, are you proud that Will is in radio.
Speaker 4Yes, and he didn't take my advice. He said do not get into radio, do not do it. Don't get in radio and don't get in politics. I've been in both.
Speaker 1Okay, so you didn't want it. I am very proud.
Speaker 4I'm very proud of Birmingham Mountain Radio and I'm very proud of his civic activity and usually very proud of his humor.
Speaker 3Oh, he said usually Usually Well, we saw some distaste.
Speaker 4Yeah, that was just sort of a twist.
Speaker 1A real twist. Honestly, he brought you over here thinking you were going to be interviewed, not roasted, he said though last night he's like is this gonna be about when I screwed him?
Speaker 3yeah, when we walked to the car and I said, I said I'm gonna try to is this and I was like, I just said I didn't lie, I just said I can't tell you, I can't tell well, you knew deep down in your soul, didn't you listen?
Speaker 1we have so many questions about how to raise a child with his temperament we're not doing it.
Speaker 4Those are good questions.
Speaker 3Here's a quick one. While he's here, he does this thing where he's always like I am so sorry that I was not around much with you growing up, especially in your teens.
Speaker 4Regrets, regrets, yeah, but I don't know that I don't remember that.
Speaker 3I remember being around him all the time. Too much maybe, no, but seriously, I went to the radio station with him. I went to all the events with him.
Speaker 1Y'all had family dinners on Sundays, jokes and riddles with pastors. Now it's on Tuesday nights.
Parental Wisdom and Reflections
Speaker 4I mean we've bobbed and weaved our schedules. My wife Will's mom was a teacher, so that gave her stability of time and schedule and I had none of that.
Speaker 3Yeah, but I just don't remember that. That's the point of that. He has this parental regret. Okay, wait, I'm always like what are you doing? I don't remember that at all.
Speaker 1Bob, what's one piece of advice you would give to a parent right now? That's navigating a busy schedule.
Speaker 4I do this. I walk up to young couples with small children coming out of restaurants and my wife goes don't you know.
Speaker 3So I don't go to restaurants. I love it.
Speaker 4Welcome. I walk up to them and I said dad, can I borrow you for a second? And the wife is, like you know, the mom and and he goes. Yeah, sure, and I go don.
Speaker 3I said we have two.
Speaker 4We have two boys. I said they're in their 40s early 40s, and I said one more year, early 40s and and so you know, and I say, just don't let these days get by, and they'll get by, because moms and dads are too busy and and that just happens, and uh.
Speaker 1So that's, that's my advice that's so good, all right, one more question. Sure, what's one conversation you wish younger people would have more these days?
Speaker 4oh goodness, um, I think about friendships. Uh, my dad once told me that you really won't go much beyond one handful of five true friends tier one yeah that's right so just don't, uh don't miss opportunities to bond and continue bonding those friendships if you could go back and relive one moment in your life, what would it be? There's no wrong answer when the high school coach that I was playing for talked me out of coaching and teaching.
Speaker 3Like this talk y'all had.
Speaker 4Yeah.
Speaker 3You'd go back to that talk.
Speaker 1I'd go back to that talk, would you? Fight with him, or what would you do?
Speaker 4No, I would just tell him I appreciate your opinion, but at that point of course it's so easy now to say, well, I would have gone in. No coaches and teachers made nothing then right, so really they still don't make it.
Speaker 3I was gonna say now just rolling at it yeah, well, but high school junior high school, high school coaches don't.
Speaker 4So his advice was good and uh, you know. But I I do remember that and my dad telling me that I uh shouldn't pursue a professional golf career Wow. Because the pyramid was so thin that I mean it was just his opinion. He said I just don't think that it's all the glory that you think it is, and so anyway, and I wasn't that good at golfing anyway, so he knew that.
Speaker 2Really good advice.
Speaker 4Yeah he had played Bob you are an angel.
Speaker 1I wish you were my Uber driver.
Speaker 4Oh listen, I have good rates.
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