Updated AF Collective
Welcome to the "Updated AF Collective," podcast where we celebrate the power and resilience of women.
Join me as we dive into inspiring stories, engage in meaningful conversations, and explore topics that empower women from all walks of life.
We believe that every woman has a unique strength within her, waiting to be unleashed.
Whether you're an entrepreneur, a leader, a creative, a caregiver, or simply on your own personal journey, this podcast is for you.
Updated AF Collective
"Don't Yuck My Yum"
Overcoming self-doubt can be a transformative journey, and I'm thrilled to share my recent discoveries with you. This episode begins with heartfelt gratitude for your unwavering support, which has propelled our podcast onto the charts in the US, UK, and Canada. To celebrate, I'm relaunching my blog on updatedaf.com, where you'll find even more insights and inspiration. Inspired by a recent spin class, we'll explore how pushing through physical discomfort can build mental resilience. We'll reflect on the significance of perseverance in new habits and how it translates into handling life's challenges more effectively.
We'll unpack the cognitive biases that drive our self-doubt and influence our decision-making processes. Using real-world examples from politics and social media, we'll reveal how people often seek out validation for their existing beliefs, which can hinder personal growth. We'll discuss the necessity of a mindset shift when starting new ventures, contrasting those who prepare extensively with those who learn by doing. The conversation emphasizes the value of surrounding yourself with supportive individuals who encourage persistence and positivity. Together, we'll use the metaphor of a challenging spin class to illustrate these powerful insights.
Lastly, we'll delve into fostering an environment of support and encouragement with the concept of "Don't yuck my yum." This saying has become a household mantra for teaching my daughter to respect others' preferences and can be applied to various aspects of life. By promoting positivity, we can prevent giving others permission to quit and instead uplift one another. We'll wrap up by expressing gratitude for your continued support and excitement about the upcoming release of my first blog post. Join us next Friday for more inspiring content, and thank you for being part of this incredible journey.
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Hey guys, welcome back to Updated A Up Collective, the podcast. I am your host, megan Wirth. First thing I need to say is thank you so much for people who are leaving reviews, who are subscribing to the podcast, who are sharing the podcast, all the things because I have. I have reached the charts for podcasting in the States as well as the UK and Canada, and I wasn't even on the charts for the UK or Canada or even the States until like recently. And I just have to say thank you because, again, like I absolutely love doing this, I want to go far with it and I want to give out good content and I think you guys are getting something from it, because everybody's listening and people are sharing and leaving reviews and subscribing everything. So I have to say thank you. I am so excited. I actually just looked at the charts before jumping on to record this episode and so now, yeah, I'm just like so happy, I'm literally on like cloud nine. Also, to the people who subscribe to updatedafcollectivecom or actually it's updatedafcom and if you subscribed, just stand by, my first blog post will be coming out over the weekend. I used to blog a lot and that blog blew up too, and so I really I miss that. I miss blogging. So I will be getting back to that. And if you subscribe to updatedafcom, create account, sign up for notifications of when new episodes are posted on Apple and Spotify and any other podcast platform that you listen to this on, as well as when there's a new blog that has been published to the site, and if you don't want to miss out, please subscribe to updatedafcom. Please subscribe to updatedafcom. Thank you, guys, so so much.
Speaker 1:Today's episode was inspired by a spin class that I was in. If you don't know what spin is, it's also called cycle and it was inspired by something that I experienced in a cycle class the other day and I have to talk about it because I was thinking a lot about what I experienced or what I saw. It wasn't like an experience, it was just what I saw and I was like we need to talk about this. Are you unconsciously looking for reasons to quit something? You know how you start something new. You're trying to start a new habit because you're trying to better your life, or better something, a part of your life. You're trying to better it and are you allowing yourself to talk your own self out of it, like unconsciously? That's what we need to talk about, and I will tell you what I saw, what I was thinking about after I saw it. Right after we have this short little intro, guys, welcome back.
Speaker 1:Welcome to the updated AF Collective podcast, where we celebrate the power and resilience of women. Join me as we dive into inspiring stories, engage in meaningful conversations and explore topics that empower women from all walks of life. I believe that every woman has a unique strength within her, waiting to be unleashed. Whether you're an entrepreneur, a leader, a creative, a caregiver or simply on your own personal journey, this podcast is for you. Together, we'll share stories of triumph, discuss strategies for success and provide a supportive space for women to connect and grow. Get ready for real, authentic conversations that ignite your inner strength and inspire you to chase after your dreams fearlessly. Welcome to the Updated AF Collective.
Speaker 1:So I started doing workouts that I know like that I normally don't do just to kind of shake things up, like spin class, and I went to a spin class Like I used to do it a lot, like right after my daughter was born. I used to go to spin a lot, especially when I was in Japan. It's really big in Japan, so I used to go a lot and I got out of it for the longest time, like years Right. So I'm like you know what I really miss spin. It's an intense workout and I miss the cardio of it and I miss like having it forces you out of your comfort zone, like literally. If you've never taken a spin class, go take a spin class and go in, go into the class with the mindset of like holy shit, this is going to be really hard and it's going to bring you out of your comfort zone. You're going to be so uncomfortable, but I love it. I love being uncomfortable because it only creates a higher tolerance for being uncomfortable in other situation. It got, it translates right. That's why I love working out so much. It's not because like yeah, like a lot of health benefits and a lot of benefits that come with working out, but also when you are uncomfortable for like an hour, like a really good workout, and you're uncomfortable and you're just like, oh my God, I can't wait for this to be done, and then, when it is done, you're like I'm so glad I did that it translates into other really difficult parts of your life. So when you get to work, I feel like it kind of gives you the tolerance to handle stress better, because every hard thing we do and we get through it and we survive only makes the next challenge a tiny bit more easier. So every single time something really, really hard, difficult, comes into our life, we build a tolerance. Spin class help you build your tolerance Trust me on that when there's other classes you can take, but spin class will really push you out of your comfort zone.
Speaker 1:So, long story short, I went back to spin. I have been doing spin now for a couple of weeks and I'm pretty consistent with it. I've been trying to go two to three times a week, depending on my schedule. And I was there and there was a. There was three girls that walked in that I hadn't seen before. So I was like, oh cool, like new people, right. And these three girls and you can tell like those are first class, maybe they're second, I don't know, but you can tell they were a little bit new because they looked really uncomfortable. They didn't know how to position the bike, they needed help and stuff like that too. So the instructor was squaring them away and helping them out. And then maybe we're like 15 minutes into the class and it's like high energy the lights are low, the music's blasting just to keep you motivated and we're all already all out of breath, we're all uncomfortable.
Speaker 1:Um, it's a really, really tough workout and I watched one of the girls like get off of her bike, grab her stuff and leave. And as I'm watching this, we'd only been in the class for 15 minutes and obviously, like this was her first class and as I'm watching her, I'm like part of me was like girl, no, like what are you doing? Like I wanted to get off my bike and be like no, you like you're fine, this is, this is fine, it's supposed to suck. So that way, when you're done with it, you can be like wow, I did that, I did that shit, and literally everything inside of you guys, I was like cringing. I was like, oh, I really wish that I could like grab her and be like no, you got this. You know, cause we sometimes we need cheerleaders. I wanted to, so bad. But she was on the other side of the room.
Speaker 1:But I watched her get up off of her bike, grab her bag and leave. And no kidding, maybe about I don't know. Maybe like two, three minutes goes by and another girl did it, another newer girl. She got off her bike, grabbed her stuff and left, and all I kept thinking was was she just waiting to see somebody else do it first, to get up off the bike because it was really hard and really stressful? Would she just waiting because she didn't want to be like the first person to like quit? And it is the back of my mind, if that first girl never quit, I feel like it would have inspired the girl that was next to her to keep going too, because even the people that have been in this spin class I mean, they're out of breath too. There's some people in this class that literally like cycle on the street and do this like as a hobby and then cycle. Spin class in the gym is like just to maintain.
Speaker 1:And I kept thinking like, oh my gosh, like she was waiting for somebody to give her permission to fail and there's no way she could have done that consciously. It had to have been an unconscious thing where you see one person give up and fail, so it gives you permission to throw in the towel too and then walk back out. And I was thinking about it and I was like, oh my gosh, like so many times we start things anything like a new, a new hobby, a new habit, like we're trying to start something a podcast, a book and we unconsciously look for ways out of it. We look for reasons why we're not going to be successful at that thing. We look for reasons why we're going to fail. Like I said, I don't think this is on purpose. How many times do you start something? We'll use a podcast, for example.
Speaker 1:You start a podcast and all of a sudden you're really happy about it. You're like yeah, I'm going to start it, we're good. You put out like five episodes and then all of a sudden you realize, like other people that, like your friends, have maybe started a podcast and then like, so they have nothing positive to say about it because they threw in the towel, they gave up or they just stopped producing episodes and publishing episodes. And they'll tell you all the time like, oh, it's so hard to make the charts. Oh, my gosh, like nobody's listening. You might get five, six, seven people listening to your podcast, which is great, by the way, if you can get five or six on your first like month, like you're doing great, okay, there's nothing wrong with those numbers and you see a friend quit and then they have nothing positive to say about it. So you're like, well shit, what's the point of it all? And then you stop doing it.
Speaker 1:Or you start a book and then you let other people online on Instagram or social talk about how hard it is to publish a book, to have a book become successful. Or you're so motivated to self-publish a book and you realize like, oh crap, I'm going to put in $20,000 to self-publish this book, and what if I never make that money back? So you quit, you talk yourself out of it. I think we go into things with the best intentions, but if you are not conscious of it that's why I say unconscious I think we do this unconsciously, but if you are not conscious of it, you are going to talk yourself out of it. You're going to wait till somebody gives you permission to stop. But if you are conscious of it and you surround yourself with the right people, you're going to be looking for reasons why you need to keep going. And, like I said, everything inside of me when I saw that girl jump off her spin bike wanted to grab her and just be like girl no, get your ass back on the bike. We have 40 minutes left of the class. You're going to be fine and you're going to thank yourself If you keep going with that one thing that you really, really want to succeed in. You're going to, you're going to eventually. You're going to eventually succeed. You have to keep going.
Speaker 1:I remember, like I saw this like blog post. This was years ago. Years ago, like back when I was blogging all the time back in like 2020, I saw this blog post. This was years ago. Years ago, back when I was blogging all the time back in 2020, I saw this blog post that talked about something similar that we're talking about right now, and it said that your brain is always constantly looking for reasons to reassure what you already know or what you already think you know.
Speaker 1:I know it's really confusing, right? So, for example, like if you have any sort of self-doubt, anything, your brain is constant. It's going to be on the for reasons why you are right. It's just like when you go on the internet let's use politics. It's election season, right, let's use politics In the States. I feel like we're heavily divided. I'm not a political person so I'm not going to get into it, but we're heavily divided and so many people on the internet, social media as a good example of like people who go on there to find like-minded people just to validate their beliefs. Right, we don't go on the internet to change our mind, to have an open mind to like. I want to see the other person's point of view, because I can see that we don't do that. People go on the internet to validate what they already know and it just goes back to saying like our brain is going to be always looking for reasons why we're right. And if you start anything and you already have a little bit of self-doubt, you need to. You need to do a little mind mind shift. Little mind mind shift work, I guess, is what you want to say. You need to do a little mind shift work before you really jump into anything or do it at the same time. I do it at the same time.
Speaker 1:I'm one of those people that love a good idea and then I figure it out while I throw myself into it. It's a personality type. There's some people who love to learn and read, take all the courses, spend thousands of dollars going to seminars, but they don't have any action plan. They think that like, okay if I just keep going to all these seminars and I pay for all these conferences and I pay thousands of dollars for these masterminds. Eventually I'm going to jump into it and it's all going to click for me. And then there's the people that are like me, that are like okay, teach me what you know. And then I'm going to go do it and I'm going to learn while I'm doing it. And I can't remember who said it. I read a book on it and they said it's like it's a big personality type. Some people are just too scared to like throw themselves into it.
Speaker 1:But, like I said, I had a lot of time to think because when you're in spin class, time goes by really, really slow. It doesn't go by fast, even though you know like there's some workouts where you know like lifting or maybe going for a run or something like that, maybe the time will go by a little bit quicker. But when you're in pain for an hour because spin cycle is painful, um, time goes by really slow. I had a lot of time to think about this and I was like, oh my gosh, like it translates. It correlates with business, with habits, with anything that we're trying to do. We are constantly looking for reasons why we should, we can't do it, or we should just like give up, throw in the towel, just like that girl, like the second girl, like she started this chain reaction and the first, she started this chain reaction. And the first girl started the chain reaction and then it allowed another girl to say you know what? Yeah, this isn't for me, it wasn't for her, it wasn't for me either. But having the right people around you, I couldn't do it, trust me. I wanted to jump off the bike and be like no, like get back on it, like we're going to, we're going to finish this shit together. Like I wanted to do that. Having the right people around you, having the cheerleaders, versus somebody who is super negative and wants to talk bad about what you're trying to do or tell you reasons why it didn't work for them and now it's not going to work for you. Those are the wrong types of people you want in your life.
Speaker 1:Me and my daughter have this saying that I use in the house all the time because I correct her if I hear her talking negative about something that somebody else really wants to do or somebody likes. We call it like don't yuck my yum. And long story short, if I hear her say something, for example, like she's a really picky eater, and if I'm eating something that she happens to not like, if she says, ew, I don't like that, I say Don't yuck my yum, I'd stop it right there. I don't like her going around and telling people like giving them permission to fail, I guess in a sense. So if and she'll correct me too I'll accidentally be like, oh my, I'll watch her eat something and I'm like, ew, that's so gross. And she'll say, mom, don't yuck my yum. And then it. But we do it every single time.
Speaker 1:We try something new, even if it's not food. For example, like my daughter, it has no fear of heights. None, I'm terrified of heights, I know, right, weird. And so my daughter has no fear of heights and so she likes to go ziplining, she likes to go rock climbing. Um, well, sweet. She does a lot of indoor skydiving. Yes, my six door, my six year old, indoor skydives. I don't like doing that and I have to be careful with like saying, oh gosh, like no, that looks dangerous. Um, I don't like that. Like that doesn't seem safe.
Speaker 1:I try not to yuck her yum and, like I said, we use it for every sense it doesn't have to just be food. I stop her from like making a comment to another kid. I know she's at camp this week and a kid made a comment to her about something. She was talking about how she liked to do something. I don't really remember what the conversation was, but she was mentioning that she likes to do this like one specific thing. I don't know, maybe it was like dirt bike riding and the kids like ew, that's gross, like who does that? Like that seems really like dirty or something like that. I'm pretty sure it was like dirt bikes. She loves to ride dirt bikes and she told the kid she's like mom, I told the kid to stop yucking my yum and I was like ew, we need to stop being negative towards people, because what if we're giving them permission to quit?
Speaker 1:We should be encouraging people to keep going in their hardest time of life. They're mid-cycle class and they're giving up. We need to just cheer them on. Don't yuck people's yum. Okay, you guys can have that one. We say it a lot in this house and sometimes I forget and I'll look at my daughter and be like, oh, that's so gross, and she'll like don't yuck my young mom. I'm like okay, sorry. So anyway, that is our episode.
Speaker 1:Stop looking for reasons to give up. Do not surround yourself with people who especially have tried that thing that you're trying and has has nothing like positive or nice to say about it. You need to surround yourself with like-minded women or men and join a master, like I said, like just buy your tribe. If you don't have that, if everybody around you is just being unsupportive and they're yucking your yum is just being unsupportive and they're yucking your yum Like I don't know, find a group of girls. Buy a class, because those classes come with like live courses and Zoom calls that you can find like minded women in, or book clubs, and that's where I find most of my tribe is, like the virtual book clubs.
Speaker 1:So, anyway, if you guys really liked this episode or got anything from it, please subscribe, rate and share the episodes. Follow me on Instagram. My Instagram handles are at the bottom in the show notes. You can go to updatedafcom and subscribe there as well. Like I said, my first blog post will probably be out by Friday and yeah, thank you guys so much for putting me on the freaking podcast charts. Oh, my God, so happy. It makes me want to keep going. So thank you for being my cheerleader. Okay, thank you guys. So so much, and I will see you next Friday, mwah.
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