"Please Stay Before You Go"

Ever found yourself rushing through life’s milestones without truly savoring the moment? That’s exactly what happened to me, as I worked towards manifesting my dream house. Inspired by the powerful quote, "Please stay before you go," I realized that my relentless focus on the future was preventing me from appreciating my current home and achievements. Join me on this episode of Updated AF Collective, where I share my journey of slowing down, embracing the present, and cultivating gratitude for each season of life.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Seasonal Appreciation and Journey Stay
• 12:36 Potty Training Assistance Offered

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Hey guys, welcome back to Updated AF Collective, the podcast. I am your host, megan Wirth, today's episode. I had this great episode planned out. I wrote notes. I did so much prep work for this idea that I wanted to share with everybody.

Speaker 1: 0:19

And then something else happened. I was listening to another person's podcast and she was interviewing this really great author. I've never heard of this author, but I've already ordered her brand new book because she made a comment that made me stop what I was doing, which at the time, I think I was just doing my makeup. That's the best time to listen to podcasts when you're getting dressed in the morning. And I stopped what I was doing and I immediately wrote it down on a sticky note and I put it on my mirror, because if you've heard me talk about my mirror, it's full of sticky notes. It's my accountability mirror and I immediately put that quote up on the mirror and it makes me like really think about stuff. And it makes me like really think about stuff and I will share the quotes on today's episode and maybe it's something that you need to be reminded of and maybe it's something that you also need to write down on a little sticky note and put it on your mirror to remind yourself of this thing every single day. We are here for a reason. We are going through seasons of life for a reason. We are going through challenges for a reason, right, and this little reminder is going to help you get through those challenging moments. Guys, welcome back to the show.

Speaker 1: 1:49

Welcome to the updated AF collective podcast, where we celebrate the power and resilience of women. Join me as we dive into inspiring stories, engage in meaningful conversations and explore topics that empower women from all walks of life. I believe that every woman has a unique strength within her waiting to be unleashed. Whether you're an entrepreneur, a leader, a creative, a caregiver or simply on your own personal journey, this podcast is for you. Together, we'll share stories of triumph, discuss strategies for success and provide a supportive space for women to connect and grow. Get ready for real, authentic conversations that ignite your inner strength and inspire you to chase after your dreams fearlessly. Welcome to the Updated AF Collective.

Speaker 1: 2:39

Okay, what is that quote that I brought up and didn't say it in the beginning of this episode? I have to give the backstory behind the quote first. This author was talking about a chapter in her book where she remembers this woman at her workplace who in her two weeks of work and was kind of coasting. There was nothing wrong with her job or anything. Apparently she loved the position but she was moving on to something bigger and better with more money and another company. So she puts her 2 weeks in to her boss and everything was great During those 2 weeks. I guess it was the first week she was just coasting. She would show up to work, not do anything. It was too busy packing up her desk, taking things out of the office and her reputation was like a hard worker. So she had that reputation of getting shit done. She was the go-to girl. And then when she put her two weeks in, it just completely flatlined. So her boss wrote her a note and put it on her desk and it said please stay before you go.

Speaker 1: 3:53

And it just hit me in a way that was so profound. They were not talking about the law of attraction, they were not talking about manifestation, they weren't talking about seasons of life. But my brain took that saying please before you go and just ran with it. It's like I had that light bulb moment. I'm so quick to check off boxes to achieve a goal and right as I'm about to achieve that goal. I'm already working on the second goal and I'm already celebrating that win without actually winning or like have anything to celebrate about. I'm how about? How many people are just checking off boxes, running through life, going through one thing after another, and we're all in this rat race and we're just trying to outdo our previous self when we're growing. But what if we just stayed? We stayed in that season until it was actually time to move on to the next season of life, the next era, the next whatever, how many I mean?

Speaker 1: 5:12

I honestly feel like now, after hearing that quote, I honestly feel like I need to slow down. All of these great things are on the horizon for me and I'm manifesting like crazy. For example, I just manifested my freaking dream house yeah, somebody gave me a mortgage, I don't get to move until next week. And I keep making the comment oh my God, I can't wait to get out of this house. I'm just so ready to be in the new house and I'm like I have checked out. I've kind of like stopped maintenance on this house that I'm currently living in. I'm picking up after myself, I'm keeping things clean, but at the same time, I'm also like I'm just over it and I don't want to be in here and it has that icky vibe. It doesn't feel like a home. I've already started taking things down and I'm just like prepping for the new house, but then again, after hearing that quote, I'm like I need to slow down. This has been a great place. It has been a safe house for me and my daughter. It's absolutely beautiful.

Speaker 1: 6:13

I'm completely disregarding all of the positives that led me to this specific spot here in my little cute town in the countryside outside of San Antonio, like where I wanted to live. I feel like a Gilmore girl here Like this. It's beautiful. I need to slow down and just one be appreciative, show gratitude for this amazing place. This house that I'm currently in is a manifestation and instead of sitting and celebrating this season of life that is literally coming to an end, I am blowing past the celebration and I'm already thinking, oh, new house, new house, get me out of here. And I have to remind myself at one point this is the house I wanted, that I'm currently in in the town that I'm in. One point, this is the house I wanted, that I'm currently in, like in the town that I'm in, and I am not staying. I'm not staying in the season. I'm not staying in the moment. This season's not over. I need to just take it all in, learn, keep learning the lessons. There's a reason why I'm here and I need to stop rushing out the door to get to that next check in the box, which again was buying a house here in Texas, and I've done that my entire life. I have literally been in survival mode my entire life, always trying to get to the next thing. I'm running around like a crazy person.

Speaker 1: 7:46

If you know my story, I've wanted to be in law enforcement since I was a freaking toddler and I had issues with that. I needed to just get away. There's a lot of reasons why I left for the military, but one of the reasons why is I needed to just reset my life. I needed to restart. I needed to apparently have more life experience to get into law enforcement. Anyway, I rushed through that. I didn't even celebrate myself after graduating.

Speaker 1: 8:14

Boot camp which is the hardest thing I've ever done in my entire life was Marine Corps bootcamp. I didn't celebrate that. I went home and I was preparing myself for MCT, which is the next phase in the military. I was preparing myself. I was going out on runs, I was working out. Don't get me wrong. I had one night where I went and saw my girlfriends that lived in California who were home on leave. We all just graduated bootcamp but we didn't really celebrate it. We were already talking about the next thing.

Speaker 1: 8:48

After that, after getting out of the Marine Corps, I had five days to prepare for the police academy in San Diego. Did I celebrate my chapter ending in the Marine Corps? Hell, no, I didn't. I jumped right into a reserve unit in the started the police academy. Onto the next thing I didn't even celebrate graduating the police academy.

Speaker 1: 9:13

I didn't celebrate leaving law enforcement to move to Texas to start this new phase of life, and I didn't stop and just stay in the moment and finish out the season. I was already starting the new season of life without even closing the chapter on the last one, which makes me feel empty and I'm always constantly looking for the next best thing. It's really scary, because what I've learned the hard way is if I don't stop and take a breath and look back at where I've been coming from and where I'm at now. I feel resentful towards myself. I feel like I'm never enough, that I'm never getting. I'm running and running and running in this hamster wheel and I'm never getting to where I'm going, because I think it's because I'm not stopping and appreciating it. If I stop and appreciate it and I look back and I'm like holy shit, like look where I started, I'm that girl that should have been a statistic. I I am shocked.

Speaker 1: 10:29

I have made, stuck in that you know, the Bay area of California, probably waitressing or something worse. Like I said, like if you know my story, you know my story. I don't think I need to repeat it here. But I mean failing all my classes, I mean barely passing the ASVAB and just getting to where I'm at today. I just need to stay before I go. And it makes me emotional because I can't believe I always treated myself like that. It's like I've come a long way and when I heard her say that on this podcast, it made me tear up because I manifested living here in the small town of Texas and I'm not even grateful anymore because I'm already looking forward to the next chapter. So what I told myself is I'm going to sit here in this space until it is actually moving day, until it's actually time to go. I'm going to stay. I stopped taking things down, I stopped cacking because I have movers. I don't know why I'm so anxious to get the hell out of here when at one point, I prayed for this.

Speaker 1: 11:43

So think about all of your accomplishments and think about every single time you've just been checking off boxes and you're running and running and running to the next goal, next goal, which is great. I love growth, right? Growth is great. You should be growing, but you also should be stopping when something that you manifest comes to life, comes into reality, comes into your world, and just stop for a second. And when it is time to start that chapter, make sure you close out the chapter that you're in so you guys don't need to get like emotional. It's just like, uh, just a friendly reminder is before you go stay. Just a friendly reminder is before you go stay.

Speaker 1: 12:36

Thanks for listening. Guys, if you're getting anything out of this podcast, I'd appreciate if you leave a? Uh, a review rate. Subscribe all the things. Share the episode. If somebody out there in your life is a workaholic or you can see it in somebody else that they're doing something very similar to this, share the episode. Write this saying down on a sticky note and put it on your mirror, your accountability mirror. Every single time I look into the mirror, I have all these different quotes. I'm constantly reminded. We need to be reminded sometimes to just slow down and, like I said, feel free to share this episode. Guys, I will see you next week, mwah.

Speaker 2: 13:16

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