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How Many Times Are You Going To Start From Ground Zero?!
What if setbacks were just stepping stones on the path to your dreams? As the end of 2025 looms, I share an urgent message about the power of discipline and consistency in this crucial time. Embracing the notion that each small effort contributes to the grand foundation of our aspirations, I explore how surrounding ourselves with successful individuals can propel us forward. Even when motivation wanes, the commitment to focus on our goals can lead to meaningful progress. This episode promises a motivational push, encouraging you to invest in networking and learning opportunities that could transform your journey toward success.
The holiday season often brings a chaotic mix of planning, travel, and family commitments, and I openly discuss my own struggles to maintain balance during this hectic time. But excuses won't get us where we want to be. By fostering a supportive community and engaging in open communication, we're better equipped to tackle these challenges together. I extend my support and provide my contact information, promising to stand by anyone in need on their quest for success. Together, let's drop the excuses and embrace the hurdles as a united front, moving forward with love and anticipation for what's ahead.
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Hey guys, welcome back to Updated AF Collective, the podcast. I am your host, megan Wirth, and this episode is going to be a little bit different. Not that my other episodes aren't different. There's a huge variety of what we talk about on this podcast, but today, since we are so close to the end of the year I mean literally like I think we have like two and a half weeks left to 2025.
Speaker 1:I felt like this episode needed to be that loving kick in the ass that you probably need or you probably haven't, you know, even thought about, because I I've watched my friends, you know, start incredible things, whether it's an incredible project, a business, something that they're really passionate about, and then fall off the wagon only to to start over, completely start over, a few months later. And I'm guilty of it too, don't get me wrong. Like, discipline and consistency go hand in hand, and there's going to be times where we don't feel like doing something or we think that we can do it later, and then later becomes even later, and so next thing, you know, like we blink and a significant amount of time passes. So then, when we get back on to doing that one thing that we used to be consistent and disciplined at doing, you're back to starting at ground zero. So I have a question for all the people that started something at the beginning of 2024, fell off of the bandwagon, maybe jumped back on it mid 2024, and then just to fall off again. How many times are you going to start over on your project? How many times are you going to start at ground zero? Shit sucks.
Speaker 1:When you are building something, whatever it is that you're trying to build in your life, whatever that goal is, that you are literally like clawing after it's going to suck. It is supposed to suck and guess what? Like, I have really good news for you to suck and guess what? Like, I have really good news for you. You're supposed to suck at it. It's supposed to be hard. There's your permission to just jump in and if it feels like it's too much and if it feels like that thing that you're going after is just it's so out of reach, it is supposed to feel like that, because if it didn't feel like that, that means you're not dreaming big enough. If people around you don't think that you're batshit crazy because you're going after something that's like so out of not only your comfort zone but it's out of your friends and family's comfort zone watching you do this. You're not dreaming big enough. It is supposed to be hard. It's supposed to suck. There's your permission to keep going. Make something out of it.
Speaker 1:There's so many times and, like I said, I'm guilty of this shit too, but I'm not. I'm done. I'm done being guilty of it. So how many times are we going to start at ground zero? It it sucks, doing what we want to do or trying to get after the thing that we want so that we can get to the other side and get our end result it sucks. You might as well do something with that time. You might as well keep going, because eventually it does get easier.
Speaker 1:You are building your dream brick by brick. Every single brick that you lay down on your foundation is only building your entire like life. That's how I picture. I picture that, like every time I jump on a podcast episode or I'm interviewed on somebody else's podcast, or I am even attending a live you know motivation event or whatever the case is like, I always look at it as like I am laying another brick, building something is supposed to take time and it is supposed to be hard. So, while you're in the suck, you might as well start building something out of it.
Speaker 1:While you're in the suck, you might as well start building something out of it, pushing yourself, having the discipline to be consistent, which is really hard, and it's going to be hard. I mean, I'm not even here to sugarcoat it. I'm not even here to sugarcoat it. You can look around and say maybe it's not for me or, you know, it looks like it came easier to so-and-so. You know they look like they're this overnight success, but they're not. Nobody around us is an overnight success, and if you actually sit down and talk to some of these people that have what you want and are thriving at it, I guarantee their story is a lot like yours.
Speaker 1:And the more rooms I put myself in with the people that are succeeding in the things that I want to do whether it's writing a book, podcasting, public speaking or even real estate I always walk out feeling a thousand times better, because one sometimes their story's a hell of a lot harder than mine and it's like something that I'm not expecting, where I'm just like, oh my gosh, this poor person literally had to claw themselves out from a dark, dark place to get to where they're at today, or it's a lot similar to my story. So that's the importance of making sure that one you are putting yourself in rooms with people that are doing what you want to do, whether the rooms are physical or virtual. Buy a freaking course If there's a coach out there that's teaching some sort of mastermind, I say that is money well spent. It's a couple bricks probably laid down by just networking with these people. That is actively building something. Networking is building something.
Speaker 1:So make sure whatever you're doing, whatever you have set aside for 2025, one you're starting it right now because you need to no more waiting and make sure that you are setting time on your schedule, on your planner or whatever you do for that specific thing, you allow that time to where the phone is on. Do not disturb specific thing. You allow that time to where the phone is on. Do not disturb. And even if you're not in the mood to do it because, let's be real, motivation is a privilege and it comes in like little spurts. We're not always going to be feeling motivated to do the hard thing, but we're doing it anyway. It already sucks. You might as well get something out of it.
Speaker 1:Do we want to stay in this sucky space forever. That's what I asked myself. Like, when there's times where you know I really want something big to happen, I always tell myself like I am ready for a completely different life and elevated life and upgraded life. But then I'm like doom, scrolling on social media or watching Netflix and having a glass of wine or whatever, and I'm thinking about like wow, like I'm like doom, scrolling on social media or watching Netflix and having a glass of wine or whatever, and I'm thinking about like wow, like I'm ready for something different, but I'm not doing anything that's going to get me there. And I just eventually got so sick and tired of not being consistent to where I have to keep starting over. We're not getting there any quicker if we feel like we have to keep starting over. We're not. We're not getting there any quicker If we feel like we were. You know, we have to keep starting over.
Speaker 1:I have so many incredible friends who have started, like I said, businesses and projects and they took off, running, hit the ground, running, you know, going on Instagram live, being on multiple different podcasts, being episode on other people's platforms and posting everything every single day about you know their business and the progress and accepting clients. Well then they, they disappear for a few months where it's like you were doing so good, like what happened, what happened to, like the consistency you know, and then and then like everything flatlines, and then I see them again jump back up and they're like just kidding, like I'm back, I had to take some time, which is fine, I get it. Look, it is hard out here to just like, especially if you're a mom. Most of my friends are moms and I and I get it Like I.
Speaker 1:I struggle to find the time. I have to force myself to make sure that I'm getting up early enough to where I have enough time to get everything that I need to get done before I have to pick up my daughter from school. Those are like very precious minutes. Everything I do in between the time that I drop my daughter off at school to the time I pick her up at school has to be productive. It has to be Because if they're not productive, I find things I've noticed like I'll find things that I think are productive but they're actually. It's actually just busy work. Just because you're busy doesn't mean you're actually being productive.
Speaker 1:From the time I wake up, I get myself dressed, I get my coffee, I get my daughter out to school and then I hit the ground running. That is how I plan to live in 2025. I started doing this a couple of weeks ago and I've noticed that. You know it works setting myself up for success by not getting up the same time that my daughter needs to get up for school. If that happens, my day is done, dude, I feel so overwhelmed and once I start feeling overwhelmed, then I start to get the bad mood. Then it's hard.
Speaker 1:Make sure you're setting yourself up. Get up earlier. Every single billionaire. If you watch any of their documentaries on Amazon Prime which I do or read any of their books, they all have a morning routine. They all get up. Most of them get up at 4 am. I'm not saying you have to be that dramatic about it, but make sure you're getting up at least an hour before your kids, because you need that time to have a moment of silence. If you drink coffee, grab a cup of coffee and maybe start getting yourself dressed a little bit, whether that's throwing on some yoga pants and a sweatshirt, putting on, you know, putting your hair up, and for me, I put my hair up, I put a little makeup on and that's how I'm like, ready to start the day, I don't need to be fully dressed or anything unless I have to meet a client or have an appointment or I have an interview on a podcast. But other than that, like that's it.
Speaker 1:And then I dropped my daughter off at school and I hit the ground running and I have a lot of times on my schedule planner of like, okay, I'm going to write from eight to nine from, you know, 915 to 1015. I'm gonna do a podcast episode or whatever. That's how I stay consistent For me. If it's written down or on my planner, I do it, I have to do it. But what I've noticed, when I don't plan out my weeks and I don't plan out the hours within the week, it doesn't get done. Maybe it's like psychological. Maybe somebody out there who knows about this you know that could elaborate a little bit more on it knows like if it's not on the planner, there's a high chance that it's not going to get done. If you do not have a planner or a schedule whether it be digital or physical, which I have both I need both because my ADHD brain is like I need to write it down. I also need to see it on my phone and my laptop. It's not going to get done. It literally needs to be written down. That is how I stay consistent and I tell myself I don't care, it doesn't matter.
Speaker 1:If I'm feeling motivated, if I'm feeling creative, just put something out there, write one chapter, and if it sucks, then it sucks. You can edit it later. But just do something because you are building that consistency and you're building that discipline. It may or may not get easier. Not everybody is disciplined. I feel like I'm the laziest disciplined person you'll ever meet in your life, like I'll do the thing, but part of me is like a majority of the time, I don't even want to do it. I'd rather do something different. I'd rather do something fun or something that I'm in the mood to do. Right, it doesn't work like that.
Speaker 1:You guys, like I said, like I don't know how many times you plan on starting over on the same project year after year, but eventually you're going to have to stick to it or you're going to have to give that thing up. Regardless, both of it is going to suck. But what's going to suck less is if you struggle through it because you lack discipline, you lack motivation, but you struggle through it and you lack discipline, you lack motivation, but you struggle through it and you stay consistent and then you get your end result. That's going to suck a hell of a lot less than letting 10 years go by and you have nothing to show for it because you completely gave up or you put it on the back burner and that's where, exactly where it stayed. That's going to be a hell of a lot more painful, so you might as well suck it up, get your ass up, go right, go record, go after anything that you're trying to go after in 2025 and start right now and do not, do not stop until you get your end results.
Speaker 1:Okay, guys, short episode, but I felt like it's some stuff that needed to be said. I am here to support you and if you, if you guys, ever want to talk, you guys know where to find me my Instagram, my emails, all in the show notes, okay, but I I've been, I've been slacking, especially in December. December is like a really difficult month when it comes to like planning everything and the travel and the holidays, and my daughter has like so much time off. It's but no excuses anymore. Right, I'm dropping the excuses and so can you? If I can do it, you can do it. All right, guys? I will see you next Friday and I hope you guys have a great rest of the day. I love you guys.
