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Nikki Blair's Journey as a Coast Salish Medium
Ever wondered what it feels like to communicate with those who've passed on? In this captivating conversation, we're joined by Nikki Blair, a gifted Coast Salish medium who's amassed nearly 20,000 followers on TikTok through her authentic and powerful readings.
Nikki shares her extraordinary journey, beginning with her first spirit encounter at age five. Born into three indigenous tribes—Lummi, Nooksack, and LaCamel—she was raised in a culture where spiritual connections were embraced rather than feared. This cultural foundation allowed her natural abilities to flourish, though her gifts didn't fully emerge professionally until 2020.
What makes Nikki's approach refreshingly different is her emphasis on boundaries and control in mediumship. "You are in control of your gift," she reassures listeners who might be discovering their own intuitive abilities. She walks us through how she protects her energy, works with her spirit guides (including her main guide Jonathan), and uses meditation to strengthen her connection to the spirit world.
The conversation takes a fascinating turn when Nikki demonstrates a real-time clairvoyance exercise, offering a glimpse into how she trains aspiring mediums in her mentorship program. As both a professional medium and spiritual mentor, she tailors her teaching approach to each student's natural abilities, whether they're complete beginners or practicing intuitives looking to refine specific skills.
Nikki's authenticity shines through as she candidly discusses the challenges of professional readings, from skeptical clients to the occasional difficult session. Her approach combines clairvoyance, clairaudience, clairsentience, and claircognizance, creating a multi-dimensional channel for spirits to communicate through signs, symbols, and direct messages.
Whether you're curious about connecting with loved ones who've passed, exploring your own intuitive gifts, or simply fascinated by the mysterious world of mediumship, this episode offers illuminating insights from someone walking the path with grace, power, and indigenous wisdom.
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Hey guys, welcome back to Updated AF Collective, the podcast. I am your host, megan Wurth. Today I am back with an incredibly gifted special guest. Her name is Nikki Blair. She's the Coast Salish medium and with almost 20,000 followers on TikTok. I had to have her on the freaking podcast because I honestly feel like she is one of the most gifted women gifted psychic, spiritual mediums however, you want to say it out there in the world and I had to have her on the podcast. Nikki, welcome to Updated AF.
Speaker 2:I want to thank you so much for having me. It really means a lot.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much for coming on. I know we kind of talked prior to me hitting record, but I want to get into first Coast Salish. I want to. Obviously, representation matters and I feel like you're such a special woman. I want to talk about that first. So, because I know you guys are very deeply spiritual people, so I almost wonder if this is like a hereditary thing of why you were so gifted.
Speaker 2:So let's get into that. I believe that too. Yeah, I absolutely believe that. So I come from three different tribes, two of them which are in Washington State, like the very Pacific Northwest part of Washington State, and the other tribe is currently just across the border of Canada, and so I'm Lummi, nooksack and LaCamel Wow, and yeah, I grew up very spiritual.
Speaker 2:We're very connected to the other side, and so I do believe that some of my gifts have come from actually both sides of my family. My mom definitely has the ability to see spirit, and then my grandma, who has departed she had the gift as well, and then my grandma, who has departed, she had the gift as well. Um, so, yeah, it's kind of something that happened, um, kind of like organically when I was a kid. I just I was just so open to it because I I learned not to fear it, if that makes sense, um, and so I just yeah, and that that, honestly, was kind of like the gateway. My gifts fully didn't kind of come into fruition until 2020. But yeah, it's kind of happened a few times throughout my life and I just knew that I had this gift. I really did, I knew it. I didn't know how far it was going to take me, but I knew that I had the ability to connect the spirit for sure.
Speaker 1:How was your childhood with these gifts? Were you experiencing things at a really young age?
Speaker 2:Yes, absolutely, I think the first experience that I had ever had. I want to say I was like five maybe. I was at my aunt's house and I went to go and like walk into one of her bathrooms and there was nothing. It was dark, it was completely dark. And I had just turned around because I felt something behind me. I look and there was this older woman I want to say that she was also indigenous and she was kind of just looking at me and smiling at me and it freaked me out.
Speaker 2:I ran I was only five, you know so I ran into the bedroom, slammed the door and I was like who did I just see? I really, you know, at first, um, I thought it was like a ghost. It wasn't until I had gotten older that I realized it wasn't a ghost. It was actually spirit, um, just trying to connect with me and so, um, that was like the first experience that I had ever had. And then it kind of happened throughout my, my childhood, randomly, um, and when I had gotten to the age around 13, I started to read Sylvia Brown books and that just like was like another gateway for me. I just I love her and adored her and, um, I really appreciated her psychic gifts more than her mediumship gifts. But yeah, I pretty much read like all of her books and everything that she had just said really resonated with me, even stuff about, like past life and, you know, interdimensionals and Atlantis, everything. So it all, just, it all just really resonated with me.
Speaker 1:The more you learned about your gifts, the more you kind of opened up to it Did, did, the, did you like, open the floodgates and then all of a sudden like it kind of did.
Speaker 2:So I want to say the the other experience that I had had was with my uncle's, her departed wife, uncles, her departed wife.
Speaker 2:Every time that I would come around him I would see this really strange like box. It was like a wooden box, I'm not really sure, but she, she would always show it to me. I would just see it in like my mind's eye Every time I came around my uncle. I didn't know how to interpret it, I really didn't, and it wasn't until I had gotten older that I had asked him about it and he said, yeah, like I have one of her wooden boxes and I was like that's random, that is so weird. And he sent me a picture of it and I'm like gosh, like you can't make that stuff up, like why, like? And so it's things like that.
Speaker 2:Like it kind of came in spurts, um, and yeah, I would see like random people kind of standing behind um strangers. I would hear random names or hear random. I don't want to say I don't want to sound crazy, but like hear random voices that weren't my own, um, that you know, like you just couldn't really explain and I just I knew that it was spirit, I I knew that I was connecting. I just couldn't really explain and I just I knew that it was spirit. I I knew that I was connecting, I just didn't know how to have like a conversation with spirit like I do now.
Speaker 1:Absolutely, and so it's almost like you're hearing these messages and they're for somebody else. You may not even know, but you're hearing their loved ones on the other side tell you to tell them to say something, right? Yeah, absolutely. So. I'm sure you don't run around like Teresa Caputo at the grocery store so like are you able to turn that off?
Speaker 2:yeah, absolutely. Um, I truly believe that, um, in order to be a good medium, you have to be able to control it and close the door, like quote unquote. Um, just because I I believe that I should be able to control it and close the door, like quote unquote. Just because I believe that I should be able to live my life without the constant chatter of spirit in my ear saying like I died in a car crash, like that's my son over there Please give him this message.
Speaker 2:Sometimes it happens Like if you have really chatty souls or really strong souls, but even then I still have the say to be like like it's my time, I'm having dinner with my family or I'm out about shopping, things like that, and it's just a. And having that in mind, it kind of um, I mean, you create healthy boundaries for spirit too, but, um, you know you're, you don't want to always be tapping into spirit, because then you'll be tired and exhausted and then you kind of lose grasp with reality and living here in the 3D world, if that makes sense. Oh, 100%, girl. Yeah.
Speaker 1:How do you protect your energy?
Speaker 2:I do it a lot of ways. Now I do it intentionally. I used to really need to work with like sage and crystals and visuals and things like that, but now it's because I've been doing this for so long professionally, I can just easily shut it off. I can kind of just block it out.
Speaker 1:I know there's some women and that's the only reason why I asked because, like a lot of women who are interested in exploring their spirituality or have that feeling of like they have all of these gifts, they just don't know how to like protect themselves or control it. So, for, for the woman who's listening, who is like so new to this and doesn't know how to protect themselves, I mean there are steps that you can take. Can you take us through like what you would give or like some advice you would give to that woman out there? Because, yeah, there are things like sage crystals, like what did, what would you tell her for, like advice purposes?
Speaker 2:I would always say that you have this is your gift and you can use it however you want to, whether that's like random readings or intentional readings. You are in control of your gift and if you feel like your gift is a burden, that means that you're just not, you just don't have that knowledge yet it's absolutely possible to turn it off. Sometimes what I do is I just say to myself okay, I'm going into shop and that's it. Like I'm not here to connect the spirit and that's and that's basically it. And on top top of that, like I have really good guides, spirit guides or in guardian angels that I kind of call upon just to create a barrier between me and spirit. So just remember that you're always in charge of your gift, even if it kind of, even if it doesn't seem like it right now. You, you have the ability to choose.
Speaker 1:I love that you utilize your spirit team. Can we talk? Do you know?
Speaker 2:yours. I do my main spirit guide. It's kind of crazy because I've worked with him a lot and he's more masculine.
Speaker 2:He's definitely male um he's my main spirit guide and his name is jonathan, ironically, which is kind of weird because it was like so jonathan is the name of my first crush. I'm not really sure why. I don't know why this happens, but I see a lot with people who are always like I'm hearing the name christopher, which is weird because christopher was my best friend in, you know, like elementary school or something. I don't know why. There's always a word connection there, but yeah, um, so I use him a lot. I use my guardian angels. I have a few of them. Sometimes I'll call upon archangels to work with them, um, and I actually even teach my students students, cause I'm also a mentor. I teach them how to connect to their spirit guides, their their spirit team, um, because they're there like they. Really, that's what their purpose is is to help us. So I call upon them whenever I need help, even with the smallest things.
Speaker 1:I love the fact that you not only are a professional medium, but you also are a mentor, and we're going to get into that shortly. And for anybody listening that feels like they want to work with Nikki, all the links are going to be in the show notes. But before we go there, cause I do want to showcase you and your courses If you have courses, cause I know you said you're a mentor I just want a reading. Let's talk about spirit teams really quick, because I think that is such a hot topic. I read so many books from all these other mediums that, um, they have these courses where you can work or get to know your spirit team. How did you first connect with your guides, your angels, your archangels? Because is there a way to do that?
Speaker 2:Yeah, absolutely. So the best way that I had done it was through meditation. It was actually one of Sylvia Brown's meditations that she had in like a CD that was in the back of her book. Oh, that's old school, right, I just aged myself, but yeah, it was really unique.
Speaker 2:So basically, in this meditation she kind of brings you through this like meadow and you're walking and all of a sudden there's this bench sitting in front of you. You sit down and you ask your spirit guide to come forward and sit next to you and it was a male and he said his name was jonathan and he felt really familiar um it, even though I had never seen him, never heard him, never picked up on his energy and I want to say I was 14, 15 at the time and um I I just I don't know like I just knew that he was real because he he had he has personality, which they all do, but his personality was very like soft and tender, just something that I really resonated and I really wanted as as somebody that I can consult in, and so he's he's been with me ever since.
Speaker 1:but meditation is one of the ways that, um I like to connect with my spirit guides okay, and do you kind of ask for signs from these, from the people on your spirit team, when you are needing guidance? Like what, what are you asking for when you need their assistance? Like, how do you ask or, I guess, request help right, right Before they're allowed?
Speaker 2:to intervene. Yes, that's very true. So sometimes it's really simple. Sometimes I'll ask my spirit guides to help me change my perspective or see something from a different perspective If I'm going through something difficult, if it's like anger, frustration, jealousy, you know things that are kind of hard to understand. But there's other times where I'll ask my spirit guides to show me something simple, like a butterfly, like that lands on my window and things like that. And it may take them some time, a couple of days, but I kind of just remain open and trust that they're there. Like that is one of the biggest, one of the biggest lessons that they had taught me was that they're always there. They're literally at the tips of my fingertips. You know if I, if I needed to consult in them. So I just set that intention to be open and receive whatever messages that they have for me.
Speaker 1:I love that. And for anybody listening, you have to remember like the veil between us and them is like tissue paper thin. They can hear our thoughts because our thoughts put out vibrational energy. They can feel what we're going through just by our thoughts and anybody can request help from their spirit team, but you. But the key is like you have to ask for help. I now correct me if I'm wrong, but I mean we were given free will. That's like our God given gift and they kind of have that role in place where they cannot intervene unless you ask for help, so that we have all these people running around saying like, well, I don't believe in angels or all that other stuff, because, like when I've needed them the most, like nobody's ever come through, and I'm like, well, did you ask them? Did you physically say out loud or write in your journal I need help with ABC? And most of the time they'll say no. So I can try that because I guarantee you'll get an answer.
Speaker 1:and then, most likely most of the time, they get an answer so actually, actually 99% of the time, I mean, at least I do there's so many times where I've literally had to say out loud I'll try to control the situation all day, and then I'll say out loud like I give up, I surrender. If you want me to have this thing, you're going to have to do it for me. I swear. It works every single time, absolutely, and sometimes, yeah, you know, and I you know, my reality is where it works every single time.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. And sometimes, yeah, you know and I sometimes I find too like not getting an answer is still an answer there. They'll kind of challenge you in a way. If they feel like you're using them too much or not like standing on your own, they'll be like no, like this is just for you. We still want you to have a human experience, so we want you to try and figure it out, which is tough to hear, especially since you know they're right there, but they're just like any any other um, mentor or parent or, you know, grandparent that you would kind of go to. You know they would say it's this. The choice is up to you, um, and I totally, you know, I totally believe that they're. They're always there, they're.
Speaker 2:It's like you said, the veil is paper thin and it is so thin and, um, they know you better than you really know yourself because they've been with you and I've heard that they've, um, they've shared multiple lives with you, like your soul. So they're, they're a part of your soul team, um, and so I was. I always teach my students that you know that think of them as like one of your best, closest friends, um, so confide in them whenever you need help, ask them questions. Um, they can relate to you and most of the times the messages that they come forward don't always like make sense right away. Um, and through time and work and meditation and things like that, it'll it'll kind of slowly come to you.
Speaker 1:I like to think of. Like my spirit team is like right before I reincarnated back to earth is like we all wrote the blueprints together, yeah, and then I'm born and then I obviously my memory is like wiped, so master plan for those that know where I'm supposed to be going and what I'm supposed to be doing, and they're supposed to be like guiding me through this, like blind, yeah, like I'm not afraid to ask, like, uh, like where am I supposed to go now? Like what am I? And I always get, I always get an answer and I don't know. That's what I love about my my spirit team is like I feel like I have a good group.
Speaker 1:So no, you know, it's crazy, it's my first ever reading. My, it was like years ago, I think I was like 22. Cause, I know I was in the military and I got a reading and this girl I, um, she has a podcast and all that fun stuff, stuff, and I signed up through her because I liked her social media and stuff like that. So I signed up to get, um, this angel reading and she was like, oh, you have five guardian angels right now, which made sense. I was in the marine corps at the time right, we can kind of gain a little bit more protection when we are in those crazy environments. Her telling me I had five and I was like I have five, okay, well, I want them to work. And so since then I have definitely utilized them Like I talk to them, I journal, and when I journal I'm usually like writing to them and I love to write, I'm a huge writer.
Speaker 1:So for me that is like my communication to them. But how, I guess, like how do you, how do you communicate with them? Do you still talk to them? Is it like a daily practice for you?
Speaker 2:Absolutely. Yeah, so sometimes I'll. I'll speak it out into existence if I need to, but most of the time it's, you know, through my head and my thoughts. Voice I'm also. I'm also an automatic writer and so if I need to have like a question answered right away, I'll write it out right before I go into meditation and then see if I can write it out or see if it comes to me, and then, if it doesn't, then I go into meditation. But yeah, I definitely, I definitely write to them a lot.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I love anything writing, cause I don't know, I love writing. Now we're going to get into you. Like I said, like I, I I loved your Tik TOK and anybody and again, like everybody needs to follow you, your Tik TOK and your Instagram and everything's going to be in the show notes, but you have almost 20,000 followers. But what stands out the most about your Tik TOK is you have clips, like I don't know, there's like maybe over a hundred, I don't know, I didn't count, but you have clips of every single reading and you're showcasing your gifts and I was like, oh my gosh, like you are so gifted. So first, um, how long have you been a professional media? I got, I got questions for days, but the first one is how long have you been doing this professionally Since the end of?
Speaker 2:2020. Oh my gosh. So, yeah, I had taken Monica the mediums course and I actually had convinced my husband to purchase a course for me for Christmas as a Christmas present, and so I had taken it and within like a month I want to say, maybe not even a month, maybe it was a few weeks Once I finished her course, I like dove right into it. I really knew that I was called to do this sort of work and it just like people were so open to it, like coming out of a closet was kind of. It was a little scary because I had posted it on Facebook and no one knew.
Speaker 2:And you know, 2020 was such a weird time for everybody. I was like, what are people going to think of me? Are they going to think I'm this like weirdo, like this loser that's in, you know, talking to the voices in her head? So, um, it was really scary and there was a lot of people that were just so receptive and I had done a few practice readings, for I'm going to say it was like for three to four months I kind of offered my services for free just to get experience, and once I started to get more like validations and it was correct. I started to charge, and so it usually doesn't happen that fast, but for me, like I just knew it and I actually quit my job. I want to say it was like two months after I had taken Monica's course, I quit my job and did this full time.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry to interrupt you but like that is so rare, I don't know any other medium. You were the first person to say that you got to quit your job. But again, like for some people, you are born with the gift. I feel like everybody has this gift now, but some people it comes to you easier. It's like a built in muscle that all you need is like that little bit of like a workout versus other people where it's going to take a couple of years. So, for anybody listening, you do have the ability. But Nikki, what, what makes you stand out, is like you've had it the entire time and it's almost like you needed that boost of confidence, those, those validations, um, from spirit telling you like girl, you got this. Like just go out there and do it. That's incredible Sorry, I didn't cut you off Like, just like very, very impressive.
Speaker 2:Well, thank you so much. Yeah, it was definitely. I was scared, shitless, you know, it's just, it's so scary, it was really scary and just I feel like embracing it because I had a little bit of what is it, oh, imp imposter syndrome. I talk about it a lot, you know, and I just I kept on hearing my spirit guides, you know, say like if you want to quit your job, you can, but do it for yourself, it's not for anybody else.
Speaker 2:Just yet, like, and so I, I trusted the universe and I kept on telling the universe to support me during this transition and they did they, and they still, the universe still does, it still supports me. Um, but they just kept on sending me client after client and I was just like, oh my god, I really do have this gift because there's things that will come forward and I'm like you can't guess that, you can't look that up, you can't, you can't. You know what I mean. It's just yeah, so I there's times where I could get specific names and certain memories that people have from childhood, and you know, I mean the list goes on, but, um, it is definitely very rare.
Speaker 1:Yeah, can you share with us. Like, do you have one reading that just stuck, that stuck with you? For you know the beginning that you were just mind blown by, so like a validation that came out. And then you know the beginning that you were just mind blown by, so like a validation that came out. And then you were just shocked yourself that you have one of those readings that you can share with us like a story.
Speaker 2:I do and it was actually one of the. It's actually a reading that is like really close in, like near and dear to my heart. But, um, uh, a sister and her friend had reached out to me for a reading and I actually shared their I share their reading on my Tik TOK and every time it goes wild because it's just so, it's so heartfelt and it's so beautiful. Um, anyways, her sister had passed away and she was hit by a train. Like her and her dad were actually hit by a train, um, and they both passed away, but the things that spirit was kept on coming.
Speaker 2:It was literally like her name is monica, um, and it was like monica was sitting here right next to me, just like having this conversation with me, and she brought up, um, you know, the tattoos that they were going to get and they were matching tattoos, but they were literally going to get these matching tattoos like two hours after the reading that day.
Speaker 2:So things like that, where it's just like you know spirits there and you can't doubt it, and so it was just beautiful. Like she brought up the things that she used to like to drink here in the physical world, like it was like fireball and she talked about her dad and then her other mom came through and it was just, it was just a lot. So that is something that is one of the readings that I really love, um, and it's so special to me they were actually the first, the first people to allow me to not hide their identity, um, and so I I love that, and people love that like raw emotion, and you know it can be very dense and heavy, but people really resonate with that, and so I do know that they also love the messages that came forward. So it's, yeah, still one of my favorites.
Speaker 1:Well, the thing I like about your TikTok and having all of those different readings with all of those clients and having it all out there and vulnerable, is there are so many people out there that are skeptical or they are nervous about reaching out to you. There's so many people that are just barely dipping their toe in spirituality because you know a lot of us like me and stuff like that, like I grew up Catholic and so you know it's, it's the you're kind of giving them permission because when you have all these different clients that you're giving these beautiful messages of hope to, um, you're almost giving other people permission to go ahead and reach out to you too, because these are everyday people that are on your team that are just wanting validation that our loved ones are still there and you're giving the, you know the validations, like the tattoos. That's a validation and then after that you give them a loving message, like a message that that person needed to hear specifically from the other person on the other side. So, again, like having your platform, there's so many people that are going to want to reach out to you for a reading Because, again, like you're showcasing all of these everyday, normal people that you're giving these beautiful messages to, and that's what I love about your social media.
Speaker 1:I know I keep bringing it up, but I feel like you are so unique. Yeah, a lot of mediums don't put a lot of effort into the platforms which I feel like they should. A lot of mediums don't put a lot of effort into the platforms which I feel like they should, so, um. So now that you're doing this professionally, um, you decided to become a mentor. So what was that transition like? Because that is a whole nother level of stress, because now, future mediums and psychics which, how do you, how do you, how did you do that?
Speaker 2:future mediums and psychics, which, how do you? How do you? How did you do that? So it was actually um I it was something that candace had said in her um, in her course she had mentioned that she wanted to create a course and another. It was like another um, another professional medium, had said you've only been doing this for so long, like what makes you think you can do that?
Speaker 1:and I want to say it was like everybody told her that she should do it, which is bullshit. By the way and I'm a fan of james van praag, I have his freaking oracle cards right here but, like I'm sorry, you don't get to tell a woman like candace Dalton that you can't do that because I'm Boston, she'll kick your ass and do it anyway and she'll take it. No, it's fine, she's our mentor, anybody that's listening Candace Dalton's, our mentor.
Speaker 2:So yeah, she was our mentor and so I, I really that really like stuck with me for some reason. And I want to say I had only been um a professional medium for a year at that point, before I started to work on being a mentor, and, um, yeah, it had happened really fast and I just like trusted, like I, I just taught my students basically what I knew, and I was very upfront that I don't know everything, and neither does no medium does, by the way but, um, yeah, I, there was people that really just wanted to open up their gifts and, um, this is something that I really love to do. Is I? I just want to help people? I, I like, like yourself, I believe that we all have this gift. It's really about tuning into them, quieting our mind and raising our vibration and kind of creating that spirit dictionary so that way we can have this back and forth conversation.
Speaker 2:Um, and, yeah, it's, it was a good transition for me too, and I actually still do this. I, I do this. I want to say, like a quarter of the time now, most of its readings I do, I'll do like two or three readings five days a week. Um, it's quite a bit. So, yeah, I just I love it, I love what I do. I really am so grateful for the gift and I'm grateful for my students who have trusted me to be their mentor, because it just means a lot for me. It's more validation for myself that I'm doing the right things and for the right reasons, you know.
Speaker 1:How long are your courses for? Can we talk about what? How long the courses are, and then what is in the course? What are the meat and potatoes of the whole thing?
Speaker 2:So basically I kind of go into it blindly. So I used to have like an actual course where I would have like curriculum for my students to read, and I don't know why. I just didn't like that. It was kind of boring for me and then I switched to just mentoring. So I kind of tailor it to my students. So if they have no idea, if they want to start from the ground up, if they don't know how to meditate, if they don't know how to connect to spirit, guides, their intuition, I will teach them that first and then go into developing and it lasts. For it lasts four weeks and we meet once a week and people really like that. They seem to like that option better.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it seems like you kind of like like make the course around who your client is, like kind of tailor it to your client specifically needs, or you, you meet them where they're at Cause. Yeah, the course that we take. I've never taken Monica's course, but take Candace's course. You know, like you, we all started and there was a couple girls in my, in my class and they were like way experienced, like they were like they did not need to like what we were all doing.
Speaker 1:You know like I saw some girls and I was like what we were all doing? Yeah, you know like I saw some girls and I was like what the hell are you doing? They just wanted to fine tune some things, but like that's so cool that you kind of just meet them where they're at Um, and I'm sure like that is that's so helpful. Are you watching these women just like bloom and blossom into becoming their own um brand business? Um, what, what are your, I guess, like what are your students doing after they take your course?
Speaker 2:So I always tell them that they need to get right into practice readings. This is something that they want to do full time. Most of my students, ironically, have kind of taken this mentorship just to kind of like evolve their spirituality and, um, they really wanted it for themselves and that's. That's completely okay. I have a couple of students who want to do this professionally, um, but other than that, like, most of them are kind of, um, just doing it for themselves and their own wellbeing.
Speaker 1:Oh, I love that and like cause and for people who don't know every single medium reads very differently. Right, there's multiple different ways to talk to spirit, communicate, seeing, hearing. I don't know all the, what are they? The clairvoyances or whatever. I don't remember any of that, okay, so, first, because I have a question that's going to lead into your students but how do you read?
Speaker 2:Okay, so I am a clairvoyant, I'm a clairaudient, clairsentient, um claircognizant, and then sometimes like the ability to smell and taste will come through just very rarely, but I'm I mainly see, feel, hear and kind of just know things.
Speaker 1:Okay. So when you're giving somebody a reading, can you give us an example of that for just somebody who is like super new to this, like when you say you're hearing, let's talk about that, okay.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so when I'm sitting in front of my client I will set that intention to connect to their departed loved ones. They'll come forward and they'll start showing me little signs and symbols, and each sign and symbol has my own interpretation for it. Sometimes they'll have like a double connection or something. It may mean something different to my client, really just depends. But um, when they start to communicate with me, I will either see little images like glimpses of things.
Speaker 2:Um, let's say, for instance, I see two cars collide, that's my symbol for that they pass in a car accident. Or if I start to hear somebody coughing, that's just my sign and symbol that they pass from like pneumonia or smoke inhalation or COPD, head throat cancer, lung cancer, that sort of thing. And then, you know, right after I receive those, those messages, I will confirm that with my client and if they validate it, I know I'm talking to the right soul and interpreting the right things. And then I'll deliver them the message which the message usually comes through, um, like from a clear, cognizant sign and symbol which is kind of just. I kind of just know that this is why spirit's bringing forward this message, the sign and symbol, and then we'll kind of just move on. They'll they'll lead me down a path where they're trying to deliver a message, and I always find that people need healing surrounding their departure and you know loneliness and pain and grief and all the other things.
Speaker 1:But, um, yeah, yeah, that's basically how it works with me okay, and then when you get these clients, these men and women who want to join your course I mean, everybody reads differently are you able to help them with their specific gift. So I guess, well, how would you even identify it? So would they tell you, hey, like I just have this knowing or I'm hearing, and then you, kind of tailor, make the course to that specific Claire. Is that? Am I on track?
Speaker 2:there? Yeah, absolutely so. I always ask my students what is the? What is the best way that somebody learns? So somebody's more hands-on, they're probably going to be more more clear, sentient and clear cognizant. If somebody's more of like an auditory learner, then they're going to be more clairaudient. And the same thing with, like clairvoyance if you need to see something, you're you're going to be a clairvoyant. Um, but I I always start off with those three like clairvoyance, clairaudience, clairsentience and claircognizant. Um, most of the time, my, my beginner students will just work with one, claire, which I'm sure you probably remember. It's probably just hearing things first or seeing things first, and then, as you develop it, you work in those other Claire's. But, um, yeah, I always find that people are either one of those four.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and usually it's like one of the Claire's will be more um like, yeah, more dominant, more obvious, and you just, obviously just for teaching purposes, like you, kind of just make them like kind of focus on the one that is the most dominant, the strongest, yeah, just so that I can kind of build up their confidence and and basically so let's say, for instance, for instance, somebody is a clairvoyant, and basically so let's say, for instance, for instance, somebody is a clairvoyant, I will have them practice visuals and they can be really small, so we'll just kind of do this really quick with you. Are you a clairvoyant? Yeah, I'm a little clairvoyant, a little Okay. Okay, we'll just do this really quick. I'll just let's just say you're my student, so I want you to close your eyes and I want you to take a few long, deep breaths.
Speaker 2:Okay, now I want you to visualize that there is a red apple sitting in front of you, Okay, okay, let me know when you have it. I have it, okay. Now. Change the color to black, okay, okay. Now change it to white, okay, okay. Okay, now change it to white, okay now. Gold, okay. Pink, okay. Now I want you to visualize three apples, any color you want. Now take away two way too, okay, okay. Now I want you to open your eyes. Okay, now I want you to visualize that apple with your eyes closed. Okay, I mean with your eyes open.
Speaker 2:I'm sorry, do it with your eyes open. Okay, now I changed the color to gold. Now add two apples. Okay, take one away. Change it to black. Okay, now hold it in your hands, like physically, yeah, physically. So that's basically it. And so, once they kind of get used to doing it with their eyes open, um, I mean, it's just a good way to open your third eye and strengthen your clairvoyance. So it's small exercises like that, um, and then once they get comfortable with that, I will bump it up to um them like visualizing their entire home. I'll have them walk through their home and doing that with their eyes open. So, um, if you see me in any of my readings, like rarely ever do I look at my client, I'm always like looking down, like looking over, but it's so I can tune out everything else and kind of just focus in on spirit and cause. I don't want to just be sitting there with my eyes closed like channeling spirit.
Speaker 1:So oh, my gosh, we can talk after this, but like for years oh my gosh, we can talk after this, but like that's what I did for years. That's my iPhone on every single Zoom call.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's, it's tough. It is tough and it takes it, you know, it just takes practice, that's all. And I always start off with just the basics and small exercises like that, just to help build confidence first.
Speaker 1:And the apple that you told me to like hold in my hand before you like make it black or what? It was already black. So I was like, is she in my head, like? And so I was like, damn it, she's in my head. Yeah, good job. That was crazy, uh, but I mean that's a really good way to learn it.
Speaker 1:You know, it's like I said like when I was, when I was doing readings and stuff like that, um, I had to do it with my eyes closed and I you know it's crazy, it's like I asked Candace so many times I'm like, okay, like I have to have my eyes closed because I'm a visual person, but like every but how I read was every single um soul that came to me was in a different color. And then I had to learn over the years what the different colors meant. Now I know meant. Now I know, now I know somebody's coming through. I can do with my eyes open now, but somebody's coming through. They're usually a different shade of color, like a like lavender, blue, black and green, so oh, and teal. And I remember asking Candice I'm like, what the hell does this mean? And she goes, I don't know, she's like medium's different. She's like. You have to figure that out. Have you ever had a student that you're just like girl?
Speaker 2:I don't know like you're gonna have to figure it out, kind of thing yeah, you know, and the thing, the thing about mediumship too, is a lot of the courses that you take they'll just teach you the basics, right, they'll kind of give you the tools and then they let you out into the world and say, hey, go read and everything you know, you're, you know as you like, start to read more people, like your gift evolves, and that's that's really when it happens. It doesn't happen on like a level two course or you know a level three course. It really just happens with your own experience, which is very humbling it can be. You know it's, it's very tough and there's been a few times where I had crappy readings and had to refund people, and I'm very open and upfront and honest about it. But I just, yeah, it really comes with experience.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and do you kind of know, like when you wake up in the morning and say you have like a full schedule of readings, do you need to know early on?
Speaker 2:like crap, like I need to reschedule these people Like I'm not feeling myself, I feel off. Do you ever have those days? So there's only been a few times where I've had to reschedule people because I'm sick or like I just I'm too emotionally drained. There's only been a couple of times and thank God that I've got really good clients, that who understand and um. So yeah, there's only been a few times that I've kind of felt off and honestly it could have just been the energy of the universe, the state of the world or you know like it could have just been like mom stuff, wife stuff, I don't know. There's a lot that can go into it oh, no knows Also.
Speaker 1:Okay, I know there's a huge difference and I used to tell people I am not a psychic, I cannot predict things. Do you also have the ability as a psychic? So are you? I shouldn't have mentioned it, but at the beginning of the podcast episode which I hate myself for I wish I could take it back I say psychic medium. Not everybody is a psychic medium. Are you a psychic medium? I guess I should have asked that before I went out there into the world.
Speaker 2:I definitely am. I am more of a medium than a psychic, but there are a lot of psychic things that will come through. But as far as offering just psychic readings, I don't do that.
Speaker 1:Okay, so you offer psychic readings. Is there a reason? Why? Is it like something that you kind of just staying away from?
Speaker 2:I kind of just stay away from it intentionally, because I feel like with my gift I want to be able to have things validated right then. And there, you know, and I just, I don't know like maybe I just don't have enough experience with it. And you know, I've dabbled in tarot and Oracle cards and things like that, but it's just I'm always being brought back to mediumship.
Speaker 1:Yeah, okay, because I again like, just, I'm always being brought back to mediumship. Yeah, okay, because I again like, not everybody's I guess not all psychics are mediums and not medium psychics. Like there's a there, there are some people out there that can do both. Um, but, like, when I was doing readings, I used to tell people like I am not a psychic, like, don't even ask questions, I don't know, but sometimes spirit will give an answer to.
Speaker 1:I remember there was one time, um, where the client I had no idea had already, she like was meditating and then she asked her loved one to come through this is before the reading and her loved one gave her an answer to a question that she had. And I'm like, don't do that, don't do that. I'm glad she didn't tell me that because, like, don't tell me that, because it's so much pressure. I, I'm a girl that likes instant gratification and like it. We will be on a downward slope If I feel like there's a, so there's so much pressure surrounding the reading to go like fresh, new. I love when I don't know the client, because it makes me feel better about myself, because of like, if I screw this up, I'm never gonna see him again anyway.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's so relatable because I still have that fear myself, even with, like, repeat clients, like I love my repeat clients, but it makes it a little bit harder because you have to get more creative with the signs and symbols, you know, and it's it's challenging for me, but I love going in blind and I tell people too, because sometimes clients will come to me like am I supposed to give you a name, like what do I do beforehand? And I'm like just show up Like that's it, just show up with an open mind and you'll get those people who are like dead cold, we'll give you one word answers oh, they'll sit here like this, you know, or like doing, like doing, you know, looking off in his face and that and again. That just puts so much pressure. I wish people understood that it puts so much pressure on me because I want my clients to have a good reading, I want them to get the validation and healing that they deserve and sometimes they just make it so hard because they'll just be like sitting here like this.
Speaker 1:No, you're still human yeah, you're, yeah, opening, kick in and your ego, your human ego, is dark. It's gonna start to tell you like you're wrong, you're not doing this well enough, like, and that's what these people don't understand and it's most of the time correct me if I'm wrong, but when somebody gifts a reading to a skeptic, like, say, their dad, they're like they're giving reading um to their, their dad or their mom or whatever, and the person never even asked for it and now they're sitting there looking super annoyed. Yeah, all of these validations are coming through and they're most like, emotionless, like all those things. Like they're not even validating the um, the messages. It makes your ego go crazy and tell you, ruin it all up. Now I mean, would you just set that boundary and be like hey, like I can understand You're not into this. Like let's just end it here. Have you done that before?
Speaker 2:So, as far as like skeptics, I've read a few of them and I want to thank them for not telling me that they were ascripted because, like I'm exactly like you, like I don't want to know anything about you, so even their personality and their beliefs and disbeliefs but, um, there's, like I said, there's only been a couple of times where I couldn't read somebody and they were very open. There was, there was a couple of them that were definitely like I think she's making this up, you know, and then in my head, like I can feel I'm like I think that they think I'm making this up.
Speaker 1:Well, the energy and like for people listening your energy screams out what you're feeling, and not just to like mediums to everybody. I mean you're. You know, like your vibe, you know when you walk into a room and you can just sense somebody's in a pissed off mood or if they're like, your energy puts out a lot of information. So, just like we need to be respectful and even if you are a skeptic, like keep an open mind, just like what's the worst that can happen. Nothing bad's going to happen. That's bananas. So before I let you go, I want to again. Everything's going to be in the show notes, but how can people uh contact you and reach you on social media?
Speaker 2:okay, so they can find me on my tiktok, which I only have one. There are a few other fakes out there, so I know I've already read two fyi, so yeah.
Speaker 1:So if somebody, if she, nikki is not going to reach out to you and say you look like you've been going, I would never do that two of those under your name and you look like you've been going, shit, I would never do that two of those under your name and I'm like you're not nikki, yeah yeah, um.
Speaker 2:so you can find me on my tiktok, which is at nicole blair 32, and that's n-i-c-k-o-l-e, b-l-a-i-r. 32, um. And then you can also find me on my IG, which is the Coast Salish Medium, and it's a verified account. I only have one of those, and if you want to book with me, you can do that on my website, which is thecoastsalishmediumcom.
Speaker 1:Perfect and, like I said, for anybody listening and you feel like you are being pulled towards Nikki, go check out her social media. I'm going to put everything there in your website. All the links will be there. Just book a session with her. If you are a skeptic, go check out your ticks. Go check out her Tik TOK. You are not going to be after you and the validations are wild. I went down the rabbit hole last night just watching your stuff.
Speaker 1:I was like, oh my god, like this girl so good, thank you you know, it's like you're so genuine and I love the way you read. You're very calm and you're very like it, just you're. It just flows versus. I've had some readings and no knocks on them at all, like, like I love a girl who's putting themselves out there, especially in this capacity, but sometimes it can be very choppy, the messages will come out maybe once every other minute or something like that, but you let it flow. So that's what I love about your reading. I might have to book something with you after this call because, um, like, I mean even a medium we can't read ourselves. Like it's so interesting to see who's around us. Get the, the validations, maybe get some messages from our spirit team.
Speaker 1:Tell me how much I'm fucking up right now because I'm a little break and that seems to be the message I always get from my spirit guides is like calm down, megan well, what if we?
Speaker 2:what if we exchange readings? No girl, yes, not you, we can still open. I'm not fine, but I have gifted.
Speaker 1:We'll talk about it. Okay, you will definitely talk about it after this call. But, nikki, seriously I have chills talking to you right now, like I am so honored that you are on updated af and um, we're definitely gonna have to have you back. I feel like absolutely anything. Maybe we should do like a live reading on on an episode because, again, going to have to have you back, I feel like anything. Maybe we should do like a live reading on on an episode, cause, again, like I want to showcase you and, like I said, anybody that is feeling like they want to contact you just just freaking, do it. You guys just slide into her DM, look a session with her, so you'll be fine.
Speaker 2:Thank you so much. I really appreciate it and it means a lot that you asked me to be. Thank you so much, I really appreciate it and it means a lot that you asked me to be on here, so.
Speaker 1:I really appreciate you thanks, girly okay.
