No More Shame

Compass of Shame - Withdrawal

Megan Clunan Season 3 Episode 4

This week, Dr. Megan introduces the “Compass of Shame,” a concept developed by Donald Nathanson in 1992 to explain the four common ways people respond to shame: withdrawal, attacking the self, avoidance, and attacking others. This episode focuses on withdrawal—pulling back, shutting down, or isolating when shame feels overwhelming and true. Through real-life examples, we look at how withdrawal creates distance and fuels cycles of disconnection, even leading to depression. Scripture warns against isolation, reminding us that shame thrives in the dark but loses power in the light of community and Christ. The episode encourages listeners to resist shame’s pull to withdraw and instead remain present, engage honestly, and embrace the truth of being fully loved and accepted.

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Music by Ryan Kastel