The Voice of Ash
The Voice of Ash is a podcast for high-functioning women who are tired of performing their lives and ready to come home to themselves.
Hosted by shadow work coach Ashley LaButte, this space is where emotions become wisdom, self-betrayal turns into self-trust, and healing goes deeper than mindset shifts. Through raw conversations, embodiment practices, personal stories, and powerful reflections, you will learn how to stop abandoning yourself, become friends with your shadow instead of fighting it, and make grounded choices that align with who you truly are. Not who you were taught to be.
The Voice of Ash represents what rises after everything false burns away.
Ash is what remains after transformation (the truth, the clarity, the real self beneath the masks). This podcast is about finding your voice after survival, after people-pleasing, after living for everyone else. It is the sound of becoming who you actually are. This journey is not perfect and is messy.
If you are emotionally intelligent, self-aware, and ready to stop living on autopilot, this is where your rebirth begins.
Transformation isn’t loud.
It is honest. It is embodied. It is powerful.
Welcome to The Voice of Ash. Where you rise from what no longer serves you and step into who you are becoming.
The Voice of Ash
Projection: Why the People Who Annoy You Are Your Greatest Teachers
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Think of someone who irritates you. Not a little — a lot. Got them? Good. Hold onto that person, because by the end of this episode they're not going to annoy you quite the same way.
This week Ashley goes deep on one of the most powerful concepts in shadow work: projection. That sneaky psychological move where the traits you've buried in yourself show up in other people and make you absolutely furious — without you ever realizing why. She breaks down how to spot it, what it's actually telling you, and the important line between a real reaction and a shadow reaction.
Fair warning: this one might make you look at your most annoying people very differently.
In this episode:
- What projection actually is and why every single person does it
- The difference between a mild dislike and a full-blown triggered reaction
- Three common projection patterns — suppressed traits, denied desires, and harsh judgment
- Why the people you judge the most harshly are actually your best mirrors
- The dangerous side of projection work — and when NOT to use it on yourself
- How to tell the difference between a real boundary violation and a shadow trigger
- A simple five-step projection audit you can do on your own
- The reframe that changes everything: that person didn't just annoy you — they gave you a map to what your soul is actually craving