32. Letting Go of The Past: Overcoming Trauma and Finding Self-Love

What if the pain of your past could be the catalyst for your transformation? 

Krystal Jae, the Empowerment Goddess and Somatic Trauma-Informed Coach, invites you to explore the profound journey of overcoming suffering in silence. 

In this heartfelt episode, Krystal Jae shares her personal story of hitting rock bottom and the transformative steps that led her to reclaim her identity, self-love, and purpose. Discover how embracing your vulnerabilities and moving beyond people-pleasing can lead you to a life filled with peace and clarity.

Do you feel trapped by the weight of PTSD, anxiety, or the scars of betrayal?

Krystal Jae shares her powerful insights on how to break free from the chains of self-doubt and fear. Learn how to accept past experiences as stepping stones towards empowerment. Through real stories and practical advice, this episode emphasizes the importance of self-reliance for happiness and the necessity of showing up for oneself. Krystal Jae offers guidance on fostering a mindset transformation that encourages positivity, resilience, and growth.

Ever wonder how changing your mindset could change your life? 

Krystal Jae sheds light on effective techniques like gratitude, mindfulness, and meditation to cultivate a growth mindset. Uncover the strength in viewing challenges as opportunities and acknowledging imperfections to enhance relationships and self-worth. As you venture into self-healing, Krystal Jae encourages you to embrace your past without letting it define your future.

Empower yourself with self-love and purpose, knowing that you are enough and never alone on this journey of transformation.

Chapters

• 0:00 Overcome Suffering in Silence
• 5:55 Journey to Personal Transformation
• 22:05 Transforming Mindset for Personal Growth
• 36:49 Embrace Healing, Overcome Past Pain
• 49:02 Empower Yourself, Find Your Purpose

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Hey, hey, welcome to Overcome Suffering and Silence with Kr,, , the Empowerment Goddess, your who Am I expert and your Somatic Trauma-Informed Coach. So today we're going to do things a little bit different. Okay, y'all Just stick with me, though, right? So one thing when I'm driving or in outrunning errands, or even sometimes when I'm here at home and I'm cleaning or cooking, I will sit here and I will play a podcast, a YouTube video or something else, instead of a music or TV. Well, those of you that have been with me for a while, y'all know that I published a blog about eight months ago. The last article was about letting go of the past six steps, answering the question of how I find myself again, and I released part one. Since then, I've just been so overly busy that I never did release part two, and I just realized that Just as a refresher, I just really wanted to go through part one again. So then that will lead to part two.

Speaker 1: 1:19

If you're anything like me, you can, even you may read a book, but then you go back and do audio, or, especially, if there's a book that I'm really trying to learn the information, I will be reading it, but then I'll also listen to the audio as well. This is for you to really learn how to become who you are after the traumas and the abuse and the betrayals and the letdowns that we've experienced. Right, because a lot of us have experienced childhood traumas, generational trauma, sexual, mental, physical, emotional abuse, been in relationships or have a family member or a friend that's a narcissist. We've been through situations to where we have been let down or maybe we were the other person who let someone down and so you're living with all of this in you and you're suffering in silence and you're wondering God, when is this going to ever be enough? You're suffering with anxiety and living in that anxiousness all the time. You may have depression, ptsd, all of those things. Your fight and flight system is always activated and you're just hypervigilant. And so today, absorb this information, because when I tell you that this is a life transformational process, it is definitely that, and it has been said over and over and over again with my past clients on how much this information helps them in their life and to discover who they are, embrace their vulnerabilities and to overcome the limitations in their life. Right, and so that's the whole purpose of me being here is to help you overcome that suffering in silence, to break free from the limitations of trauma that hold you back. Because why is it so important for me? Because I've been there and I know how it feels to live in that space, and I don't want you to live in that space. So enjoy a snippet of letting go of the past six steps. Answering the question of how I find myself again, you're definitely going to need to go back.

Speaker 1: 3:49

Read the blog that's available at crystaljcom forward slash blog. It is full of valuable information. Hey, hey, welcome. To Overcome Suffering in Silence. It's time for you to stop people pleasing and create your better life. I am Crystal J, the Empowerment Goddess and your somatic, trauma-informed life coach. This season has already started in a way I couldn't even imagine. Now, are you ready for some realness, raw healing and a glimpse into what it feels like to walk in peace, clarity and purpose, while truly knowing who you are? If your answer is yes, then you've come to the right place.

Speaker 1: 4:34

For the past two decades, I've been blessed to share my journey with countless women and a few men, empowering them to overcome the lingering shadows of physical, emotional, psychological and sexual abuse. Together, we confront the limitations that hold us back like self-doubt, guilt, fear, shame and that pervasive sense of unworthiness. Dig deep to uncover the root of these feelings. Break free from the inner pain of suffering and silence. Find faith. Grow in that faith and embrace the life that is meant for you. Enjoy the real stories and practical advice, life-enhancing skills and spiritual wisdom to guide you from pain to purpose, self-doubt to confidence and confusion to clarity. So let's leave the struggle bus behind and embark on this journey to discover the freedom, beauty and strength that lies within you. Remember you are not alone and you are enough. When times get tough, pray, listen and follow through, because God loves you, and trust me when I say he is not your trauma. Welcome to Overcome Suffering in Silence with Crystal J.

Speaker 1: 5:55

This is day 14 and I have yet to leave my home. Just the thought of stepping outside gets my heart racing, my palms sweaty, my mind wondering. Anxiousness, doubt and confusion are leading my life right now. Just 14 days ago, my good life came crashing down. I thought I was living my life with the past, in the past mainly, since I have attended therapy several times, and when I say several times, I mean several times before Listening and continually nodding. My therapist said so. What I hear is or how does that make you feel? Each session I love feeling better and ready to take on the rest of the week, only to realize a few hours later that I didn't know how to reach the next step in my journey. So I could find myself again.

Speaker 1: 7:07

So now lying in bed, overwhelmed due to PTSD, which is post-traumatic stress disorder, and severe anxiety. I craved help. I was like the 53% of people who believe that therapy is a sign of strength and not a weakness, despite the 47% who believe that therapy is a sign of weakness, and there's an article on that. I was tired of not having the energy to eat, take showers or spend time outside of my bed. The need to have some socialization was non-existent, yet at the same time, it was existent because, in reality, I want to be myself again. I tried to laugh, watch movies and cook for my family, but the sexual assault and physical, mental, verbal and medical abuse had come flooding back in all at once and it rock bottom and had no way back up. The exhaustion from no sleep had also crept in my sleep, crying or yelling from the nightmare I had just experienced, wishing that I would feel better, and it would take me sometimes a few seconds, and sometimes what felt like forever, to actually recover and realize that that nightmare wasn't real. Unfortunately, I still had to deal with the inner pain, the suffering, the doubt and the confusion that I had while awake. There was no break, there was no way out from this nightmare of a life. I was exhausted and just wanted to go back to 15 days ago. The feeling of unwantedness had taken over my mind. Still, gratefully, I was about to embark on an empowering, transformational journey to self-discovery, where I would find myself again and become unstoppable.

Speaker 1: 10:16

It is life-changing to discover what it means to reclaim your identity and foster a life filled with love, growth and positivity. It begins with us delving into searching within ourselves to gain a positive mindset, become our authentic selves, cultivate healthy relationships, embrace independence and inspire growth through continuous learning, each step serving as a beacon of empowerment and transformation. Serving as a beacon of empowerment and transformation, it is designed for those seeking to break free from self-doubt, fear of abandonment, loneliness and confusion, to embrace clarity, self-worth and self-love. This narrative invites you to find yourself again, with confidence and resilience leading the way. Discover how to rebuild yourself from trauma and toxic relationships as we navigate through the pain and limitations, with empowerment woven in, with motivational words and uplifting guidance. During this journey, women and men will find the inner strength, personal growth and authenticity needed to improve their lives. So you can feel free right now to stop. And while you're stopping, I want you to stop and share this episode right now, with the first person on your mind. Have you done it yet? Now I dare you to unveil the powerful, resilient and authentic you. Welcome to your journey of embracing your personal transformation.

Speaker 1: 12:50

Embracing personal transformation is a courageous step towards self-healing and growth. It's about looking inward and acknowledging that rediscovering oneself may require change, openness and dedication. Transformation often begins with accepting past experiences, no matter how difficult they have shaped us. But remember they do not define our future. Because when I say trauma, trauma does not define you. And when I say that it does not define you, it left behind limitations. It left behind limitations. It left behind pain. It left behind self-doubt and confusion and even anger and maybe some guilt, but it doesn't define you and you don't have to live in that place, and I mean that from the bottom of my heart, because I was once there and I know that it's not fair.

Speaker 1: 13:48

You may even be showing up for everybody else, but then you feel guilty for showing up for yourself. But if you don't show up for yourself, who's going to show up for you? So then you show up for yourself and you get things done, and then you feel bad for showing up for yourself, because then everybody's like well, I would have done it, but would you have? Because you had to have the opportunity, but no one showed up for me. So I had to figure it out and I took care of it. That might be where you're living and that's what you might be. You might be where you're living and that's what you might be. You might be used to having to please everybody else in order for you to feel like you are accepted.

Speaker 1: 14:33

You may sit here and you show up and you support people, but when you say something that someone doesn't like or do something that someone doesn't like, then they want to make you feel guilty, not show up for you. They want to put you down, and then you're left alone, when that's part of why you're suffering in silence. It's because you don't want to be alone, because you have a fear of abandonment. It's because you don't want to be alone, because you have a fear of abandonment. That is why you're going through this personal transformation. This is why you're going through this to find yourself again, to where you're no longer living depending on your happiness being other people's happiness. Because it's time for you to find your own happiness, for you to live in it, for you to soar, for you to embrace empowered transformational healing, because that's what this journey is and it's yours. Sorry, I had to go on a rant real quick. Let's go back to it.

Speaker 1: 15:44

Personal transformation is a commitment to self-reflection, moving forward, setting intentions for who you want to become and taking actionable steps towards those goals. By engaging in the process, you assert that your past will not hold you captive and that you are ready to craft a life that reflects your true essence and potential and potential. This journey is about nurturing your well-being, learning to trust yourself again and opening up to new possibilities. It's a powerful declaration that you are ready to find yourself again and live a life that is authentically yours the uplifting power of self-discovery. Self-discovery is a transformative process that empowers you to understand your true self, beyond the roles and expectations imposed by others. It's a deep dive into your inner world, exploring your passions, your fears, your strengths and your limitations. This journey of honesty and self-discovery can elevate your sense of purpose and help you align your life with your deepest values. It's about peeling back the layers of who you think you should be to reveal who you truly are. As you become more in tune with your inner self, your decisions, relationships and your life path reflects your authentic identity. This alignment creates a sense of fulfillment and joy that is both uplifting and life-affirming. The power of self-discovery lies in its ability to transform how you see yourself and engage with the world around you and engage with the world around you.

Speaker 1: 18:31

Step one a look within self-reflection. Self-reflection is a critical first step in the journey of self-discovery and personal transformation. It involves taking a step back to assess your thoughts, feelings and behaviors objectively. This process can help you understand the why behind your actions and how past experiences influence them. It's about acknowledging your history, recognizing patterns that may no longer serve you and gaining clarity on your current state of being. Through self-reflection, you create the space to ask yourself important questions like who am I? What are my beliefs and values? How do my past experiences impact my present? Step one a look within self-reflection. Self-reflection is a critical first step in the journey of self-discovery and personal transformation. It involves taking a step back to assess your thoughts, feelings and behaviors objectively. This process can help you understand the why behind your actions and how past experiences influence them. It's about acknowledging your history, recognizing patterns that may no longer serve you and gaining clarity on your current state of being. Through self-reflection, you create the space to ask yourself important questions like who am I? What are my beliefs and values? How do my past experiences impact my present? Why am I stuck? Where do I want to be in six months? If you're seriously ready to answer for help you go deeper into discovering who you are because, like I said, self-reflection is the first step and in that you will also get another guide, and it's about I'm tired. Does this get any better guide? You'll get those two free guides at crystaljcom. Forward slash yes, it do. Okay. K-r-y-s-t-a-l-j-a-ecom forward slash yes, it do. Step two you don't belong here.

Speaker 1: 22:05

Changing mindset. Changing your mindset is a pivotal part of the journey to self-improvement and empowerment. This step addresses the negative thought patterns that can hold you back from realizing your full potential. It's about challenging the belief that you don't belong or aren't good enough and replacing it with a conviction in your worth and abilities. I'm good enough and I know I'm good enough. I'm more than capable. I can do all things Okay. A negative mindset can block healing and growth, creating self-doubt and fear that may stifle progress. To change this, you must first become aware of your inner talk and its impact on your mood and behavior. Then, through mindfulness and positive affirmations, you can shift your thoughts from self-criticism to self-support, to self-support. This transformation in thinking gets you closer to finding yourself again. It isn't easy, but you can cultivate a mindset supporting your journey towards a fulfilled and authentic life with commitment and patience, shifting to a positive, growth-oriented mindset.

Speaker 1: 23:56

Techniques for maintaining a positive outlook I told you I believe in techniques and skills and sharing them to where you can have them, in your tool bag. Even in the blogs and the articles I publish, there's action items. Okay, there's skills, because that is essential for continue lifing, but it's a lot easier with life continuing to be lifen when you have the skills and tools and techniques right there with you. Okay, now, maintaining a positive outlook can significantly influence your personal growth and happiness journey. To do this, begin by practicing gratitude. Keep a journal where you can regularly record things you're thankful for. No matter how small, gratitude helps shift focus from negative to positive aspects of your life. You know, that's why in the empowerment coloring book for women that along with the coloring pages there is check-in points that says today I'm feeling, and you can fill that in and then today I'm grateful for we do. I do those things on purpose with these check-ins, you know. And then once a week you have a bigger check-in and that is here in the Empowerment Coloring Book for Women. It includes the today I'm feeling positive affirmations. Today I'm grateful for something I'm proud of. I want more of this and less of this. What was my favorite moment of the day and tomorrow I look forward to that's the empowerment coloring book for women. Y'all, everything is created with a purpose.

Speaker 1: 26:05

Okay, another technique is to surround yourself with positivity, whether that means people who uplift you, environments that comfort you. I talk about how I like going to certain parks in my area or sitting by the river and, depending on how I feel that day, I go to different parks. One of the parks I go to that's in my area. It has like a little man-made slash that goes into a natural little waterfall type thing, and I like to sit right there and I'll journal sometimes, or I'll just sit there and I'll meditate and it's a soothing environment for me. So even the environments that comfort you.

Speaker 1: 26:48

It may be that you not leave your house and one thing I do is I use, like, different wax melts and I have the different smells for different feelings. Like, if I want one that is cool and refreshing, I do one certain um, like it's like a mountain fresh wax smell. Then there is, I think, right now in my office, it's cashmere and amberwood and it's like a, it's a soothing scent right In my bedroom. I have relaxing scents right. So, and then if I'm in the living room or even sometimes when I'm in my office, I have more of citrusy smells because those are more energizing sense. So even the, so you can even make the environment that you're in right now be comforting to you. If you're someone who's going to work and maybe you can't use the wax nails or the smells for Erica's because of whatever, you can even do different oils and smells and put them on your wrist and smell them. I used to do that, especially at my last nine to five. I would put soothing smells on my wrist, so then that way, or my forearms, where I could smell my wrist or my forearm to kind of calm my nerves and help soothe me. We're not even going to go there. Okay, why I had to have that? But yes, you know, you make your environment comfortable to you or you can do activities that bring you joy.

Speaker 1: 28:33

Mindfulness and meditation can also play a significant role in fostering positivity. By bringing your attention to the present moment, you can distance yourself from past regrets and future worries. Setting achievable goals and celebrating small victories can bolster your confidence and encourage a growth mindset. At Remember, a positive outlook isn't about ignoring life's challenges, but it's about facing them with hope and a positive growth attitude. Embracing a growth mindset means believing one can develop one's abilities and intelligence through dedication and hard work. It's about viewing challenges as opportunities rather than obstacles, and failures as lessons rather than setbacks. Okay, I want to say that one more time. Okay, it's about embracing a growth mindset, which means believing one can elevate your abilities and your intelligence through dedication and hard work. Right, you can do it. I believe in you. It's also about viewing your challenges as opportunities Instead of seeing your challenges as obstacles and failures. You will see your challenges as lessons and not setbacks.

Speaker 1: 30:38

Now to cultivate a growth mindset, start by acknowledging and embracing imperfections. Yes, I know it's hard to sit there and be like dang, like. I do talk with a funky attitude sometimes, even when I don't mean to. Okay, well, you know what, if you do talk with a funky attitude sometimes and you don't mean to, then work on your tone of your voice because sometimes it's the tone of your voice that hurts people and not necessarily the words they put up the blocks on hearing you because of the tone of your voice and not your words Okay, so let's work on that.

Speaker 1: 31:27

Having a healthy support system is give and give. It's not give and take. We be there for others as we want others to be there for us. Yes, there's going to be times to where you're going to sit there and be like you know what I love you, but right now I have too much on my plate that I don't even have the energy to listen. Right now Can you tap in somebody else on the team? That's a good thing, because we don't want to overwhelm someone else. We don't want someone else to overwhelm us, right, and so there has to be a balance. It's about also recognizing that you're a work in progress and that each step, even the missteps is part of the learning process. Again, it's about learning right, learning from what we go through. Shift the focus from proving yourself to improving yourself, point. Shift the focus from proving yourself to improving yourself. Ooh, I like that.

Speaker 1: 32:55

Now, letting go of damaging thoughts patterns. Identifying damaged behaviors and thought patterns. Recognizing the damaging behaviors and thought patterns that undermine your well-being. These can include self-criticism, negative attitudes and catastrophic thinking that anticipates the worst outcomes. Often these patterns are ingrained and automatic, making them challenging to detect and address. They may be challenging, right, but you can do this. I believe in you and I want you to say that you believe in you because you are more than good enough.

Speaker 1: 33:49

Listen closely to your inner dialogue. So that means listen to your inner self. What kind of self-talk are you having with yourself? Okay, what are you telling yourself? And be aware of when you might be labeling yourself unjustly Now with this, just like I tell my kids and I have them, do it to each other, and now they do it to the whole family. And just like we all try to do to ourselves, and especially me, I try to do it myself. If I notice that my inner self talk is talking to myself negatively, I tell myself three good things as a rebuttal, because we're not going to live in that negativity. We're going to celebrate our victories. We are going to celebrate the evolving that we're going through, the transformation process that we're going through. It's good to have a life coach. Y'all, I'm here. You're a life coach. You're a somatic, trauma-informed life coach. You're a who Am I expert who can offer an outside perspective on your behavior patterns. Okay, once identified, these detrimental thoughts and behaviors can be actively challenged and replaced with more constructive responses, marking an important step in the journey to finding myself again.

Speaker 1: 35:15

Learning to forgive yourself is a powerful step in letting go of the past and moving towards a future where you can find yourself again. You may ask why do I need to forgive myself? Well, if you are anything like me or any of my, you will realize that you allowed others to mistreat you and that you mistreated yourself by allowing mistreatment. Okay, that's deep. Yes, some are out of our control. Some of the mistreatment sometimes is out of our control. That's very valid, it is. But let's be brutally honest with ourselves. Okay, have you ever told yourself it is okay and maybe you deserved it, and maybe you deserved it? Wow, take that to heart y'all.

Speaker 1: 36:49

It is time for you to make the decision to let go of the past. It is time for you to say trauma, you don't define me. Anxiousness, you don't control me. Sadness, you can't keep me down. Fear, I laugh at you. It's your time to silence all the things that are running in your head. All the things that are running in your head.

Speaker 1: 37:31

It is time for you to say, yes, I do love me. And if you don't love you because there was times that I did that, that I was like oh, do I even love myself? I think I hate myself, I hate where I put myself. But you know what you can put yourself in a better position, but it's up to you. I can't make you decide to overcome the suffering and silence that you are experiencing. I can't make you stop living your life People pleasing everybody else Because you're afraid of being alone, that you're afraid of being abandoned, that you're afraid that no one will ever love you. Because one thing that I've learned Is that if you love you, because one thing that I've learned is that if you love yourself and you show yourself the love that yourself deserve, that you treat you the way you deserve to be treated. You're also showing other people how to love you, how to treat you, how to approach you. Approach you, but it starts with you.

Speaker 1: 38:56

Yeah, it may have sucked the things that you experienced growing up in life, you might have had a good childhood that has some pretty traumatic things happen but you cannot continue to live your life saying I'm this way because that is what happened to me, because you have the decision to be like you know what. I'm going to be better than that and I'm going to heal from that and I'm going to move on from that and I'm going to show what it means to really love, to really be in love, to really show up for others, to really know how to speak to other people, to how people knows how to speak to me and treat me, and I'm going to do them and treat the other people good and love them very well. I understand the pain. I've been there, but I can't continue to allow my past to control my now or my future, because if I allow that, then I'm going to allow the same cycles, if not worse, to go on to my children.

Speaker 1: 40:25

If I don't, if I didn't seriously heal from those things witnessing abuse, physical abuse, witnessing mental abuse, being cursed at, seeing that you're not worth anything, saying that you're worthless, calling you a b word, calling, telling you to go f something, telling you that you're, you're not worth anything in this life, that you you're stupid, that you're dumb, that you are not even worth being in this world. Witness that Times to where I've been told those things being hit on, being sexually assaulted, having having medical abuse, being disappointed by the people in church because that was supposed to be a safe space but instead I felt attacked and judged and not safe and not where a place where God would want me to be. I couldn't continue to live in those places, a place where God would want me to be. I can continue to live in those places and I can bring that hurt and that pain and that suffering and silence on with me for the rest of my life.

Speaker 1: 42:00

But then guess what your actions has reactions and their actions had reactions. And if you're still reacting from that, then guess what you're doing. Your actions are passing reactions to your children. Think about it. So the more that you cover it up, the more that you say that it's because of this. Yes, it is, it is, it's valid. But it's up to you to make the decision to no longer live in that pain. It's up to you to gain your life back. And honestly, if I'm being really real with you, it's not even about gaining your life back. It's about gaining a better life, having a purpose filled life, having the life that you envision for yourself.

Speaker 1: 43:10

But carrying that pain around, that trauma around, or ignoring it or thinking you can hide away from it, is not. I want you to ask yourself are you really hurting? Are you still hurting yourself? Because you may not be cutting yourself. I've tried cutting myself. You're not cutting yourself. You may not be swallowing pills or drinking the pain away, or smoking the pain away or shooting up the pain away or snorting the pain away. Are you ready to let go of the past? Look into yourself, embrace your vulnerabilities, learn from them so you can overcome them. Set your boundaries, develop a growth mindset, a positive mindset.

Speaker 1: 44:38

Defeat the inner self-talk that you have, the inner negative self-talk, self-talk that you have the inner negative self-talk, because one thing about that inner self-talk, especially when it's negative, is that we hear it so much it convinces us that that's what everybody else is saying and this is not what everybody else is saying. If you're saying, dang, this is too hard, here here's my hand. Let me be your guide, because I know it's not easy. Because I know it's not easy and I know sometimes you wish for someone who understands and someone who can help you reach that next level. Here's my hand Let me help you. Let me show you what empowered, transformational healing is. Let me help put more tools, skills, techniques in your tool bag that will last a lifetime.

Speaker 1: 46:05

Yeah, you're probably like man I've already been to therapy and that didn't help me. I still kind of felt lost, like it helped me a little and I'm back to where I can function, but something's missing. That's where you get a coach and I'm right here, equipped with tools, willing to give them to you. Are you ready? Because for the month of November, I'm doing a Black Friday sale and right now is the pre-sale. With this pre-sale, you get up to 40% off of services, whether you choose the coaching sessions or the six-month program. But it's up to you to take advantage of it and the pre-sale is going to last up until Black Friday. And then, on Black Friday and Cyber Monday, it's still going to be a sale off the services, but it's not going to be 40%. It's going to be less than 40%. I still going to be a sell off the services, but it's not going to be 40%. It's going to be less than 40%. I'm going to be honest. So this is my gift to you the 40% off the coaching sessions or the six month program you choose.

Speaker 1: 47:49

But it's your time to let go of that past, to overcome the suffering and silence for real, to begin healing for real. Because most likely right now, your actions that you are making today and yesterday and tomorrow Are actions that you are taking because of reactions. Those are your reactions To someone else's actions, and the people around you don't see them as reactions. They see them as your actions. Your kid or kids are seeing them as your actions, and guess what? Then? It's going to be their reactions.

Speaker 1: 49:02

It's time for you to say yes to finding yourself, to living your best life, living your purpose-filled life, to develop a positive mindset, to overcome the anxiousness, to overcome the doubt, to overcome the confusion and live in positivity. Have self-love, because I'm telling you, when you have the self-love, you can love yourself and you can love your people around you way more, better and clearer than you ever loved before. And that's just being honest. So how do you do this? So how do you do this? Go to crystaljcom forward slash Black Friday Pre-Sale it's K-R-Y-S-T-A-L-J-A-E forward slash, black Friday Pre-Sale and you get up to 40% off right now. And you have to make this decision for you. No one else can make this decision for you.

Speaker 1: 50:39

Okay, now I want you to do me a favor. I want you to do me a favor. I want you to share this episode to the first three people on your mind. I want you to share this episode with them. Then I want you to leave me a review so that I know that I'm giving you value. I'm giving you the golden eggs. Right, we use the golden nuggets. I'm giving you the golden eggs because you can break them and cook them and they can be ooh, yummy, goodness. Okay. And then, when you say yes to yourself and ready to have that guide, that coach, that sister, that friend to walk with you, go to crystaljcom forward slash Black Friday Pre-sale up to 40% off. Join me in part two. We're going to do steps three and steps four and, as always, remember you are not alone and you are enough when times get tough. Pray, listen and follow through. God loves you and trust me when I say he is not your trauma.