34. 1 Technique That You Did Not Learn in Therapy to Help You With The Stress of Family & Life

What if you could transform fleeting moments of peace into a lifetime of tranquility? 

Join me, Krystal Jae, The Empowerment Goddess, as I unravel my personal journey from high school therapy struggles to finding enduring healing after a mental breakdown. This episode is all about moving past temporary fixes and harnessing the power of rewiring your mind to overcome self-doubt and past traumas.

Discover how to break free from the shackles of guilt, fear, and shame, to embrace your true purpose in life. 

Together, we'll explore how a well-rounded toolkit of skills and techniques can lead to a profound sense of empowerment and self-discovery.

Imagine stepping confidently into a life unburdened by past traumas, anxiety, and self-doubt. 

In this enlightening conversation, you'll learn about "empowered transformational healing" and how it can lead to meaningful personal growth. With the help of one-on-one coaching sessions and the comprehensive "Who Am I" program, we'll uncover strategies to enhance self-awareness, increase cognitive abilities, and reduce stress. 

Say goodbye to silent suffering and people-pleasing tendencies, and hello to a purpose-driven life filled with peace, love, and positivity. 

This episode is your invitation to recognize your self-worth and understand that on this journey, you are never alone.

Chapters

• 0:00 Overcoming Suffering Through Mind Rewiring
• 9:42 Transformative Healing for Self-Discovery
• 21:47 Self-Discovery Program

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

I started attending therapy when I was in high school and I actually enjoyed the process. I would look forward to going to meet with my therapist that was there on the school campus. We had someone that would come in, that was outside of the school district and she would meet with me once a week and I looked forward to that day every week. I was actually a little sad when our sessions had ended Because, yes, I may have been through six, eight or 12 sessions, whatever it calmness, the feeling like someone understood me when I met with her a few days afterwards, but, believe me, after a couple of days, I was looking forward to that next session because I wanted to feel understood, I wanted to feel seen once again, and so, even after, there was this one thing that I didn't learn. That is what truly started making the difference in my life to where now I have clarity, I have peace, I have a tool bag of skills to reach from, because I heard this one phrase and I kept saying what does that mean? If that's what I need, what does that mean? Because at this time, I hadn't spent years off and on in therapy seeing different therapists, only to get that rush of peace and calmness, for a temporary setback later. It didn't last. I was good while I was there. I was good sometimes hours, sometimes days after, but then, once that was over, I needed something else. I need to figure out what to do with this part of my life. Once I go in there, I'm breaking down because I'm trying to figure out what is life and is it really supposed to be this way, and why did I experience the different traumatic experiences? Who would give me the answers? And a lot of time. I was met with a lot of good feedback, but I wasn't ever really equipped with tools to push me forward that I can take on my journey of life. And so, years later, after I've been going through therapy, I have a mental breakdown and with that breakdown, I'm out for weeks and months and I've checked out.

Speaker 1: 3:11

I'm not even sure if I wanted to do life any longer, but what I did know was that I wanted to be present for my children and that I wanted to be in their lives and I wanted to see them grow and I wanted to show them a better way of life. But how could I do that when I didn't know how? And I knew that doing the same routine of going to therapy wasn't going to help me, because something had to change. And I didn't know what that change was. And while I'm sitting in bed and praying, crying, sleeping, waking up with nightmares and being severely depressed, my body was full of heightened negative experiences. I knew that if I went back and did therapy the exact same way that I was doing it before, that all of this could come back, rushing in, reminded me of everything that I've been through in, reminded me of everything that I've been through.

Speaker 1: 4:28

What I realized in my broken state, when I finally decided that, yes, I wanted to be better, but really better not baseline, but truly better was that something had to change. I needed something that was truly lasting, that would equip me. I needed to really begin a healing journey. At that time, I thought I need to heal. That was my words. I need to heal. But now I know that healing is a journey and it's important. It is essential to have tools, to have techniques, skills, resources to go with you along the way, and this thing is what helped me make a true difference, a true transformations in their lives, to help us gain the clarity, the peace, knowing our purpose that we once needed, and you know what that one thing is. We're going to talk about it even deeper, but it started with rewiring my mind, so I'm going to tell you it's time for a lasting change, it's time for a true transformation, and it starts with rewiring your mind.

Speaker 1: 6:01

Now, let's get to it. Now let's get to it. Hey, hey, welcome. To Overcome Suffering in Silence, it's time for you to stop people pleasing and create your better life. I am Crystal J, the Empowerment Goddess and your somatic, trauma-informed life coach. This season has already started in a way I couldn't even imagine. Season has already started in a way I couldn't even imagine. Now, are you ready for some realness, raw healing and a glimpse into what it feels like to walk in peace, clarity and purpose, while truly knowing who you are? If your answer is yes, then you've come to the right place.

Speaker 1: 6:39

For the past two decades, I've been blessed to share my journey with countless women and a few men, empowering them to overcome the lingering shadows of physical, emotional, psychological and sexual abuse. Together, we confront the limitations that hold us back, like self-doubt, guilt, fear, shame and that pervasive sense of unworthiness. Dig deep to uncover the root of these feelings. Break free from the inner pain of suffering and silence, find faith, grow in that faith and embrace the life that is meant for you. Enjoy the real stories and practical advice, life-enhancing skills and spiritual wisdom to guide you from pain to purpose, self-doubt to confidence and confusion to clarity. So let's leave the struggle bus behind and embark on this journey to discover the freedom, beauty and strength that lies within you. Remember you are not alone and you are enough. When times get tough, pray, listen and follow through, because God loves you and trust me when I say he is not your trauma. Welcome to Overcome Suffering in Silence with Crystal J.

Speaker 1: 7:59

Have you ever found yourself trapped thinking what is there left for me to do? I have seriously tried everything to be my best in all my roles, but why do I still feel like a failure? Why am I not enough? I'm really getting tired of trying to be my best when it's not even good enough. So why even waste the time trying? Are you hearing the voice inside your head saying give up. This is the way life is and you just have to deal with it? But then, in the very deep area, you hear a really slight whisper that says life has to be better than this. And guess what it is and it can be. You could step into a life where it's worth your time, to where you know your purpose. To where you know your purpose, you know the steps you need to take to achieve the success and the goals and the accomplishments that you want, which, of course, succeeding them for yourself is also helping the people around you, because, at the end of the day, we want to take care of our tribe, our circle right, but we can't give everything that we have and leave nothing for ourselves.

Speaker 1: 9:42

So I want you to imagine that you are no longer a prisoner of the expectations, of the negative things that you've been through. You are no longer a prisoner to the traumas that you have experienced. You are no longer a prisoner to anxiety, to PTSD, to anxiousness. You are no longer a prisoner of you are not good enough. You are no longer a prisoner. What if I could tell you that you could discover who you truly are, free from all of that pain, all of the limitations, the self-doubt, the people-pleasing, the silent suffering. You could be truly free, because it's about embarking on an empowered, transformational healing journey that will truly empower you to discover yourself, to stop people pleasing tendencies, to stop suffering in silence and embrace who you are, embrace your goals and your dreams and embrace the peace, the love, the positivity that is available to you. You can have that.

Speaker 1: 11:18

I am an expert who is trauma-informed and I guide individuals just like you through the complex maze of self-discovery and personal growth. With a deep understanding of the struggles that are faced by people pleasers, I offer truly life-changing services that are truly designed for you to overcome the inner turmoil, for you to embrace a fulfilling, purpose-filled life that is better for you. I call it empowered transformational healing, because that's exactly what it is. With these one-on-one coaching sessions, you will be able to tap into your true potential. I will offer you a space that is safe, that you can truly explore your identity, understand your needs, your wants, identity, understand your needs, your wants, your values, your beliefs, your purpose, so that you are able to go for the life that you envision for yourself.

Speaker 1: 12:45

Then there's the six-month who Am I program, where we dive deeper, which helps you with trauma-informed care and somatic healing, moving you away from people-pleasing tendencies towards strength, towards peace and joy, while overcoming self-doubt, confusion and fear. As you discover who you are and establish success in your career, in your personal life, you will be able to live life without that overwhelming feeling of doom. So, are you ready to discover who you are? Embrace the things that are for you so that you can live life, your elevated life, your purpose-filled life, your better life. It doesn't have to continue to be a dream, because it's yours. So now, are you ready to take the step towards your best self?

Speaker 1: 14:15

Today, I want you to embrace this pre-sale opportunity to transform your life, to change your life for the better, and I'm not just saying that, and I'm not just saying that. Those are words that my clients use as they're going through this program and when they've continued on their journey of empowered, transformational healing. I want you to say hello to a future filled with clarity, love and and accomplishment, and join now. Take a step closer to the life that you deserve. Don't delay. It's time for you to sign up today. Truly sign up today, because now we're going to go into what really changed and how it changed and why it changed. You have to take action. Go to wwwcrystaljcom forward slash Black Friday pre-sell. There you will receive your 40% off discount code that's available for a limited time. Okay, now grab your pen and your paper and get ready to take notes. Are you ready?

Speaker 1: 15:44

All right, you may be living in a fight and flight response. Right, and most of the time when we're living in a fight flight freeze response, we are unaware that we're living there. All we know is that, despite being physically safe and being in our normal environment, we don't feel safe emotionally or spiritually. We are living a disturbed life. Basically, we are living a disturbed life basically. So being on high alert even in your normal environment, constantly worrying about if you are enough, if you can keep other people happy, your spirit is low and you are losing the strength to even pretend that you are okay. You may be even complaining about things, but are you truly going deep enough within yourself to get to what really needs to change? Because you don't have to stay stuck, suffering in silence and only you can make the ultimate decision for transformation.

Speaker 1: 17:02

Now, I'm not going to say that taking this step will cause you to all of a sudden win the lottery. I mean, I don't know who knows, I don't know who knows I don't but I do know that when you take time to truly go through this step that I'm about to share with you, it will change your aspects on life. You will feel relieved. You will gain clarity. You will feel like you are equipped with tools and resources to overcome. You will be able to live a life that is not controlled by sadness, by anxiousness, by overwhelm, by the silent voice in your head saying you are not good enough. This is an ultimate life changer that is going to stick with you for life.

Speaker 1: 18:13

Now is your brain and your mind working for the better. We experience emotions and are warned about dangerous situations. That's us living in that heightened response of fight, light, freeze. Our neural pathways, the reminders or warnings, can actually be strengthened and new neurons can be created with healthy habits. Now, the benefits of Rewind your Mind is that it will enhance your cognitive abilities. It will help you learn, adapt and remember Okay. It will help you to become more self-aware. It will help you to feel calmer and less stressed in your life. You will be able to make healthy choices that you are proud of by responding to your thoughts and feelings in the proper manners. It will help you cope with the intrusive thoughts and behaviors that you're having. You can do that with mindfulness. Now. Mindfulness helps us pay attention. So, basically, we are not judging ourselves and our own actions like we do right, we are silencing those negative thoughts, that inner voice that is pouring negativity within us, right, and we're going to stop focusing on the unnecessary faults and flaws. Another thing that will help is having regular physical activity. So I challenge you to take on new experiences, like traveling, like finding new routines. Instead of you taking the toll road to work, you're taking the back road to work, because maybe that scenery is just a lot more soothing than the hustle and bustle of traffic on the highways and the toll roads.

Speaker 1: 20:33

It's also about making sleep a priority. That's an important thing to do. We need to have sufficient rest. We need to eat well, giving our body strength and nutrients. We also need to know when to take breaks and that's not only just physical breaks, but also mental breaks and spiritual breaks to where we're taking time, to where we are really looking within ourselves, to clear our mind. Because how many times have your mind been running and running, and running and you've just been like gosh? I just wish you would just shut up. I'm trying to sleep right now or I'm trying to focus on this task at hand, and I can't because I have all these things running through my mind Instead of you being able to focus on one thing. You're focusing on sending an email, washing dishes, going grocery shopping when, all in all, if you did one step at a time, you'll have them knocked out in no time. Right? So rewind your mind. Includes all the things in the six month.

Speaker 1: 21:47

Who am I program? Teaching you to look within yourself, which helps you know yourself on a deeper level, will discover your wants, your needs, your values, your beliefs, your passions and your purpose. Embracing your vulnerabilities will help you be able to overcome those vulnerabilities. So, if it's fear that is keeping you rooted to where you can't move forward, you can dig yourself up, because this is an elevating experience. You'll be able to break the chains, allowing you to move forward on a clearer path to the life that you have been envisioning. You'll be able to have that better job, better finances, knowing your purpose, strength to take action and knowing what action to take. You'll be able to be a better parent, a better partner, a better spouse and, most importantly, a better you.

Speaker 1: 23:01

It's time for you to be proud of you, to be able to look within yourself as well. You will be able to establish the steps for your present and your future. You'll be able to learn and implement coping skills and begin living as the person you discovered along the way. So join the six-month who Am I program today and when you go to wwwcrystaljcom forward slash Black Friday Pre-Sale you will receive 40% off one-on-one coaching for the six-month who Am I program. So begin to rewire your brain and your mind today. It's time for you to take action and remember you are not alone and you are enough. When times get tough, pray, listen and follow through. God loves you and trust me when I say he is not your trauma.