Ep. 50 Safe, Seen, and Supported for Parents: Silent Struggles: How to Hear What Kids Can't Say

Is your child struggling with anxiety, low confidence, or acting out at home or school? Do you wish your child felt truly safe, seen, and supported, so they could thrive emotionally, socially, and academically?

In this video, somatic trauma-informed coach Krystal Jae (The Empowerment Goddess) shares proven strategies to help parents create a nurturing environment where children feel secure, understood, and empowered to be their authentic selves. Whether your child is battling stress, emotional outbursts, trouble making friends, or low self-esteem, you’ll learn practical tools to support their growth and well-being.

What you’ll discover:

How to help your child feel safe and heard, even during meltdowns or big emotions
Simple ways to boost your child’s confidence and self-worth at home
Tips for handling anxiety, school stress, or behavioral challenges without shame or punishment
How to foster open communication and trust, so your child feels comfortable sharing with you
Proven methods to build resilience, emotional intelligence, and healthy boundaries in kids
Results parents want (and what you’ll see):

Calmer, happier children who express their feelings in healthy ways
Improved behavior and stronger family connections
Kids who are more confident, independent, and emotionally resilient
Less stress and guilt for parents, gaining more peace and joy at home
If you want to stop the cycle of yelling, shutdowns, or misunderstandings and start seeing positive changes in your child’s behavior and well-being, this video is for you.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Recognizing Silent Struggles in Children
• 1:42 Understanding the Child's Brain in Crisis
• 2:24 Practical Somatic Tools for Connection
• 5:06 Breaking Generational Cycles With Understanding
• 9:36 Trauma-Informed Parenting Workshop Introduction

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:05

Hey, hey, I'm Crystal J, and if you ever looked at your child and thought something's wrong but I don't know what to do, you're not alone. With all the dangers that kids face today, especially online parenting can feel like we're walking through a minefield, right, you've probably heard about sextortion and digital predators, and it's terrifying, but awareness isn't enough. We need tools, we need language and, most of all, we need connection. We need language and, most of all, we need connection. Let's talk about how to recognize when your child might be silently struggling and what you can do to make sure that they feel safe, seen and supported, even when they can't say the words.

Speaker 1: 1:01

Sometimes kids don't say they're hurting. They show us, watch for sudden mood changes, pulling away, trouble sleeping, dropping grades or getting oddly attached or totally avoidant with their phone or iPad or computer or whatever device, or even an object. These aren't just behaviors. They're actually signals, and when you understand what's happening in your child's brain and body, you'll start to respond with calm and not confusion. You see, when a child feels unsafe, whether from an online thread or overwhelming emotion, their brain flips into survival mode. The amygdala takes over, triggering fight, flight or freeze their decision-making brain. It goes offline. They can't make the best decisions that they can make, and this isn't defiance, it's biology, it's science. And when you understand this, you can break the cycle. You can be the calm in their storm. And here are some things that you can do to start. Stay calm, put your hand on your chest, take a deep breath and say I am calm, I am here, I am calm, I am here, I am calm, I am here. You can validate their feelings Instead of you're fine, try, I can see, this is hard, I'm here when you're ready. Another thing is ask open questions. That way, you're not receiving that yes, that no, a bruh, right, you're hearing. You're asking them what's been on your mind lately. So then, that way, they can give you some feedback on what's truly on their mind, instead of just saying are you okay? And they're like Like, yeah, I'm fine, right.

Speaker 1: 3:44

These small shifts make a big impact and show your child that their emotions are safe with you, because sometimes our kids can't talk. That's where somatic tools come in, and these are even good for you, as a parent, to use. And these are even good for you as a parent to use, because there are times to where we just don't have the words right, so grounding right. One exercise I love to do is have them press their feet down right. Have they press their feet down on the ground and imagine roots going from their feet into the ground, grounding them, having them being anchored, rooted. And then, while they're doing that, they grab their hands and some do like this, some with the praying hand, some interlock their fingers. But either way, or you can just put them together and just push your hands together to where they can feel the strength of their souls and feel that they are present, that they are in the present, now, the Havening's Touch teach them to gently stroke their arms and say I am safe, I am okay, I am safe, I am okay, I am safe, I am okay, I am safe, I am okay, I am safe, I am okay, I am safe, I am okay.

Speaker 1: 5:31

Then there's shake it out, the little ones. They really love this one right, because they get to move. Teens. They kind of feel like, oh my gosh, I'm just being silly, but wiggle and put your shoulders up and down and dance around, just release the tension. At first they're going to be like, oh my gosh, I don't want to do this, especially the teens. But then, when you get them moving and relax and just let them be there, just shake out all the anxieties and the fears and the I don't knows.

Speaker 1: 6:03

And then there's the empowering, our path. I like this one because this is a thing that you can do together and you just make a simple path where you are, whether you want to make it fun and make it a path of pillows or a path of blankets, or go outside with some chalk and write a, draw a path in the driveway or on the sidewalk, and what you and what they're, what y'all are doing together, is you're walking the path. You start on one end and you go to the other. While you're on this path, you're naming what you want to let go of, or the things that you've been scaring to, been scared to say, or the things that are holding you back. And then they're thinking, and while you're doing this, you're also saying the things that you want into your life.

Speaker 1: 6:59

So if they're like oh, I'm so tired that this teacher keeps getting on me every time that I ask a question, I just don't understand why, but I want to make good grades in the class. Or I'm frustrated Okay Is what they're throwing away, but they're picking up. I want to be happy. It doesn't even have to be long sentences, or it could be just a single word Frustration, anger. I'm grabbing happiness, understanding. Listen to me, let them go through that path and throw away. Even if they're throwing away, like literally, like I throw away frustration, or I throw away that you don't listen to me, and I wish you could just hear me without fussing at me, because a lot of times that's what teens feel. They feel that if they come to us, we're going to fuss at them instead of actually listen to them, and so they might want to throw away that reaction that they're thinking that we're going to have and when we can really come in with listening ears.

Speaker 1: 8:18

Now, these practices help regulate the nervous system, restoring safety without needing words. You don't need to have all the answers. Your calm presence, your willingness to listen, your ability to respond instead of react those are the gifts that help our children feel safe, and when you combine that with tools like these, you're not just parenting, you're breaking generational cycles. You're teaching them tools to go on, even as they grow into young men and young women, into young men and young women, that they can then pass those positive tools to their children, to their great-grandchildren. Right, we're about break the cycle, build the vision, be the change. And if you've been longing to feel more confident as a parent, to finally understand what your child's behavior is really telling you and to create a home where everyone feels safe, seen and supported, this is your next step.

Speaker 1: 9:36

My three-hour trauma-informed parenting workshop is more than a class it's a transformation. You'll learn how trauma impacts your child's emotions and behavior, how to recognize hidden stress signals and how to respond in a way that helps them feel safe, even in the moments of meltdown or silence. We'll cover practical tools you can use immediately, like somatic grounding techniques and healing language that opens doors when words are hard to find. You'll also walk away with strategies to foster emotional resilience, strengthen your family bonds and advocate for your child in school, at home and beyond. And if you've ever asked yourself am I doing enough? Why is my child shutting down? How can I stop repeating patterns from my own childhood? Oh, I felt that. Have you felt that? How can I stop repeating patterns from my own childhood? Then this workshop is the answer you've been waiting for, and the best thing that I really love about it is that this workshop is CPD and CE accredited. So you get credit hours for you actually get a certificate for you actually get a certificate. And once 10 parents have joined the wait list, I'll open the next live session and you'll be the first to receive your invite.

Speaker 1: 11:36

This keeps the space intimate, impactful and deeply supportive Just the way real change happens. This is how we break the cycle. Build the vision, be the change. So let's create the kind of home your child and you deserve and you deserve Again. This is how we break the cycle. Build the vision, be the change.