Most Self-Improved

What is envy? Why we feel it and how to use it for good

Erin Jensen and Bhavana Chilukuri Season 2 Episode 8

It’s a four-letter word with a bad rap, but we’re going to talk about it anyway: envy.

We just exited “Why is everyone in Italy without me?”-season, but there are still times when we feel like we’re lacking or behind — as the only single girl at dinner, or intimidated by all of the influencers and CEOs on our #FYP that seem to have it all (and all figured out).

What’s wrong with us? (Spoiler alert: absolutely nothing!) And what can we do with those feelings? In this episode, life coach Stacy Kim reveals how to: 

  • Make envy work for you
  • Uncover what you truly want 
  • Take steps towards a more fulfilling life 

This green eyed-opening episode redefines this “negative” emotion into a driving force for self-improvement and success.


In this episode:

1:55 The social stigma of envy

3:53 Welcoming life coach Stacy Kim: “I love coaching high-achieving, big-hearted people”

06:31 Defining envy: When it’s benign and when it’s toxic

08:39 Cultural perspectives on envy

11:30 Dealing with envy in a healthy way: “Envy can often tell you what it is that you really want”

16:42 Remedying the sadness and resentment that can accompany envy

19:55 Hone in on what you truly want by letting envy be your guide

21:18 Other common challenges high-achieving women face

22:05 Stacy’s message for high-achieving women: “You’ve got this”


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For more information about Stacy and her teachings or to work with her, visit her website

You can also read her article on envy penned for The Washington Post. 

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