Let's Talk Midlife Crisis Podcast
Hosts Ashley & Traci are creating a community and empowering women going thru midlife and aging, exploring the topic of midlife crisis an all its complexities. This is a space where we can come together to share our stories, our experiences, and our perspectives on this pivotal moment in our lives.
Whether you're going through a midlife crisis yourself, going through menopause, dating in midlife or just interested in learning more about this fascinating topic, we invite you to join us for insightful conversations with experts, personal stories from real people, and practical advice on how to navigate this challenging time.
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Let's Talk Midlife Crisis Podcast
Unlocking Self-Awareness
How can understanding self-awareness and self-control transform your midlife experience? Join us in this riveting episode of Let's Talk Midlife Crisis as we unpack our personal journeys with habits like smoking and drinking wine. We delve into the power of mental determination, the significance of setting realistic goals, and the baby steps needed to stick to wellness commitments. By reflecting on our motivations and the often futile reliance on self-improvement gadgets, we aim to provide practical strategies that truly work.
Ever found yourself frustrated with airport security or overwhelmed by new technologies? We share a fascinating recount of navigating the inconsistencies in airport security protocols, complete with a personal encounter with a rude staff member. But it doesn't stop there. We discuss the broader challenges of adapting to new job processes and technologies, emphasizing the importance of staying current despite the discomfort of breaking old habits. Our candid conversations provide valuable insights for anyone grappling with the ever-evolving nature of life's demands.
From wrestling with the media's portrayal of violence and suffering to grappling with the growing issue of homelessness, we tackle some of today’s most pressing social issues. Highlighting the need to sometimes disconnect for mental health, we draw parallels to historical chaos and the quest for truth amidst biased reporting. We round off the discussion with a spotlight on finding fulfillment in careers aligned with our passions, the importance of seeking joy in everyday life, and how to cope with uncertainty and unexpected life events. Tune in for an episode that offers both practical advice and heartfelt reflections, inviting you to join the conversation on our website and social media platforms.
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Hello and welcome to let's Talk Midlife Crisis with your hosts, ashley and Tracy. Pull up a chair for your seat at the table as we talk about self-awareness.
Speaker 2:Okay, so I'm getting over some kind of bug, so I have that sexy, raspy voice. We might have to stop a few times if I cough, but just excuse, you know I sound a lot different, I know that.
Speaker 1:So last, I think last week, it was me that was sick, so that's funny.
Speaker 2:We're just taking turns, Um. So I found this um list of questions that are thought provoking to help you become more self-aware, and it had like 50 questions provoking to help you become more self-aware. And it had like 50 questions. I kind of went through and selected a few that I felt were probably most relevant to you know, middle age and I think that I could relate to as well. So I'm just going to kind of wing this. I did not put answers down or anything, so I'm just going to talk to it. I think it's going to kind of wing this. I did not put answers down or anything, so I'm just going to.
Speaker 1:I think that's good. I think it's going to be more natural and, yeah, less scripted.
Speaker 2:So I think that's good. So the first one was how much self-control do I have with things that I know are bad for me but tend to indulge in?
Speaker 1:Oh, that's a good one. We know the answer for me.
Speaker 2:Very little everyone.
Speaker 1:We know the answer for me very little, very little self-control. I don't know, the smoking thing is is still haunting me, but just because I don't doing great, though yeah, just because I'm not buying cigarettes and smoking every day doesn't mean right that, when I do smoke on occasion, that it's. You know it's hard when you're around it.
Speaker 2:You, you know when you, when it's not there, it's easy to just get through, yeah, but then when it's there, it's hard, Um, which is where I'm having an issue. I, especially after getting this bug that I recently got, I thought you know what? I've been sick quite a bit this year and it's probably time that I really take it seriously to quit smoking. Um, it's something I've been wanting to do, but I just haven't really. I've just been really weak and not, you know, disciplined and and just kind of like, eh, screw it. Um. But now I'm kind of at the point where, okay, this is not good, this is only going to get worse. Um, so I need to take it seriously, Um, and for me it's all mental.
Speaker 1:It's all mental. So when I originally, originally quit smoking, it didn't bother me to be around people that were smoking. Okay, you know, because I was so mentally sound, right and determined, you know, and I somewhere in the years I lost all that right and I now in my mind I think, oh, it's okay, just have one you or whatever. So I believe that for this specific instance of smoking and quitting smoking, that it's 99% mental.
Speaker 2:Yeah, absolutely, and you've just got to find that willpower, you know.
Speaker 1:But then I feel bad after I do it.
Speaker 2:So, that's sad, you know, so yeah, yeah, so that's a big one for me. And then I think, too, just indulging on, you know, having a couple glasses of wine at night, it's like why I don't need to. I don't need to do that, you know, and it's become such a habit now and I don't think it's a problem.
Speaker 1:It's just one of those things where I'm a habit. You just nailed it yeah yeah, and so again, self-control.
Speaker 2:I just need to go.
Speaker 2:You know what one is okay or I don't need to at all you know, I can save it as a treat for the weekend and have a glass of wine, um. So that's another thing that I really kind of because I, you know, obviously these questions really made me look, you know, self-reflect and things like that. So I was trying to think of the things that that really I probably don't take as seriously as I should, right? So so those are things for me, I think. For you know, it's a lot of different things for a lot of different people. It could be eating, it could be, um, watching too much tv or too much time on your phone, um, it could be anything working too much.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, working too many hours, that's.
Speaker 2:I mean. That's that right. There can be an addiction yeah, you know yeah. So the other one is how motivated am I to change my life for the better, which I felt like kind of tied into this. Yes, again, how can I be better? You know, in as far as my health goes, not just emotionally, but again that's. You know, in as far as my health goes not just emotionally, but, um, again that's, you know. I think it ties into that. And then, how much do I follow through on what I preach and talk about?
Speaker 1:oh that's a good one. That's a good one because all of the above I mean we talk about healthy, being healthy and diet and exercise, but am I?
Speaker 2:are we practicing, not right?
Speaker 1:no. And then I try and I think with me, I buy these things like gadgets, if you will like. I bought an electric bike so I can go out and ride and get exercise and stuff and I don't use.
Speaker 2:It sits in the garage. Yeah, I have a bike, too that I haven't touched in probably two or three years. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:So I think that, how do you overcome that? I guess maybe just by setting goals and you know, and sticking to them, and even if it's baby steps, right.
Speaker 2:And, like you said, you know we preach all this on our podcast and I do it with my kids too, right, and to each other, yeah, yeah. And yet I'm not practicing those things myself. And when I think about all the changes that I want to make to be a better person or be more healthy, I get overwhelmed, yeah. And so for me it was kind of like okay, ashley, let's one step at a time, let's focus on one thing. Yes, you'll get there, you'll get new habits, you'll get new activities, but let's just focus on one thing at a time. And for me it was like what is that one thing? And obviously smoking is what's affecting a lot of my health, yeah, and my energy yeah, and my drive right you know.
Speaker 2:so I think, just starting with that, focusing on that until I feel like I'm in a good place to go okay, now I can target this, you know, and I'll feel better all around. So it'd be easier to do that, and I for smoking.
Speaker 1:I used to use, um uh, self-hypnosis. Oh, that's right From, and I would. There was a couple of tracks on YouTube that I really liked.
Speaker 1:Maybe it was just the voice you know the sound of the voice was very calming and appealing to me, um, over other ones, but there was like one or two that I really, really liked, and I keep telling everybody the one was a very short one, it was like a 12 minute clip, but it was about this guy and he was saying that, um, you know, you're not really addicted to nicotine. They want you to think that you're addicted to nicotine, but you're not, and nicotine gets out of your system in what are eight hours, a short amount of time, yeah yeah, so theoretically, every morning when you wake up, you're a non-smoker and it's until you smoke that first cigarette.
Speaker 1:So that was the first one and um that I that I um, listened to or watched and I really liked and it resonated with me, it made a lot of sense and I used that positively.
Speaker 1:And then there was another one that was probably about an hour long, but what I would do is I would turn it on when I would sleep at night oh and then it would loop overnight so it's like a soothing voice and yeah in your sleep and so maybe it was hitting me more subconsciously right than anything like I would always try to focus in the very beginning, because it's like stare at something in the room you know and count down and all these things, and I would do that, but then I would not fall asleep yeah, and it's okay, but I felt like it was still helpful, even though it was. You know, I would do it at night.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean it, mean it's, I've heard. So I've quit before several times and I was pregnant three times, quit all those times, right. And then I quit again much later and had not smoked for about three years and had something stressful in my life happen and I needed a device and immediately turned to that. And they say that when you do that it's harder to quit the next time, right. So because I, when I quit that time it was so easy, it was like you know what I am done with this.
Speaker 2:Right, and I just can't seem to get to that point this time yeah. And I honestly get anxiety when I start thinking about it, yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1:So I really think that hypnosis would benefit me. It might help. So you know, poke around and see what you can find. I'm happy to send you the one that I listened to, thank you or used to, but um.
Speaker 2:So this is kind of moving into a different segment, um, and it's more about how you're handling things um that come up in your life in general. Um, the first question is how do I deal with negative people? The difference between the way I handled some of these things when I was younger versus how I handle them now. So I think maturity has a lot to do with that. But even still, sometimes it's like we really need to check ourselves and be like why am I letting that upset me? Why am I reacting the way that upset me? Right, you know? Yeah, why am I reacting the way that I am Dealing with negative people? I feel like I've gotten a lot better at kind of going eh, that's their problem, it's not mine.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but sometimes you know people are just mean. Yeah, you know People can just be mean for no reason, Right Like random strangers you know like a clerk at the counter or something and it's like, boy, they must be having a bad day All the time and it's kind of hard not to react to it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, One of my examples that I thought of. So when we went to Florida recently, we got to the airport and you know they keep changing the process. I feel recently it's changed several times on how you get through security. Now they have the eye, the facial recognition thing oh, you know I haven't been through that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, so it's this machine and you hand them your id and or maybe. I feel like every airport's different. Sometimes they still want your id and your boarding pass. Sometimes they only want your id. They don't care about your boarding pass.
Speaker 2:But they link it to yeah yeah so, but you look into this, you know machine, and it's like it, I don't know, there's a laser or something that like goes into your eyes, I don't know, takes a picture of you. Um, anyway, like I said, I feel like it's kind of different everywhere I go. So I walk up immediately, put my phone on the boarding pass thing right and go to hand her my ID. And she said what are you doing? Oh? And I said I'm sorry, what, what am I supposed to do? And she's like well, let me walk you through this. She was just so rude about it and I was like okay, and I just walked away thinking that was really weird. And then I went into a shop and got some snacks or something, and the girl was really short with me there and I'm like what is going on?
Speaker 1:This is so strange. Is it the whole world?
Speaker 2:Yeah, but I really to me it was like and maybe it was because I was about to go to Florida, I was in a good mood anyway, but I really was just kind of like I'm not going to let that affect me, Right. You know, Good for you. But like you said, yeah, it happens everywhere all the time. Yeah, but I really was kind of like I'm not going to let that change my mood or affect me. I did vent to my partner about it a little bit.
Speaker 2:I'm like what's going on? Did I do something?
Speaker 1:Or people that you work with. Yeah, that could be a big one too.
Speaker 2:Absolutely I deal with that a lot and especially in this day where everything is email, it's really hard to read people when you're getting emails and it seems really short. It's like are they being assholes or?
Speaker 1:am I just reading it that way, you know? Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:Um. Another one is how do I deal with challenges in my life, and this kind of ties into a couple of other questions that were in here. How do I deal with change like a new job, a new house, new lifestyle, new rules, new people, new technology, which is very challenging?
Speaker 1:at our age?
Speaker 2:Yes, do I tend to avoid it or worry about it. So I think those can kind of tie in with challenges and I feel that I get, when we have new processes and new technology, you know new systems to learn. I get really frustrated and I just think I don't even want to deal with this. I'm just going to let my assistant do it all. But it's like no, I need to learn this, I need to be on top of it. I can't just like hand it off.
Speaker 1:I am a creature of habit, so when new processes and new procedures go into place. It's generally frustrating for me. And I get a little bit flustered and just want to avoid it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, right, yeah. So those are things that I feel like I could probably work on a little bit. How do I deal with the violence, hate and suffering in the world?
Speaker 1:That's a good one. There's a lot lately. Watching the news is terrifying. Yeah, yeah. There's a lot lately Watching the news is terrifying, yeah yeah, and scary.
Speaker 1:I go through phases where I just I don't watch it and then phases where I do right now I'm watching it a little bit, um, but as we come into a political season I'm going to have to disconnect from that. Um, but I like to know what's going on in the world, right, right, um, but I like to know what's going on in the world, right, right, but there is so much suffering, there is just terrible, so much craziness out there, and then I think you know like it's now, it's the times, it's this, it's that. But then as I go back and look at times in the past as I said, I just watched this documentary on John Belushi and I'll watch things, documentaries and stuff where it brings you into the past and it's like, well, they thought the world was pretty messed up that bad too, yeah right, so it's nothing new.
Speaker 1:so, for some reason, and like you had said earlier, maybe it's just our eight. Yeah, right, because I never paid attention before right and now I'm, even if I knew, paid attention before Right and now I'm even.
Speaker 2:If I knew about it, I did, it didn't really. I didn't let it affect me directly. No, it didn't.
Speaker 1:And I don't know.
Speaker 2:I think that's because we were invincible and younger and I think pertain to us or you know some other reason, but but yeah, it's affecting me a lot too yeah, but I do believe that it has gotten worse I agree and I not that I'm like a you know big believer in this fake news thing, but I do think that, depending on what network you're watching, right, you're getting different sides of different stories and I, and I do know that they're only sharing with us what they want to right, what they choose to right.
Speaker 2:So I find myself getting really frustrated. Frustrated and actually understanding and knowing what the truth is and what's really happening and trying to research so that I can get kind of a neutral description of it.
Speaker 1:Find out what the truth is Right. And another documentary that I watched because I just love documentaries was Rather.
Speaker 2:Oh wasn't that good, it was good. Did you see that? Yes, I watched, because I just love documentaries. Um was Rather. Oh wasn't that good, it was good. Did you see that? Yes, I watched it on the plane.
Speaker 1:Yes, so, and then you just fall in love with him. I know he was a truth seeker he was one of the original, you know newscasters. When they started doing primetime news right um off of the radio onto television, he, he made a lot of really cool changes in journalism.
Speaker 2:Yes, he really did. Yeah, he kind of paved the way yeah.
Speaker 1:So yeah, but what is the truth? And for me too, when I went to the grocery store yesterday and there were several camps, if you will, of homeless people, it was really bad this weekend.
Speaker 2:Really bad people.
Speaker 1:Oh, it was really bad this weekend really bad, and so I think a lot of people flock to arizona because of the weather, which, you know, nine months out of the year is perfect, but now we're rolling into our summer months, right, and it gets really hot. Um, but there's just so many. It's terrible. Now, phoenix reminds me of la of southern california, and it's been like that there for a long time right, it's still that way yeah, but not only us.
Speaker 1:And then you know Hawaii too but, I think it affects states that have better weather yeah, more so than other places, but I think that is just an epidemic in itself, right, this homelessness and and how does your heart, not you know, break for them, break for them? So I don't know. And then I had some money out for a guy, because every street corner. I don't think that Phoenix disallows this no, and it's not illegal to beg on the corner. So literally every single corner of every intersection has people begging for money and I was feeling good, you know one day.
Speaker 1:So I grabbed some money out of my purse to give to somebody. I rolled down my window, I was whistling and that person never came over. Finally the light changed. I'm like, okay, whatever, but my kids used to bust my chops about that. You know, they're like mom, they're just taking that money to go. You know, buy drugs, yeah, and it's like you know what you can't. You have to judge non judgmental. You know what you can't.
Speaker 2:You have to non-judgmental.
Speaker 1:You have to just give for the sake of giving Right.
Speaker 2:Hopefully they're not and don't judge them or want to.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, but I think now maybe I feel more so than ever, but I think it's always been there, mm-hmm, I just perhaps wasn't in tune with it, but now more than ever I think that that's, you know, important. And with inflation and stuff, I think it's going to definitely divide, you know, lower income from upper income. I mean there's middle income might go away again.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think majority of people are just a paycheck away from being homeless. You know, yeah, and yeah, like you said, with inflation now, it's really difficult to even buy groceries, right? So let alone, you know, pay rent and right, um, yeah, it's very challenging and I do. I find myself getting frustrated because a lot of the ones that I see are really just out of their minds. They're nodding off standing up, yeah, and it's terrifying to me and I think that's perhaps as drugs but a lot of it is mental illness.
Speaker 1:That right our country and our government just doesn't take seriously and doesn't put enough resources behind it. Right, and I think it starts with the vets right the people who have fought for our country here. It is it's Memorial Day weekend, so we should be, you know, um thankful for those who served for us. Right, but after they serve, it's like you know, yeah, they're wiping their hands.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, um, yeah, I think that one thing I mentioned to my partner, um, was that I would love to just kind of print out, like some brochures, or even just a flyer with a list of resources that are available because I think that they're not aware of what is there, right? I agree that there's not enough, but there is something and I think I'll leave. A lot of them just don't even know about it, and I would love to just when.
Speaker 2:I see them hand those out and be like hey, if you're looking for help, here's some resources. Yeah, you know. And a bottle of water, yeah, yeah, yeah, I buy bottles of water all the time. And Gatorades, yeah, um. Another question was how do I deal with, um, emotional pain? That's one that I have really struggled with in the last year and, again, I think it's a lot of the reason I've turned to my vices so much.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because that's how we deal with our emotional pain, exactly. So now I'm at a point yeah.
Speaker 2:And I started therapy, so that helps me deal with a lot of it. But now I'm at a point where I'm like I need to get control of my vices. You know, I'm I'm finally learning to manage with all this emotion that has been so overwhelming. Um, but that's I mean. And everyone deals with those things in different ways. Um, you know, some people prefer to work out right, some people prefer to read God bless you all, meditate, yeah.
Speaker 1:There's a lot of different ways.
Speaker 2:I'm like give me a Xanax Right. Medication does help some people. Not everyone's open to therapy, and that's okay.
Speaker 1:I'm just kidding, they're not yeah.
Speaker 2:Well, I mean, sometimes you need it, sometimes just to get through a period, even if it's not long term, right. Sometimes you it to help you get through that, because glass of wine right, or you know a cigarette right, yeah, so, yeah. So that's definitely one thing to check yourself on. Um, how do I respond to new ideas and new ways of thinking? That kind of goes back to change um, but I I liked the part of that question that said new ways of thinking, yeah, um, which again, is something that I've really been trying to practice, um, and that affects the way I respond to things and handle things.
Speaker 1:Well, I like to think that I am very receptive of new ways of thinking and I'm very open to it because, let's face it, I don't have all the answers, just somebody else with maybe a different perspective of something you know is very enlightening and can be very helpful.
Speaker 2:I think that we admire and accept that more as we get older. Yes, just having conversations with people about things and getting different perspectives, right, you know Right and new ways of thinking I do, I embrace it, I like to think that I embrace it.
Speaker 1:Getting different perspectives right, you know, right, um, and new ways of thinking I do, I embrace it, I like to think that I embrace it. And perhaps I don't always act on it or, you know, move forward in that direction, but maybe it makes me pause, you know, and think about it and think, oh, maybe it's not you know, so black and white maybe there is know more to it, or whatever. Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2:Um, how do I deal with uncertainty, the unknown or a future event that I have no control over? That one's kind of scary for me.
Speaker 1:Yeah, me too.
Speaker 2:Especially with, you know, the loss of family members recently.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:I find myself really again thinking okay, I need to live a healthier lifestyle because you know as you know, my mother-in-law passed away unexpectedly at the age of 62, very suddenly, and you just never know.
Speaker 2:And losing her so unexpectedly really opened my eyes to like, wow, I could fall over dead tomorrow. I could. So I really do. It is important to me now to figure out how to live a healthier lifestyle so that doesn't happen to me. Um, and I find myself kind of panicking sometimes. Yeah, if I think about it too much, yeah well for me.
Speaker 1:Oftentimes I have this bad habit of I don't know if it's a bad habit, it's just a um of the way that I deal with things and I'm very introverted in a lot of things. So when I have a lot of things that are hitting me, that are devastating, um, I keep them in and I usually just with my depression, I honestly, in life and depending on what we're talking about and what's happening, but there are situations that make me want to just curl up into a little ball and lay in bed.
Speaker 1:And it's not that I haven't done that before, but then it's like okay, tracy, you've been in bed for two days now, you need to get up. And I force myself to get up and function and push whatever it is out of my mind, but there's generally a point where I just have to kind of wallow in it if you will yeah absolutely, and I think the key for me is the reason that it works for me is because I'm able to push myself out of that when I'm in there, right or I have friends that are like, oh, we know what's happening.
Speaker 2:You know they don't say that, but it's like we know what's happening.
Speaker 1:Let's you know, draw her out. Yeah kind of thing, and whether it be you know co-workers or just you know friends, um, but I feel like, depending on the circumstances, there are a lot of scenarios that put me into that, where I feel that I'm out of control, that I don't have control, and again, I am a control freak. So when I feel that I have no control over the circumstances that are happening and they are really, really bad, I just want, want to curl up.
Speaker 2:I'm kind of the same way, for I'm a fixer, yeah, and if I can't fix it, yeah, I lose my mind. Yes, I lose my mind. So, yeah, I, I can relate to that. Um, and sometimes you just need to lay in bed, right? Sometimes you just need to have a day, okay, exactly, yeah exactly as long as it doesn't progress into something right.
Speaker 1:And I think it's okay to be depressed and yeah, and sometimes now, you know, in my later years, I can identify it right. You're like right, like what's wrong with me? What's wrong with me? Oh my gosh, I am depressed, right. And and then try to, you know, dig my way out of well, I think that's healthy.
Speaker 2:I think, recognizing your behavior and why you're behaving the way you are and then going okay, like how am I handling this and how can I handle it differently, right, you know?
Speaker 1:um, you said again just, you got to check in on yourself, yeah, constantly and it may be a coping mechanism that you do have right, and perhaps it's not a bad thing right, but just know when to stop and say okay, enough, enough, or get ask for help whether it's a friend or help therapist or a coworker, whatever it is.
Speaker 2:Sometimes you just have to ask for help and say you know what. I just need to talk to someone, or I just need to not think about this. Can we go do something? Yeah, stay busy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, different things. Yeah, staying busy generally helps me. Me too.
Speaker 2:Yeah, or I'll throw myself into work, which isn't always a good thing, but it's okay, they pay me to do that, so it's okay, right, okay, going into a little different segment here for the end of our episode how do I spend my free time? How much do I prioritize spending time and energy on myself and on my passions? That's, I think, also something that can really help with those moments of depression or being overwhelmed, or, yeah, is really thinking about that and taking care of yourself.
Speaker 2:Yes, it's okay to be busy and worry about everybody else and ignore, but you really do have to take care of yourself, you do and do the things that you enjoy, that bring you, you know, happiness and joy right.
Speaker 1:So and I tend to surround myself with my friends that even you know, on friday we went out, excuse me, and I was like, oh, the next day, although I was hungover I was like texting. I'm sorry if I was such a drag and I'm like lol because drag is such an old-fashioned term. But I just felt like I was like a stick in the mud.
Speaker 1:But nobody noticed, you know which is funny, but um, but I try to um, definitely follow my passions and I preach that a lot, especially to my children. I do too. And about career oriented and it's like oh, just find what you're passionate about and then let's figure out how to make money off of that right because. I just feel that that's so important. You spend so much of your time working, yeah, that it's wonderful to find something that you're passionate about.
Speaker 1:You enjoy and I and enjoy and I guess I enjoy what I do. It's just I've done it for so long. I can't imagine a life you know doing anything else. Yeah, um, I can imagine it, but I'm like things that I used to think I wanted, like oh well, my kids grew up, I'm just going to become a flight attendant and travel the world for free. And then, when I worked and traveled all the time, like you can't pay me enough to be to do that, to travel, to be a flight attendant and deal with all those people right, um, and I don't even think it pays all that well until you have senior.
Speaker 1:I know, I know positioning, but I think being passionate about stuff is very important and I feel that at times I'm overly passionate about a lot of things you know and I don't know, it's not a bad thing?
Speaker 2:I don't know if that's a bad thing no, I don't think so yeah yeah, I mean there's different things that people um like to do in their free time and that they like to do to help them, you know, get out of a rut of depression or whatever. It might be A lot of them, you know. We've talked about different things, like finding a friend to go walks with in the morning or going to a cooking class. Right or you know any yoga classes, anything that you know.
Speaker 1:Find something that feels good, yeah, and that you really enjoy and, you know, find something that feels good, yeah, and that you really enjoy. And speaking of cooking classes, there is a cooking class next Saturday. I think it's a third, but it's at a restaurant out in Scottsdale. I have it written down. Actually not written down, because I'm not that old, I did use my phone and my notes on that one. But it's making mozzarella cheese, oh.
Speaker 1:Homemade mozzarella cheese Like who I, oh, homemade mozzarella cheese like who. I would love to go to that right and it's. I wish it was not next weekend. I don't know if I'm gonna go, but, um, it's just something that I heard about, that I thought about and I thought that sounds like fun yeah, I want to learn how to do that.
Speaker 2:I mean, there's yeah, if you can't make it to a class, there's so much on youtube, so you could get a bunch of friends together, right. Pull up a youtube video and do it yourself in your kitchen.
Speaker 1:You know, have your own cooking class, right, but it would be nice and perhaps to meet other people, right, if you were to go out to the venue and do it, and that was just something I heard about on the morning news. Like I said, that I probably won't be watching for too much longer. Um, it's an independent station so it's not affiliated, like you know, nbc abc that has that political affiliation to it, so to speak. But in any event, there are some things and maybe by watching a local news in the morning or a local like those shows after the morning news, right.
Speaker 2:They're talking about stuff in your area Exactly, and what to do and things to do right.
Speaker 1:Um, if not google it, for goodness sake?
Speaker 2:right, absolutely. It's all at our fingertips it is it is these days um the last two questions how do I recharge, rejuvenate and replenish my energy, and how fulfilling is my everyday life? That's a hard one right now.
Speaker 1:I know how know how do I reach hard? Well, as I mentioned before, I usually end up having to go into some kind of um you know, like a little self-pity party if you will, and then I thrust out of that and that's when I have my motivation and energy and think, you know, of new things to do and stuff like that.
Speaker 2:So but on a day to day basis I don't generally yeah, it's difficult for well, and and the fulfilling um of my everyday life kind of hit me too. It's like I find myself really just kind of in a rut because I've mentioned you know I'm kind of burned out with my job and I'm really wanting to start kind of a new career, but I haven't really done much to make that happen Right.
Speaker 2:So it's like I need to just jump in and just go. You know what I'm going to do this. It's going to be hard, but I'm going to do it. It's going to be hard, but I'm going to do it. And I think that's where I'll kind of start to feel some more fulfillment, because right now I'm just allowing myself to be in this rut and I'm not. I'm not doing anything about it, right?
Speaker 1:So I think that you're spot on with that. And fulfillment we talked about that recently and it's difficult when you know to to have that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, especially when you have a lot going on in your family or even with friends or work. Whatever it might be, it can just be very overwhelming and not fulfilling. So, you really have to seek those things out, to allow yourself to be grateful and happy, even if you have to force yourself to do it.
Speaker 1:I find that oftentimes I'll have to force myself to do something, but then, once I've done it, I feel good, you feel good, yeah, so maybe do that, maybe force yourself and see what happens. And that just about wraps it up for today. Thank you for joining us on. Let's Talk Midlife Crisis Embrace the change.
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