Let's Talk Midlife Crisis Podcast
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Let's Talk Midlife Crisis Podcast
Relationships, Identifying Red Flags & 11 Dating Rules
Ever tried to rekindle an old flame only to wonder how many times is too many? You're not alone! This episode, we mix humor with wisdom as we tackle the age-old question of when to stop reconciling with an ex—our verdict? Two attempts should suffice. Join us in a lively chat about ghosting etiquette, where we stress the power of communication to keep things respectful and clear. Plus, we navigate the murky waters of staying chummy with an ex's family, especially their mom, and the potential complications it can bring to the table.
As we journey through midlife dating, we unravel the evolution of relationship preferences and the importance of spotting red flags. Remember those butterflies? They might just be anxiety in disguise! We explore the thrill and perils of moving too quickly in relationships, offering sage advice from our own experiences. For those braving the modern dating scene, we've got you covered with tips on keeping options open, planning successful dates, and the art of sending—or not sending—that elusive thank-you text. Whether you're pondering your own romantic escapades or just here for a laugh, you're in for a relatable and insightful ride.
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Welcome to let's Talk Midlife Crisis.
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Speaker 1:So grab your favorite drink and settle in for some laughs and insight. You're in good company.
Speaker 2:Relationships and the 11 dating rules you should probably try to follow. Okay, yeah, so I just thought this was kind of funny and I thought it's good banter and, of course, as as always, we'd love it to be interactive. So let us know what your thoughts are. Here's a couple questions. First one is how many times is too many times to get back with your ex?
Speaker 1:oh gosh. I know I've been guilty of doing it way too many times.
Speaker 2:I'm sure I was my last ex gosh. We were on again, off again, so many times and the last time I knew it wasn't going to work but I stayed in it and it was like why.
Speaker 1:I think it really depends on how healthy the relationship is. And again, is it healthy if you're breaking up and getting back together? Probably not, I don't know. Yeah, I mean my last marriage. We were together a total of six years, that's right, and I can't even begin to tell you how many times we broke up and got back together, and that was even before we got married. We were only married the last three years of that. So even in the first three years there was a lot of back and forth. Then I still married him and then there was a lot of back and forth through the marriage.
Speaker 2:So, and I remember the, probably the last half, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:So it was very volatile and I never should have gotten back after the first time. You know hindsight. But yeah, I don't know. I guess it depends on the circumstance. I would say once or twice I was thinking that too.
Speaker 2:I was thinking that too. Maybe twice.
Speaker 1:Maybe sometimes you just need a break to kind of figure, sort things out in your life. And you know, if you feel like this is really my person and I don't know if I'm ready, maybe I just need to kind of take some time, right, you know, if you love someone set them free, If they come back. It was meant to be yeah.
Speaker 2:But experts. The expert opinion is if you've broken up and gotten back together two or more times, it's time to take a hard look at this pattern and the relationship.
Speaker 1:So I think we're both right on at two. Yeah, that's good advice. Yeah, I think that's good advice.
Speaker 2:So I think we're both right on at two. Yeah, that's good advice. Yeah, how many dates does it take to ghost someone? Oh, one, right. But what if you're in a relationship for three months and then someone starts ghosting you and you might be worried about it?
Speaker 1:I mean, honestly, I don't think it's ever cool to ghost someone. I think you should just be upfront and say how you're feeling, and you know, I think a lot of times you know after one day this is not going to work, right, and you should just tell them hey, I don't see this going anywhere. Sorry, you know right, I just think ghosting is kind of rude. But I think after one date, if that's how you feel and you don't feel like you need to say anything to them, ghost them.
Speaker 2:But yeah, I think three months in that's that's mean, yeah, you should talk to them, and expert opinion is it's better to communicate regardless of how many dates you've had. So you're absolutely right even if there's just been one date, it's always better to know where you stand with someone rather than to receive no communication at all.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's respectful yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah. Okay, here's a funny one. Is it okay to stay friends with an ex's mom? Oh, I don't think so. I don't think so either I don't Honestly okay.
Speaker 1:Well, I have to say with my past relationships, because of Children.
Speaker 2:Don't take children out of the equation.
Speaker 1:So let's yeah like if somebody in your, if the father of my children was, you know, a good father and was present in their lives. I would have been, I would have been fine with him still communicating with my mom. Absolutely, he's the father of my children, um, but, and and even in my current relationship, you know, god forbid, something happened and we don't stay together. I know the bond that they have and I would be heartbroken if that was lost. I would, I would appreciate that they stay in touch, right as hard as it would be not for me not to be with her. I know that relationship is very meaningful to both of them and I would be okay with them maintaining that. So so, yeah, I think again, it's kind of depends on the situation, right?
Speaker 2:I don't think I'm friends with any of my ex's moms. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I after the father of my children. After we divorced I was still friends with his mom, right Because.
Speaker 2:I had her grandchildren. That's yeah Ex-in-laws.
Speaker 1:I don't think she, when we were in town, would have us over for dinner and things like that, and I wanted them to maintain a relationship.
Speaker 2:you know, my kids and her um and then my ex found out it was happening I didn't.
Speaker 1:I wasn't aware that he didn't know, but he found out and he put an end to it. He told his mom no, absolutely not like, which was so sad because because that that broke up the relationship that my kids had with their grandmother right, yeah, yeah, yeah, so I think that's very unfair, but but yeah, I mean I don't think so, I don't honestly, I don't think my mom.
Speaker 1:I don't even know if she would maintain a relationship with Paige because of her devotion to me, Right, but I think if she knew it was okay she might. But she's very my mom For Ashley, which is awesome, Right.
Speaker 2:Right, as mom should be. Yeah, yes, experts say to respect how your exes feel about the situation, it's best to defer to what your ex feels comfortable with and respect their answer. It's their mom, after all. Yeah, yeah. And here is a funny question. I think it's kind of a no brainer but who knows, If someone says I love you during sex, does it count? Do they mean it? And this is the first time they say it?
Speaker 1:Oh Hell no, I don't think so either. Yeah, I don't think so either. I mean, you could be with someone that you're you know. Maybe you enjoy your time with them and you have fun together, but you don't really necessarily feel it. But you can have amazing sex and be like oh my God, I love you, and it just comes out.
Speaker 2:Yes, yeah, I just don't.
Speaker 1:I don't think that's the best time to first say it.
Speaker 2:If you really mean it, right, but once it's out there, it's out there, right. Yeah, but I don't think that it counts. I don't either.
Speaker 1:And especially the first time, and especially if it's not said ever after that outside of the bedroom, right Then yeah.
Speaker 2:Right, not cool, right. Let's see what the experts say about that. The question to ask at a later time is how would you feel if they were never to see you again? Oh yeah, I liked that answer. Oh, that's pretty deep.
Speaker 1:That's intense, right, but yeah. I mean, I guess that's really how you find out Right?
Speaker 2:It's not about. Oh, did you mean that you said I love you during sex? But just hey, how would you feel if?
Speaker 1:you never saw me again. Yeah, how would you feel if you ever saw me again? Yeah, I mean, I actually know someone who's in that situation where their partner says that and literally will say I want to marry you, oh yeah, only in sex, only in sex outside of it. Has never said I love you or anything like that. So no, that's a good, that's some good advice that I should give to her.
Speaker 2:yes, yes, that's crazy and this is a relationship advice that I thought was spot on, and and it comes from Steve Harvey, who I think is hilarious. So we're not going to be able I won't be able to deliver it with his humor, but he says his one piece of relationship advice is to stop talking about your relationship with other people, and especially once you get married.
Speaker 2:you know form a two-handed circle and don't let anyone else in there, maybe especially earlier on, right, but stop talking about your relationship to other people. Keep your mom and your friends out, because they're just gonna mess it up yeah, I think early on it's probably okay.
Speaker 1:um, because it's, I think you don't really reach that level of intensity and commitment until later, and that's when you should probably just make sure you're really I mean, you should always make sure you're communicating with your partner, but at that point it's like it's the two of you against the world, right, you know exactly, yeah, and you should, yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I agree with that with you should, yeah, yeah, I agree with that with the two handed circle and don't let anybody else in there. But I think it's kind of open ended there's, it's not, you know, draw a line in the sand. Yeah, clearly you want to communicate still with other people, it's just with those intimate details of your relationship. I think you just, yeah, I think if you don't talk, about that if you're when it's really causing distress.
Speaker 1:Sometimes you just need to talk to a friend or to your mom or you know, and just ask that they not form an opinion. You know, try not to be biased, but this is something that I'm really struggling with and I just need someone to talk to. Yeah, you know.
Speaker 2:Yes, a hundred percent, a hundred percent. And then I saw a Steve Harvey episode, and with a special guest that he had, bella Gandhi, and she is the founder of Smart, the Smart Dating Academy. Oh, and she says to make a list of what you want your dream guy or girl to have. So immediately my mind went to manifestation right. And I used to have a list, did you, oh hell?
Speaker 1:yes, I had a list. I don't think I've ever made one.
Speaker 2:You know he had to be tall, he had to make more money than I did. You know he had to have no children or grown children. I had a long list but it was funny and it is funny. I don't really have a list now because over the years I kept striking things off the list Like okay, maybe they don't have to make as much money as I do Right.
Speaker 2:You know, there were just a lot of things and then at the end it was like lot of things and then at the end it was like he just has to be tall and have a job, just a job.
Speaker 1:But I didn't even say a job. I mean especially now at my age.
Speaker 2:he could be retired or independently wealthy. Doesn't necessarily have to have a job. But yeah, I still do like tall men, but I think my height preference is even lowered over the years. So it. But in the back of my mind I keep thinking you're just settling, you're just settling.
Speaker 1:Right, that's what I was going to say.
Speaker 1:Do you think that's because you're like okay, I'm being too picky. You know, I I always tell my kids this you know it's okay to be too picky, but you do need to know what you are willing to tolerate and what you're not willing to tolerate, right, what's important to you about how they make you feel yes, and the person you are and want to be? Those are the things that I think, and I've never like physically written down a list, but I think I've always kind of had one in my head, right, and I haven't always been like loyal to that list. I've sacrificed a lot. But yeah, I think it's important to know that stuff, and you kind of learn that in dating. Sometimes you think things you can tolerate, you find you can't.
Speaker 2:Right, you know. Yeah, and here is something else that Bella Gandhi had said To identify red flags and know when to walk away. That's really good and I think it's easier said than done too, but number one mismatched core values right, that's big, especially if you think it's your life partner Right. And I'm thinking of your daughter right now. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, there's a big conflict in politics and lifestyle, his family. Yeah, yeah, and I think that she's feeling that maybe she's based off things he said she's not really up to par and so she's kind of like, is he just settling or is this really serious to him? And also there's a lack of respect on what she believes in and what her core values are. So, yeah, that's and that's what I told her. That's a red flag. Yeah, okay, number two. This one was a's a red flag, right?
Speaker 2:Okay, number two. This one was a shocker for me, total shocker. Okay, makes you feel butterflies.
Speaker 1:In a good way or a bad way.
Speaker 2:Well, when you feel butterflies in your relationship, like you have a first date and then you know after the date and you feel all butterflies, in your tummy. So good butterflies. You would think so, but no, and you feel all butterflies in your tummy. Okay, so good butterflies. You would think so, but no, they're saying this is. She's saying this is a red flag that something is wrong and that we think that the butterflies are a good thing, but it's actually based upon fears and anxiety.
Speaker 1:Okay, yeah, because that's why I was saying like good or bad, because yeah, you get that like feeling in your stomach like, oh right, I get. Yeah, I guess if you're just like I don't know, I mean you could be really nervous because you really like the person, right, but maybe because you don't feel they're reciprocating the same level of interest.
Speaker 2:But I just think, if you have a good date and you know the connection you feel is there, and then you have, oh, butterflies when you think about them. Right? I never. It never occurred to me that that could be a red flag. Yeah, but considering I'm still single, I think I'll take it as a red flag. Moves too quickly.
Speaker 1:Oh gosh. Yeah, we just talked about my niece.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:She's been dating a guy for six months and they're engaged.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:But they're engaged they didn't get married.
Speaker 2:No, but engagements what?
Speaker 1:a year, you should think, right, well, I mean you have to have time to plan the wedding. But most cases, but yes, yeah, I, I, I mean, I feel like in the first six months you're still kind of in what they call, I guess, the honeymoon phase. Um, I don't know. I mean people say, when you know, you know, right, I know, and some people get. I've heard of people getting married after two weeks, you know, and they're still together.
Speaker 2:So I, I don't know I wonder if age has anything to do with it, because I would like to think that the younger me and me now would be two different people if I met, met somebody and I thought, oh, this person is it, maybe it is versus if I was 20. Right, right, you know.
Speaker 1:Well, yeah, I mean, when I met my current partner, I remember thinking wow, you knew right away why, yeah, why did I ever Because I remember thinking you haven't even gone out for 90 days.
Speaker 2:Oh, no, this is it?
Speaker 1:Oh, I knew it. I knew it and I just remember thinking why did I ever think I was in love before or get married? This? I never felt this feeling before ever. I mean, I just it was nothing I'd ever experienced. And that's what I hear, and that was in my late 30s. Listen to me, that's what I hear.
Speaker 2:But it's true. Yeah, it's true. Okay, okay, but yeah, moves too quickly. Red flag yeah. Inconsistent behavior patterns.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, of course.
Speaker 2:But I mean, they could be subtle, we're not talking. I think that right now we're thinking oh, bipolar Exactly. But maybe they don't call you when you feel they should have called you back or you know keeps in touch, or they do sometimes, but then they don't yeah. So I guess if somebody is in constant communication with you after you know you first started dating and you're dating for a month or two and then it kind of breaks out.
Speaker 2:Yeah then, their feelings have changed. Yeah, yeah. And the last one she said for red flags and knowing when to walk away is when they lead with negativity. Oh yeah, there's a lot of people like that my ex was 100 like that and especially after what, the second, third, fourth, fifth time we got back together. I knew, yeah, I knew, and eventually, but I was always the optimist and he was a pessimist. And you know, women think they can change men. You know, shoes don't stretch, men, men don't change.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:But I just always thought, you know, I brought positivity out of him, but what ended up happening was his negativity was pulling me down, you down, yeah, often, always, always, always, always. Okay, so now let's get to our 11 dating rules that you should try to follow. Let's get to our 11 dating rules that you should try to follow Now. Keep in mind that some of the rules that are most critical for you to follow through on might be the ones that are the least fun to keep.
Speaker 2:So this is funny. Number one dating multiple people at once. Oh yeah, I've done that Right and it sounds easy, but I'm not even dating at all. So I guess in my mind I think that has to be the dating app thing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, right.
Speaker 2:Or you have to be younger, because I don't get that many opportunities.
Speaker 1:Well, I think, and I don't know really why I think that's really hard for some people to do. I know my two of my kids are like that. They just want to focus on one person.
Speaker 1:They don't want to be talking to multiple people and, you know, maybe they just feel like it's too stressful and they're juggling too much. I think of it more like hanging out with friends, like I hang out with different friends at different times, Right? Why is it any different that I'm hanging, you know, going on dates with different people at different times, and I think especially, it's in the very beginning, right.
Speaker 2:Right, once you've established a relationship oh absolutely these rules are off Right very beginning right when you've established a relationship. Oh, absolutely, these rules are off right. But um, experts say to spare yourself the hurt by putting a metaphorical egg in several baskets. So that way, if one person ghosts you, you know it may not be as as devastating, devastating.
Speaker 1:Yes, yeah, number two keep dates short.
Speaker 2:I like that In the beginning. You don't want to, I used to. I haven't dated in a while, but do lunches right or quick?
Speaker 1:things happy hours. Yeah, Because you especially with online dating, dinners always end up into getting drinks later, you know, yeah. So, yeah, they end up very long. Yeah, yeah, I think that's smart to keep them brief, especially to keep them brief, especially in the first couple ones, to have some conversation and get to know each other a little bit and then go on with the rest of your day.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, Experts say not much longer than 90 minutes is good. So there you go. Yeah, that's perfect, Be up. Number three be upfront about wanting a relationship.
Speaker 1:And I think it's interesting.
Speaker 2:I think it's important, but I think a lot of women in particular are afraid to say that in the very beginning because they're afraid it's going to push somebody away. Right Too clingy too this, too that. But I think it's good to have your expectations known Absolutely.
Speaker 1:I think that probably both our generations were probably a little more hesitant to put that up front. But I'm kind of finding, with watching my kids they're all in their 20s watching them date, I'm seeing that they are being more up front. My daughter went through a little spree before this partner she's with, of dating different people and just knowing right off the bat like nope, not going to work.
Speaker 1:I thought, maybe you know, but nothing's there, there's no physical attraction. And or, you know, maybe there was, but they were clearly just wanting one thing. Right, you know, they weren't, or maybe they weren't even just one wanting thing. They just wanted someone to hang out with, and that was very clear to her. They weren't looking for anything serious, and she would know right off the bat Nope, this is what I'm looking for, I'm moving on, so I do. It does seem to me, and maybe that's just her, I don't know generation. I think so too, which is very important.
Speaker 2:I think so too, and the experts say if you're worried that telling a potential partner you want a relationship in general, because you think it'll scare them off or make you seem desperate, let's go off that idea.
Speaker 1:You know, anyone who bails isn't someone who would stick around in the long run. Yeah, that's true. Yeah. Or you know, maybe they'll be honest and say, well, I'm not so, I'm really sorry, I know, yeah. And then you can nip it in the bud and you don't have to go through a month or two or 90 days before you know. Right Now the next one. Go ahead. Avoid talking about exes on early dates. It's yes, of course.
Speaker 2:Right, it's so obvious.
Speaker 1:Isn't that a given?
Speaker 2:Yes, but shockingly people do it, I know. I know People do it. I think I've even done it.
Speaker 1:I don't know if I've done it. Probably I know people I've dated have done it and I know people my kids have dated have done it because it really bothers them, like that's one of the things they'll say to me. They were like complaining about their ex right on the first date, right, what?
Speaker 2:No, no not cool, not cool, not cool at all. Number five pay more attention to follow through than advanced planning. I don't know. I think that's interesting. I I love always have this mindset. If you ask me out, you better know what you want to do. Don't pick me up and say, okay, what do you want to do To me? That is a bad first impression. I think that you should make an effort. To me, planning is making an effort.
Speaker 1:Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2:Even if you're putting thought into it Right, or give somebody a couple different options. Would you like to go see a movie or would you like to?
Speaker 1:What are things?
Speaker 2:you like to do, go check out this new art exhibit or something. But you know, giving a couple choices is good, but having nothing, I think is absolutely, I agree with that.
Speaker 1:And also, you can usually tell early on in a relationship, you know, if they say things like oh, I want to take you to this really nice restaurant, or you know, and and things like that, and especially multiple times, yet nothing, ever. It never happens, right, because that can happen very early on too. True, true.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so they say, last minute dates are okay. Some people are just not great planners.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, I think that's fine Right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, okay.
Speaker 1:But if you're going to do a last minute date, then say, hey, let's go get a coffee, let's go get a coffee.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:Like, have something in mind.
Speaker 2:Exactly.
Speaker 1:Don't feel obligated to send a thank you text. Oh yeah.
Speaker 2:I don't know. I think it's a. I think that for me I think it would be you would want an extension of that date. Oh, I just had such a great time. Thank you so much. The movie was great or dinner was fantastic.
Speaker 1:I loved, or it's fantastic, I love it. Or just even simple, like I had a really great time. Thank you, yeah. Yeah, like I I feel like that's okay, but I don't know, and I I guess if you don't want to say that because you didn't have fun, then you don't have to feel obligated to say anything. Very true.
Speaker 2:Experts say as long as you think, think your date warmly and sincerely in person before parting ways, there's no reason to send a follow-up text. That's true. There you go. That's easy enough. Number seven give them two weeks to reach out again two weeks, that seems like a long time wasn't it like three days when we were younger?
Speaker 1:I know, I don't know well I I mean I again seeing my kids date, if they've never like. If they waited two weeks they thought, oh, they're gone. It's post like it's not happening.
Speaker 2:I could, but when I before the pandemic, when I was traveling a lot two weeks, I could totally see it now yeah, that I work from home. Yeah, you're not as busy, don't have a life yeah, it would seem like an eternity right um, experts say don't read a whole lot into how quickly they text you, as long as it's within the two weeks. So two week window people.
Speaker 1:We have a two week window. Wait at least a few dates to have sex. Oh, I've been guilty of not doing that.
Speaker 2:It's like it's the given one right. It's so obvious. But me too, I like most of mine. All right, well, okay, let me do some backpedaling here. Quite often, yeah, yeah, yeah, I would say for me too yeah but then again it's probably why I'm single, because those relationships were built on lust and nothing else right?
Speaker 1:yeah, it was, you know. I would say I mean my current partner. I think it was probably a couple of weeks okay at least lasted a relationship. Yeah, I mean I I would say we hung out a handful of times before my last relationship, we did as well yeah, I don't recommend waiting until marriage, though, which is terrible, because you wouldn't buy a car without test driving it Right.
Speaker 2:Exactly, oh my gosh, which is again my last relationship. Okay, number nine, don't freak out about who pays.
Speaker 1:Okay, this is new for me, because when I grew up, it was always the man yes, which I realize is very unfair to all of you men.
Speaker 2:I don't know. However, I do too. I mean, if you, especially if you're looking for a relationship, how are they going to be able to take care of a family if they can't afford a plate? Okay, well here.
Speaker 1:Here's the thing it depends on who asks who out, right, right, if I were, if you were to ask a man out, right, you would plan on paying, wouldn't you right, right, yeah, I would think so, right, because if you're talking, about sex relationships and I don't mind splitting the bill right, but I think it could become awkward, yeah but I mean, I'm thinking more along the line is of same-sex relationships too. Then how?
Speaker 1:you know yeah whoever asked who out. I think, um, very, I think it's very strange on the first date to split. Personally, I think whoever asked who out should pay. But then, going forward, I I think it's okay, especially if it's like an expensive dinner and they weren't necessarily treating you. You just both agreed yeah, let's go do this, you know. However, if it's happening too often and you're not treating each other, that's weird to me. I mean, I've been in a relationship for nine years now. We Doesn't matter who pays.
Speaker 1:We'll split it a lot of times, but usually it's like no, I got this one Right. And vice versa, yep.
Speaker 2:So experts say that anyone these days appreciates that you want to offer to split the bill. Yeah, so it's appreciated. But I think you know if you're looking for a relationship. The man should pay, right, okay?
Speaker 1:Feel free to do some of the planning yourself. Yeah, yeah, I think that's cool. Maybe not the first date, but after that. Well, if they out, if they're asking questions, right then, yeah, you can give some ideas exactly on the planet why not?
Speaker 2:wouldn't you rather do something you want to do?
Speaker 1:or go to a restaurant that you like no, you like yeah right yeah, yeah, I agree with that.
Speaker 2:Okay, last one, number 11 eat whatever the hell you want. I always have, but I do too.
Speaker 1:Yeah but that's kind of funny that that would be a rule like people don't these days, right like women, should just order a salad and I guess, yeah, I guess, if you're thinking, oh, I shouldn't eat a burger because they're going to think some way about me, like that's not cool.
Speaker 2:What I think of is, for whatever reason, I have expensive taste, so I would naturally gravitate to perhaps a steak or one of the most expensive things on the menu. But not wanting to, so sometimes I you know, rethink it and back it down and think you know what I'm not going to order the lobster, Right Lobster was the joke.
Speaker 1:You order lobster right.
Speaker 2:Lobster. You order lobster, the man pays. He's expecting something that I, just I. So I have changed my mind just because of the price point, not because you know of any other reason.
Speaker 1:Yeah, You're just trying to be respectful of how much the bill is which I think is okay.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I do too. I think that's nice.
Speaker 1:I wish my kids would do that when I took them out to dinner.
Speaker 2:I know, I know Mine too, but experts say life is too short to be with someone who doesn't appreciate your appetite. Oh, that's cool.
Speaker 1:I like that Amen to that. Well, that wraps it up for today. Thanks for joining us on let's Talk Midlife Crisis. We hope you got some laughs, a little inspiration and maybe a few new ideas.
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