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Marketing & Mayhem
Season 5 Finale: Egg Juice, Compliments & the Female Archetypes
We’re back on eggs and the “pan scramble”discussion … do you pan scramble? And how meany - 2? 4? - what’s worse, snail mucin or egg juice? A ramen experience gone “grey” - kicks off today’s episode. Why did one of us think cutting open the grey egg would make it “more photogenic” … we’re bringing the mayhem today folks. We never cease to amaze with the food triggers and dialogue … and we accidentally brought a random dude along on the ride during our most recent lunch egg-scapade.
The final episode we didn’t even realize we were recording - listen, muscle memory is real folks. 60 episodes. And daylight savings time - we’re here for the spring forward. The late sunsets. The late lawn mowing. We get full on nostalgic about spring and summer. From restaurants to smash burgers and Schallers on Lake Ontario. Crushed ice, real root beer and endless pickles … you’re speaking our language. We want vitamin d - pools, wings, cool beers - we’re feeling reflective and we don’t mean spiritually.
Don’t worry - this episode isn’t all food - we talk female archetypes … again without an expert, only lead by chat gpt. We need another free quiz - and an expert - help! We’re talking male energy, female energy, and the complexity of how it all works. And here you thought we were keeping personalities at enneagrams!
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I have no idea. I have no idea ever actually.
Speaker 1:So we were just talking about what I ate before we got on the pod.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I have questions about it.
Speaker 1:Why I don't understand. So I had two eggs, because my stomach likes to growl when we are recording.
Speaker 2:I just here's my thing with eggs. I love eggs. Two wouldn't be enough, and now I'm wondering if I'm eating like a lot more eggs than I should be.
Speaker 1:I mean they're healthy for you. So I don't think it's like an excess thing you eat. Four.
Speaker 2:I eat like four.
Speaker 1:Yeah, sometimes I'll crack six, and then I'll just give some to the dog oh really, I feel like when I've done that to the dog, they have the worst farts oh, I mean they're boxers so they're pretty farty. I don't know if I would notice like a difference yeah, I like pan fried them in some butter with like some extra some um everything bagel seasoning.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I definitely pan fried mine in olive oil and then I cover them in hot sauce, but I definitely do. Here's a question this one really triggers people. Do you pan scramble?
Speaker 1:What is yeah?
Speaker 2:Like, do you just drop them in and then scramble while they're cooking?
Speaker 1:Absolutely not, yeah, oh, I'm a pan scrambler hardcore.
Speaker 2:I can see that I like to whip it. Good, yeah, sometimes I will if I'm like really in the mood. But like it does make another dish, though I don't love that. I know it's like the and like the egg juice is. Really I get kind of sketched out, don't talk about it?
Speaker 1:Nope, but that's why I can't do it. I really wish you wouldn't have said that I was feeling a little nauseous before.
Speaker 2:The fact that you just said that legit in my throat just had a visceral reaction. What about the egg that I ate? The other day in front of you, we tried a new restaurant and we will keep them unnamed. I believe that it might have been pickled. It was gray and everybody's egg was gray, and so I took a risk. And this was it.
Speaker 1:First of all we need context here. It was ramen we, because I feel like, oh yeah, it was ramen and the egg looked like a horse testicle it looks like a like a full blown ball sack is what it looks like and there was no way in hell. And Becca was like well, I'm going to cut it open so it'll be more photogenic. I was like there ain't no way in hell. This thing is getting more photogenic. It was wrong. I'm a nine year old man, hold it. It turned out.
Speaker 2:I was wrong, I'm a 90-year-old man.
Speaker 1:It didn't look like a perfectly round old gray ball sack and, unfortunately, and so then I ate it because I was in it for the experience and it looked the same way it looked in the. I did not eat it because I could not get past it.
Speaker 2:I was so nervous, until like noon the next day I was shitting my pants. I was like please, god don't make Literally or figuratively. No, figuratively. But every time I thought, every time my mind wandered to it, I was like oh, please don't be a bad decision.
Speaker 1:It looked like it was one step above those like pickled eggs in the gas station.
Speaker 2:That's like that big jar of walmart. I always seen that walmart juice. Have you ever had one?
Speaker 1:flipping a absolutely not I am. I am teetering on the verge of peaking right now, and I'm totally not.
Speaker 2:My eyes are watering. My favorite is that the other day, two episodes ago, you said I was talking about the BLT salad and I was talking about my food issues and I was literally saying, oh, I'll put shredded cheese down at the bottom so that the dip will lift up. I just don't want to fight for my life. And you were like I feel like I don't have any of these issues. Upon further exploration.
Speaker 1:And we found mine. I am triggered by egg juice and pickled eggs.
Speaker 2:I mean, some people will pickle anything. You know what they just made me think of, like foggers I got into. Can you milk me? Can you milk me? Oh god, this is gonna be full-on mayhem today. I can just tell we are coming out of the end of february. Um, spring is around the corner, please. God spring, god Spring me now.
Speaker 1:Oh, this is oh yeah, so this weekend. Oh shit, this is a finale. That's not possible, dude, legit. This is 60. This is our season five finale.
Speaker 2:I wish we knew that. Going into this Like shit Guys, I will tell you something about muscle memory. Same thing for working out. There comes a time where you just get in the water and keep swimming and you never, ever, ever stop, and then you don't even realize that you are on the season finale, because that is how much. This is just a muscle that you use, and for that I will say I am proud of us deeply.
Speaker 1:Truly, 60 episodes is nothing to laugh at. That is some serious commitment For real. But I the reason I looked through my calendars cause I was like oh, it's daylight savings time this weekend.
Speaker 2:Oh, like when this airs Yep, then I will be in Columbia for both days for a gymnastics meet, and we are the eight o'clock spot on Sunday morning, so quite literally that is going to affect every piece of that weekend.
Speaker 1:But don't you love like when the days go back to being longer? I am here for it.
Speaker 2:I want to see the sun at night, if that's what you're talking about.
Speaker 1:I want Clark to say I can't go to bed yet see the sun at night. If that's what you're talking about. I want Clark to say I can't go to bed yet because the sun's still up. I like to hear her say that.
Speaker 2:I used to love when I would have to go to bed when I was a kid, and my dad would be like mowing the lawn, or a neighbor would be mowing the lawn, I don't know why, but like having your windows open. It's like an old school glimmer right Having your windows open, having the lawn being mowed, like talking to your bed after running your ass ragged all fucking day.
Speaker 1:I'm like smelling somebody like grilling burgers or something.
Speaker 2:Oh, I was going to say, one of my favorite things is like sometimes my mom, you know, like we didn't eat out a lot as a kid, like that wasn't part of our growing up, and sometimes my parents would be so busy with like yard work and everything. There's this restaurant called Shaler's where I grew up and it's just like the flat burgers, whatever they're called I can't even think right Smash burgers, but it's like not nearly that fancy, like they didn't call them smash burgers.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that wasn't like a term.
Speaker 2:No, you could get hot dogs, chicken fingers, smash burgers and then off the side of it there was like ice cream.
Speaker 2:but we're talking like the twist and it's either chocolate or vanilla or, like the dairy queen twist yes, but it was all owned by shalers and it's like you could just get toppings, but you were talking about choosing chocolate or vanilla or twisted up um, and they had like the big buckets of pickles and I I would just pray. Once I started to get to be like three o'clock and I didn't see like meat on the counter. I was like, oh, please, god, let this be, because it was like they had like the crushed up ice and we were allowed to get like root beers and I was like, fuck, yes, let it be a shaylor's night. I mean, I just like I fucking lip read, like I somebody should take me back in my adult life because it's still open and I recently was like joking with a friend about it because they went. I fucking love shaylor's. It's like right on the water too.
Speaker 1:It's like the drive there is really fun I'm just ready for summer things and and I feel I'm normally not like this. I mean, I love winter, I love cozy, I love hoodies, but your girl needs some sun.
Speaker 2:Oh, there's a part of me that's blue. I can see the blood running through multiple areas on my body.
Speaker 1:What is going on Like? Why is it so bad?
Speaker 2:This isn't the part that we like. We like the November, december part, where we've known. Yep, yeah, we like the Christmas tree, we like the outings, we like the breaks for like Thanksgiving and like parades and the hallmark. This part is exactly why I moved. It's like a troll.
Speaker 1:I look like a Casper troll. Oh, it is With eczema. By the way, my skin is reflective, it's just. It's so bad Because I no, I am just not here for it. I need some sunshine, I need some pool time, I need a cold beer, I need some. I just need all of that in my life.
Speaker 2:I was listening back to one of the episodes about getting chicken wings and a beer and I think we need that date, we need a preemptive, so we owe ourselves a lunch. We do we go to home team Without gray ball sacks?
Speaker 1:mind you.
Speaker 2:The egg was in. I'll tell you what, though? Same thing. There definitely was a man next to us and unfortunately, because I'm the friend, that's like dating. So every time I'm at a girl's dinner, I'm only out. Two things are happening I'm either with the chicks or I'm with the dude. So you're getting I'm either with the chicks or I'm with the dicks. Yeah, chicks or dicks. The dicks yeah, chicks or dicks. I love that Absolutely. Hashtag chicks or dicks ride or die. So I'm either very clearly on what is like an awkward but not awkward date or I am unpacking every single thing that was said or done, including anything. If it's extreme, we're going to probably we were.
Speaker 1:I was that sweet little man beside us.
Speaker 2:He was like the man was probably 30. He was big and burly. Big and burly which both of us looked at him and we were like it's kind of our turn.
Speaker 1:We were sitting very close to him. Just the way the seats were, he was sitting close to us. We were there first there was very close to him it was just the way the seats were.
Speaker 2:He was sitting close to us. We were there first there wasn't family True story and the deeper we got, I could tell you right now he was absolutely listening. He had his phone propped up like he was watching YouTube. We could tell we were not putting on a show. But when he sat down we were already in the throes of the show, in the full on update, and then the ball sack came out, the eggs came out, and so we this poor man it only made it, only exploited the conversation further, because then we had this visual situation happening at the same time. God bless America.
Speaker 1:But he definitely he was by himself, he was a hundred percent listening to us.
Speaker 2:No, I think he was like laughing along with the punchline. I was like we this man is taking this. I hope he takes all of this information back to work and tells everybody what he just heard he should. I had a dinner the other day with Taco Bell in summer and the couple next to us at one point like held hands and said a prayer, but it wasn't like right before they ate and I was like, is this our fault?
Speaker 1:yeah, for sure they're like they were probably praying for you I'm here.
Speaker 2:Please pray for me. If you know anybody that might be a great match for my, and they're definitely not going to match any of their friends to me, that's for sure so let's go back to your chicken wing and beer at lunch date.
Speaker 1:because I'm here for this, sign me up.
Speaker 2:I actually haven't had the wings at home team. I don't think I might have, but I feel like when you were talking about them you were making them sound like something I haven't had, that I need to have.
Speaker 1:Oh my God, they're so good. I love their wings.
Speaker 2:They when you were saying that, I was like wait, I think I need to. I had the tater tots the other day. They were incredible. I love a tater tot. I don't normally. This was really good. They were like they had a good. Whatever that aioli is that they use was really good. I also had their cheese dip, which was full of nonsense. There was corn, there was beans.
Speaker 1:It was incredible. No, I can't do the corn okay well, so intolerant.
Speaker 2:I shut down for two days, it's okay, then we won't get the cheese dip, we'll just get the tots warm or cold. I cannot. I sent you a picture because it literally says on the outside so now they've updated the packaging and so now I think it's a permanent dish. So because it used to be like a game day situation and remember we had asked chad gbt and they really go all season.
Speaker 2:The packaging has since been updated. I think it must have been a hit. It is no longer a seasonal, it is part of the main collection. And then 100. Not only does it say microwave safe on the top and I keep looking at it raw, we're going to call it raw.
Speaker 1:It was not, it was not.
Speaker 2:That was a risk. I'll tell you what.
Speaker 1:I like living on the edge, but don't recommend, absolutely do not recommend Living on the edge.
Speaker 2:That was rogue. And then you turn it over and one entire side of the three-sided label the top being one of the sides says the heating instructions. I was like, yes, it doesn't say it's refrigeration instructions, do you? Read the directions for everything you buy I don't read the directions for dick, but I definitely microwave no, I don't, I don't.
Speaker 1:And then I'm also that person who, like cooks, open something and then throws the directions in the trash and then has to get them out like four times to see how long I'm supposed to cook it mostly for mac and cheese, which I feel like by now I should know, but I feel like I might have a lot of things I don't know.
Speaker 2:I definitely built an entire nightstand the other day and the sides were upside down, remember, because we could. I couldn't slide the drawer and I was like motherfucker, it's like an undo with my only drill I had, which I bought so I could install the dog gates nate was like he's leaving to go out of town today and I said, hey, I need a new battery in my car thing.
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, your key fob, yeah. And he said, well, I'll just go by and pick one up and you can figure it out. I'm like no, no, no, no, I don't feel like I need to be trusted with this. Why don't you just order it and you just do it before you leave, because I need to be able to get in my car? He's like I just don't want to, I don't want to start holding all the jobs.
Speaker 2:no, no, I just, I know, I just we, we have our things and you know that ain't mine and it's mostly because you just he knows you're like so capable, but then you just got to put your foot down, sometimes be like no.
Speaker 1:I just don't want to. It's not for me, no, and I am an independent woman. But I really don't know.
Speaker 2:I know, but we're still allowed. But woman is the end of that. Like we're still a lot of. I'm not even trying to start a whole debate here, but like I am a much better person when I'm allowed to be in my feminine energy also so fun fact that you say that, yeah, I bought a book about this, about the female, and I don't know if I'm saying this word like archetype. Archetype.
Speaker 1:Archetypes I'm into this Okay, so I bought a book so I could read it, and then I'm going to try to find somebody to get on the pod and we can talk about this.
Speaker 2:I think this is a real thing.
Speaker 1:No, it is, that's why I saw it. Well, I'll tell you it is. I saw it on Instagram.
Speaker 2:I saw it on Instagram, too. I got targeted for an ad that was about dating and your archetype. Yeah, I love that. Our journey of personal exploration is taking on hundreds of people in 300 plus countries, and we're literally sharing our the way that we what is this word? Our attachment styles? Yes. Our enneagrams yes, our astrology signs. We're basically somewhere between figuring out exactly who we are while knowing exactly who we are, and then defining it further, and now we're taking it as far as get ready. There are so many let's just for fun.
Speaker 1:Yeah, go ahead, because I bought the book. I just haven't read it yet.
Speaker 2:Female archetypes are symbolic and you guys know full well. By the way, I did actually ask chat GPT yesterday if we could be part of like a influencer program, and they do not have one.
Speaker 1:Well, damn, you chat GPT.
Speaker 2:I was like come on, I talk about this all the time. I educate people on it. Stop, I know Um. Female archetypes are symbolic representations that capture the varied qualities, roles and potentials traditionally associated with feminine in myth, literature, art and psychology. These are not fixed categories. They are fluid overlapping patterns that can offer insight into both personal identity and cultural narratives. Here are the most common ones. Ooh light on me. The maiden or the innocent, embodying youth, purity and potential. The maiden is often associated with new beginnings, hope and the spark of possibility. She represents optimism and the promise of growth. The mother this archetype centers on nurturing care and unconditional love. It's not just about biological motherhood, but also the creative and sustaining aspects of life, including fertility, empathy and support. Interesting the queen or the ruler Representing leadership, authority and power the ruler Representing leadership, authority and power the queen archetype is about governance, responsibility and using strength to lead with wisdom or grace.
Speaker 1:She often embodies qualities of order and protection, and there's only like three more.
Speaker 2:The warrior Often defined by courage, determination and resilience, the warrior is a fighter who defends, overcomes and overcomes obstacles and stands up for what she believes in. This archetype highlights independence and inner strength. The lover Embodying passion, sensuality and creativity. The lover is often associated with deep emotional connection and aesthetic appreciation. She values intimacy, pleasure and the beauty of experience. The wise woman this archetype is characterized by insight, intuition and accumulated wisdom, often seen as a mentor or guide. The sage represents the ability to reflect, learn and share gained knowledge. And then the crone, often viewed as the culmination of a woman's life cycle. The crone is often associated with transformation, mystery and sometimes even magic. While she can represent endings, she also embodies wisdom, change and depth with a lived experience or that comes with a lived experience.
Speaker 1:Okay, so I feel like I know what you would be and what I think Really. Yeah, all right, I think you would be one of these three.
Speaker 2:Okay, I was going to say I feel like I could get down to three. I can get you down to three.
Speaker 1:I think you would be queen, or the ruler, the warrior, and have some lover in you I agree with all of the above and then I would be the mother, yep, the lover and the wise woman. Yes.
Speaker 2:You said, maiden, I was going to pee my pants. I was quite literally holding my breath. I was like let's not get carried away. When you pick yours, please don't put purity or innocence.
Speaker 2:So I'm excited to we need to find a quiz for this one too, and a person and I want to get like a one of those like witchy women in here that talks to us about literature and, yes, literature and archetypes, and, like I wish we'd been talking about this in my art classes. I feel like understanding this would have been very influential in my full understanding of art, quite frankly. So, yeah, so we'll work on that. I'm excited we're sending you the screenshots right now so we never lose this. Yep and I will get cranky on this book. We need a quiz and we need a person Got it.
Speaker 1:So, if anyone's listening and they understand the female archetypes we want to know yeah, I didn't need to tell you, I bought this book like probably three or four months ago because I want. I saw it on instagram and I'm like that's an interesting topic for the pod. We need this, we do.
Speaker 2:We need our attachment styles and we need our we definitely need a therapist for attachment styles, but I want to get, I want like we need a little.
Speaker 1:Okay, we need a little wizard.
Speaker 2:We need a wizard, guys, we need a wizard, but not Oz. All I can see is a foot from over here.
Speaker 1:Hold on, I've got tiny. He is precious and laying on the ottoman, and he did not poop in the car this morning when I took him to take Clark to school. Oh my God.
Speaker 2:That situation is crazy. Why are we shitting in the car? You're like tiny.
Speaker 1:Well. So in his defense, you know I'm having to walk him on the leash again because of the whole heartworm situation. Yes, and I forgot to let him out before I put him in the car because it was like kind of drizzling. But yeah, we were dropped Clark off at school the other day and he's kind of. You know, I was like oh, what's going on? I turn around and he is just straight like hunched over dog pre do do position and he took a ginormous dump in Nateate's car. It was not ideal. Well, he kind of like walked through it and then he walked through it and got it all over nate's seat and then it was like, well, did you like clean it out? I was like no, I'm like we have a rule in this house I keep the kid alive, you do the dog stuff, like that's the only, brought it home and parked it and like left it, I mean I pulled the poop out because it was on a, but I left.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I left. It is that me. I think it's a stretch.
Speaker 2:I'm gonna go ahead and toss this. I have the kid, don't forget. I have the kid.
Speaker 1:Don't forget, I have the kid.
Speaker 2:No, no, no, I know, but this is like one of those, like it's the yellow flag on the field, like I might've been unnecessary roughness.
Speaker 1:I love you honey.
Speaker 2:I'm in. I'm in no way Like. I just want you to know that I think in this specific case All right, nate, I should have probably cleaned it, this specific case.
Speaker 1:All right, Nate, I should have probably cleaned it Back to the key fob situation. Back to the key fob. He's needed to handle that. But the poop all right, maybe you just shut the doors. No, the poop was out. I pulled the poop out of the car.
Speaker 2:You're talking about the physical the largest of the shits came out. I car You're talking about the physical, the largest of the shit. Yes, Okay, I understand. I want you to know that when I am saying what I'm saying about me, I am in full understanding. But you still took the largest shit out and then shut the doors and you went around your day.
Speaker 1:Yep, yep.
Speaker 2:Yeah that. I don't know if I would have done that, but that's okay, I love you honey.
Speaker 1:Sorry, I was busy.
Speaker 2:We're about to find out if Nate still listens. He does. He is behind, he's very behind my mom's, like I'm behind and I'm like in no way have I ever said to one of you guys, like, what episode are you at? There are actual times where I'm like, good, I hope this person doesn't listen to this episode.
Speaker 1:You know, sometimes it's better to be for people to be behind but, I will say our podcast and I'm going to take it back. I'm going to go way back to our first episode. We don't have the kind of podcast that you have to listen from the beginning you can jump in to.
Speaker 2:I didn't know that that's what you're going to say, but I am so happy.
Speaker 1:But you know, we had that conversation on our first ever episode.
Speaker 2:And you, our team, start from the beginning.
Speaker 1:A hundred percent, yeah, but in this specific case, for ours, I don't think you have to Because, like, if you're having a day where you are needing some laugh, you might go to one of our catch-up episodes. If you need a day with some therapy, you go to therapy episodes.
Speaker 2:I know people who have listened to the original one with Christina more than once because it's like literally talking about the again back to the good girl. Like those behaviors that keep us like that was one of my favorite episodes we've done.
Speaker 2:Same. I mean it just. I listened to it more than once because I'm just like I got to revisit this Cause I fucking making my bed before I can leave the house and doing all these dumb, monotonous, small bullshit things and, like I, we got to get past this. By the way, speaking of, my hairstylist decided to let me know that one of her goals is drinking more water this year, and I was like so I'm assuming that you already know, which is why you're coming clean. That is the dumbest goal I've ever heard, and I do not mean that in a harsh way.
Speaker 2:I mean love, you mean it, but you have so much more potential than drinking water. She's like but it's hard for me. I was like, and I then, yep, I get that, but like no, nope, that's a good.
Speaker 1:That's a good segue into a question that I have.
Speaker 2:Did you pick a word? Yeah, my word is love, that's right, you settled on that word.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I didn't say I settled, no, I meant landed. You landed on that word.
Speaker 2:Let's say that, okay, I know I'm just teasing you, but, yes, my word is love. I think that and I'm I just so you know I'm very much struggling with it, which we knew was going to happen. That's why this is a little check-in for that. The word, these are all about growth. I had a few posts about it. Unfortunately, right after I picked it was when I lost the bulldog, so we know that that is also a love situation. So I was like, wow, this is going to be a hell of a year, folks, with this love word. We know, if you've been here for a hot second, that I'm also deeply conflicted about love bombing. So apparently, the word is dead on for where we need to be. I have, I just I have no idea where this experience is going to take us, but I am trying very hard to lean into like believing people, believing that they have my best interest at heart.
Speaker 2:Um, I actually got stopped by one of the other girls in my complex the other day. It was actually this morning. Um, she, there is a same sex couple upstairs. They're girls. They're amazing. They might even be older than me. I don't know why I say girls, but they're women. They're incredible. Um, we don't know each other super well. Like we have both have dogs. We talk in passing. They gave me a really nice compliment on my tree because you could see it my Christmas tree out the window. Um, and I always take their compliments to heart because they take that time to be like hey, like that reminds me of the tree I had when I was growing up. Like it's just really beautiful. I always take time to look at it.
Speaker 2:This morning I'm looking full, gary Busey, cause I've been at drop off. And the one is like hey, do you have a second? And I was like yeah, oh, my gosh, sure. And she's like I just wanted to tell you. Like we were coming back from the grocery store on Saturday and I think you might've been headed out, but like you looked so beautiful and we couldn't help. But like she was like I just want you to know. And I was like wait, that actually is like the nicest thing ever. She's like we were both like wow. I was like it's partially, of course me, I can't accept a compliment. So I was like it's because I live like a gremlin here. She's like no, you just looked really beautiful, like whoever you were headed towards like was lucky to spend the time with you and I was like that was a really nice compliment.
Speaker 1:I love a thoughtful compliment. Like they are, they are yes, they are incredible.
Speaker 2:And she. They both know that I hang out here on my own and there's nobody like I said this before in an earlier episode, but like no one's feeling that. I mean makeup looks different. Like I recently changed my hair. I come home, no one's here, you know, like no one's going to be like oh, that's like a nice change or that's flattering, or you know, I see you got dressed up to. There's no external validation whatsoever inside of my fun little four walls. The dog is like you want to see something cool. I'm gonna take a shit in your room and see how long it takes for you to find that I did this.
Speaker 1:And don't send Jenny ever to clean it up, I know.
Speaker 2:but you know, like I was like that was a really nice, I couldn't help but be like damn, that was a really thoughtful, and she didn't mean it any sort of way.
Speaker 1:No, I think that's. I think that we should normalize compliments that are that specific.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Because the person, the man that I spent dinner with, was like you look so good today. I was like you've never seen me before.
Speaker 2:That's so nice though. Yeah, my first thought was like he might be a narcissist. I'm not saying he is, I'm just saying we're going back to attachment styles. I was like he might be a narcissist. I'm not saying he is, I'm just saying we're going back to attachment styles. I was like is this love bumming or are you being nice? But when she says it, I'm like, oh, I actually might have looked really nice the other day.
Speaker 1:I think we need to do better at accepting compliments. I'm not the best at that.
Speaker 2:No, but that's part of the love thing. Remember, I was like I do a really good job pouring love into my friends it's my very specific example when we were talking about this. But I'm very trepidatious about like realizing that love is actual when it comes back, and I've even had recent events where I'm like that made me re-question any sort of level of trust that I gave to any like other people, and I'm like Nope actually Cause.
Speaker 2:I do not. No, but I also don't govern myself with this idea of respect is earned. Like I am, very I will let you lose it before you have to earn it, if that makes any sense. Like I'm not one of those people like I. There was actually something on them. It was a hinge thing. We can share it here later. It was his profile he was trying to match and it said something like along the lines of I don't do lies, so like if you start our relationship off lying about your weight was his example in his bio. Like then, like something, something, and then respect or trust is earned, not just given. And I was like this two sentences is so full of red flags.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think you should actually just be removed from this app. But like, first of all, whose weight are you asking for? Because if that's your next question, if we match, you're out of your mind. A I don't know how much I weigh at all. And B sir, that's a shit.
Speaker 1:I don't understand these people.
Speaker 2:I know. But I was like there's reasons why I don't have trust, but then also I don't. I don't necessarily, I don't, I definitely don't feel the need to test trust. You know how some people are really obsessive about that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I know, for me it's more of like I just don't have. I'm sure you've seen that quote. It's like you know, be careful who you share things with. You know, eight out of 10 people don't want to see you succeed into whatever the number is or whatever. I think I'm just more. It's not that I don't trust people, I'm just more guarded with my who I let in the.
Speaker 2:It's funny we're very guarded in like separate ways. So like I put an awful lot, let's say like on social, and it gives people the illusion that they know me really well. But if you know me really well, you know that that I'm managing that illusion very closely right, which is like a kind of a fucked up thing to say. But like it's true, like I don't share everything for sure, I'll share a decent amount. Like if you want to listen and hear about my camel toe, cool, but I've got way more going on than that. But yes, trust is definitely an earned thing for me, but I also will let people lose it before I make them work so hard just to earn it.
Speaker 1:Like, I do want love around me, and so that's part of this journey.
Speaker 2:Did you finish your word? It's listen. I landed on our guts. Yep, yep. I'm the live laugh love of the podcast community. Right now, guys, we are listening, love is on the wall. We are Oops, oops. Is it working, though? It is yeah, yeah, definitely Is it working Like we're fixing it's like a sink, Is it working? Is it working Like we're plugging in our microphones for technology?
Speaker 1:I mean, we are almost a quarter of the way through the year, which is crazy, oh whoa. But we are, we are. It's like 310 days. One fifth Well, this airs in March, so I'm going quarter.
Speaker 2:I'm not ready to think of it like that.
Speaker 1:Okay, well, I'm ready for sunshine and warmth and spring break, so I'm here for it.
Speaker 2:I need to take my pale butt over to your pool.
Speaker 1:Why it's close. It's freaking freezing.
Speaker 2:I just need to sit there without my neighbors being friendly. I need my butt cheeks out so I can get some tan.
Speaker 1:You know you can't do that. My dad does the pop in.
Speaker 2:Oh shit.
Speaker 1:You know he loves to pop in.
Speaker 2:We've talked about this before. Can you just like tell him it's my pool day and then everyone else leaves and I'll just like? Yes it's fine. I mean, I can take my butt cheeks to Whitney's pool if I have to, but I'm going to need some color and I can't do it here.
Speaker 1:I feel you. I just want to lay out topless by my pool, that's all I know, I know.
Speaker 2:Can we not just tell, can we just put our chairs back to back so we're looking the other way and then just tell your dad, like it can't happen today?
Speaker 1:You want a tan ass. I want some tan babies, I want both. Okay, did you use to tan in bed? Have we talked about this? Before In college oh my God, I was like an avid. It burns me. I was an avid.
Speaker 2:I would wear the playboy sticker on my head.
Speaker 1:Talk to me, I had a playboy blanket. No, you didn't.
Speaker 2:Are you serious? Hell, yeah, I did, actually, when the one came out and I know we're going to wrap up soon, but remember when the one came out with the girls from Hef's Mansion, kendra, I was obsessed with that show. Okay, I loved them so much and I had a very good friend, carly, who also loved them. We got those Playboy magazines immediately off the stands, met at a local bar and spent like two hours there going through page by page.
Speaker 1:I was obsessed with that show.
Speaker 2:We read everything pictures. That show was amazing. I loved all of those personalities. I obviously have a deep distrust in the mention, but I absolutely like, even into almost my thirties, that blanket was like a core blanket in my life. How sketchy is that. It was black with a white bun. What in the world, what? What? I can't with myself. That is funny, though I mean like my poor parents are, so I'm like the weird wildflower of the three kids and they're just like oh God, which is ironic because you're like the oldest right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I'm like very type A but like not. Also I can't even with some of this stuff. Like I literally had a Playboy. I was living in their house, literally had a playboy. I was living in their house, I went to a bar so I could drink for sure, and perused that entire catalog with my catalog with my very good friend Carly. That is hilarious. Well, today we both ended up in really messed up marriages. So yay, that worked out super well, guys.
Speaker 1:Oh my goodness, today's a short one, everybody, we're on to do.
Speaker 2:We're going to learn our female archetypes? We are. Am I saying that word?
Speaker 1:correctly? I don't know. That's why I was really hesitant to say it, because I didn't know if it's like archetypes or archetypes.
Speaker 2:I thought it was archetypes.
Speaker 1:All right.
Speaker 2:I'm going to ask Chachi BJ how to say it.
Speaker 1:Maybe they'll like, give me a little phonetic. Well, we're going to take our words, listen and look, there goes my alarm, our listen and love cells and go out into the world today. Keep on keeping on folks, keep on keeping on. Thank you so much for tuning in and we will see you next week.