What if there was a way to transform the way you perceive and react to life's ups and downs? Join us, Janet and Brenda, as we delve deep into our personal experiences and learn how to flip our mindsets from negative to positive through authenticity and vulnerability. We'll share how personal tragedies became the catalyst for this podcast and our journey towards self-discovery and inner peace.
In this roller coaster of emotions, we'll reveal how we learned to embrace vulnerability and self-compassion, and the power of making brave choices in life. We'll discuss the significance of being kind to ourselves, of breaking the shackles of societal norms, and embracing our authentic selves. Learn from our journey as we share the techniques of flipping the negative mindset and how we committed to the process of spiritual awakening. Are you ready to challenge your preconceptions and take steps towards creating a more positive and fulfilling reality? Be prepared to be brave like a buffalo, and run towards the storm. We're here to guide you.
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What if there was a way to transform the way you perceive and react to life's ups and downs? Join us, Janet and Brenda, as we delve deep into our personal experiences and learn how to flip our mindsets from negative to positive through authenticity and vulnerability. We'll share how personal tragedies became the catalyst for this podcast and our journey towards self-discovery and inner peace.
In this roller coaster of emotions, we'll reveal how we learned to embrace vulnerability and self-compassion, and the power of making brave choices in life. We'll discuss the significance of being kind to ourselves, of breaking the shackles of societal norms, and embracing our authentic selves. Learn from our journey as we share the techniques of flipping the negative mindset and how we committed to the process of spiritual awakening. Are you ready to challenge your preconceptions and take steps towards creating a more positive and fulfilling reality? Be prepared to be brave like a buffalo, and run towards the storm. We're here to guide you.
email: FlippedMindsetPodcast@gmail.com
Facebook: Flipped Mindset Podcast
Hi, welcome to Flipped. I'm Janet and this is Brenda and we're sisters, and this is our introductory episode to our podcast Flipped. Flipped stands for Finding Life in Powered Peaceful, Powered in Light and Directions. So basically we're going to be talking about life mindset, how to flip things, how to look at things differently, and you can jump in anytime you want to. She's just sitting here looking at me and like nodding along.
Speaker 2:Yes, and you will actually hear a lot of that. We banter back and forth, but one thing that I wanted to first add is one of the reasons why I was very excited about us doing this podcast, the reason I wanted this done. Is there a way to stop this? We have to really record it.
Speaker 1:Keep going. Okay, we can always edit. We're going to edit, okay, so we're basically what we're going to want, to let everybody know our whys. Why are we here, why are why Right? So Okay, thank you, that's a lot, big sister.
Speaker 2:The why I'm here and that I am passionate about flipping mindset is about a year ago I lost my husband to suicide, so that totally changed my whole world. It tilted it, so I needed a way to change my mindset and flip it, and so that's and we'll get into that later, but that's the big reason I'm here.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and you know it was very powerful to watch you go through it. But to watch you go through it and be able to like because you already had kind of a little bit before of the mind shift, but then you had this big, huge traumatic thing happen to you and you chose every day to change your mindset, which allowed you to be where you are now, which is completely different than what most people would go through. So you know, so I'm going to give you mad props, but we'll go into that. That'll be another episode that we'll go more into that and the trauma and things.
Speaker 1:And for me, my wife is my daughter. So my daughter is an amazing human being and you guys will hear a lot about her and probably get her on at a time or two as well. She is actually the biggest catalyst that she has been telling me for a while that I need to do a podcast and so a little bit about that is like we grew up without really parental guidance at all, so we were kind of on our own and then. So whenever I became a parent, I wanted my kids. You know, I wanted to parent my kids in a way that they didn't have to, you know, just figure everything out.
Speaker 1:And then I always had this certain way of looking at life and allowing, you know, we'll get into that too and the ways that I deal with my kids and stuff. But my daughter, it really has helped her so much that she's like mom, you got to do this for other kids that didn't have. You know, other people that don't have that, don't have a way of looking at life in a different manner, and so that's kind of what we're here is is just to kind of get our stories out, talk about what has happened to us and how we've been able to flip it around, getting away from the social norms, the, you know those, all the stories that everybody talks about. You know, like what's expected of us and how to like really step back at that and love ourselves, fuel ourselves, be a part of you know, and really changing our realities into the actual lives we really want them to be.
Speaker 2:Yes, because you live in yourself day to day like no one else, lives this path that you live. And if you are concerned with the outside world all the time, you're not going to live your path, you're not going to live the true meaning of what and how you need to be and what's happy for you or what makes you joyful or what makes you powerful. And so the biggest thing with flipped is just getting in that mindset of you know, doing ego work. My sister does a lot of that ego work that has really changed how I talk to myself and my ego and stuff like that. So just, you know, just a different way of looking at things either resonates with you or doesn't.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Well, and, too, it's one of those things like everything we're looking for, like the joy, the happiness, the all this stuff that we crave, that we're always looking externally to fill that, and it's really like we have all the answers. We have it all inside of us. We just don't know how to unlock it, we don't know how to look at it, we don't know how to do the work that allows it to come out, and so this is all about flipping that in a way that now, instead of being nervous and anxious and negative, in in, just like in this energy that sucks and it's lower vibration. It's about how can we let that go and move into a higher, more positive, more, you know, loving, caring, joyful kind of vibration. And when you do that, it doesn't matter the external, anything can happen around you, but you can still be peaceful on the inside.
Speaker 1:And that's really, I think, like what spirituality and awakening and enlightenment like that's. I mean kind of like everybody's been trying to, like that's what we want to get to. So this is just kind of our take on it and kind of where we've been and what has worked for us. And you know, we just kind of want to put that message out there and and talk about it more. Open that dialogue, because I don't think we're talking enough about it and I think you know the day and age of podcasts and everybody talking. We yeah, we're. We're throwing our hat in the ring too right.
Speaker 2:And you know we definitely have walk to walk, like we're not saying that you just be positive every day and it's going to change. No, you have to face Well, you have to face your trauma and but you can do it in a way that it's not super scary, that you put the work in and the analogy I think you need to tell them about the analogy of the buffalo. I think that is. We'll get that in it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, well, like a lot to like to go back to. And there's some misconceptions of, like a positive mindset, right, when we say positive mindset everything's. Oh, we're just going to every day pretend everything's rainbows and butterflies. Well, that's not true. That's not what a positive mindset is. A positive mindset is when you can look at a situation and you look at your healing or you look at the trauma and you're like you're choosing you and you're choosing like okay, I'm not going to let this destroy me or I'm not going to let this define me. I'm going to now look at what is what is my mind shift, right, what is what? What kind of like? Why is life being crappy to me and shitting on me all day? No, instead, I'm going what do I need to learn from this? And this will get us into the buffaloes, right, because it's like when I can, when I can shift that and go, what is the lesson I need to learn here? Then I get through it faster. Yeah, then I'm like okay, this is the lesson I need to learn. This is the work I need to do. I do the work. Now I'm going to be more positive and have more positive energy because I'm doing the work, I'm letting that negative stuff go.
Speaker 1:So, a little bit on the buffalo, we will go into like a way big episode, but this is something me and Brenda talk about a lot is the buffalo. So there's a thing and I know this has been talked about, I've heard it talked about multiple times now but there's a difference between a buffalo and a cow, and so, basically, when a storm comes, the cow will run away from the storm. So what happens is, as that cow is running away from the storm because they don't want to be in the storm, right, it sucks, it's going to be shitty. Nobody likes storms, right, you know. So it's running away. Well, eventually the storm is going to catch up to the cow, and when it catches up to the cow, now the cow is like he's exhausted, he's tired and he can't run anymore, and now he gets the brunt of the whole storm, right? So now he's got to endure this whole storm and he's in the state of, you know, just exhaustion, right, because he's been running from it. He's been running from it.
Speaker 1:Now, a buffalo.
Speaker 1:What a buffalo do is, when the storm comes, they actually run to the storm, they hit it head on and, knowing this one is they have their strength.
Speaker 1:They know if they go through it, it's going to be less amount of time because they're facing it head on and they know getting on the other side is that's where the sunshine and, you know, in the grass and stuff, and so they get to rest quicker, right, so now they're not as exhausted and stuff, because they didn't have to be in the storm as long. So that's when we talk about being brave buffalo and we're getting into the bravery versus vulnerability and all that stuff, which I think is amazing work that Benet Brown does, and all that stuff you know. So it's like all this, like you know, you get to make the choice. That's the biggest thing. Like we always feel like we're we don't have any power in life, right, like life is just doing this stuff, but we have all the power and like when you can know that and feel that that you can make the choice, it makes a huge difference. So we're going to that's kind of like some of the things we want to really like, dive deep into and talk about and have this dialogue.
Speaker 2:Yeah, absolutely, and I think that just, I don't just talking about it, just opening up conversations about it. And you know, you've probably been feeling some of these things but you've never talked about it. And whatever situation you're in, but opening up and talking about, talking about it, that's the biggest thing, that's how you face the storm, yeah, and not just the turmoil inside you, and it's not even if you don't release it it just gets worse.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and it's not even just having the conversation with somebody else, it's having the conversation with yourself. There you go, and that's the biggest thing. We'll talk about that too, and like learning how to be your own best friend and learning how to have those nice you like not only you know it's not a skill, no, we haven't.
Speaker 1:we've been taught that. You know. The skill we need to do is we need to talk to ourselves like we talked to our best friend. We have been taught to be nice to other people and have compassion for other people and love other people that are around us, but we're never taught to do that to ourselves. We're actually taught if you're nice to yourself, you're being selfish. Yes, and it's so backwards, right, because if we're nicer to ourselves, then we're going to be nicer to everybody else, but we neglect ourselves and that internal dialogue is so freaking important. The words we use, you know, and there's a lot of things that we do in society, you know like we make fun of ourselves and we do different things like that all the time. Ice maker, don't worry about it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm not a sweet friend of mine, don't worry about that.
Speaker 1:We're entry level here, people. We're at my dining room table doing this, but we wanted to keep it real.
Speaker 1:We wanted to, you know, be authentic and really just show who we are because, you know, I mean, I think I think also in society everything's made to look pretty. You know, like all our magazines are airbrushed and Photoshopped and everybody wants to have the filters on to show like the best sides and stuff like that. And I think we all crave Real like. There's so much stuff in our life. Even our food isn't even real, right, there's parts of our food that's not real. So it's like I think we crave that right. We crave that realness and authentic, and I think that's why a lot of people, like some of the people you see on tick, tock or those things that are the ones that are just real, tend to people.
Speaker 1:They gravitate to that right, because we all know we're not really, you know we're not these fake Genuine see.
Speaker 2:I just love that word genuine, genuine, I like the authentic, genuine yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So that's kind of what we want to do here. We want to, we want to dig into it. It's funny, we turn the mic on and now, you know, you know you're the hardest. We were laughing, our Trying to like make sure, like, yeah, so, but yeah, we're happy to be here, we're happy to put out our message. We do want the dialogue. You know, we look forward to people chiming in and things. We want to talk about a bird. You know I've already got a couple friends that want to come on and we want to talk about different, different topics and different things. And we're just gonna talk about life, life and what it is, and how to switch that mindset and flip it and learn to be brave buffalo, brave buffaloes, how to be more vulnerable, I think.
Speaker 1:I think a lot of it too is is when you can come up and we've talked about this before is it's having that self-awareness right? Well, especially when we go into ego work and things like that, it's having that self-awareness of knowing when you're, when you're starting to spiral and you're starting to have that anxiety and going hold on, you know, or, or like I'm starting to hear the, the I'm not good enough, right, those things that we say to ourselves I need to do this, the shooting right, we shouldn't shed on ourselves, I should do this, I should do that, I should do this. Yeah, don't shoot on yourself.
Speaker 1:Don't shoot on yourself, right, because what we're doing is we're setting. We're setting rules for ourselves. We'll go into that, too, in more detail. We're setting rules for ourselves and then then we don't make those rules. We're automatically setting ourselves up to have guilt and shame and all these emotions that are such a low vibration Emotions. That's not gonna help us with our joy. We're not. You know, we're stealing our own joy. We're getting in our own freaking way, yeah, like we're our own worst enemies. So so it's like so, instead of us being our enemies, we're gonna we're gonna learn how to flip that and become our own best friends, and it'll change everything.
Speaker 1:It's changed in our lives and we just went through something very tragic last year. You know we lost, you know we lost guy, so and we lost our family, we lost guy, like everything, like our whole lives just went, yours, really, you lost everything.
Speaker 2:I mean I absolutely lost everything and and I mean we'll get into that story, but but the mindset changing your mindset and talking to yourself and talking to your ego in your, in your soul, and Like they're your best friend, it's, it'll change everything. It's amazing work.
Speaker 1:It's amazing work. And then too, I want to. You know just a little background on me and me and Brenda is you know we're sisters but we didn't talk for 20 years. We didn't like each other.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we had nothing to do with each other for 20 years. Yeah, we actually only recently got back in. Like what, within the last like four years or something like that, we've been in touch with each other and, and, you know, getting to know each other in this side, and a lot of that Way we were able to do that is because of our mind shift. Yes, you know, we had the mind shift that changed and then we were able to get back on the same page, which is really, you know, a lot of people never get there right, a lot of people get stuck in their mindset and then they, you can, it kind of is rooted in Insecurities and stuff. Right, like this is the only way I know and da, da da, this is the way I'm gonna do it and and I'm right and everybody else is wrong, yada, yada, yada, and we'll get into a lot of that, you know.
Speaker 1:But, but, but, when you can break free from that is when, when you can start to open up and, hey, there might be another way, there might be another way of thinking about this, and when you start looking at it and hopefully, hopefully, it'll make sense and we can lay it out in ways that that that has helped us in seeing it and we're like, oh wow, you know, and sometimes it's hard, I mean it's not gonna be easy and it's doing work and doing the work. But I think a lot of people want to do the work right. That's why they're like self-help is so big and everybody's buying the books and doing this stuff, because everybody wants to get better and be better. So this is just another, another voice, another way of looking at it. You know, and we are, we are pretty funny.
Speaker 2:My phone told me I was funny, which she is kind of hilarious, you're more funny than I am, though.
Speaker 1:So I have an. I am I up on my phone and it said I am funny, right, it tells me things all the time. So I posted it on Facebook and I said see, my phone said I was funny and my sister commented on there, she goes charge your phone.
Speaker 2:She's always. She's showing you, would you charge your phone? Like, yes, we know you're funny, but and then she'll post things on my Facebook and she'll crack herself up and I just think it's the most hilarious.
Speaker 1:I'm like you crack your own so well okay my, but my, my life Philosophy is I'm here to entertain myself. That's everybody else's collateral damage exactly. I'm here to have fun and I'm here to enjoy myself. We only have one life. That's right, and that's what we're here like.
Speaker 1:That's the other thing, right, like we're, we are spiritual beings. This is this is our philosophy, this is the way we think. We are spiritual beings living a physical reality. You know this is earth, this is school earth. You know we are here to learn lessons for our souls and we are here to To experience this human experience in the way that it is so kind of and that's a mind shift and it own, like when you can think of it in that way. That helps me so much. So, like when I'm feeling Overwhelmed, I'm feeling sad, I'm feeling, you know, like kind of that beat down, the world sucks, and I'm really sad. I just think I am grateful I get to feel this emotion, right, like like it's a beautiful thing, like we all love when we can feel the joy and the happiness and all that stuff.
Speaker 1:But when we're in that, where we're feeling the um, the sadness and the upset and we can go, I'm just so grateful I get to feel this feeling and then I get to feel the feeling right, and then, as I work through the feeling and not be afraid of the feeling, then it helps me, right. That's how we get through the trauma. And we'll go into all that in way more detail. But but you know, just just flipping that mindset, I'm like I'm so grateful I get to feel this right now. And then sometimes, when my mind starts to race and race and race and race and I'll be driving in my car or something Like that, I'll take a deep breath and I'm like I get to be here right now. I get to. You know, there's certain things right in this moment. I get to be here right now and even though I feel like crap, but I get to feel it, I get to feel the cry.
Speaker 1:You know, it's all part of this human condition and if we start to think about it in that beautiful way of how everything's beautiful, even the crappy parts are beautiful, yeah, you know, if you think about, I just went to Wisconsin with a friend of mine and had a great time and when we were in nature, we were out doing these hike and stuff, we were looking at these trees and we and me and her were talking and was like nature's not perfect, nature's not all pretty, and you know it's all beautiful, but it's beautiful and it's imperfections, you know, in the, you know the, the, the limb, you know there's parts of it like there's trees dying, but then there's growth right next to it and beautiful flowers and stuff, right. So, and we look at nature, we don't we don't criticize nature for not being perfect, perfect Right. Yeah, we go out in the forest or we're out on the beach and stuff. You know it might smell like dead fish, but we're like man, this is beautiful, we love it, right, and we're always like sunset and all this stuff, but there's always this decay and bad stuff around us as well, but we always like in awe of nature.
Speaker 1:If we could do that to each other and just be in awe of ourselves and everybody else, just because we're perfectly in, perfect, right. So so that's basically what it is. We're going to switch that mindset, we're going to talk about things, we're going to laugh a lot, yes, and if you want to come along for the ride. That's awesome.
Speaker 1:Absolutely, and we welcome everyone of you and any, and also like anybody that wants to have like certain topics talking about or we wanted to go into more detail on stuff you know, so we will definitely get on things.
Speaker 1:If somebody wants to come on and talk about it. And that's the other thing too. We like to. We're like a non judgment kind of zone and we like the opinions of others Like we like to come at it and we want to understand. I know I do. I've always had a thirst to understand somebody else's point of view. That's the empath in me too.
Speaker 2:Right Like that, yeah A highly sensitive empath.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we want to learn that other side. We want to know what the you know. Why do you feel this way, why do you think this way, and stuff like that. So we even like the differing opinions. So we you know. First, to tell you the truth, I was to be a little vulnerable, right, like I was very scared of the negative comments. I didn't want to do it, I had to. I had to push back my fear of being rejected and abandoned and not liked, right. So I had, I had, I had to fight through that and figure that out. I mean, you've talked about it many times.
Speaker 1:Right, it's to get into place. At first I was like I don't want to see any negative comments, you guys are going to have to just take it. But then it's like but is that me living vulnerably Right? Is that me really pushing past my fear? It's not so. So now I'm at a point where, yes, I, you know again, then I had to do the work. Then I had to. I had to look and talk to my ego. Why are we feeling this way? What is it that I'm not showing up for which we'll get into later. Right, like, how to? I had to figure out. What was I not, what was I missing for me to feel that way? And then, once I found it, then we were able to like okay, bring it on, you know. And and actually it's going to be a challenge if we get the negative one, so see if we can flip it.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. Yeah, we'll see. We'll see what you do in flipping I think that's going to be in flipping the mindset on different things and stuff We'll see the negative comments and we're going to flip them. So so that's kind of we're here and we're just sharing, sharing and learning how to flip. I mean that's.
Speaker 1:So this is our first one yes, welcome aboard.
Speaker 2:Yes, and we go back, learn about being a buffalo and we will.
Speaker 1:We will talk to you soon. Yes, absolutely. Thank you, bye, hello and welcome to after thoughts. So it's just me. I thought it would be good to go on and do some after thoughts on the episode we have.
Speaker 1:We recorded that one, I say, almost like five months ago and we're just getting it put out. So I wanted to talk about it a little bit and do a little recap. So first of all, I wanted to like let you guys know what was kind of going on in our life at that time. Brenda had bought a house earlier this year and it was supposed to be something that her and her and guy did together, and so I mean, it was kind of a bittersweet thing. We got her into a new house and then it needed some work. So, being her then about a month and a half. First we were going to repaint, we're doing the repaint and there's these beams on her ceiling and they were just done and it's like an 80s house and the beams were done, this white popcorn stuff on the ceiling. So you know, I had the idea like it would be really pretty if we took all that off and then repainted the beams. We did that, so I'm going to post some of the pictures of it because we had a really good time.
Speaker 1:It was a great bonding experience and we spent a lot of time laughing, of course, and talking about life and talking about the podcast. So this is kind of that's kind of where the podcast was kind of birthed and we really started taking shape and what we would talk about and our banter back and forth, and that's where we must laugh so hard. We paid ourselves multiple times so, but so I wanted to share that journey with you guys. It was, it was a lot of fun and it really helped us get where the podcast started. So I'm really grateful for that. And I wanted to share One of the other things I had thought about adding on to this, just to let everybody know.
Speaker 1:It might have been clear, not sure. We were kind of all over the place. We're still trying to figure out the podcast thing. I think as you watch we'll get better as it goes along. So I just want I want you guys to take what works for you, what. What really like if something stands out or if there's. It's really like just about as we say, it's like flipping the mindset. It's changing the way we think about things, we get these stories in our head and we think that Life is one way and there's there's other ways to think about it. So hopefully there's things that'll speak to you, that'll help you in whatever you're going through. Of course, you can always interact with us and ask questions and we can go over things. This is about opening it up and having the discussions and having the dialogue.
Speaker 1:The other thing I was going to mention was I did like until I was going to edit out a part and I didn't edit it out. I wanted to be very authentic and you'll see, in a lot of these we don't edit out some of that. It's not about being perfect, it's just being about us. If I do edit things, it'll be more to make it not sound so bad if there's some things on there. But I definitely want you guys to know we're here, we're real people, we're going through it, and the other thing is so just to be a little vulnerable.
Speaker 1:There's a reason why it's taken Five, six months since we first recorded this, and a lot of it is me overcoming some of my fears and me learning to be a brave buffalo and be vulnerable and put myself out there. I've spent my life doling my shine and being quiet and being minimal and I'm not doing that anymore and I want my voice to be out there and, hopefully, if I just help one person, then I am a success and I've helped myself, I've helped my sister, I've helped my daughter, I've helped my son. I'm going to continue to keep helping people. So that's what I wanted to come on and let you guys know and talk to you real quick. I'm trying to get this put out quickly and I hope you guys stick around. We get a little crazy and hopefully we don't get too annoying, but we're going to be ourselves, we're going to have fun, we're going to talk about some things that need to be talked about. So welcome to the journey and I'm really glad you're here, I'm very grateful and we'll catch you on the flip side.