Today, we’re diving into the world of self-care, shedding light on a critical aspect of life we often overlook- being our own superheroes. From society's pressure to constantly put others first, we explore the damaging ripple effects of this on our well-being. We serve up real-life examples and practical tips on how to transition from always being the hero for others to being the hero for yourself, without an iota of guilt or self-judgment.
The journey to self-care is often misconstrued as selfishness. Let's debunk that myth together! Treating yourself with respect and kindness is not a luxury, but a necessity. We break down the importance of self-forgiveness and the power of positive self-talk. Imagine speaking to yourself as you would to your best friend, now, that's a game-changer! We share insights on how this simple shift in narrative can transform your self-perception and how others perceive you too.
Fasten your seatbelts as we navigate towards embracing our imperfections, mistakes, and celebrating our victories. We'll discuss giving yourself grace, and how to use mistakes as an opportunity to learn and do better next time. All victories, no matter how small, deserve celebration. So, it's high time you started clapping for yourself. Step into your power and join us in becoming your own superhero.
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Today, we’re diving into the world of self-care, shedding light on a critical aspect of life we often overlook- being our own superheroes. From society's pressure to constantly put others first, we explore the damaging ripple effects of this on our well-being. We serve up real-life examples and practical tips on how to transition from always being the hero for others to being the hero for yourself, without an iota of guilt or self-judgment.
The journey to self-care is often misconstrued as selfishness. Let's debunk that myth together! Treating yourself with respect and kindness is not a luxury, but a necessity. We break down the importance of self-forgiveness and the power of positive self-talk. Imagine speaking to yourself as you would to your best friend, now, that's a game-changer! We share insights on how this simple shift in narrative can transform your self-perception and how others perceive you too.
Fasten your seatbelts as we navigate towards embracing our imperfections, mistakes, and celebrating our victories. We'll discuss giving yourself grace, and how to use mistakes as an opportunity to learn and do better next time. All victories, no matter how small, deserve celebration. So, it's high time you started clapping for yourself. Step into your power and join us in becoming your own superhero.
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Facebook: Flipped Mindset Podcast
this stuff. Okay, welcome to the flipped mindset podcast. Hi, I'm Janet and I'm Brenda. Welcome to our podcast, where we're wonderfully weird and brave, all right.
Speaker 2:Welcome back. Welcome back, yes, it's been a little bit since we actually recorded.
Speaker 1:Yeah this, we're kind of getting back into the groove of this yeah. Getting there? Yes, so all right, you know how this life just gets in the way sometimes, so we've been dealing with some stuff and been good, though Good things happening. So on this episode, I guess we'll just jump right into it. You're just sitting there looking at me, so we'll just. Are you getting?
Speaker 2:shy, I'm ready for you to swoop in.
Speaker 1:Stuff we've been going through and dealing with and some of our friends going through too. Today we want to talk about being your own superhero. I want to change it. I did say earlier in the podcast I was like nobody's here coming to save you. But the good news is nobody's coming to save you. But I kind of want to change that a little bit because I don't like that. No one's coming to save you. It's very negative, but I mean it's true. It's true You've got to save yourself. So this is all about you being your own superhero. We are here for ourselves and as long as once we get to where we can care of ourselves and love ourselves and things like that, then life starts really smoothing out and the external becomes a less of a bothersome. I guess it's easier to handle or do those things if you're taking care of yourself. Do you have anything to add?
Speaker 2:No, I say no when I'm about to talk.
Speaker 1:So that's really good yeah it's actually.
Speaker 2:I like that we all understand what no one's coming to save you. But the good thing about the other flip side is no one's coming to save you. I like that we're flipping it to we're being our own super, because what a superhero is to they save people. So you're your own superhero to yourself. I'm glad we changed that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, well, and one of the things too is I know for myself and a lot of us are very similar we're so busy trying to save everybody else, we forget to save ourselves. Yes, and then at the end of the day, then we're exhausted and we're tired and we're depleted, and then we sit and we're looking for somebody else to come save us yeah, and then we're always looking and we're always looking and we're always deficient, you know, and then we're getting mad and frustrated because these people in our lives are not showing up for us the way we want them to show up for ourselves. But we forget, like, if we're not showing up for ourselves, how can we expect other people to show up for us in the same way?
Speaker 2:Yeah, like we almost don't know what it looks like for people to show up for ourselves, show up for us, because we're not having I don't know how to say this like an example, like we don't have that example for ourselves.
Speaker 1:Right? Well, you know it's part of the script, right? The script, the script that we're told, and the story that's told to us is you know, we're not supposed to take care of ourselves, we're supposed to be self-serving and serve everybody else and take care of everybody else, right? And then that's what everybody expects from us. And oh, if you're going to take care of yourself, you're selfish. Do we get told all this stuff that we're not supposed to talk highly of ourselves, we're not supposed to take care of ourselves, we're not supposed to do these things for ourselves? If so, if you do that, then you're conceited or you're. You know you don't care about other people and all this other stuff. So there's these things that we've been told, and it sucks, because the whole point the thing is is like, like, for me, I'm, I'm a people, you know, I take care of people and I'm a people pleaser.
Speaker 1:I'm a former people pleaser because I was, you know, spent my whole life like because of the trauma and everything I was trying to. You know, take care of everybody else and please everybody else, because hopefully then I would get some attention, I would get some of that love, and so I was treating everybody else like I wanted to be treated, hoping that they would treat me the same, and then I wouldn't get that in return. Usually what would happen is you get people that will take advantage of you, you know, take what they can get and and then you know, move on, and then, at any time that I would actually start to try to take care of myself and being more, you know, self-serving. In a way, then I would get. Well, you know, because they weren't, because I was putting my boundaries up and I was taking care of myself and doing those things, the people didn't like it. They get mad because people that are taking advantage don't like when you start putting your boundaries. So it all makes it really hard and difficult to manage all this, and so the biggest thing as we talk about this is we have to be there for ourselves, but the thing that we end up all doing is we end up not saying nice things about ourselves, putting ourselves down, not showing up for ourselves. So, like, a good example would be like allowing somebody disrespect us. So if somebody comes to us and says, hey, can you do this, instead of saying no which what we want to say is no and say we go, yeah, we want to say we'll say yes and do that for them, even though it's not what we wanted to do. And when we do that, we're disrespecting ourselves because we're not standing up for ourselves and doing what we need to be doing.
Speaker 1:Now, some of the small things. That's not saying don't ever do anything for anybody else, don't ever, you know, like. So a good example would be like you know, my daughter's in a car accident. So I headed up to Oklahoma City and made sure she was okay and I went out of my way and dropped what I was doing for the day to take care of her. That was my decision to do.
Speaker 1:But it would be different if I had, you know, if a friend called and said, hey, you know I need your help in, you know, going grocery shopping or something for myself, and I'm like, oh man, I've got to take care of my son. I got all this other stuff to do, but I feel bad. So, okay, I'm going to go do that. It should never be like that. It should be because I make the decision to do it, because I want to be there and take care of that person, versus, oh, I don't want to feel bad, or I don't want them to feel bad. You know those are. Those are things that we're now putting them above us.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:And if we keep doing that, what happens usually is because those people that do that, the ones that don't respect our boundaries and don't respect that we have things to do and don't appreciate us, then it just depletes us because we're not getting any of that back. We're hoping that, oh, if I do this for them, then they'll notice, so they'll give us I'm speaking from my experience right, and then I never got it, and then I would just always be. Eventually I would just be depleted.
Speaker 2:Well, and then on my side is because I'm a nurse, so as a nurse we're taught to take care of others. That it's not reciprocal relationship. And so it bleeds into my personal life where I take care of everybody and it's not reciprocal, and so you eventually just burn out and then you just have nothing left. And you know, it did happen to me that I burnt out and had to step away from nursing for several months. So I had to learn to set time for myself and set boundaries and say, no, I don't know, I can't do this for you. I don't have to give you reasons, you know. Selfless what do we talk about? Selfless as putting you on needs, self?
Speaker 1:care and being selfish. So the difference is self care is you're putting your needs over everybody else's wants, yes, and then self less or being selfish means you're putting your wants over everybody else's need, which you know. There's always a great line too of what are those needs and wants, and sometimes we think that their wants are actually needs. So we put them over our needs and then it depletes us, because sometimes some people will, will like everything's a need, because they need it.
Speaker 1:I need it, and I need it and you're like, well, do you really need it or do you know? But that's not as easy. It's not as easy as black and white as the saying it, but there's things that you got to look at. And then when you do and we're all guilty of this of disrespecting ourselves. So the other piece of that is, instead of like, oh, I can't ever not disrespect myself, it's going to happen it's just like think about in a relationship, or even like my relationship with my kids you know, I think about it Like there's times that I'm going to say stuff or do stuff. That's not great, that I end up hurting their feelings or I might snap at them or something like that. So you're going to do that same thing to yourself. So what do you do when it's your significant other or if it's somebody you care about?
Speaker 2:You feel bad? Yeah, like if you, if you snapped at like, like, like, like guy.
Speaker 1:Let's just say you and guy got into it and you snapped at him. What would you do?
Speaker 2:Yeah, you feel bad and I can apologize.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so you would apologize or you make amends to him because you're like I'm sorry, I didn't really mean to do that, you know. So we forget that we can do the same thing to ourselves. We have to treat ourselves like that. So we have to like oh, if I've just respected myself and I did something that I didn't want to do and it was just, you know, or I hurt myself or hurt my feelings or whatever, then I need to come and apologize to myself, I'm sorry, and forgive myself.
Speaker 2:And we do not do that. We do not do that Because we're here, the script tells us. You know that's selfish or whatever.
Speaker 1:That's selfish or whatever. Yeah, and so like, if we continue to do that and we continue to break our own boundaries and we don't forgive ourselves or apologize or make amends to ourselves, how can we expect other people to do this? So we're expecting other people to do things that we're not even willing for ourselves? Yeah, so we need to change this and so we're going to be able to do all like. This is almost like the to be the mission statement of this frigging podcast of my life.
Speaker 2:It flips your mind.
Speaker 1:Flipping that mindset. Yes, treat yourself like you actually treat others. Treat yourself like your best friend. That's gone through all the shit you've gone through. Yeah, and now treat yourself that way. Yeah, now talk to yourself that way. Yes, hey, I'm sorry you've gone through all that shit. It is unfair that you've gone through all that shit. Please forgive me for disrespecting you. Please forgive me for, you know, not standing up. Hey, next time, instead of beating myself and going well, I should have done this, I should have done that and so go next time. In that situation, what should we say? How do we stand up for ourselves? How do we?
Speaker 1:And once you start changing this conversation we've talked about this in the self talk one and a few others, but once you start changing this conversation and start having these conversations with yourself, it's going to change, yes, and especially, it's going to start. You're going to start loving yourself more. You're going to start respecting yourself more. The people around you are going to start treating you differently. Because you're treating yourself differently. And it sounds weird and it sounds like that's too simple. Yeah, but it's, it's. It really is it? Just it's gonna be different and it feels weird at first. It feels really weird, you know, and that whole thing like, oh, don't talk to yourself, you're crazy. No, no, no, that's not no.
Speaker 2:talking to yourself is very valid you know, and if you, I think, if you have an issue with like this, talking to yourself, you can always write it down. To write it down turn on it, yeah, however you know, so your ego and yourself can be, and it's not just in your head, right, so it's out.
Speaker 1:That's vocalized, or on the paper and that's a really good point, because putting on paper is a really good thing. It's it does something with your subconscious when you're writing things down.
Speaker 2:So I know like I'm having this conversation quietly in your head. Mm-hmm yeah us over thinkers like me. It goes in weird directions. It really does and it was, and then it just you're not. You're not getting the point.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's a really good point. So there's different ways that you can verbalize it, or vocalize it, or get it out Whatever feels comfortable. Write different methods, you know, try them all. You know, because I do, I do a variety of all. Like, oh, I will talk to myself and then I will write it on in my journal. And I will write in my journal, like I'm talking to myself, like you got this, what, what's going on? Like let's talk about it. I'm sorry, I did this, like you know, and and that's a good you know, like you said, like that's a good way to go Well.
Speaker 2:And when I put my makeup on, I have a conversation with myself.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:Thank you. That was the past 24 hours. Did we do something that you know I didn't feel good about and, like you said, what would I do different? Right? Because, then I compare can it, can? I'm sure that's words, I'm Impair.
Speaker 1:Right, so now you're prepared with.
Speaker 2:Prepare you for the next situation where somebody wants to pull on you and you don't want to be fooled on, yeah, and so you just like that's my boundary and this is.
Speaker 1:This is how we're gonna say it be respect and and then also the other thing that it does is stop you from getting into the shame and guilt Like all that's right. We want to get away from shaming and guilty ourselves and we do it to ourselves all the time. I can't believe I said that. Why did I say?
Speaker 1:that you know and then we, yeah, the shame gremlins and everything, just like, yeah. So when you voice it and you know it's a, it's we allow, like if somebody said those same things, like if somebody did that to you you would be okay, you'd be like, no, it's okay, I understand. Blah, blah, blah.
Speaker 1:Why can't we do that to ourselves? We hold ourselves to this whole other standard that we have to be freaking perfect, no, every perfect thing to say, you know, to be able to come into any conversation and just be like a word wizard. So we have to give ourselves that grace. We have to be like it is that we didn't handle that perfectly. It's okay that we didn't end up for ourselves in the way we wish we could so. But if you sit and like, why wish I would have done this and I should have done that, and blah, blah, blah, blah, you're gonna make yourself feel shame and guilt and the next time it happens You're gonna have a hard time standing up for yourself, if you even even if you do otherwise you're just gonna feel even worse about yourself and it's just like a nasty cycle.
Speaker 2:This is gonna go like down the drain.
Speaker 1:So we want to stop that. Whenever you feel that you stop it and go wait a minute. You know I made a mistake. It's okay to make mistakes. It is okay for all of us to make mistakes. We're human. We're gonna make mistakes. It's all about this life. We're learning lessons and we're learning things, and and so we got to learn to be able to take those mistakes and be okay with them and not beat ourselves up about them. And then this is how we start to be our own superhero. This is how we started, because it's amazing when you start telling yourself these things you know, hey, I love you, You're doing a great job. Yeah, you got this. You know you're not alone. You know we talked about the soul in EO. You're not alone. You know you got a team and there's people out there that love you and care about you. We got this, you got this and it changes everything. And get on my soapbox on this.
Speaker 2:I love it. I just love watching you talk, because it just makes so much sense. And if we treat ourselves like we're our own superheroes, oh my gosh. We just do amazing things.
Speaker 1:Yeah, show what we need to show up for ourselves.
Speaker 1:The same way we're one show, we show up for other people and I think one of the things, too, is we do that for other people because we're wanting the validation. We're like, oh, it's because it feels good when we help other people and then they validate us Thank you for helping me when they do right but it's like, oh, I help them, you know, I feel good about it. So we need to start feeling that same way about ourselves, that, hey, look, I helped myself. I, you know, I showed up for myself today. I fixed, you know I'm there. So it makes a huge difference I and I do it all the time. You know, and as we talk about this, you know we're getting ready to launch the podcast and I keep talking about it for a while, and I've been having to have conversations with my ego on some of the things that have been holding me up, some of the issues, things that I've been dealing with. I know you've been dealing with stuff too and figuring out where we're at, and you know, and you guys are coming along our journey and you know, thank you for being here. Yeah, thank you for being here. The other thing I wanted to talk about is another way you can show up for yourself is like you were talking about, like when you're putting the makeup on in the morning and you're talking, you know.
Speaker 1:Another thing is setting intentions for the day. Oh, that's good, because what happens is, you know, like our mind kind of goes on autopilot and it's gonna go, you know, start randomly thinking about all this stuff, blah, blah, blah. You know it's got a program, it's gonna go on its program. So one thing you can do in the day is you can set it in the morning. I set intentions every morning and then, if you're gonna get into a situation, you can set it before, like if you're gonna go into work and you know it's gonna be a rough day or whatever.
Speaker 1:You can set your intentions for the day. You can be like, you know, you can say my intention for today is to look for more for the positive and allow the negative to. You know, ask me by, or whatever makes sense for you. You know it kind of depends on how you wanna set the day. I always say I wanna be my, stay in my, the true, authentic self, and I'm gonna, you know, find the joy in every little, in all the everyday things, different things like that, to really kind of get your mind, because once you do that, your mind's gonna. It's like that whole thing we talked about in you're looking for a Toyota car and you're gonna start seeing it in Toyota cars everywhere, right. Kind of the same thing. If I set my intention for the day, I'm gonna look for the positive and I'm gonna be grateful.
Speaker 2:It's like cleaning that seed and your mind's gonna be like, oh yeah, this and this.
Speaker 1:And you're gonna be like yeah, where'd you say, man, it's gonna be a crappy day. Well, guess what?
Speaker 1:You guaranteed that you're gonna have a crappy day. So it's like sitting that like, and sometimes it sounds weird. And even if you're in a bad mood and you think it's gonna be a bad day, don't put it out there to say it's gonna be a good day, we're gonna have a good day, we're gonna make the best of today. I'm gonna do the best I can today. I'm not gonna shame myself, I'm not gonna guilt myself. It's okay if I make mistakes. There's any of these things, anything that resonates with you, that that intention, and it'll make a big difference in your day.
Speaker 2:I can see so one of the something new in my life is I've started doing being a clinical instructor for a university and I had my first like lab. I help in the lab with the nursing program Anyway. So one of my students, she was doing a check off and she did wonderful. She hit every point but left out one small little section. She still passed the check off, but one little small section that she just didn't even hit on and so I had to count some points off. Or because she didn't even hit off.
Speaker 2:And my other instructor that was helping me after she was done you know I was checking off my other ones my other friend, my instructor friend said she got back to the room she had this Horrible look on her face. She realized that she had just missed this one tiny little section and she said Professor, I got to go to the bathroom, I'm gonna go through. So she went, the poor thing, went and threw up and we brought her. Like. So at the end of the check offs we bring them back one by one and say, okay, here's what she did, good, here's what. Maybe you should work on things like that. So I waited till the very end to get her in there because her feelings like she just wears them over she, just her face and just everything.
Speaker 2:And the first thing I said I was like you passed the string of past. You did a good job. You passed, yes, you missed that one little spot. And she just was like I didn't mean to and I'm so sorry. And me and my structure friend was like you need to give yourself Right. You know, she's just like I just want to do this so well and I'm like you did you rock this. You forgot one little spot. Okay, in nursing it, like what you did, you're not gonna hurt anybody, but just one little thing. Yeah, and she just was like you could feel like the she and we just kept going. You need to give yourself grace. You're not gonna be a hundred percent. You're gonna learn every day, especially as a nurse. You can learn something every day, you know. And she just, you could just see that she's like oh, okay, maybe I'm okay. So I don't know if it a hundred percent something, but I just think at the moment she was just like she forgave herself for forgetting that's any little piece.
Speaker 1:So I'm glad I was there, but I mean, that's, that's a piece of it, that's a part of it. Right Is giving those. You know that that can start Getting your mind used to Mm-hmm flipping that and okay, I can give myself grace. Like like, in her mind it's this big, huge monster, she's. All she's thinking about is this one little spot that she missed. She messed it all up and like. This is the shame and guilt going down and it did.
Speaker 2:And it brings. My instructor friend said that she just did cycle, cycle down to the point, she made herself sick.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so whereas she did a great job oh, yes, she does, she does missed a little section, so no section.
Speaker 2:That's a great example. But, like we acknowledge yes, we, we realize that you think that's big and you give yourself grace. Yeah, you have to give yourself great. Yes, I told her. I said nursing is hard on you. Yeah, you cannot get caught up on this. I think you did fine.
Speaker 1:You're doing fine, you're doing fine. So you know some of the things you can think. On herself. It'd be like, okay, maybe I need to slow down a little bit on the next, now I know what to expect. This is my first one. Now I know what to expect. It's okay if I, you know, and she could, like they could even set their intentions before going into the clinicals. My intention is I'm gonna do another thing she had, says sorry I didn't know but I think she said is she wanted to be perfect.
Speaker 2:I mean, my, my friend, my clinical instructor was like there's no such thing as being perfect.
Speaker 1:No, there is no such thing.
Speaker 2:She had already had it in her mind that she has to do 100% on everything and we were like, oh, oh, so one of the things is you got to think like, yeah, it's not, you can't be perfect.
Speaker 1:That's, that's an ego. It's an ego. That's definitely the ego thing too. But one of the ways to challenge that is is what happens if you're not perfect? What's the worst thing that can happen if you're not perfect? And challenge that a little bit, because we need to challenge those thoughts, because we get it in our head like it has to be Perfect or what's gonna happen? Is the world gonna end? No, the worst thing that can happen if you're not perfect, if you don't know everything you know, if you don't know nothing, you're gonna like fail.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you have to do it again I mean that's literally the worst-case scenario.
Speaker 1:But as long as you're going in there and doing the best you can and learning the best you can, you're gonna be okay. So it's like, and we get, we get those thoughts, all or nothing, kind of thoughts like I was just talking to a friend of mine and she's she's, you know, in like very frustrated, having car issues and things like that. And so her thing is like oh, the only way I can get out of this is I have to buy a new car and I have to get my ex to some to cosine for me, because I can't, I can't do it on my own credit. So she's like all this, like totally this way, that's the only Avenue, the only option she could think of. And then it was gonna cause like all kinds of issues because she's in the middle of Like going through a divorce and all this stuff. And then he was gonna hold it overhead.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah cause all this like downstream stuff to freaking happen. I think I actually called me and I said, okay, hold on, hold on. So okay. So we talked about it a little bit. I said, you know, and had to, like, bring her out of. Like, is that really your only option? How much is it gonna cost to get it fixed? Okay, then how can we get? You know it's gonna cost only a couple grand to fix the car you have, versus spending 20, 30 grand on a brand new car. Who says you have to buy a brand new car and who says you don't have other options than asking him.
Speaker 1:So, like, we get stuck in this, this, our thinking, the scripts of no, this is the only way it can happen, blah, blah, blah. And we get with that shame and guilt. We go down that thing. We can't think of anything else. So we have to stop sometimes and think we're gonna make we make bad decisions and if we do make the bad decisions, forgive ourselves. You know, sometimes we get in this whole thing too of oh, we're gonna make the best, or the right decision or the wrong. My daughter went through this when she was trying to decide over she's gonna stay with the next boyfriend or not she's. I don't know if I'm gonna make the right decision. I'm okay, let's throw right and wrong out the freaking window and it may get the best decision. Is it the best decision for you? Because one it's not permanent, nothing's permanent.
Speaker 2:Cats in the background. You just never know.
Speaker 1:So you know it's never a permanent decision, but is it the best decision for you at the time and then in the future you can't get mad at past you because past you made the best decision. With the information they have, you now know no more than what past you did. So you have to like almost forgive yourself and go back and give those past transgressions and that way you don't always hold that over yourself. You know that you know not only forgiving yourself for things you do in the future or from here on, but also you gotta go back and forgive yourself for the other stuff too. You're just human. It's okay to make good mistakes.
Speaker 2:We don't know sometimes yeah, and then on that right and wrong, you know you said just throw that out the window. You know if you're going down the wrong, Like you feel, like your decision or like if anything in your life comes up you know what's good for you at once, yeah, what's best for you. So you're like, oh God, I really don't wanna. You know, I've got all this other stuff to do. You know what I mean, Like you know kind of what's best to stand up for yourself.
Speaker 1:So like making but if you make that, decision, and it's not the best.
Speaker 2:It's not maybe the right one at the moment. Give yourself grace.
Speaker 1:And give yourself grace. You can't change the past, but you can change your thought process, are you?
Speaker 2:throwing a bag of kittens in the river Okay, well, that's extreme, but you know that's wrong. Like you're not making these types of decisions, yeah, no, and if you are, this podcast is not for you. But you're like uh-oh.
Speaker 1:Just give yourself. We gotta give ourselves grace.
Speaker 2:We're gonna say it over and, over and over again, and we need you to get us to hear this. If you give yourself grace, my gosh, your mind is gonna be flipped, your mind's gonna be flipped, so All right.
Speaker 1:So I think we kind of went off on this one. So I think that's a good stopping point. This is we're gonna continue to be talking about these things and bringing up different things that have happened and stuff. So stay tuned. You know, we're happy that you're here.
Speaker 2:Thank you for listening.
Speaker 1:We're gonna see you next time. Stay wonderfully weird. Welcome to After Thoughts with Janet. So this week's episode is about being your own superhero. So I just wanted to do a little recap on this After Thoughts. I mean her having a really good conversation and kind of didn't do it recap, so I wanted to do a little recap on it. You are your own superhero. You can save yourself.
Speaker 1:All the stuff that we talk about is about you know you have the choice. You have the choice of deciding how you want to perceive things and how you talk to yourself and what you do. The choice is yours. So one of the things we talked about in ways that you can be your own superhero, the running theme you guys heard us say it many, many times is give yourself grace. We're gonna make mistakes and it's okay if we make mistakes, but we gotta learn to give ourselves grace and give ourselves grace the way we would give somebody else grace if they did the same thing. So the other one is self-talk. We had this where we talked last week. It's gonna be a running theme of the way you talk to yourself. So try to be more positive and set a negative when you come talking to yourself Different ways we talked about that you could do.
Speaker 1:It is, of course, having conversations with yourself, and you can also write it in a journal. Write it down whatever makes the most sense. That helps you have these conversations. Hey self, what's going on? You know we're hey, we had this situation. How could we have handled that better? You know we did the best we could and those kinds of things.
Speaker 1:Another one I talked about setting an intention. So for your day, you can always set your intentions, and even some of your intentions could be giving yourself grace. My intention for the day is to give myself grace for any times that I might make a mistake or do something that I'm not proud of, or however that looks. Setting boundaries is another one. I know for myself is something that's been. I'm now learning and coming into the superpower of mine. Before I was always afraid of setting boundaries or not even knowing how to set boundaries. So that would be another one is Talk to yourself.
Speaker 1:Talk to yourself the way you would talk to someone you love. So having that conversation I kind of bring up. Talk to yourself like yourself is your best friend. That has gone through all the crap, do you understand? So come at it with love and compassion and respect and understanding for yourself and talk to yourself that way. We don't have to beat ourselves up, we don't have to be mean.
Speaker 1:Easier said than done. Of course, all this stuff sounds simple, but it's not easy. Show up for yourself. You know where it was that you could have showed up for yourself. Or when you did show up for yourself, congratulate yourself, man, we did a good job.
Speaker 1:How many times, I know, I forget sometimes to do that and acknowledge the times that I have stepped up and shown and been there for myself. So I'm learning to celebrate all the victories, even the little ones. And the last one is kind of forgive yourself. So that's something, too, that I've recently learned, or I've learned lately, is learning how to forgive myself. Like that kind of goes hand in hand with giving yourself grace and forgiving myself. I'm not gonna be perfect, and when I can learn that, like it's okay that I'm not perfect and I can forgive myself when I do things that I don't really, that I'm really not proud of, or when I do not show up for myself, or if I do disrespect myself, no, all right. So just a little recap on this one for today. Again, thank you so much for being here and until next time.