As the sun rises, so does the opportunity to infuse our day with a grateful spirit. This episode isn't just about saying 'thank you'; it's about embracing mindful gratitude to spark joy in every moment. We walk through a guided exercise designed to deepen our appreciation for everything from the material to the metaphysical, revealing how a mindset shift from scarcity to abundance can elevate our mental and emotional health. Let's celebrate the quirks that make us wonderfully weird, and together, we'll explore alternative mindsets that are not just transformative, but also a little bit rebellious in the best way possible.
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As the sun rises, so does the opportunity to infuse our day with a grateful spirit. This episode isn't just about saying 'thank you'; it's about embracing mindful gratitude to spark joy in every moment. We walk through a guided exercise designed to deepen our appreciation for everything from the material to the metaphysical, revealing how a mindset shift from scarcity to abundance can elevate our mental and emotional health. Let's celebrate the quirks that make us wonderfully weird, and together, we'll explore alternative mindsets that are not just transformative, but also a little bit rebellious in the best way possible.
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Hello and welcome to the Flipped Mindset Podcast. Hi, I'm Janet. Welcome to our podcast, where we believe you change your mindset, you change your life, all right. So, as you can tell, today is just me, me all alone. All right, it's just me today.
Speaker 1:So this one is interesting. So I almost didn't do this one One. It's weird to sit here and try to have a conversation when it's just myself and I did do a recording before and it was kind of weird. So I'm trying it again and this time I think. So I've been going through some things and part of that was like, okay, to do this one, I wanna do one.
Speaker 1:This one is on gratitude and joy and so like, okay, I have to be like in the perfect mindset and I have to say things a perfect way. I was getting kind of caught up in all that, since it's just me here today talking to you guys, so but I decided I wanna get real. I wanna get real and be real today, and I think it's what I need and I do need this message in my life right now. So this is kind of, in a way, I'm gonna be talking to myself and, in a way, kind of flipping my own mindset, in the things that I'm going into or what I'm going through right now in my life. So one thing I wanted in my life I'm kind of the strong one, I'm kind of the one that a lot of people rely on me, and I think there's some of you guys that could probably relate to that and sometimes, so this one might be a shout out to the strong ones out there that are like me, because sometimes I feel like sometimes we get lost in the shuffle and so sometimes we get forgotten about. Because we're the strong ones, we're the ones that usually are the rock, the ones that are there for other people, the ones that when you need somebody to talk to or you're in a bind, they're gonna be there for you. And I think, in a way, we get forgotten because sometimes, when we, the strong ones, can't always be strong, and there's times and this is hard, it's hard for me to say because there's times that I don't wanna be strong, there's times I want somebody to be there for me, and there's sometimes. I look around and I go man, I wish there was a Janet in my life right now that could help me through this.
Speaker 1:Now I realize that Janet is me and I end up having to look inward and that's kind of like, doing these things that I talk to you guys about is what I do, it's how I live my life, and so, like right now, in looking at that, like, yeah, I was going through a hard time and I was looking around, going, okay, where are the people that I would normally talk to? And they're going through their own things right now and I'm having to be the rock for them and I start to go down this avenue of, well, what about me? Where are the people for me? Where's mine? And it kind of, in a way, goes into a little bit of a pity party, a little bit of like, oh, like whoa is me, poor me? And I have to look at that and go, okay, we need to stop and I need to evaluate this. What am I learning in my life right now? And so one of the things that I'm learning is oh, there's a couple of things. One is balance, and I'm learning the balance of balancing helping other people but also doing the things that I need to do for me and doing those things that I have my eyes on. And it's like balancing work. It's like the work life balance, making sure I'm still taking care of myself while I'm taking care of other people.
Speaker 1:I'm also learning my more boundaries. I swear it's almost like it's never one of those. You set it and forget it Like, oh, I'm setting all my boundaries up, I'm setting my fence up outside and I don't have to worry about it anymore. Man, it's like you get it set, I'm doing good, and then something happens and they get tested. Those boundaries get tested and you have to like sometimes reevaluate them, fix holes that might be in them. I don't know. Boundaries are an interesting thing. Once I've started to learn and practice them and exercise this routine of setting boundaries, it really does help me out a lot. There's any of my other impasse out there, I tell you.
Speaker 1:It used to be really, really hard on me and learning boundaries really helps me in so many ways Because sometimes, especially for, like I say, I'm a former people pleaser. So, based on the trauma that I had and that I've gone through, I tend to really want to people please. I want to take care of people. I want to make sure that other people don't ever have to feel the way I felt when I was a child and when I had these traumatic things that happened to me. So I usually go above and beyond and give a lot and try to help people, which is great.
Speaker 1:But the problem that I was getting into is I would overly do and overly share and overly trying to help these people, to help people, and even to a point where sometimes, even if the person that I'm trying to help isn't really helping themselves, really isn't doing the work themselves, and then, in a way, I started to become an enabler and enabling the behavior because they didn't have to do it, because I was going to fix it. So, learning my boundaries in that, look, I can help to this point. And the thing is what would happen is if I ever said, notice somebody, then I would be like, oh, I'm not a good person, something's wrong with me, like I would turn that inward and start to attack myself in a way or be mean to myself, and then it would just eat me up and it was almost one of those. Oh, I got to help them and it's almost felt like I was in this lose, lose situation. So I either help them and it's not good for them and they're going to keep doing this, and then it's going to not, you know, I'm going to over extend myself and I'm not taking care of myself now I'm not respecting myself. So do I do that? Or do I turn around and not help them and then I beat myself up for not helping them?
Speaker 1:So, finding this balance of here's, where I can help, and here's and a lot of that, is the self-love, self-care, taking care of myself, respecting myself. I had to build that relationship back with myself and now that I've built my relationship with myself, it does make it a little bit easier to set those boundaries and be like I love you and I care about you, but I also love and care about myself. So there's got to be a little compromise there. So, okay, I went a little, a little I'm a little tangent, but I've been kind of on one because I've had a few little things that are happening. That kind of just life is testing me right now and it's a thing like I'm the strong one and having to go. Okay, yeah, I am the strong one and there are a lot of people. There are people that rely on me, there are people that look to me because I am strong and I can be there for them. But I also have to learn the balance of staying no, setting boundaries, so that I'm also taking care of myself. I have to show up for myself, and so it's interesting how life will continue to show you these things and I'm getting it a lot faster now, so it's kind of cool. So a little shout out to all those strong ones out there and my impasse, that kind of struggle and you know so all right now that I went on that tangent for a little while this kind of gets us back around to the I don't know how it relates exactly, but I'll get to there in a second.
Speaker 1:But I wanted to talk about gratitude and joy. We're about to go into the holiday season. I'm getting ready to be on vacation with my kids. I'm getting to actually that's going to be. That's my present this year to my kids is taking them on vacation. I'm really excited about it and so and it's my first time it's cool.
Speaker 1:So I wanted to talk about gratitude and joy. This is also my first one. I'm talking to you guys on my own, by myself, so a little nerve wracking. It's easier when I have somebody to relay on, so this instead, instead of the conversation, it's kind of me just chatting, so so getting into gratitude and joy when I think about, I kind of have these. I really like analogies and those that have listened knows that I do a lot of analogies. I like them. It helps me. I'm a visual learner. That really helps me to understand and put things in conceptually, think about them.
Speaker 1:So thinking about gratitude and joy it's something that I've learned and has changed just the overall quality of life for me is by incorporating gratitude and joy into my everyday life. So for a while and for a long part, a big part of my life, gratitude and joy was treated like we only use them for special occasion. This is what I was taught when I was younger. This is what the story that I had gotten in my life was gratitude and joy were saved for special occasions. So those special occasions were like gratitude, giving thanks and being grateful, something we did at Thanksgiving, right, or we did like if somebody did something great for us, then we'd be like, oh, thank you so much, that kind of thing, and I think too okay. So I was thinking about this and talking about this.
Speaker 1:I think there's two things too is you have the regular gratitude, and what I want to talk about is like mindful gratitude. So to me, like holding the door open for somebody and you know, or saying thank you to somebody that holds your door open, like that's a good gratitude to have. But the one I want to talk about is like more of the mindful gratitude which is the sitting down taking a breath and my cat's trying to get indoors if you guys can hear that in the background, she always tries to be a part of these. So the mindful gratitude is more of the taking a second and really being grateful and really like. So I'll get into some examples in a minute, so, but that's kind of what I'm talking about is like the mindful gratitude making a point to give gratitude every day and maybe throughout the day.
Speaker 1:So for me personally, like I start the day in gratitude and realizing that when I do this, like gratitude is a quick way to lift your mood. It also raises your frequencies, your vibrations. For those of us that you know live, you know go by our frequencies, vibrations, your energy. It also I've known too, like there's times when I get overwhelmed and I get anxious, or I got a lot of stuff going on, because sometimes I'll start to think, well, only if it was this way or only if I had this, or only if I had a better car, only if my you know, I got paid a little bit more this time. Maybe if this bill was paid off it would be better. Or maybe if these different things that are happening to me, maybe if that didn't happen to me I'd be better. Maybe if so and so was available for me to talk to them, then it would be better.
Speaker 1:So in that kind of thing, when I'm in that mindset, negative, looking at what I don't have, what's not in my life, what am I wanting, what am I yearning for? So it puts me in a different energy level. And if I can stop for a second and be grateful and just look around and be and like, instead of being upset and worrying about why I don't have this, if I can turn that around and just be grateful and then realize all that I do have, all that I have in my life, it changes the way my energy and my frequency in my body. I can feel it in my body and be like, okay, and then it lets me breathe a little bit. It gives me the band width one of my little terms I like to use, but it gives me a little room. It gives me a little room to maneuver, to help me move around my mind. So I wanna do a little exercise. You guys, those of you that wanna join in, do this with me.
Speaker 1:So right now, I want us to take a moment and I want you to look around and find something to be grateful for, just one thing. It could be the if you're driving. It could be that you have a car to drive. Right now, I'm sitting in a chair. I can be grateful for the chair that I have. I can be grateful for the clothes I have. I can be grateful for the home I have. I can be grateful. So just take one moment and think of one thing that you're grateful for. You got it, I know you got it All right.
Speaker 1:One thing that was easy, right, easy, easy, easy, okay. So now, since we did one, we're going to do two, so you can do two. Two is easy. I mean it's come on, it's only two. So look around and think about something that, something else that you're grateful for it could be you could be grateful for. You know, like me, I'm grateful for my son, I'm grateful for my daughter having them in my life, so you could be grateful for somebody you have in your life. You can be grateful for something that happened to you. You could be grateful for your job, something like that. Just like, think of one other thing that you're grateful for right now, in this moment, and I'll wait, you can do it. Okay, you got those. You got those two. See, easy, see, easy, easy. Okay.
Speaker 1:Now the next one. I want you to do one more, and I promise this will be the last one. So this is one more, okay, and this one I'm going to challenge you a little bit. And this one I want you to think of one thing that you're grateful for about you. So it could be I'm grateful for my mind. I'm grateful for my eyes that allow me to see. I'm grateful for my heart because it loves, like, something about you that you are grateful for. So this one is a little. I mean this one I felt at my body when I was talking about it. I felt like a little goosebumps a little. So this one is when I learned like to me it was. It's so much easier to give gratitude for all the things that I have, or the people in my lives, or the things that happen to me. But I think another step in that, if you want to take it to another level, is being grateful for you, being grateful for what makes you you, and when you do that, feel the difference, feel what it feels it's like.
Speaker 1:Ooh, you know, sometimes we wait around. I know me. I used to always wait. You know, wait around for other people to be grateful for me. I'm going to do all this stuff and extend, going back to the people pleasing, right? So if I extend myself, if I take care of all this stuff for everybody else, they're going to see how great I am, they're going to be grateful for me. And then I would wait, and I would wait Every now and then I'd get crumbs but I'd wait and I'd wait.
Speaker 1:So, just something. That's another thing that I add into my gratitude. Every morning I say things that I am grateful for and I always add in something that I'm grateful for, for myself, of myself. And then throughout the day, sometimes, if I do something funny, I have a funny thought, or I do something, or, oh, I do this too, like if something falls off the counter and I catch it, I get oh, I'm grateful for my reflexes, right? So little things like that it could be silly, it can be serious, it's whatever works for you. But the thing is, what I wanted to say is bring it into your every day, find things that you can be mindfully grateful for in the moment, and it can see what happens. And the thing is, with some of these things too, they're free. You don't have to do much for them. They're free, right, pay much for them. It's free, okay. So now let me get into joy. I'm getting long winded today, sorry folks, but okay. So joy. Joy is another one of these.
Speaker 1:Those that know me and have heard me talk about it, those that know me and have heard me talk before, I kind of started changing the word happy out with joy, because I feel like sometimes we overuse happy or it can be a very big, it can mean different things for different people, and so I like to use joy, because when I hear joy or I say joy, I know what joy feels like the joy in my heart when I'm joyful and I'm happy and I'm excited. So I use joy. So joy for me. Again, this is one of these things. It was kind of like like I say like, say, for special occasion, like that fine china or that bottle of wine or that special outfit that you say for special occasions, and that's how joy was for me. We saved joy for falling in love, for getting married, having a child, graduating, getting a promotion, like these big things. That are definitely joyful times in our lives. But what I found is, when I can find the joy in my everyday, it elevates me to another level, it changes my vibration, it changes how I approach the world, and then not only does it make me happier and make me more joyful, it also starts to radiate out of me and helps those that are also around me. So in the joy this one I do this I could be.
Speaker 1:My favorite thing to do is I drive it, like thinking, my thinking time is in the car. That's where I need to figure out a way to record these things. When I'm in the car, I anyway, so I love being in the car listening to music. So sometimes this is the time I'm thinking and sometimes I'll get on those down in the dumps that, like I was talking about earlier, that like why isn't this and why isn't that? And so I will stop and I will look around and I will see a beautiful sunset, I'll see clouds, I'll see something, or I'll see something you know I might see. I also sometimes will see birds or I'll see something out and about that's going around, or my favorite song will come on and I just put a smile on my face and I just the joy and just enjoy the joy of the moment of this is awesome.
Speaker 1:I am so in this way of gratitude and joy. I do it both together. I am so grateful I'm here, I'm grateful I'm having this human experience. I'm grateful I'm able to see and enjoy the sunset or the beautiful sky right now, and so just adding in those little pieces of joy has changed. Like I said, my quality of life is so much better now, I'm a lot happier, and so, anyway, so I just if you want to add it into your day, your everyday.
Speaker 1:The other piece of what I'm talking about is don't steal your joy. Brené Brown, I bring her up a lot. I love her, I love listening to the stuff she has to say. It really resonates with me. There's also others that talk about this too. So she had this thing that was like don't steal your joy, and I used to do this, and if this resonates with you, that's awesome, but I used to do this thing where and when she talked about this, it resonated. It was kind of like one of those things when everything's going well, the kids are good, the family's good, work's going good, everything seems to be good, and you kind of go, yeah, this is awesome, oh no, what's going to happen next? And so sometimes we end up stealing, like it's kind of like we're all moving towards wanting to be happy. I'll be happy when I can be joyful when, when I get the promotion, when this happens, when my kid gets all these different things, I'll be happy when. But then when we finally have a point where we have that we're afraid of the other shoe dropping. What's going to happen, something bad's going to happen and we're going to be able to do all these other things, and so it's just.
Speaker 1:There was another thing that somebody said and and you can hear this all the time this too shall pass. And they said so you have something bad going on in your life. This too shall pass. If you're happy right now, this too shall pass. We do not live in a utopia. We don't live in a world that where we are going to get to the point that everything's going to be happy and wonderful a hundred percent of the time. It's not the world we live in. We live in this duality. We're here learning lessons. So there's going to be times when things are going to be good, but sometimes there's always going to be a rub on this and a rub on that and this isn't going right, and this might you know. It might be like everything's good but this or everything's good, and then life's going to happen and something bad's going to happen. So, in my mind, how I face it is is I enjoy the joy, and why I'm joyful and why I'm having a good time, I'm going to enjoy it. It's here. I'm happy because you know what this too shall pass and something bad is going to happen. Whether I worry about it or not, that bad thing's going to happen. Life's going to change, things are going to change. It's not always going to stay in this happy, happy state. So I'm going to enjoy the happy and the joyful when I have it and then, when it's not there, I know that eventually I'll get back to there and this kind of ties it all back into this as the positive mindset, and I know this.
Speaker 1:Sometimes I may come off like this is easy. It's easy, easy, and it's one of the things that I'm doing, like I'm learning, is like it's not easy. This stuff is not easy. It's simple, the concepts are simple, but it's not easy to implement and it's not easy sometimes to pull yourself out of those that downroll spiral it's. You know, we're kind of like programmed to look at the negative and to worry about these negative things and I don't have this and the comparison of, like I wish you know I get that way sometimes and have to stop myself. I'll start looking at things oh man, I wish I had a shirt like that man, that would be really great. And then then I would feel good about myself or these different things, and I have to stop myself and just really go back into that gratitude that I'm very grateful for who I am. I'm grateful for what I have and I am good exactly the way I am, and it took a lot of work to get here and then it's going to take, and it's taking work to stay here as well. So that's kind of what this is about.
Speaker 1:I kind of went, kind of went a little, a little long on this, but I am so yeah, so I just challenge you to try to find the gratitude. Take a moment and find gratitude in your day, and sometimes you know you can do it in the morning, you can do it at nighttime, at the end of the day. List off, write in a journal, put it in your notes on your phone, challenge yourself to do it for a week. Try it for a couple of days and see what happens. Just see Again, these things are free. Try to find the joy in your every day.
Speaker 1:And yeah, so I'm going to talk to a little bit long, but I am glad that you guys are here. I am grateful for the people that are listening and the people that find the podcast. I'm here. My goal is just to, I guess, in a way, just inform and let people know that there is another way of thinking Opening our minds, opening our hearts and, just you know, flipping our mindsets, enjoying our lives and this time of year, you know the gratitude and the joy. And I will talk to you soon. Until next time, stay wonderfully weird.