When Gema Ramos stepped off the plane from Spain, she carried more than just her luggage; she bore the weight of her mental health struggles and a longing for transformation. Her story, like a beacon of hope, illuminates the path to self-discovery. As we welcome her to the Podcast, you'll be captivated by her candid recount of overcoming an overdose, forging a new path through self-care, and making the courageous choice to end her unfulfilling marriage. Gema's journey is a testament to the profound impact that working on oneself can have, and her insights on self-love, healing from past traumas, and the ongoing nature of self-improvement are sure to resonate with anyone on the brink of their metamorphosis.
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When Gema Ramos stepped off the plane from Spain, she carried more than just her luggage; she bore the weight of her mental health struggles and a longing for transformation. Her story, like a beacon of hope, illuminates the path to self-discovery. As we welcome her to the Podcast, you'll be captivated by her candid recount of overcoming an overdose, forging a new path through self-care, and making the courageous choice to end her unfulfilling marriage. Gema's journey is a testament to the profound impact that working on oneself can have, and her insights on self-love, healing from past traumas, and the ongoing nature of self-improvement are sure to resonate with anyone on the brink of their metamorphosis.
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Welcome to the Flip Mindset Podcast. Hi, I'm Janet. Today I have Gemma with me and Welcome to my podcast, where I believe you change your mindset, you change your life, hi.
Speaker 2:Gemma. Hello Janet, Thank you for welcoming me into your podcast. I'm really grateful to be here.
Speaker 1:I'm happy to have you here, yeah. So, for those that are listening, if you are not listening to powerful with Remma, rema, rema, marvel with Remos, go listen to it. Oh my gosh, I am enjoying your podcast so much. Thank you Love it so. So this is the first ever collab that I've done with another podcaster, so I'm really excited about this. Yeah so, yeah so.
Speaker 2:This is the first time happy to have. This is the first time I'm being interviewed and being a guest. So, yeah, I experienced last week, you know, interviewing someone, somebody and today's. So, yeah, it's pretty awesome as well to be here as well. Thank you.
Speaker 1:Hey, so so I've been listening to your podcast and, just for everybody to know, me and Gemma met each other, connected through a Private coaching that we kind of did, and so Gemma is in the UK and we'll get more into her story in a little bit. So but her stories and I think it's important for us to talk about stories like this because you know, we, we both are talking about positive mindsets and how you, you know self-love and taking care of yourself and all these different things, healing through traumas and all that stuff and it's it's awesome to hear stories of where it's worked, right like the other side of it, of how this actually changes your life. We're not just like saying this stuff it's really impactful and really makes a difference. So I'm just really happy to have you on and us talking about this stuff. So Do you want to introduce yourself and talk a little bit about yourself?
Speaker 2:Right, so my name is Gemma Ramos. I was born and raised in Spain, but I've been living the last 20, 22 years here in the UK, as you said, janet, you know. You know we met in a private coaching group called the look mind power and we went working through modules, you know, and it's where I began to to heal past traumas, you know, and past versions of myself that I continue to, to be aware of, you know, because I believe that healing is something that is linear, needs to be addressed. You know you never heal and it's not negative, but you know it's always something to heal from.
Speaker 2:So my background, my background, is my reason of where I started to, you know we look was I was in a in a relationship, in a married Like in relationship, where I wasn't happy and for quite some time, and so I began to To watch his him on watching in social media. This was before he was going around the bush, you know, dancing in the bush. It was a big before that and I felt really attracted to the fact that. You know, his messages were very inspiring and positive and you know he was. I always used to sit in the car before, after, after, going to work, I work in care and and Just before going home I was sitting in the car and I will listen to to his. You know, whatever he was used to go live, you know. So he was based in Australia at the time and so it was a kind of self-soof, self-care moment, kind of feeling my cup moment, and eventually, you know, we connected I don't know, she were probably making comments on the charts of things like that and and went into the drain chasers and stuff and Over a period of time, you know, I enter the, the superpower must in mind Queens, and Began to to heal.
Speaker 2:You know what work through the modules and stuff and Continue to be there as something that had impacted in my life through through the years. You know it was to do more which I'm healing a still. You know it's to do how? Mental health for right. So I was a medication at young age for a way that was thought to be a seizure and then came off Because there was no reason to be on it. But I felt so numb. I was so numb for emotions for so many years, all right, so that didn't come out very well in my teens, ended up later on in life, ended up letting on in life. You know so kind of short a little bit.
Speaker 2:You know we're almost oppressive. Emotions are having been put in a. More anti-depressants, you know, more numbing medication, more talking therapy. That was not Actually helping, but to a point that I took an overdose in year 2000 Due to a stroke. It was a drop, that was. It was no intention to end life at the time, but I felt really, really hurt with a comment from From my mind. Would you think about it? It was actually quite a stupid, but at the time I feel really, really upset. So I made the decision to come to England.
Speaker 2:A few years later I'm in my husband and I attracted a very nice man in a very similar pattern to that my mum did. He had issues with alcohol, suppressing emotions around alcohol, and wouldn't understand always what to do with emotions. So I used to be more the hormonal type let's go, let's do this, do that, and he would be okay with that. But sometimes I feel a bit unsupported. And he's a nice person, don't get me wrong. It's not about blaming or anything. But I felt like when I took care and I said I had to do something about myself, I had to let go of him because our relationship for quite some time it was not evolving. We had a nine year old now and we are in good terms and that's all I can say. So what I do now is to building up my own podcast, building up my own social media, and the idea is to work in the course and hopefully, in the short term, to work as a wellness or positive mindset coach. So yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:So on your podcast you talk about like you were on these medications for depression. Where are you at now?
Speaker 2:I have been about four and a half months of medication now.
Speaker 1:You've been off of it.
Speaker 2:It took me about a year of coming out from anti-depressants.
Speaker 2:I was on plane anti-depressants, like most people. There's something called circling which is, I believe it's in the US, called Zoloft, and you know whether it's okay to. When you come out for any substance say cigarettes, alcohol you feel withdrawal. All right, it's something that you do. It's your body telling you I want more of this. You know you take too much coffee or anything and eventually the body settles down. But the long aftermath with any substance taking for a period of time is the long side effects of okay, I got rid of the physical, the withdrawals into, but it's dealing with emotions. That is what I at the moment like, that whether I have broken the systematic habit of taking the medications on daily basis. You know I have to deal.
Speaker 2:This has been the first winter without anti-depressants and the weather here in England gets dark, you know, carry a lot of day, not very much daylight, really rain. You know the evenings come very quickly. Feels make you feel really depressed. So it has been challenging at times. You know it continues to be challenging. But also I'm actually working to. It was adjusted some time ago to go back on then because if I felt really no up to the crash. But I'm doing my best to say out of them for the moment and see to give a genuine, genuine chance, you know, and say, okay, is this my mind telling me I cannot cope, or is actually a fact that I might have a chemical imbalance, you know, and it might be a little bit above sometimes, but being trying to implement in my life other forms of wellbeing, such a kind of healthy diet or balanced diet, to make sure I prioritize my sleep and what I take include exercise, you know, and stuff.
Speaker 1:So yeah, yeah, and do you think the tools that you've learned help you too with your mindset and taking care of yourself and loving yourself?
Speaker 2:Absolutely, because, yeah, I am in a period in my life at the moment that I have seemed to have let go of a lot of people, so a lot of people around, a lot of people have fallen out of my sense, you know. So that is telling me and giving me the opportunity to focus on my personal development. Also, you know the tools that you learn when you're doing coaching. But, look, is about self-love, self-care, protecting your energy and finding your why and also establishing healthy boundaries, which are very important in daily life, in any relationship, not only with a partner, but also with friends, you know, with family, with relatives. You know that it's a form of self-respect and also, ultimately, something that I am doing quite a lot. I'm facing that on a daily basis in the mirror work.
Speaker 1:Yeah, okay, yeah, it's kind of interesting that, yeah, as you start to go through this process and you start loving yourself, like you said, setting boundaries I was never good at setting boundaries. I didn't really understand what boundaries were before and I would just let anything happen and it was like I wasn't respecting myself. So now that I've set boundaries, it is kind of one of those effects of you do start to lose people in your life because they're not on the path that you're on. So it is kind of like but, like you said, it's for yourself. Development and also, like my daughter told me once too, is like the people have to leave so you can have new people come in. So like we're going to find our tribe and the people are going to come in that are going to be more supportive and help us on our journey. So it's kind of interesting how that.
Speaker 2:That's right. It's like what you say, you know, in order to welcome new people, new experiences, new energy, like when you go to a wardrobe full of clothes right, you want to, you know, fill your wardrobe with sunlight the sun, for example you know you have to enter. You cannot be keep on piling in more stuff in because it's not going to fit. It's going to come all over your face, isn't it? It's going to fall on your face eventually. So, yeah, it's a more practical way to envision that way, I see.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I love it. I love your analogy, so that you say it's very entertaining on your podcast. It's kind of cool too. I feel like I'm like sitting there in your living room with you when you're talking. It's just so cool, I definitely. I love your podcast, thank you, and I love the stuff you talk about. And I think what's interesting too is when I first started the podcast, I felt like I don't know, like the stuff I was talking about, the people that was around me weren't really talking about this stuff, so I kind of felt like, ooh, I don't know. But now is to a point where I'm connecting and bringing people in that are saying the same things and talking about the same things and I'm like, yes, right, like yeah, like I'm getting those people in my life and I love it. It's just so cool.
Speaker 2:When you surround, when you, when you change your environment, you know you change yourself, your environment changes, and that's what I mean. Yeah, you begin to. You know, sometimes, for better or for worse, you know you let go of people who don't longer serve your purpose, but ultimately you begin to attract energy that is more more alike to yourself. You know, having actually in the last week or so, this opportunity came out with you, but I go about free people lined up to be interviewed, which I'm not sure you need to find out time to do it, you know I go to my people and say yeah, when you want to do that.
Speaker 2:There's two people. I asked one person and the other person that have come to me and yeah, I would like to be on your podcast and I said I got some sound issues at the minute that I need to take care of. Actually, you know, I need to sit down and figure out that laptop I have the same problem to my audio.
Speaker 2:It's a struggle. It's learning, Janet, you know it's. It's learning. Take it as a bit with a pinch of soul and say, OK, this is learning and in time, your podcast might be in another level and same as mine, and we were going to look back and say, right, this is where we started and this is where we are now Right.
Speaker 1:That's how we learned. Yeah, you're right, yeah, but it's, it's cool how it happens when you start making the shift and you start putting yourself first, filling your cup first. I know for me my whole life I was kind of told and taught that if I put, if I think about myself, I'm being selfish and I shouldn't think about myself, I should think about everybody else and put myself last. And that's what I saw everybody around me doing as well, and so that's what I thought, and so I had to kind of overcome that some and realize that taking care of myself is not selfish. That's actually how I'm able to take better care of the people around me, and so it's interesting to have to kind of like flip that around and stuff. So did you have something similar like that?
Speaker 2:I feel that in the line of work that I do, with a work in a car home, I demoted myself from a position to playing Carol last year due to well it must manage in life stress and I've been making changes in the last couple of years in my life to get better quality of life and what is to do with the stress and anxiety level. And, yeah, I did it and I felt that being working care. You know, it's always about caring about other people, but there's no forget that people who care about other people quite often and I find it with people, you know, I'm aware, around people I work with they are they're not good enough to themselves, they feel really strange, they feel really stretched out, they seem like they have forgotten themselves, they get lost at work and they seem to not have boundaries. You know, man, like people that, oh, yeah, I need to do more. I need to do more. It's okay to look after people.
Speaker 2:I grew up in an environment that my dad, my mom and both of them you know, but more my dad, you know it didn't help with certain things in their life, you know, and now they are elderly, probably here in England. So, yeah, it's okay, but there are times that if I feel that, you know, I don't want to connect with some family or friends or something, you know it's not all, it's okay. You know, I know we always go gonna have the nature of feeling, oh, I should have done this, I should have done that. But you know, after all it's a form of self-care and you have to detach yourself for a little bit or whatever. You know, even whatever, it's not selfish, you know, sometimes it's just simple, simple as self-preservation.
Speaker 2:That's the way self-preservation, you know you do take steps, you know. Protect your energy, self-preserve, you know, and you don't want to be running only on the basic, you know, on the bare minimum of energy. You want to be living your best life, but sometimes to start with is where you have to go. You have to be detach yourself from relations, from people for self-preservation, and after that's when you start feeling your cup and then you know you eventually you will overflow and then you can share more, more love, more energy, more more yourself, you know, with other people.
Speaker 1:Yeah, have you noticed? I've noticed in my life now that I'm doing this more because before I was trying to pour from an empty cup so I would get angry easier or like snap, or just like, oh, I'm overwhelmed and I can't do this. And now that I'm, you know, filling up my cup, now, like, my relationship with, like my son is different. You know, I'm able to be more kind and more gentle with him and laugh and play and be kind of this with him, or have you noticed that too? Like, that's kind of like how I'm noticing my relationships with people are becoming better, because I'm finding my joy and having more fun.
Speaker 2:I noticed that with my daughter although definitely 100%, although I'm from her hands, you know I noticed that she's able to communicate. If I spent too much time on the phone or whatever, she would come to me and rather than having a tantrum or whatever she'd nine, you know, but children sometimes scream, you know she would come to say mommy, would you mind to leave your phone aside and you like to spend some time with me? And it goes the same way. And when you see your younger self, your child, you know, coming to you in such a polite manner and say actually, you know.
Speaker 2:I would have liked to be spoken like that. I would like to.
Speaker 2:So then you, in the moment that you're feeling stressed, so anxious, or you got too much going on in your head, you got the choice either to snap which we all get tired sometimes, you know or say okay, I'll go into that level with that and I say, actually, you know well, and if I want to learn, I need to reflect into this situation and listen to her, because she is indirectly teaching me how to talk to her and how to talk myself, how to respect myself.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's awesome, it is, it's true. It's what happens. It's all I love when it happens.
Speaker 2:You get back what you put in and when you put in a lot of like, you know I got motivational quotes or stuff here. You know I do my affirmations. You, sometimes I see my child writing and doing her drawings. You know I believe in myself, I believe my, oh, I will. She will come to me and say Mommy, I believe in you, I'm proud of you.
Speaker 2:She, that all the work that you put in yourself, it gets pulled back into you because you do it, because you're progressing. You know she lately is popinning because I'm doing the mirror work and at the moment I'm doing it in Spanish, you know, because I feel I need to do build with that. I can't do it in either language, you know, but at the moment I feel like it's something I had to do in that it feels like that, more ways, more natural at the moment, and I can see that she comes and she's like Mommy, you talking? I say, yeah, well, I'm talking in the mirror, to myself, in the mirror, it's all right, whereas the other day at work somebody says something about are you talking to somebody? And I probably will repeat it myself. You know, forget just to keep myself on track.
Speaker 2:Oh, and then people. It's always that kind of judgment when people talk to themselves at work, in a car, home, people with dementia, all right. So essentially people make assumptions straight away into that kind of jokey jokes, you know, and I talk to myself. So, all right, people give you the funny look and you either go the right thing people, the right people you know, or the people who's going to make a judgment, who, indirectly or directly, they are already judging themselves and we all do it in one way or another. You know, it's just trying to catch your thoughts, really Right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, we have a saying here. It's you know about, like you know, talking to yourself as a sign of insanity, the sign, or sometimes right, and it's like no, it's not, or like sometimes I've heard this too is Talking to your. It's okay to talk to yourself, it's just when you answer you got to be careful, right, and so like, yeah, people make fun of you talking to yourself. But it's so important to have those conversations and having them out loud takes those thoughts and takes some of the power away from the fears or those kinds of things, and you can reassure yourself more by saying it out loud and getting it out and like I am enough, I am lovable, I am worthy, like saying those things to yourself is so important.
Speaker 2:It's when we are perhaps in public, you know, when you are doing the shopping or you are doing that work. You're working in an office or like in a car home, like I do. You're bumping into people, right? You're saying, talking to people, you know the right people will understand what you're doing, that's okay. But now everybody is prepared to receive the energy, and that's the way I come, the best way I can say that they're not prepared, they're not ready to receive the energy. You know what I mean. Some people will, some people won't be prepared, you know, but there will be plenty of people there that won't be ready to receive the energy.
Speaker 1:No, not everybody will, but we'll find the right ones, the ones that will or are here. So have you started your coaching? Have you been doing coaching?
Speaker 2:No, no, janet, I haven't done any coaching yet. I had in the past questioning how to what to put in place, how to do a coaching program. I'm not sure where to start, to be honest. Okay, so yeah, it's yeah. Whether it's the hunger to go and move on forward in life, I still I'm not very clear yet what I want to do or how I want to do it and how to juggle it around life. You know, in my currency costs as well, because I have to work as well and more than I want to dedicate time to myself, I got to find the reality and also, you know, go to nine year old as well to take her off, and hence why she comes home from time.
Speaker 2:Mommy, sometimes you spend too much time on the phone, on the tablet or whatever, and then you say that's true, you know, but it's with the idea of, you know, to make a better future, with the idea. That's the thought. You know, the intention is that I plan to do online the NLP training that I mentioned the other day. I tried to do it face to face, but it was getting a bit too. I got very overwhelmed, really upset, because I was away. I was very far away from my family and surroundings. You know I felt really isolated, and whether it's okay to be isolated at times, you know it's not the same when you are in your own home or in families around us in a completely different area, and so the reason so you know I just postponed it. It's been postponed and plan a range, you know, for the summer, to do it online and I always can learn other things, you know, and revisit the module work and, you know, find other sources of knowledge. So, yeah, definitely, so, always something new to learn.
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh yeah, I just started a course on a learning course that a friend of mine is doing on self love. So, you know, at first I was like I love myself and then I was like you know what? There's always something new to learn and there's always more, and I always want to learn, so I, you know, so I started it, so I'm pretty excited about it. It's kind of funny. We got to I got to the module on vulnerability, and vulnerability is kind of my heart, like I have a hard time being vulnerable because of my life has taught me to not be right like tonight. That's a sign of weakness and don't be vulnerable, don't show your emotions, so so that's kind of like I'm in the season of being more vulnerable, which is which is the videos and the stuff that I've been doing on Facebook to try to forget that vulnerability is a superpower, something I can do, and it comes out at too much sometimes.
Speaker 2:You know it's. It's pushing tears. You know quite a lot.
Speaker 2:I can talk a lot and I tell you that I end up crying, you know and you know. But I believe that I believe that those tears they have to be released. I try not to feel and sometimes I have felt and I say I'm sorry for crying, and how many times I've been around people at the doctor, so around friends or whatever, or work. I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, and what you get is, you know, when you've been yourself and tears come up, you are, you are releasing emotions. Yeah, there might be times, you know, this is draining. After you have a good cry is a bit draining, but it's also, it's a release from your body and you really, you know, you know it will, it will be much better for you because ultimately you will be able to and, as you, you know, put it in a mindset okay and let it go here.
Speaker 2:And then I am working on trying to let go a staff, but something I've been doing a lot For the whole one year, you know it's self sabotaging and revisiting the past and revisiting the past and getting anxious about the future. So or I'm trying to focus, which is not easy, but you know it's always a step in the stones. You know it's Trying to, trying to stay mindful, trying to leave the present moment, trying to Make plans. You know, and I say discipline and accountable, mostly not so much. This is definitely accountable Sometimes discipline and scheduling is not, it doesn't work so well for everybody and but you know, we can put things that, things that can be put in place, you know, in order to, you know, to get better order in life, you know, and emotions are, they have to let go. That's what it is, you know. Let go that emotion.
Speaker 1:Well, I'm so glad you came on, I'm so glad to have you here. So, yeah, I hopefully have you more. I can surprise it and talk to you for hours and soon and have you on and we can just talk more and more on this stuff. That's just, you know. I think it's exciting for both of us. I know for me this has changed my life. I have completely changed my life from where I was to where I am now. I'm having so much more Joy, fulfilled more. You know, it's just, it's amazing what this can do. I always felt stuck and I was blocking myself. I'm like, why can I get there? Why can I do this? And then now it's, you know. So I'm excited to have you on. Thank you, welcome to after thoughts with Janet. Yeah, I need to get a little better. I keep just abruptly stopping these videos. Later I was listening to the one with Kelly and I found this spot that I actually stopped it in. So but anyway, I'm having fun over here and enjoying it. I am so happy I got the gym. I came on and joined us this week.
Speaker 1:I I can't say enough great things about Gemma. I am enjoying listening to her podcast, so if you're not listening. Go check out powerful with Ramos and I will try to link it in the show notes. I'm going to try to figure that out. And you know, you can go follow her on Instagram and Tick tock. I think she's over on tick tock.
Speaker 1:I don't have tick tock, but I do follow her on Instagram and Facebook and some of her videos are so funny. She's so funny and she's so relatable and she's her energy and the stuff she talks about. She puts things in perspective that just I mean, like I said, I feel like I'm sitting on her couch talking to her when I'm listening to her podcast. So so go check her out and and then, you know, follow me. You can follow me on flip to mindset podcast and on Facebook, instagram, you can follow me. And then I also now have red feather serenity. My coaching business is up and I'm launched. I'm in my weekend at first week and a half, so I'm so excited about that. So you can go check out that and see what I'm doing over there. And thank you for listening, thank you for supporting and until next time, stay wonderfully weird.