Managing Love Intelligently with Steven Ing, MFT
Managing love intelligently involves understanding your emotional, spiritual, and sexual needs, your boundaries, your deal-breakers, your fantasies, and everything else that allows you to optimize your success in letting the right one into your heart, life, and home.
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Episodes
64 episodes
Episode 64: Letting Your Partner Know What You Want
You don't always have to ask for what you want; it's sometimes more effective to tell someone—not necessarily what you want from them, but what you want out of life and what you want out of a relationship.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, h...
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Episode 64
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Episode 63: Updating Your Relationship Menu
When it comes to relationships, many people don't know what's on the menu. This is often due to our irrational beliefs surrounding love. These beliefs hold us back from building the type of relationship we can all admire. Listen to learn more.<...
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Episode 63
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Episode 62: Embracing the Sacred and Profane in Your Partner
Embracing the sacred and profane in your partner allows you to see them for who they really are—and we are all so much more than just one thing.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in f...
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Episode 62
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Episode 61: Makeup Sex Is a Lie
Makeup sex isn't about making up; it's about a temporary truce while we take care of our physical needs.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing write...
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Episode 61
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Episode 60: Taking Accountability in Your Love Life
Taking accountability in your love life allows you to grow, gain wisdom, break out of stuck patterns, become more assertive, and live a happier life. For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a sp...
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Episode 59: The Intimacy Ladder
The intimacy ladder is a concept that allows people to slowly, steadily, and safely get to know one another. Remember, intimacy is not sex; it's the ability to safely share our lives together.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Ma...
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Episode 59
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Episode 58: Do You Have an Impaired Picker?
If you have a history of dating partners who aren't quite right for you, you might have an "impaired picker." Listen to learn more! For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensi...
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Episode 58
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Episode 57: Why You Must Have a Safe Relationship to Have a Good Relationship
A safe relationship is free of abuse. Abuse, at any level, destroys a couple's ability to engage in successful and productive problem-solving. It is perhaps the single most self-defeating behavior in relationships.For 35 years, Steven I...
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Episode 57
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Episode 56: Breakups Don't Have to Hurt So Much
Your pain upon breaking up will be directly proportional to the degree to which you've compromised your terms. Listen to learn more.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic wor...
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Episode 56
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Episode 55: Seeking Understanding vs Seeking Forgiveness
Steve explains why seeking understanding is more beneficial than seeking forgiveness.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology To...
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Episode 54: When Should Couples Book an Appointment with a Therapist?
If you're not feeling happy and/or loved in your relationship, it's time to book an appointment with a therapist.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contribu...
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Episode 53: Mate Selection
If you want to increase your odds of finding the "right" partner, understanding mate selection is mission critical.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contri...
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Episode 53
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Episode 52: How Simple Can Relationships Really Be?
The prevailing narrative is that relationships are hard work. However, they don't have to be so difficult. Listen to learn more.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. H...
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Episode 52
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Episode 51: What's So Bad About Repression?
Repression is a great tool for temporary management, like a tourniquet on a wound that’s bleeding, but repression as a lifestyle is a curse.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in fore...
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Episode 51
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Episode 50: Fair Fighting
The three rules for "fair fighting" include no abuse, by mutual consent, and any one subject. Conflict is, after all, an essential and inevitable part of every intimate relationship. Listen to learn more!For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, h...
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Episode 50
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Episode 49: Letting Go of Neediness
There is nothing wrong with being needy; we all have needs and will continue to have them for the rest of our lives. The problem occurs when our neediness becomes pathological and starts to control our lives.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MF...
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Episode 49
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Episode 48: How Body Image Impacts Relationships
A negative body image directed towards yourself and/or your partner can be detrimental to building and sustaining a safe, intimate, and loving relationship.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a s...
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Episode 48
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Episode 47: Love Is a Necessary But Insufficient Condition
Loving someone is not all we need to build and maintain a successful relationship. We also need to slow down and take our time to really get to know the other person.For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family The...
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Episode 47
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Episode 46: The Way of the Superior Man - Book Analysis
Today’s episode was inspired by the book The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire. The book was written by David Deida and published in 1997. We read through various passages o...
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Episode 46
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Episode 45: Does Your Partner Have a Personality Disorder?
Understanding personality disorders (paranoid, narcissistic, antisocial, etc.) can give you valuable insights into yourself and your partner and help you manage love intelligently.For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage ...
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Episode 45
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Episode 44: Dating Advice for Men
Practical dating advice for men, which women, too, can benefit from hearing. You don’t need to read hundreds of books or watch hours of videos on this topic. It’s all quite simple. Tune in to learn more.For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MF...
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Episode 44
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Episode 43: Going "Boy Sober"
In today's episode, we review the article “Going ‘Boy Sober’ Is About More Than Celibacy" in relation to managing love intelligently. The article was written by Anne Branigin and published in The Washington Post. The subhead reads, "Young peopl...
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Episode 43
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Episode 42: Our Collective Discomfort with Sex
Sex is all around us (internet, advertising, media); however, as a society, we don't really know how to talk about it. Tune in to today's episode to learn how becoming comfortable with this important topic can result in a healthier society....
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Episode 42
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Episode 41: Stuck in Relationship Inertia
Today's episode was inspired by The New York Times Guest Essay by Hillary Kelly titled “Welcome to Stucktopia.” The essay opens by discussing some popular TV shows, such as Fallout, Severance, and Silo, and how these shows capture the way life ...
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Episode 40: How Verbal Abuse Destroys Relationships
It's a fundamental thinking error to think that verbal abuse in relationships is normal. We all deserve to be treated with respect, courtesy, and dignity. Listen to today's episode to learn more!For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has b...
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Episode 40
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