Horses have taught me lots ~and it applies to humans

In Equine Assisted Practices, horses show up differently than when they are being bosses around or manipulated into tricks and trainings.  The things horseship ( the relationship with a horse) reveals is so absolutely different than the mind numbing expereinces they go through in the old paradigm, before the "Quiet Revolution".
Check out the list of what they can help us learn, and decide which side of the revolution you'll be on?

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This is, is she able with the horse human connection matrix podcast? Recently I've been reflecting on the name of the podcast and all that. It means as I continue to broaden on different topics and still circle back to horses. Sometimes just because it's in the name and sometimes because it's a really big part of my life. So the matrix. Is really my life and how everything is interconnected. The things that I talk about. And. As I. Get further down this healing path that I've been on for most of my life, but more specifically the transition in the last 10 years from living on a 200 acre ranch. Mostly with animals. Not that I didn't have human contact. But transitioning back into interacting more with humans with a much greater awareness. I can't help, but. Notice and reflect and want to share about what horses have taught me. And it's just, it's, it's very rich. And I know that people teach other people and all kinds of spiritual experiences. People have broadened their awarenesses and. I do believe that the whole planet. Is growing in awareness. But today I wanted to talk about. And list. Some of the things the horses have given me some of the experiences And then. Talk about human relationships, maybe even specifically romantic relationships and. It brings myself clarity to know what I want moving forward, because like horses, humans are not meant to live alone. We are social creatures. Some of the things horses have taught me about relationships are. That every member belongs, even when leadership is absurd. And that can happen at any time because. The best horse needs to be the leader, the lead Mayer, who's responsible for the emotional and physical wellbeing of the herd. Needs to be able to be cued into. Everybody needs to be the most intuitive, the most aware, not only of predators in the wild. But of. Of the herd and the dynamics. And so. That could be challenged at any time. And it's to the good of the herd that the best leader be the leader. They've taught me about that. They've taught me that there's no ego in being demoted from the leader or whatever. Whatever hierarchy gets juggled. Every member still has value and they're not seen as. In a linear fashion, less than they're just doing what's best for the herd. They've taught me about belonging. Everybody belongs and. Some of the ways they've taught me that is sitting quietly in stillness. With them in the round pen. And being filled with this feeling of love being in a love bubble. That is what horses. Must live in all the time. I felt that several times I felt it at equanimity approaching a wild herd of 30 horses. They're forcefield their energy love forcefield is so large and so powerful that you can, if you're sensitive, feel it as you walk into it. Horses have taught me stillness. If you have horses or have been around horses, you know about that usually 10:00 AM head Bob that happens after their. After they're done eating. They often go into a very deep meditation with a very small occipital, Bob. In their head. And there's a stillness in them. Especially at that time. That has taught me a lot. I I've mentioned before that. My older mayor, Firefly has demonstrated when there's chaos and, and several beings, horses and humans in the round pen together. How to ground yourself. And. I observe and help everybody else ground and bring the situation. To a different. Emotional regulation by just being still. And having the intention. They've taught me about feedback and slowness in doing. Meridian work. Bladder Meridian, acupressure Masterson method. There's a, a podcast all about that. And how watching. For the feedback from the horse in their releases, in their asking for what they need. There's a, a loop there that. I think too often, we don't apply when we're with humans. They've taught me about rhythm and connection through rhythm. And that's not just like our rhythm of walking, although that's pertinent. And it's not. It's not like always just a rhythm of dancing or music. It's a rhythm in our day. Like how we connect with our routines, how we connect to each other. With our rhythms, how our rhythms can be syncopated or. I synchronized or chaotic. They've taught me about mirroring. Now mirroring is something in psychology. That is, is really important. I believe it's a really important part of any relationship when we can show the other person or horses showing us or horses showing each other without reactivity. Who we are, the feedback we get from the world. That's so valuable. The term, meet them where they are or. I'm going to need to meet you where you are as a horse training phrase. It's also been adopted into a lot of psychology. And it's something that comes from. From knowing horses. From knowing that. If they're just regulated, you've got to be where they are and either bring them down or go up first and then come down. There's all kinds of philosophies about it, but we do that with people too. And people call me each other down. Or. People become unregulated because of each other together. The way that that affects mirroring is, is something that horses teach too, as well as empathy and healing and leadership and acquiescing. And. Retreat and advance. And asking. And being excited and having playfulness. All of these things are present in horse ship. The relationship people have with horses. Oh, they're also. Things that are so relevant to human relationships. When I think about my human relationships, I, I actually have a list for friendships that. I was formulated from a friendship that had a lot of lack and I just wrote down everything I wish it had and decided to be those things so that I could attract people into my life that could reciprocate. And. There's a spiritual, emotional. Physical. And mental belief systems that are really important to me in my relationships. I. I'm not going to end up having a close relationship with someone unless they have a spiritual tradition that is. Welcoming an open. And did they practice it to some degree? And I don't mean dogma and I don't mean church. I just mean that they have a spiritual awareness. And a desire for personal growth. Having someone that's aware of their emotions so they can be somewhat aware of my emotions. Is really important and criteria for me too. I, especially as I'm a person who can become dysregulated and not that I need much help with that anymore. But I do need awareness and grace. I don't know how you can really have a relationship with someone if you're not aware of your own emotions or at least if you do. It's going to be extremely limited. Now the physicality, like having a physical relationship with someone and if that's in a romantic sense, or even with friendships, having affection. And being able to be in the same physical location, at least some of the time be in each other's. Company so that you can feel their energy and really be with them. That's an important component of relationships for me. And I think for most people, Having a belief in something. That's bigger than myself in a, in a romantic relationship. Having the relationship be more important than either person. Is a concept that I value. And then having. Something above the relationship, a spiritual sense that governs more wellbeing than just the relationship and just the individuals in the relationship. Is important. I want to be inspired by my friends. I want autonomy. And I want acceptance. I want companionship. And empathy and people to be able to mirror at least to some degree. Without being terribly reactive. It doesn't seem like. That's asking a whole lot. But it's difficult. It's really difficult to connect, especially at my age. I'm very fortunate that recently I have some new friends that have really fed me and can meet me where I am with all of those things. It seems like it should be more simple. Several years ago, I went on a trip. I wanted to see some of the desert. I wanted to see New Mexico and there's a beautiful. National park called the healer. And I went there. Was slightly off season. I found somebody with horses that led. Trail rides. For several days at a time and hunting trips with horses and donkeys down into canyons and arroyos. In the New Mexico Heela. It's it's quite a large area and it's very, very beautiful. And. It was off season and demand didn't have anyone else, but he was still willing to put me up in what had been his bunkhouse because his staff had gone home. And take me on. A couple of day rides rather than an overnight. As we wrote out, I was happy. It was just so happy to be doing this and being on a horse and being in a beautiful place and having someone lead me. So I didn't have to worry about lots of things. And. I was fear of going down this one trail. It was rather steep and Rocky and my horse was very surefooted. I began to feel like I was channeling. An Indian woman, a squad. And I was struck by. How little conversation there was between me and this man. And I think that's where the channeling came from. And as I imagined. Or channeled that I was this Indian woman from long ago, riding behind this man on horseback, down into this Arroyo, I realized how little there was to say. There was no need to talk about politics. There was no need to talk about the earth or how to take care of it. That was all part of the culture. There is no need to talk about what we were going to eat. There were no choices. We were going to eat what we had. There was no reason to talk about. Where we were going either we knew, or we didn't. There was no reason to talk about how I felt. Because it seemed like we were sharing a lot, even though I didn't know this person. There was no reason to talk about anything. And. That reminded me of a silent retreat, but it also reminded me of. How much garbage goes through our heads, how much our modern culture and society. Push us to thinking. And how absolutely unnecessary it is. I mean, it is necessary in our culture, but maybe not. All of the thinking is necessary. And. It opened my mind to a way of being that could be so simple and require so little. To simply be present. So it seems to me that a lot of relationships end up bringing in the past and the future. And it garbles them. Do we really need to know everything about someone's past or even anything about someone's past? I mean, yeah. It's helpful to see how they might to predict how they might react in certain situations. And if they have some triggers from past traumas, but really. In a larger sense. We are the sum of our experiences, but that's not who we are entirely. And who we are today, changes every single day. I love the adage of whether it's your friend or your lover. When you wake up in the morning, asking who are you today? And I don't mean asking in a way that they're going to give you an answer. I mean asking in a rhetorical sense as you look at them, who are you today? What changed? What's changing. I also think. You're being ABL. To be truly open and honest and choosing if we want to be in that relationship every day is important. There's so many things that are really simple. That if we held closer in our hearts, And pushed more out of our minds. That we could simply remain present. And what would that be like? What would our relationship be like if you could just be present? No need to argue or talk about things that really don't matter. And acceptance of. You know, I'll eat. What's presented. As long as I can. You know, and if I can't, for some reason you hope that people know, see or feel that. I think that horses have very little talking to do. I mean, they do talk, they'll go nose to nose and explain things to each other, but they don't have the thinking that we do. They do have a sense of past present and future. I know that for certain. And. Mostly they live in the present. They are such an example for me. And these things seem important to me. If you haven't thought about any of them before, I hope you do. If you have thought about them, I hope you hold them close and they help. If you like my podcast, please give it a review or follow or like, or subscribe. And I'd love to hear from people. There's also a place to donate if you feel so moved to do so. Plastics.