Marriage, Motherhood & the Messy Middle; What happens when the therapist gets real
What if the therapist stopped giving advice and started getting real?
Welcome to Marriage, Motherhood, and the Messy Middle - where I, Carrie Cohen, licensed therapist and creator of the Safe2Love™ Method, pull back the curtain on what life actually looks like when you’re juggling a marriage, raising kids, caring for aging parents, and trying to figure out who you are in the middle of it all.
After 25+ years of helping other people navigate their relationships, I’m done pretending I have it all figured out. This podcast is my unfiltered take on the beautiful chaos of midlife - the marriage fights that happen at 2am, the mom guilt that hits when you’re just trying to take a shower, the sandwich generation overwhelm when everyone needs you but you’re running on empty.
Here’s what you WON’T get: perfect advice from someone who’s got it all together.
Here’s what you WILL get: Raw, honest conversations about what it really takes to love and be loved in the thick of real life. Because sometimes the most healing thing isn’t another strategy - it’s knowing you’re not the only one figuring it out as you go.
If you’re a woman navigating marriage, motherhood, and everything in between, welcome. This is your space to feel seen, heard, and a little less alone in the beautiful mess of it all.
Safe to Love
Marriage, Motherhood & the Messy Middle; What happens when the therapist gets real
Episode 44: Why You Keep Missing Each Other Emotionally: The Role of Co-Regulation
In this episode, I’m diving into something that can completely change how you understand emotional dynamics in your relationships—co-regulation. Ever felt a shift in mood between you and your partner and wondered what caused it? That’s your nervous systems communicating, and it plays a huge role in how we connect (or disconnect) emotionally.
Co-regulation is the unconscious process where our nervous systems influence each other, creating a shared emotional experience. It can be as simple as a laugh, a calming touch, or even moments of tension. I’ll break down how co-regulation starts before we’re even born, and how it continues to shape how we relate to others, especially in romantic relationships.
In this episode, I’ll share:
- Why co-regulation might be the missing piece when it comes to feeling emotionally disconnected from your partner.
- How understanding this process can help you and your partner stop missing each other emotionally and start fostering emotional safety.
- Practical ways to improve your emotional regulation and create a more fulfilling, harmonious relationship.
I’ve seen how co-regulation can be transformative in relationships—helping couples move from frustration and miscommunication to deeper connection. I’ll show you how becoming aware of this powerful process can change your relationship dynamics for the better.
Key Takeaways:
- Co-regulation begins early—literally in the womb—and shapes our relationships throughout life.
- In romantic partnerships, co-regulation can either create calm and connection or escalate tension and disconnection.
- I’ll walk you through strategies to self-soothe, regulate your emotions, and build stronger connections with your partner.
If you’re ready to stop missing each other emotionally and start creating a deeper, healthier bond, this episode is for you. Tune in and learn how understanding co-regulation can transform your relationship.
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