The Midlife Marriage

Episode 51: What if I don't find my husband attractive anymore?

• Carrie Cohen

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On today's episode, I'm tackling a topic that hits close to home for so many of us, but one we rarely feel safe discussing: what happens when we don't feel attracted to our partner anymore? I'm diving deep into this uncomfortable truth that I've seen come up again and again in my work with couples.

I'm sharing:

  • Why that fluctuating attraction you're experiencing is completely normal (and why we need to stop letting Hollywood make us feel guilty about it)
  • What I've discovered about the fascinating connection between self-criticism and how we perceive our partner's attractiveness
  • My tried-and-tested method for figuring out if it's really about attraction or if something deeper is going on
  • The exact steps I use with my clients to help them reconnect with their partner's essence
  • My honest perspective on what sustainable attraction actually looks like in long-term relationships

This episode is perfect for you if you've ever:

  • Found yourself nitpicking your partner's appearance more than usual
  • Felt like the worst partner ever because "the spark" isn't what it used to be
  • Laid awake at night wondering if there's something wrong with you or your relationship
  • Worried about whether your relationship can survive these changing feelings

I'm breaking down all my insights about the myth of constant attraction and sharing the tools I've developed to help you build a deeper, more authentic connection. Plus, I'll explain why these feelings often have way more to do with what's happening in your inner world than your partner's outer appearance.

Whether you're in the thick of struggling with attraction right now or want to protect your relationship against future challenges, I'm bringing you the honest conversation and practical guidance I wish someone had given me years ago.


For women out there, who tried everything only to feel like you must be broken
My work is absolutely for you!

Right now I have two options:

👉🏻My 7 day self paced program: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/Get-Out-of-Your-Head
👉🏻My 4 month deep dive group program: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/BodyWise
👉🏻Wanna find out what's blocking you from receiving love? Take this free quiz to find out: https://www.carriecohencoaching.com/assessments/2148315973

Thank you for listening to The Midlife Marriage!