The Midlife Marriage

Episode 59: If Your Body Doesn't Feel Safe in Your Marriage, No Amount of Communication will Fix it.

• Carrie Cohen

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You’ve been told that better communication is the key to a better marriage.
But what if that’s not the real issue?

If your nervous system doesn’t feel safe in love, no amount of deep talks, therapy sessions, or communication strategies will fix the disconnect.

In this episode, I’m breaking down:
🔥 Why communication alone won’t fix your marriage (and what will)
🔥 How your nervous system reacts to love—with fight, flight, or freeze responses
🔥 Why your body may be blocking connection—even though you want it
🔥 3 practical steps to create safety in your relationship BEFORE trying to communicate

If you find yourself shutting down, getting defensive, overanalyzing your husband’s words, or feeling emotionally drained after conversations—this episode is a must-listen.

The truth? Your marriage isn’t broken. Your nervous system is just stuck in survival mode. And the best part? You can change this.


As promised get my 7-day private podcast, "Stop Pushing Love Away" for just $49 and start rewiring your nervous system for love.

Ready to take the next step?

Tune in and start building a marriage that thrives—even in the busiest seasons of life.

Thank you for listening to The Midlife Marriage!