Marriage, Motherhood & the Messy Middle; What happens when the therapist gets real
What if the therapist stopped giving advice and started getting real?
Welcome to Marriage, Motherhood, and the Messy Middle - where I, Carrie Cohen, licensed therapist and creator of the Safe2Love™ Method, pull back the curtain on what life actually looks like when you’re juggling a marriage, raising kids, caring for aging parents, and trying to figure out who you are in the middle of it all.
After 25+ years of helping other people navigate their relationships, I’m done pretending I have it all figured out. This podcast is my unfiltered take on the beautiful chaos of midlife - the marriage fights that happen at 2am, the mom guilt that hits when you’re just trying to take a shower, the sandwich generation overwhelm when everyone needs you but you’re running on empty.
Here’s what you WON’T get: perfect advice from someone who’s got it all together.
Here’s what you WILL get: Raw, honest conversations about what it really takes to love and be loved in the thick of real life. Because sometimes the most healing thing isn’t another strategy - it’s knowing you’re not the only one figuring it out as you go.
If you’re a woman navigating marriage, motherhood, and everything in between, welcome. This is your space to feel seen, heard, and a little less alone in the beautiful mess of it all.
Safe to Love
Marriage, Motherhood & the Messy Middle; What happens when the therapist gets real
Episode 57: Your Nervous System Determines How You Experience Love in Your Marriage, Not Your Mind
You love your husband. You know he’s a good man. But no matter how much effort you put in—communicating more, reading relationship books, trying to be more affectionate—you still feel disconnected.
The problem isn’t communication. It’s your nervous system.
In this episode, I break down The Nervous System Marriage Map™, a three-stage process that explains why your body may be stuck in survival mode and how to shift into a relationship that actually feels like home again.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- Why your nervous system—not your mindset—determines how you experience love.
- The three stages of The Nervous System Marriage Map™ and how to identify where you are:
- Survival Mode – Feeling triggered, distant, or emotionally shut down.
- Regulation Mode – Beginning to feel safe but still navigating old patterns.
- Connection Mode – Finally feeling at ease in your marriage, where love flows naturally.
- Why traditional relationship advice like “just communicate more” doesn’t work if your nervous system still feels unsafe in love.
- How to rewire your nervous system so your marriage can thrive—without forcing connection.
Your marriage isn’t broken. Your nervous system is simply protecting you in ways that no longer serve you. And when you learn how to shift your nervous system, your entire relationship changes.
Listen in to discover how to stop pushing love away and finally create the marriage you deserve.
Explore More with Me:
- Stop sabotaging connection and start creating the love you truly want. Discover how to break free from control patterns and embrace vulnerability in your relationship.
- Free Masterclass: Your Control Is Wrecking Your Marriage
- Do your thoughts spiral endlessly? Learn how to calm your overthinking and finally find clarity with this practical, life-changing guide. Here how you can Get Out of Your Head and feel present in Love!
- Website: Carrie Cohen Coaching
- Instagram: @carriecohencoaching
- LinkedIn: Carrie Cohen Marriage Coach
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