Marriage, Motherhood & the Messy Middle; What happens when the therapist gets real

Inside A Therapist Mom’s Mind On Mom Guilt & “Good Enough” Parenting

Carrie Cohen Season 2 Episode 2

What if the fastest way to become a better parent is to let go of guilt? I open up about the choices that shaped our family—moving a kindergartner mid-year, changing schools after COVID, and making the hardest leap from private to public when our teen asked for more room to breathe. Along the way, I share the framework that guided us: read the signals, honor your kid’s input, consult trusted voices, test the fit, then decide with intention.

We explore “good enough parenting,” the Winnicott idea that drops perfection while raising the bar for presence, repair, and care. I walk through why guilt stalls growth, how conscious choices create steadier outcomes, and why your nervous system matters more than your best speech. Kids absorb our energy; when we regulate, they can regulate. That’s how secure-enough attachment gets built day by day, not through flawless decisions but through consistent, grounded ones.

You’ll hear how we weighed academic pressure against a full life—figure skating, horses, friendships—and why we chose balance over burnout. We also reframe the habit of blaming our own parents in therapy, shifting toward recognizing their limits and gifts so we can evolve without getting stuck in old stories. The takeaway is simple and strong: write an intentional family story on purpose. Choose to remember the effort, the togetherness, and the fun, and keep moving forward with clear eyes and an open heart.

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