The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast
The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast - hosted by Danielle Black, Australia's leading specialist in child-focused post-separation parenting.
This isn't your typical separation, divorce or co-parenting podcast. We tackle the hard truths about what happens when separation involves family violence, high-conflict dynamics, and ongoing abuse - and most importantly, how to protect your children when the flawed Australian 'system' lets you down.
Each episode challenges the dangerous myths that keep women and children in harmful situations. From exposing why Australia's love affair with 50/50 parenting arrangements is hurting Australian kids, to revealing how post-separation abuse operates through parenting arrangements - this is where protective parents get the evidence-based guidance they desperately need.
Putting children first after separation - even when that means challenging professionals, fighting inappropriate arrangements, and refusing to accept "compromise" solutions that damage your children's development and wellbeing.
Raw, unfiltered, and research-backed. Because your children's wellbeing matters more than adult concepts of "fairness."
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Episodes
63 episodes
61. The System that Fails Children: Part 1 - The professionals who can't identify abuse and why our children are paying the price
What happens when the very experts meant to protect our children can't identify the abuse that's harming them? Australian research from the University of Queensland delivers a shocking revelation: children exposed to coercive contr...
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60. Breaking the cycle: Three important steps to protective parenting
Navigating life after separation requires more than just knowing what your children need - it demands the capacity to advocate for them even when it's deeply uncomfortable. In this groundbreaking episode, I reveal my proprietary framework that'...
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59. It's never too late: Repairing your child's attachment after separation
Even when parenting arrangements seem impossible to change, we can strengthen our children's attachment security through consistent, attuned care during the time we do have with them. The remarkable plasticity of children's brains means attachm...
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58. Beyond "Kids are resilient": The neuroscience of attachment disruption
Attachment theory is a crucial but often misunderstood concept that significantly impacts children's wellbeing after parents separate. Understanding attachment isn't about controlling access to your child, but rather protecting their fundamenta...
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57. The '50-50' myth: When equal shared parenting time harms children
What if the arrangement everyone claims is "best for children" after separation is actually harming them? This provocative question forms the foundation of our deep dive into the dangerous myth of 50-50 equal shared parenting time.Drawi...
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56. How my personal story shapes my mission to fight for better post-separation outcomes
In this episode, I pull back the curtain on my personal journey through coercive control and post-separation abuse in this raw, vulnerable episode. I share how I met my former partner at just 17, failing to recognise the red flags of control be...
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55. Debunking post-separation myths: Why do so many professionals get the recommendations wrong?
Ever had that gut feeling that the "professional advice" about your parenting arrangements just didn't fit your child's needs? You're not alone, and you're probably not wrong.The heartbreaking reality is that many professionals...
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54. Protective parenting vs. conflict avoidance: The choice that changes everything
Welcome back to a transformative episode after a year-long hiatus! While I've been away from the microphone, I've been deeply immersed in the trenches with my one-on-one clients, gaining invaluable insights that I'm finally ready to share with ...
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53. Navigating communication with your controlling ex: The importance of boundaries for breaking the cycle of abuse
Ever wondered how to regain control when communicating with a controlling ex-partner? Join me, Australian Separation and Divorce Coach Danielle Black, as we discuss the insidious tactics like DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender) us...
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52. Do you have the right support on your separation journey? How to choose the right coach for you and your situation.
Join me, Australian coach Danielle Black, as I discuss how my specialised coaching approach prioritises the well-being of both you and your children, equipping you with the tools to set firm boundaries and effectively engage with the legal syst...
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51. Part Two: Do they really have a personality disorder? Differentiating PTSD, male entitlement and personality disorders
Can you truly distinguish personality disorders from PTSD and CPTSD, or are the lines more blurred than we think? Join me, Danielle Black, as I unravel the complexities of these conditions, shedding light on how traits like mood swings, depress...
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50. Part One: Do they really have a personality disorder? ...Why it's time to stop calling abusers "narcissists"
What happens when we hastily label our abusive ex-partners as narcissists? Join me, specialist Australian Separation & Divorce Coach Danielle Black, as I explore the critical differences between narcissistic traits and true personality diso...
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49. Part 9 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Abusive and Neglectful Parenting
This episode of the Post-Separation Abuse Podcast, hosted by Danielle Black, promises to tackle the disturbing realities of abusive and neglectful parenting. Learn how controlling and abusive parents manipulate their children through tactics li...
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48. Part 8 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Cultural, Spiritual & Religious abuse
Can cultural and spiritual beliefs be weaponised against you, even after a relationship ends? On this episode of the Post-Separation Abuse Podcast with Danielle Black, discover how abusers manipulate cultural and religious values to maintain co...
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47. Part 7 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Economic and Financial Control
Ever felt trapped in your own life due to someone else's control over your finances? Discover the insidious world of economic and financial abuse as we unveil tactics that can keep you chained to a controlling partner long after separation. Thi...
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46. Part 6 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Undermining and sabotaging healthy parenting
Have you ever felt like your role as a parent is constantly being sabotaged by your ex? The struggle is real!Controlling and abusive former partners can use both overt and covert strategies to undermine your parenting—like the "Disneyla...
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45. Part 5 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Using and disregarding children
Welcome. I'm Danielle Black, and today we're exploring the manipulative tactics used by controlling abusers who weaponise children in their ongoing power struggles. We'll uncover how these abusers, masking their self-inter...
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44. Part 4 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Isolation
Help me to shatter the silence surrounding post-separation abuse as I reveal the unseen struggles that many victim-survivors face. In this episode I expose the stark reality of how manipulative and controlling men brand themselve...
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43. Not Your F*cking Job
Every day, women across Australia are grappling with the crushing weight of domestic violence, and their cries for help are too often muffled by a system that seems to favor the abuser. The harsh reality is that our society burdens wom...
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42. Part 3 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Minimising, denying and blaming the protective parent.
In this episode I peel back the layers of manipulation and control that continue long after a relationship ends. We're not just talking about anger-fueled outbursts; this is a strategic game of blame-shifting and reality distortion that abusers...
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41. Part 2 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Harassment, intimidation, stalking & threats.
As your navigator through the stormy seas of post-separation abuse, I'm here to shine a light on the often unseen tactics abusers wield to keep their grip on power. Together, we'll uncover how subtle acts of intimidation and control can persist...
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40. Part 1 - Post-Separation Abuse Unpacked: Using systems and institutions
This episode reveals how abusers wield systems and institutions as tools of manipulation, continuing to torment their former partners long after the separation. Join me as I dissect the underbelly of family violence's evolution int...
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39. Managing your mind post-separation: The importance of optimism
Discover the transformative path to empowerment after a break from a restrictive or abusive relationship. With me, Danielle Black, as your guide, this episode promises insights and strategies for harnessing the power of positive thinking to rec...
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38. Empowering our kids: Nurturing consent and personal boundaries
Growing up in the 80s meant boundaries were often blurred or altogether nonexistent for many of us, myself included. Today, I'm sharing my journey and the crucial lessons learned about the importance of establishing healthy boundaries for...
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37. Boundaries: Taking back our power and control, one boundary at a time.
You're not alone on the path toward reclaiming your life after separation—countless courageous women have walked this journey, and their stories of transformation are nothing short of heroic. This episode is an ode to their strength, as we expl...
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