Dancing in the Discomfort Zone with Anne Bonney

Whose Life Is This Anyway? Battling the internal tug-of-war between SHOULD and WANT

Anne Bonney Season 15 Episode 330

Ever feel like you’re stuck in a mental game of tug-of-war between what you should do and what you actually want to do? Welcome to the club, my friend—membership: basically everyone. In this episode, your host Anne Bonney (https://YourChangeSpeaker.com) dives into the oh-so-human struggle between following the path society (or family or convention) paved for us… and the one that lights our own fire.

This isn’t about being reckless or rebellious (we’re not talking illegal shenanigans here), but about tuning into the quiet inner voice that whispers, “There’s more for you.”

🎙️ Buckle up for a real-talk ride through:

  • Why “should” can feel safe—but suck the soul out of your decision-making.
  • How to spot when you’re making choices to please, impress, or perform.
  • Several juicy self-reflection questions to help you break free from the Should Shackles.
  • The unexpected power of asking, “Whose voice is in my head right now?”
  • Why saying “yes” to one thing might mean saying “no” to another.

If you've ever ignored your gut in favor of playing nice, blending in, or keeping the peace—you’re gonna want to hear this.

👉 Press play and give yourself permission to go against the grain!


Anne Bonney, CSP®, is a high-energy keynote speaker, engaging emcee, and transformational workshop facilitator specializing in resilience, change leadership, emotional intelligence, and courageous communication. Known as the go-to authority on embracing change and thriving through discomfort, Anne delivers unforgettable and fun keynotes and corporate trainings—both in-person and virtually—that spark confidence, connection, and resilience in audiences around the world.

With over 20 years of experience in corporate and nonprofit leadership, Anne brings practical, real-world strategies that empower teams to navigate change, lead with emotional intelligence, and tackle tough conversations head-on. She's the author of two impactful books on leading through change and host of the top-rated Dancing in the Discomfort Zone Podcast (you're here now!  You already know that!), where she interviews people (some thought-leaders, some regular people who have experienced challenges) and shares content to help YOU get more comfortable being uncomfortable and build your resilience in transition and uncertainty! 

Anne’s unforgettable presentations blend humor, heart, and high-energy storytelling—drawing on her wildly diverse experiences: from growing up overseas, training animals, and climbing Kilimanjaro to running marathons on all seven continents, singing opera, and entertaining troops in Iraq. She might even surprise your audience with a custom song on her guitar!

Whether you’re planning a leadership retreat, sales kickoff, association event, or hybrid conference, Anne Bonney is the motivational speaker who will light up your stage, fire up your people, and leave them ready to embrace change, boost resilience, and lead boldly.