Dancing in the Discomfort Zone with Anne Bonney
Let's face it, life is uncomfortable. Whether it's interacting with other humans (or trying to), going after our goals and improving our lives, or understanding other people's perspectives, preferences and proclivities, being able to face the discomforts in life with courage, compassion, confidence and resilience will make life a lot more enjoyable! So join me as we DANCE IN THE DISCOMFORT ZONE! We'll explore new ideas, learn how to build our confidence, courage and resilience, and laugh a little too, because life is serious enough. We need a little cha cha, and a little ha ha every once in a while! Welcome to the Discomfort Zone with Anne Bonney!
Dancing in the Discomfort Zone with Anne Bonney
What SWAT Hostage Negotiators Know About Tough Conversations (That Leaders Don’t) with Scott Tillema
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What do hostage negotiations and workplace conflict have in common?
More than you think.
Former SWAT hostage negotiator Scott Tillema (https://scotttillema.com/) joins me to break down what it really takes to influence emotional people in high-stakes moments...whether you’re outside a barricaded building, delivering some uncomfortable performance feedback or trying to solve a problem with your spouse.
If you’ve got tough conversations in the back of your head that you need to have, this episode is for you!
We talk about:
- Why trying to be “right” can quietly destroy your influence
- The foundation you must build before you try to persuade anyone
- How timing can make or break a difficult conversation (this is HUGE!)
- What respect actually means...and what it doesn’t
- How to separate the person from the behavior without losing your cool
Because the moment it becomes about being right… we’re in trouble.
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Scott Tillema (TILL'-uh-ma) is a retired SWAT hostage negotiator from the Chicago area. Scott holds a bachelor’s degree in behavioral science, a master’s degree in psychology, and he was trained in negotiation by the FBI and at Harvard University.
He is the founder of Negotiation Excellence, LLC and as a global keynote speaker and corporate trainer. His TEDx talk “The Secrets of Hostage Negotiators” has been viewed over one million times.
Anne Bonney is a keynote speaker and emcee who helps organizations lead through change by building resilience, emotional intelligence, and courageous communication.