EP 43: LATE NITE SPECIAL with Jaya

Tonight’s episode is a late night Cozy Up special 🍊✨

We poured the Aperols, hit record way too late, and somehow ended up deep in conversation about toxic boys, dating red flags, and the situationships that should’ve come with warning labels. From the little red flags we ignored… to the ones that were basically blinking neon signs, nothing was off limits. And at some point in the chaos we may or may not have called a couple of them (no regrets… maybe). It’s a little messy, very honest, and exactly what happens when the drinks are flowing and the girl talk gets real. If you’ve ever ignored a red flag, stayed a little too long, or laughed about it later with your friends… this episode is for you. Grab a drink and cozy up.

Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:00

Susan gonna get so many views. And that's Jeff. So then by the time we got to the first spot, I had already been on my fifth. We go into the bathroom. I pull trig. You wanna be whipped? Like whips and chains and like PDSM. Hey y'all. Welcome back. Hey y'all. Welcome to the late night edition of the cozy up pod. I'm Reagan and I'm Jaya. And that's Jeff. So that's Jeffrey. That's the one and only that you all were waiting for. Cheers. Um, no, so plans changed. It's like been a weekend. It's like truly been a weekend. Um so Jeff is sleeping and we can't get him up. So till next time, TBD when Jeff Oline hits the pod. Yeah. Just like a quick recap. Like nothing happened this weekend, but like somehow everything happened. Yeah. We went out DTPHX last night and like we had. Did you have a drink before we went out? Multiple. Oh, you did? Yeah, I had I had multiple. By the time we got to the first spot, I had already been on my fifth. What? Yes. Wait. What? Yes. What like I drank we drank one in the car. I drank one in the car. And then I had two. Oh, you did. You had one when you started getting ready? Yes. And I had another before we left. And then I had one in the car. Okay. For sure. Yeah. And then I had been drinking kind of all day because I had Savannah's birthday party. And then I had some like when I was getting ready. Oh, yeah. Jay was making me to like tequila. And then I had one in the car. Yeah. But anyway, we like get to a rooftop, and these drinks, last time we went there, the drinks were like literally tiny. Like this big. So Jay is like, all right, guys, like we're just gonna order two right away in the shot. Yeah. Okay. We ordered two apparel spritzes right away. We're like halfway through the apple spritz. Like me, Jay, and Jeff are like so not okay. I'm starting to see shit. Like, I'm like literally crisscrossed eyed in every direction. My eyes are truly looking anywhere but straight. Yeah. Like, and I'm like, holy smokes, we still have like a night ahead of us by that by that time it was like 10 o'clock. It was like only 10 o'clock, I imagine. No, it was like literally 10, and we like hadn't gone anywhere. No. And I like look at Jeff and I can tell you Jeff's like not do it. Because like I finished my first one, I was on my second one, and Jeff still has like half of it. We have to be careful with the yeah. Okay. Jeff still has like half of his first. And then I'm like drinking, and it's like not getting better. I'm like, Jeff, I feel like you gotta catch up. So I know like he's sauced. No, we're both sauced, and like we made the mistake because this time the drinks were normal. It was like this without a stem. It was just like a normal wine glass. Yeah. And they were like so Persecco strong. And like one thing about like Persecco is like, I know it's gonna smack me. Yeah. You know, like I'm talking, it was just straight apple, apple ball, Aperol, and Persecco, like no club. Yeah, no club. No club at all. It was like actually crazy. So then we go to Palma and like we get there and I'm like, I'm like, I need water bad. Bad, bad. And we like start chugging water, and then like I'm sitting there and I'm like right. I can't even remember the walk. No, I don't. I don't. I don't remember the walk. I don't remember getting there. I just remember getting in there and like needing to chug water. I like give Reagan a water, I get me a water. I'm like chugging, and I'm like thinking to myself, I'm like, I have to pull trick. Like I literally have to pull trig right now because I haven't had to pull trig in like six years. And I'm like, I'm about to be a grown woman, do a grown woman thing, and like go pull trig because I need to make it through the rest of the night. We go into the bathroom, I pull trig immediately better, like back to drinking. And then like we're chilling, and then everybody's just like like Tegan, Leah, Joe, and Travis, like they're all fine. And like I know that like we are not okay. No, like you, me and Jeff are like so beyond sauce. Bro, beyond, beyond, beyond, beyond sauced. And I just knew that that was the last stop of the night. No, like it's not I didn't even start. No, it didn't work. No, we like literally didn't even go anywhere. Anywhere. And then I woke up this morning. Like, this is okay. This is where like stuff gets funny. Because it's like I woke up in these clothes, right? These are my pajamas. Yeah. Then we went to a diamondbacks game. I just stayed in these clothes. I was like, I don't even have the energy to like change. Yeah, I fear like my hair has never looked worse. Yeah, it has been a day with the hair. I haven't showered yet. You haven't charged. I'm going to shower after. When we were at the game, like I got the shakes. No, you guys. Because this, like, in today was like, I totally forgot that, like, so like Reagan's dad had bought them all diamondbacks tickets, and I was like, well, I'm either gonna like sit here and sleep all day, or like I'm gonna buy myself a lawn ticket.

SPEAKER_00 5:26

Yeah, I'm like, I'm like thinking it's like thinking it's like 70 degrees, like it's gonna feel good. It's just like I forgot about like the fucking Arizona.

SPEAKER_01 5:42

No, it was 70 degrees, but that's something at least 110.

SPEAKER_00 5:46

Every morsel my body was legit sweating. I'm talking like I'm like out in the outfield, like not doing good at all.

SPEAKER_02 5:58

I come to find Jaya. Like, I'm like, I'm gonna go get food, I'm gonna go say hi to Jaya because like I'm gonna see, she's in the lawn. When I find this girl, she's like damn near like pancake on the grass with her headphones in, just surviving.

SPEAKER_00 6:11

Like, I'm just surviving.

SPEAKER_02 6:12

Like, I brought my headphones and I like I was like getting so like worked up over how I felt. I was like, I have to. You were like trying to like enjoy the sun and be like aesthetic and cute, but you're like, I'm actually like so not. I'm like like listening to music right now is the only way I'm gonna survive. So I'm like sitting there like swaying and then like Reagan comes and finally like I'm like, I need to throw it. And like we're drinking, like we got a seltzer because we're like maybe it's gonna help us. Yeah, like it'll like prolong the hangover. It was bad. And then and then like we like, yeah, like walk back up the hill from the lawn, and I like almost threw up. No, and I was like, I was like, mine was like, my mouth is so like cottoned. No, like the opposite. It's like it's like when you're about to throw up and you're like it's like sour and wet, like salivating. And it's like and like taking like deep breaths.

SPEAKER_00 7:00

He's like, talking about how she has to throw up so bad, and then she's like, can't need nachos.

SPEAKER_02 7:05

Girls still needed food. Girl, and then my blood sugar is all it was bad. Truly just a message. And then we came home. We came home and like I'm schlumped on the couch, and like my brother comes upstairs and he's like, I'm he's like, the hangover's hitting me, man. Like, it's like 5 p.m., right? He's like, the hangover's hitting me, and he's like, I'm not doing well. Then all of a sudden he comes out of his room, blaring music on the speaker, and then when he jumps into the pool screaming, doing backflips for another 45 minutes. No, literally doing backflips on backflips on back blitz, he which is why he's sleeping right now. He's exhausted because he literally Ninja Warrior. Yeah, literally for like it within the last two days, he's probably done like four hours of backflips off the rocks, off the rocks, and yeah, it's and like yeah, of course you're fucking exhausted. He's like, I have sleep splints, I got bruises on my kids. Like the trauma you just put your body through in the last two days is like unbelievable. No, like horrible. No, and so that brings us to like now it's late night, like it's like almost like what are we just gonna say, like 11 p.m.? It's 11 p.m. Yeah, and we're just um we're here, we're here surviving, having an appy. Cheers. Oh, you're kind of chugging it, okay. Um, and we got our shades on. Jeff's got his shades on. Jeff's got an effort. He's got a drink his affront with his allergies. Um, and we're here. This is where we are. And this is a sixth episode, and I like hope you guys enjoy the rest of it. Yeah, because we are not changing a thing. Everything that we set up for Jeff is what we are gonna do right now. Yeah, I fear I put too much like energy and thought into like putting this fucking microphone back here.

SPEAKER_03 8:40

Like made a wheel for us to spin.

SPEAKER_02 8:41

Yeah, so we're gonna freaking spin the wheel. You know, Jeff, we're not, we're not letting that stop. No, so rain, no shine, no hail, no wind. Yeah. The app walls aren't gonna get us tonight. No, not tonight. It's like, okay, really briefly, it's like so odd how there's some nights I go out and I can drink like like a college amount of liquor. Yeah. And like be okay. And like definitely have a buzz and like definitely probably like I'm drunk. Yeah. But like do be fine and like do function fine. And then there's nights like when we were in like New York City. Where we barely had. Or like last night, like last night, like we definitely like we were all kind of like Jeff was like drinking kind of like pre-gaming, but none of us like pre-game. Like, I'm not like no straight liquor. No, we were like sipping on an apple roll while I did my makeup. And then we like got an apple at the bar and we were just like absolutely effed. No, I was like messing with then like I was yeah, it's like it's weird. I don't like know what it is. So I think we like ate food. We had dinner yesterday, no. Oh, yeah. We went to Grable Republic. I don't know what you had. You worked. I didn't eat yesterday. Okay. So that like you didn't eat at all? Well, I had that breakfast burrito that Leo made me. Oh yeah, and then some like that's yeah, that's a cut of it. You have like some. I have some chicken, some Brussels sprouts. Yeah. So I had like a full meal. No, you didn't. That's good. I'm glad you at least had like a meal. Because I knew when I didn't have trig when I pulled trig, like, not to be graphic, but those purple fingerling potatoes, like all in there. Yeah. It was like, okay. It's like the worst. But you're probably never gonna eat those again. Ever. No. Never. And like it's honestly even hard for me to like drink these Appies right now. No, I know, because like Jeff was like drinking the Aperols like afterwards, and I was like, I'm like not so sure about that cheddar. Like, I love an Aperon, don't get me wrong, those aren't going anywhere anytime soon. No, like those are uh those are my dreams. There to stay. But and oh, okay. Um but so that's kind of how the last two days have gone. We're not well. We're here though. It's all it matters. We both still need a shower, like doing sticky, not feel tea. Is that like a tonight problem? It it is for me. Yeah, it has to be like it has to be. No, that's like so nasty. I even just said that on camera. And like we we'll just like see how we feel after yeah. It's just yeah, everything's just a mess. Like my room's a mess, the house is a mess. Honestly, like we could just have a sleepover on the couch. Do you want to? We could, but like, kind of sounds fun. But like the TV's kind of like stay on. Like, we're gonna watch like a movie, like I've no reason not to. No, let's just do it. Okay, we're having a sleepover everybody. I'm glad you guys just saw that. All right, let's spin the freaking wheel. You made this beautiful wheel. I did, and it was so it was like I'm like actually so bummed. I'm impressed because like we were like so excited to have like a male POV. We have like so many questions to do. It's like gonna give us the boat. We were like, there's so many like dating questions, things about like what's a girl do that like is like a deal breaker or like and then we have like travel, like Jeff like travels everywhere all the time. He's like all telling crazy stories early years. He just like always gets offered like do you want a free trip to Beijing? Yeah, you know, like do you want to go to the Philippines? Like, do you want to be in this year's Olympics? Do you want to like sleep on a boat that you have to take a canoe to to you know, like like no, like Jeff just like is the luckiest person, and like I hope you guys meet him at some point. And I'm I am bummed, but like we made this wheel, and I guess we're gonna use it. You guys are gonna be bored to hear our answers, but Jeff's answers would have been fabulous. But okay, let's spin it. All right, we're gonna spin a fracking wheel. Okay, it says show the group your hinge profile. Okay. Okay, like actually this could be fun. No, this could be we're also gonna like screen. Record an insert. Yeah. Okay. Okay, my hinges I've paused right now. Mine is too because I was like literally contemplating like I deleted like all my matches and stuff, like because I'm like, I want to delete it because I'm like talking to somebody, but I'm like, I don't know if I'm ready to delete it, but I don't know. Like, I feel like I am. I uh well, Mike, I always pause mine. This is like a weird philosophy or like habit, I guess I don't know. But like I will like unpause it, I'll get like 10 to 15 likes, and then I pause it because I'm sifting through those likes. And what if one's really good? I don't want like my my profile in the deck and like potentially like because I'm not like I pause it again as soon as I start like kind of messaging another person. Yeah, because like I'm technically I'm not off the market, like I'm not thinking about it. Like, this is my person. I'm just like I'm talking to this person, so I don't want to waste a good passing. Yeah, I don't even know if that like no it does, it does, it does. So I'm pause right now. Okay, so are we just gonna like swap phones? Yeah, you screen recording? I can, yeah. Okay, this is like very exposing. Yeah, it is. Yeah. Okay, so okay, off rip. Like this first photo is bomb. So fire. Who took that pick? Me. So fire. I like this photo. Are these both on the beach? Like, we're both beach photos. So that was at Regan Olsen's birthday in San Diego. So yes, that is a beach photo. Yeah, I love a beach photo. And your hair was like so. No, it was like a wet look. Um, I'm like, I'm gonna say this right now. I'm so proud of your prompt because you usually just have like very, very like short, just like witty responses, but I'm also like, we're dating with like intention and hard intentions. Yeah. So I'm like, people always look at mine, like, yeah, my profile's like, you're gonna see like my profile's very, very like how you have the collage. Yeah. Like I need to do that because there's so many pictures I do want on it, you know. Oh, but you used to have very, very like, I'm not gonna say shallow, but I don't have another word at this hour. For sure. Um you have very shallow. It's like surface level. Surface level, kind of like I don't I didn't even read the rest of them. Yeah, like you still have your like marvel thing. Um but then you like you mentioned God, you mentioned like you're looking for like an intentional love. Yes. You have like very like subtle. Mine's not even subtle. Mine are like fucking paragraphs. No, you're like Frankens like straight to the point, like you need to have this, this, and this. And if like you don't, like get it, or we're not talking. No, because it's just like I've done all the dating. Like y'all hear majority of the stories, but there's still even like more. Yeah. And um I just like don't like why not just put it all out there. Then the people who like me like see all of that and they realize like I'm not messing around.

SPEAKER_03 15:03

No, exactly.

SPEAKER_02 15:04

Um, but your pictures are fire. I think like a girl's profile is like always so fun to see. I wish like I could see like what men see when they scroll. Cause obviously if I switch behind to like women, yeah, just mean lesbians. Yeah, no, exactly. But it's like I would love to have like a male profile and like see what like like girls are doing. Because like you have a little outdoorsy. This is like sweet. Um, your first one's like fire baptism. Yeah. And then like two like natural, like just out in the world. Yeah. Like I like that. Yeah. No, I like yours, like, because you're just like always a fucking baddie. You always get your angles, and then I love the collage. Like, I actually need to do the collage. I just have like so many photos. Let me look at mine. I already forgot. No, there's like, no, I I've gotten like I show a little personality, I show like the little Pilates picture, the like speech, so it shows like I got a bestie who like wanted me like to do that for her. But yeah, no, the collage is like fun, and it says like behind like my life behind the scenes, it's like so ideal. No, yeah. I'm glad they had that. No, that's cute. Like I might have to do that. Yeah, because they have too many photos. I fear you and I take a lot of pics. We do. And it's like fun. And there's like a couple like casual ones and a couple like near pics that it probably wouldn't like do. Yeah. Yeah. Anyway. I uh that's my profile. It's yeah, it's currently paused. Mine is as well. But yeah, yeah. That's a good first first little spin. Yeah, that was a good spin. I forgot that was even part of the spin. I was having so much fun talking about it. Yeah. Okay. Um okay, what's a red flag? Wait, what red flag flags bother you bother you. Gosh, where do we have it? Is there a red flag you ignore? Okay. Okay. Can we like get kind of juicy? Sure. Sure. Sure, sure, sure, sure. I'm gonna say what is like a current yellow flag. Yellow flag. Or maybe like considering to be a red by the way. Enter leaning. Okay. If we don't want to do current because you're scared, we can do like scared. We can do like recent. No, no, no. I'm not scared. I'm not scared. Okay. I would say yellow flag. I'm not gonna go full blood red. No. Okay. But my current situation is like he is such a great guy. Like he is so great, so nice, like so sweet to me. Like, all that checks all the boxes except for the one. Yeah. I'm sorry. Sorry, Jeff. Okay. Um, except for the one box that is truly the most important to me. Yeah. Is that he does not actively go to church right now. Yeah. But he has like the background. He's was raised in the church, like Bible studies in high school, college, like did the whole thing, but like currently he is not. And like I have voiced that, but I'm not gonna like hound it because if they want to, they will, because I've already voiced it and I should only have to voice it once.

SPEAKER_03 18:04

And it's like I also don't want him to like start going again for me.

SPEAKER_02 18:08

Like it has to be a for him change. It's like such a hard one it's such a hard situation because every other thing, like, he really crosses like all the boxes off. Like he's so genuine to me and like been open, open and honest about everything, and like so sweet and just yeah. So that's like that's the thing, but like, you know, we will just see. Yeah, it's like such a complicated situation, like that is such like a case-by-case situation, and it's like so frustrating because it's like you want the perfect guy who's deep in his Bible and like has done Bible study and like has his own routine and like going to church, like is very like bare minimum, and like that is really like what I do expect. But if I'm gonna like feed off of that, yeah, the guy I'm talking to is the exact same boat, and I haven't even had the balls to have the conversation.

SPEAKER_03 19:03

I had the conversation like second time we hung out.

SPEAKER_02 19:05

Yeah, and I usually like am that girl, and I'm like pissed that I'm like not putting my foot down in that aspect. Um, that'll come this week. So we'll see. They're gonna watch this and be like, all right, so I'm like ready for this conversation again. No, it's gonna happen before this episode's release. So Oh, for sure. Yeah, yeah. Um, he also doesn't know I have a pod. Okay. Yeah. I don't mind, like I don't always do you you love like telling people about the pod. I'm like always like I love talking about it, but it's not my like first thing. Yeah. I guess I don't like say it as like here, fun fact. Like I have a podcast. It always like comes out naturally, especially when I talk about you and Yanni. Like I always like whenever I talk about my bestie girls, like I always talk about, like it just comes up naturally, like, yeah, like, or like they're asking, like, what I'm doing today. Yeah. I'm filming the podcast. Like, I don't ever be like, oh, listen, like I have a podcast. You should watch it, go subscribe, go da-da-da-da-da. I always tell them, like, if you do watch it, like, like maybe don't like tell me. And I always preface that it's like not for everyone because it's a girly pop show. It's a girly pop show, and they do do a lot of talking about like dating. So like boys watch it if you want. I mean like just don't get your feelings hurt. No, like we're not like sleeping around, we're not like doing anything crazy, but like I do be dating. Yeah. Like I'm always dating. I got like four on the arsenal right now. But it's like I am talking to like one guy who treats me like an absolute goddess. No, and like does everything. I've never like I'll say one thing, like, there's like definitely a couple like red yellow, I wouldn't say red flag, but like yellow flags are things that aren't ideal. But like the person I'm talking to right now, like has tr I've never dated someone who treats me as good as like he does. Yeah. Which is like no training.

SPEAKER_03 20:53

No, no, no.

SPEAKER_02 20:54

It's yeah, yeah, but it will, it'll all see itself through. We've like done a little bit of everything. This is like horrible. Like when we were making Jeff's when we were making Jeff's drink, we like ran out of ingredients. This is the whole kitchen counter. Partly a neutral, partly Aperol, partly Sprite Zero, partly Prosecco, partly a canned Aperol, partly it's got four different shaped. That's like full. Oh yeah, the the weak old Shandon. It's got round ice cubes, regular freezer ice cubes, and then it has a big rock for like an old-fashioned. I got balls and squares, and like J was like this is like a geometry cocktail. Anyway, um, yeah, I'm just gonna leave it at that. I don't think I have anything else to add to it. We're not gonna do that one. Okay, so it says at the same time, everyone call your current man a person by Jeff. Um I see that that would have been like so fun to do. I know. That's it. I wanted to see it, home girl. We're gonna respond to the phone. Do you want to do it for ours since we were just talking about them? No, because he's like sleepy. Just like one ring. No. One ring. She's sleeping. Don't be scared. I'm like being considerate. She's literally sleeping. It's Saturday, though. That's what I'm saying. He doesn't have work tomorrow. Okay. Girl bye. Um, okay. Okay, speaker. At the same time, everyone call your current man. I think she would be. One ring. Oh my god, I'm scared. I haven't texted him at all. Put your put your ringer on. Actually, we don't need a ring. We don't need a ringer. Let's just see who comes first. Okay. Okay. Hold on. Okay, I'm scared. I'm like literally. I think I haven't like responded to him in a while. So it's like, okay. Okay. You gotta figure it out or what? Yeah, sorry. Kayla texted me so I was reading it. Okay, ready? One, two. Wait, wait, wait. Okay, well, we gotta like, I don't want to edit this out. Okay, okay, hung out. Okay, we'll see. I'm okay. I don't like think he'll like I truly do think he's probably gonna. If he calls back, I'm like not gonna answer. I'm just gonna text him and be like, hey, like, it was for the podcast. I was gonna buy dial. Okay. So have you ever called him? No. Okay. Alright. Okay. Um best place you've traveled to. Tosh, where do you want to go next? Um, okay, let's make this like quick. Best place I've traveled to. I mean, like, New York City is always top dog. For sure. Um, if I'm gonna be like like I mean, like Italy just seems like basic because it's like obviously like a European trip is like awesome. Yeah. I don't have any like random like little places. Like I truly do love like Austin, Texas is like always like such a like I'm so lame because I like haven't gone out the country before, but like truly like my favorite place to ever go is San Diego. San Diego's the best. Like I love SD. I like Jamaica. I wish I was older when we went to Jamaica because Jamaican people are sick. Yeah, sandals. Yeah. Hello. Hello, Michael Scott, Jan Levinson. Let's go. What's your go-to first date? You and I differ. We do differ. So I, for a first date, love a dinner. Yeah. I want dinner. I want cocktails. I want something like dimly lit because I am a talker. I'm gonna talk, talk, talk. I want to ask you questions all night. I want you to ask me questions all night. And I just want to like look at each other and talk. Like we're like total, because I do all my dating off hinge. Yeah. Like so we're total strangers. Yes. I want to just like get to know you so well. Like, and there's still like only so much you can like. It also like says something if you're able to like kind of like beat the awkwardness and nervousness and like hold a conversation. No, for sure. Mine, like I love a good activity. Like I love going to like an arcade, playing games. Like it is like very fun. Like, cause I'm just like a competitive person and like, oh, you're lying. I mean, I got a text. So I got a nothing. He texted me. He said, Hey, did you call me? Well, like, obviously, yeah, I called you.

SPEAKER_03 24:57

I'm like, this is like the second time we've done this, and like I have never gotten like a yeah. Well, anywho.

SPEAKER_02 25:05

Anywho, you like an activity. I do love an activity, yeah. Um, but I like don't like it for a first date because like we just like don't know each other, and I feel like I need to get to know you. We're really just straight. I did like when I was seeing like Big Dill. I feel like I can say I can name drop at times when I was seeing Big Dill. Vegas Dill. Um, we went mini golfing for a first date, and that was the first time we ever like done an activity. And it was fun, and there was still like plenty of speaking. But like we would did like two rounds of minigolf, and like before we started, we got we like drank at the bar, then we like went and played and like talked, and then we like went and drank at the bar again, and then we went back and like talked. No, that's fun, that's fun. Yeah, so it was like a good date, and then we actually went to like a restaurant after and like kept talking. So like it was like a good combo, yeah. No, that's always good.

SPEAKER_03 25:56

I like both, but like I'm an activity girl.

SPEAKER_02 25:58

You do like activities. Uh what's a deal breaker in ick? I like pride myself in not getting the ick very often. Yeah. Like I like really don't get the ick except recently. I like I do have a couple ick. Okay, yeah. Name them. Okay. Since we're being juicy and ballsy. Okay, we're being juicy and ballsy. Cheers. Cheers. Take a big chug. Okay. I'm still in my first. Okay, juicy and ballsy. A deal breaker is like Maddie's mentioned it before, but like cleanliness. Yeah. And there's one thing to be like surface level clean, but I'm not surface level clean typically. Like, I'm like a nitty-green clean. I'm like a deep the couch kind of clean. Yeah. Um, and like I won't say like how recent or current or whatever, but like in a recent dating situation, like the house is clean. Like the person's house is clean, but there's like aspects of the house that like aren't. Or they like have an animal. Yeah. They're just like like stop beating around that bush and just like fully do. They have an animal and the house smells and like like the animal. Like the animal. And the where the animal and like okay, I'm just I'm gonna be like so ballsy. No person has like had a cat too. Has too that has. Oh, we don't know if it's like current or past, okay. Um, anyway, and the house just like I don't mind cats at all, but I mind when the house smells like a cat. Meow, meow. And it's like it's hard as not a cat person to like this on the D hard. Great human, but the cat thing is like throwing me off. And I like never thought I would have this problem. I'm like such not a cat person. I don't hate cats. I do. I can like I could live with a cat. I've had a cat once. It is like truly okay. I think some of them are very sweet. These cats are very sweet, they come up and they purr, and it's like cute, but like like the cats like being on the counter while you're like cooking. Has it like needed you yet? Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 28:16

Okay.

SPEAKER_02 28:17

So they're like locked in. Yeah, they're like locked in, like little little making biscuits. Like the cats are cute. Making bread. Um but the house just like I automatically, no matter how clean your house is, I see the litter box in the entryway, and I can smell it, and it's like just like it's so throwing me off. And that's like my ballsy, like, pray to God, they don't ever find this podcast and watch it. But yeah, it's like also just like we're not at the point where I can be like, I'll give you an air purifier. Yeah. I wish I knew what time we started because I feel this episode's like great and rambling. But it's like I would, I would like, I don't mind, but like I want an air purifier, I want like a candle. I need like a separate room for the cat. Like he has a laundry room. Like, let's like figure out how to put the laundry like the litter box. So that's like what my dad did. Like I grew up with cats, and my dad loves cats. And the it was the cat room was our laundry room, and they had a cat door to go in and out, and then they would not be in the house. They were just in that room. Yeah, like I really I just like it needs to be like shifted around. And I fear that's like the woman's touch, but I'm also like not at the point. Like, I haven't even had the church conversation, let alone like, hey, your cat smell. No, and that like the woman's touch thing, like that's kind of like my ick is like wit, like, and it's no, it's no man's fault.

SPEAKER_03 29:29

But when I like see their like room and I'm like, you could do this, this, and this, like you need the woman's touch. Like when a man doesn't already have a woman's touch, like, oh you should just go.

SPEAKER_00 29:44

Lobby.

SPEAKER_02 29:45

Um just got totally fucking deep throated by this microphone. Sorry, I didn't even notice, Cheddar. Wait a minute. Oh my god. You keep touching with your elbow. Well, I mean, it's not my elbow, it's my big ass jacket. Okay, sorry. Your dad had a cat. No, that's like not where it was. Anyway, I stopped listening. I I don't know.

SPEAKER_03 30:13

I just like I like being the woman's touch.

SPEAKER_02 30:16

And when a man doesn't already have the woman's touch, oh yes, that is not their fault. No, but it gives me the ick. I'm like, why, why is and this is like so like a not any reasonable ache at all. But it's like, why is your TV stand right there next to the mini fridge, but like your other desk is like here, but the other desk is there. And then you got a rack. You gotta watch the toes. Okay, because the mic's on here. For sure. Do you want me to move it? No. I'm like cozy. I'll just we'll not do it. The hogs are like for sure in the camera. Are they? Like a hundred percent. They're fine, they look nice. Okay, sorry. That wings I'm getting distracted. Um, but like, yeah, like I just want to like fix things up for you. Like, how do you not already know how to do interior design? I think it's like good. Like, no, you're good. But like, you definitely like can't see your face like at all. For sure. This is like the best episode I think we've ever recorded. I like truly am loving everything. No, this is like so fun. And also, like, my old navy outfit right now literally looks like a stick of butter. No, it is a stick of butter. I have the yellow with the like blue label. Um, yeah. That was just a side note. Okay, let's spin again. Okay, let's do one more spin. Just like right there. That's good. Perfect. And then I can like get my Johnson in here. Oh my jumbo mega. Your most toxic dating habit. Dot dot. Okay. My most toxic I already know. My most toxic dating habit. Get it out there. Is probably that like I unfortunately hate the game, but play the game of like, yeah. Oh, they took five hours to respond. Yeah. Like I can't respond immediately. So I'm gonna take even longer. And then I get like I like almost like get something out of it's like horrible. This thing like sucks. Like, hold on, like Jeff's mic's been on. This one the mic like Hold on. He's like in his mouth, he's like deep throated him. I like do get something unfortunately out of like if I successfully like don't text like all day. I'm like, oh, I like definitely won the game today. That's like weird. It is no, and I like I don't like that you responded like that. Well, I'm just being honest. No, okay. So, like for instance, like I'm usually a very like clingy person and I like want to text, text, text, text, text. Yeah. But if I'm like really busy or like something went on and I like like didn't text for like seven hours, yeah. I'm like, like they always play the game. So it's like actually no, it's like completely honest. Like, no, it's brutal. Then I'm like, hell yeah, like I made it seven hours. How do you feel? Okay, yeah. That is very toxic. But it's very toxic. But like I felt like that at times too. I'm always like thinking about them and always like wanting to talk to them. But it like you can't seem to be like, it's like you're you don't want to like have them like have that power over you. No, it's like a power move. It's like weird, but I've also been like done wrong so many times, and I've like just had like just shitty communicators and experiences, and it's like I do still like value these people, but it's like I don't know. It's that's that's it raw answers. Like, I I do do that, I play the game. I like realized my toxic dating habit literally today because I told you earlier, I was like, so like yesterday we were like out and about, and like when I was out, like I didn't text him that much. And like I didn't like invite him or like you know, like mention it really.

SPEAKER_03 34:11

I was just like, Yeah, I'm out, like I'm going out. And then like today, I'm like, what are you doing tonight? Like, maybe he'll be like, Oh, like I want to see you, but he was like, I'm going out with my friends, and I was like, um, okay, whatever.

SPEAKER_02 34:23

Like, hope you enjoy, like, and kind of being a bitch about it. And I'm like, why am I like that? Like, I'm mad that you're going out with your friends, and like I know I'm not gonna hear from you that much.

SPEAKER_03 34:33

But like that was clammy and cold.

SPEAKER_02 34:43

Oh my gosh, she just put her dogs on me. Um and then it's like, but like he was like totally like not weird about me going out, you know?

SPEAKER_03 34:55

And I'm like, and I was like just like kind of pressed. I'm like, so no invite, don't wanna, you don't wanna hang out with me. And he was like, Well, we can do tomorrow. And I was like, Well, no, I got this, this, and this, like making shit up, not making shit up, but like I like was just saying that I was busy, and then he's like, Okay, well, maybe Monday, like he's like making alternatives, and I'm like, no, because like I want to see him know.

SPEAKER_02 35:18

Like, this is I'm like the worst, bro. The truly the worst. It's like not fine, it's like not fine, and like but and like honey lamb, if you're like watching this, like you didn't hear any of that. I'm like so sorry. No, because I do care because like I like do care about you a lot, and it's like he knows that we can be as good as we want, but we're like we're always gonna have a little because sometimes like a little is like fun. Like, I want to see how you're gonna react. You like I want I love the tension, I love a little tension. I sometimes I wanna like bicker. It's not gonna be like that ballsy, but it's just like my POV. I wanna bicker with you because I wanna see like your dominance, like make me submit, like like show me how dominant you really are, you know. Like don't back down though, like don't back down. Like, I'm your woman, but like you're my man, like you're supposed to like tell me how it is.

SPEAKER_03 36:15

And I want like if I like say something to you, I want you to come at me like no girl, like you're gonna listen. Yeah, and I'm like, okay, like I'll listen.

SPEAKER_02 36:23

Like, yes, sir, anything you want. It's like I am like I am a submissive being. Yeah, I am. Yeah, I mean, I want to feel great. You wanna be whipped? You want to be whipped. Well, like, relax. Like, what do you mean? Like, like whipped No, no, no, not like whips and chains and like BDSM. No, like want to like cater to your man's needs. Like, you're like, you know how like men are like, oh, you're so whipped by your girl.

SPEAKER_03 36:59

And it's like, no, like I want to be no, and I'm like, I want to be whipped by my man. Like, I want like when he tells me something, like, I want to be like, okay, yes, I'll do that. Or like, yes, I'll do it for you. Like, you have to make me feel feminine for for me to like want to submit to you.

SPEAKER_02 37:15

We do have to wrap it up. Yeah, it was fun. Thanks, Hefre. This was like so much fun. I'm so glad that the one time you came and found you and decided to be on the pod.

SPEAKER_03 37:26

Yeah, and I think that like you are so special and so great. And I think that like this whole world would have been blessed to like have your voice and opinion on this pod.

SPEAKER_02 37:39

But new Sunday initiative. Honestly, you might have to do this more. The late night's like a good let us know like if you like the late night vibe better. I think the late night vibe and late do top like a little slap happy, a little drinky, like just like good vibes. Like, I think this is like one of our bad. It's like unlocked a new level. No, we do have to go. We're about to have a slumber party. I might need to go get like a sweet treat and a snack. Yeah. I'm gonna get some leftover pizza. Oh love y'all. Late night. Cheers. It was fun. And we'll catch you next time. Peace out, Girl Scout.