Me and We
In the “Me & We” podcast, we learn to develop our “me” as we influence our “we”. How do we have less suffering and more fun in whatever situation we find ourselves in? How do we take action based on our values? Can we be who we are with more ease? Hosts Bonnie Macbride and Mallika Bush share frames and tools with real-life examples, offering this podcast to help you access your life energy, make use of your emotions, and find more satisfaction in your life and relationships.
In season one, you will learn the 9 building blocks that Bonnie Macbride has developed. These frames and tools can be applied to every context through relationships, with a particular focus on primary, intimate partnerships.
Me and We
#19 - Build Block 6: Navigating the Terrain of Shame (Part 1)
We all experience shame and it feels BAD! We don't even want to be seen. And we hide parts of ourselves that we associate with experiencing shame; we put them behind "the shame wall." Even good parts of ourselves can be disowned.
How do we navigate the places around where we feel shame?
What are our defenses against the shame place?
Can we let go of shaming ourselves and trust that we will still change or grow?
What ways can we reduce our feelings of shame and our defenses against shame?
Differentiate between impure and action! Yes, some of our disowned parts are "bad" to act out, but not bad to feel!
Mallika shares about how her shame gets activated in her role of "mother" and the sinking place of shame that she experiences. Bonnie's shame sounds like "You can't even show up. You're so bad! And you just look stupid!"
(We had some Internet issues, as this episode was recorded after Hurricane Helene hit Mallika's area in western North Carolina.)
Bonnie's book is available in paperback!
"Me And We: Finding Your Voice and Influencing Relational Interactions"
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Bonnie's Website: bonniemacbride.com
Mallika's Website: rootedrelationships.com
Thank you to Jessica Carson Chen for the music for the show.
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