Me and We
In "Me & We," we learn to develop our “me” as we influence our “we”.
How do we have less suffering and more fun in whatever situation we find ourselves in? How do we take action based on our values? Can we be who we are with more ease? Hosts Bonnie Macbride and Mallika Bush share frames and tools with real-life examples, offering this podcast to help you access your life energy, make use of your emotions, and find more satisfaction in your life and relationships.
Inside the full Me & We audio course you will learn the 9 building blocks that Bonnie Macbride has created. These frames and tools can be applied to every context through relationships, with a particular focus on primary, intimate partnerships.
Bonnie and Mallika bring real-life examples and explore applying these tools and fames along side you as you learn. Check out the full course at the link in the show notes!
Me and We
#30 - Building Block 8: Organizing Self
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This episode, Bonnie and Mallika begin to look at the skills needed for building an Independent Self:
We can use the 3 Cs: Compassion (Empathy), Claiming, Curiosity
Putting on our warrior suit: Relentlessly coming back to things, Righteously fighting for integrity and our values, Ruthlessness as in not shying away because it's not ok for anyone to get hurt.
Mallika brings up the prompt to explore the difference between a pseudo independency (that's more of a guard or defense) and the choice place that is independent, holding onto ourselves.
Giving = Receiving: When we have access to our dependent self, and image the dependent self of the other person, we can listen and receive more effectively.
Holding on to self: A Self that is able to hold our dependent self. Sometimes, to stay self-organizing, we drop the we, we get just in our me and be self-absorbed, self-focused, selfish, etc. Sometimes we drop the me, and then have to find our way back.
Protests really give us an opportunity to develop our independent self.
To come in BB 9 - Trust in self leads to self-authority and claiming truth!
React, Remove, Regroup, Rehearse, Redo = Repair or Redirect
Wake up! to receive and OPEN the gift that is coming our way.
Bonnie's book is available in paperback!
"Me And We: Finding Your Voice and Influencing Relational Interactions"
Find out more about our work:
Bonnie's Website: bonniemacbride.com
Mallika's Website: rootedrelationships.com
Thank you to Jessica Carson Chen for the use of her music.
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Thank you to Positron Productions for producing and editing the content.