Me and We
In the “Me & We” podcast, we learn to develop our “me” as we influence our “we”. How do we have less suffering and more fun in whatever situation we find ourselves in? How do we take action based on our values? Can we be who we are with more ease? Hosts Bonnie Macbride and Mallika Bush share frames and tools with real-life examples, offering this podcast to help you access your life energy, make use of your emotions, and find more satisfaction in your life and relationships.
In season one, you will learn the 9 building blocks that Bonnie Macbride has developed. These frames and tools can be applied to every context through relationships, with a particular focus on primary, intimate partnerships.
Me and We
#31 - Skill: Repair, Opening the Gift, Giving to Self
We ARE going to get disorganized, we are going to get activated and "off the horse."
The single most important place to reach for in our important relationships, and especially with intimate partnerships, is REPAIR.
On the podcast today, Bonnie and Mallika talk about a skill that's doable for everybody, no matter how interested you are in relational growth or healing. It's a skill that's all about action, and how to manage our reaction.
The steps are: React, Remove, Regroup, Rehearse, Redo = Repair
And we explore the skill of "Redirect." Bonnie and Mallika talk about the ways that they didn't use to know how to use redirect full until they were only and had a more organized self that could wait/pause for the right time to repair.
Opening The Gift
Are you able to see, receive and OPEN the gifts that are coming your way?
Mallika shares about her process of recognizing the gifts coming from her husband and from her mom. And then realizing that she wasn't really at choice to open the gifts, but does feel herself able to open them more often now.
Bonnie actually receives a gift from Mallika live on the show.
And sometimes we need to step through the shame wall to be able to receive those gifts.
Bonnie shares about learning from her mom, who was Chinese, about pushing away complements and gifts, showing that we are socialized in some ways that don't serve us.
Giving To Self
Learning to give to ourselves and receive from ourselves comes when we have, or are committed to developing, an independent self.
At times, we wont be able to receive in a dependent way, from or with another. We really have to learn to do with for ourselves.
We are far more powerful if we are in touch with our dependent selves. When we lead with tapping into our dependent selves, and the dependent self of the other, we can have a greater influence.
Bonnie shares an example of her dependent self in relationship with her husband.
Bonnie's book is available in paperback!
"Me And We: Finding Your Voice and Influencing Relational Interactions"
Send us your questions! Email them to meandwepodcast@gmail.com
Find out more about our work:
Bonnie's Website: bonniemacbride.com
Mallika's Website: rootedrelationships.com
Thank you to Jessica Carson Chen for the music for the show.
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Thank you to Positron Productions for producing and editing the show.