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The Desire Gap: Real Solutions for Couples with Mismatched Sex Drives
Mismatched libidos destroying your relationship? Dr. Laura Jurgens helps couples solve desire differences with proven methods—even when therapy fails. This intimacy coach and former professor helps couples navigate different sexual needs with research-based solutions that actually work.
This isn't about forcing different sex drives to align. It's about understanding why you want different amounts of sex, learning to talk about it without fighting, and creating intimacy that works for both partners. Even if you're feeling rejected, lonely, guilty, broken, or ashamed for having needs—you're not. You're just missing the tools to bridge your desire discrepancy.
Every episode delivers practical strategies you can use immediately: how to boost desire, communicate without defensiveness, understand different arousal types, and reconnect with your body so intimacy feels natural again. Whether traditional relationship counseling hasn't helped or you're avoiding couples therapy altogether, these approaches work for the intimacy issues that most therapists aren't trained to handle.
Ready to stop the pursue-withdraw pattern that's creating distance and resentment? Get the science-backed roadmap to authentic connection that honors both partners' needs.
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Disclosure: expect explicit content and swearing!
Episodes
What is Embodiment? Why Somatics Are Key to Better Sex and Relationships
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Is It Okay to Fantasize During Sex? A Guide to Helpful vs. Unhelpful Mental Erotica
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Situationships and Friends with Benefits - What Works and What Doesn't
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Should I Tell My Partner What Turns Me OFF?
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Can You Really Learn Relationship Skills Through Pleasure? The Science Says Yes
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How & Why Your Non-verbal Communication Matters
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Why Do I Have Low Desire? 10 Questions to Figure It Out
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How To Stop Avoiding Your Own Desires & Figure Out What You Really Want
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When Touch Feels Off: Why It Happens & How to Fix It
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Spontaneous vs. Scheduled Sex: How Do We Find The (Right) Time?
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Are We Just Too Sexually Incompatible? How to Know.
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What Really Turns Me On? With Danielle Harel, PhD
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How Do I Stop Faking Orgasms?
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Helping Men Last Longer with Caitlin V
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The Connection Between Self-Compassion & Great Intimacy (Plus How To Boost Yours)
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Pitfalls of "Polarity:" 5 Rules to Avoid Harming Your Sex Life
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Kind Boundaries & Building Secure Attachment: A Guide
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Giving and Receiving Oral & Troubleshooting (Plus: Why People Often Dislike 69)
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Claim Your Agency or Create Helplessness: You Choose
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Is It So Bad To Be A Tease? Redefining & Reclaiming Play
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Monogamy, Non-Monogamy & Choosing Your Relationship Structure on Purpose
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Big Picture Know-How For Great Sex & Relationships
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Hidden Intimacy Challenges for Over-Achievers & What to Do About Them
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Want Better Sex & Relationships? Practice This.
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Which Comes First for You: Physical or Emotional Connection?
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