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hey, I’ve been following your podcast for a while. I appreciate your perspective. My sister estranged herself from our entire family over two years ago now. She did it in the form of an email in which she asked us not to contact her and that she needed space from our parents and didn’t want us to be the go-between. She stated that any contact or efforts to contact word. “only set our relationship back when we reconnect“, but she said she looked forward to reconnecting when the time is right, and when she was ready. This feels so one-sided and unfair. I’m left, hoping for something in the future and with time diminishing hope that that will ever be a meaningful relationship to me, but who is willing to drop me like this at any time based on their whims. Left in front of this has been heartbreaking for my parents, despite their faults, are very loving and kind. My sister only sided the “toxic nature of their communication quote, but did not elaborate further or give us siblings. Any other explanation for her doing this, other than saying, it was what she needed for her mental health. I’m finding it hard to move on. I wish I could just send her a Christmas card or something to say I love her. It feels deeply unfair that she has made it so I can’t communicate in any way to let her know that I would welcome her back if she wants to have any sort of contact. I don’t know when or how to ever do that and I’m worried that overtime. The distance will galvanize and we will never have a relationship again. If I needed to, I could work on that and move on, but s