Guys Dealings with Feelings
For men who say "I'm fine" when they're not.
Guys Dealings With Feelings is a podcast about what men actually carry — anger, grief, shutdown, the things they don't say out loud. Aaron Gray, who lost his infant son Joel in 2012, hosts with his childhood friend Jason, a therapist with 18 years of clinical experience. One of them has lived it. The other knows the language.
Together they talk about identity, trauma, presence, being a man, and what it takes to feel anything again — without judgment or performative toughness.
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Guys Dealings with Feelings
Shame vs Guilt: Why You Feel Like You're Not Enough
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Shame is the quiet belief that something is fundamentally wrong with *you*—not just what you did. In this episode, Aaron and Jason break down how shame differs from guilt, why it drives overwork, anger, and shutdown, and how it becomes woven into your identity without you even realizing it.
They explore where shame originates: childhood conditioning, conditional love, trauma, and repeated failure without support. You'll hear real examples of how shame hides in perfectionism, defensiveness, and the relentless pursuit of external validation (money, status, comparisons). Jason explains the role of the nervous system and why presence—not another achievement—is the antidote.
If you've ever felt "not enough," this conversation will help you separate who you actually are from the stories you've been carrying.