Guys Dealings with Feelings
Guys Dealings With Feelings is a men’s mental health podcast centered on honest, grounded conversations about identity, trauma, presence, responsibility, and what it actually takes to live well in the modern world. Hosts Aaron and Jason explore how emotional awareness, the nervous system, and lived experience shape who we become, offering practical insights and real dialogue to help men reconnect with themselves, build resilience, and find clarity without judgment or performative toughness.
Guys Dealings with Feelings
Shame vs Guilt: Why You Feel Like You're Not Enough
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Shame is the quiet belief that something is fundamentally wrong with *you*—not just what you did. In this episode, Aaron and Jason break down how shame differs from guilt, why it drives overwork, anger, and shutdown, and how it becomes woven into your identity without you even realizing it.
They explore where shame originates: childhood conditioning, conditional love, trauma, and repeated failure without support. You'll hear real examples of how shame hides in perfectionism, defensiveness, and the relentless pursuit of external validation (money, status, comparisons). Jason explains the role of the nervous system and why presence—not another achievement—is the antidote.
If you've ever felt "not enough," this conversation will help you separate who you actually are from the stories you've been carrying.