Guys Dealings with Feelings
For men who say "I'm fine" when they're not.
Guys Dealings With Feelings is a podcast about what men actually carry — anger, grief, shutdown, the things they don't say out loud. Aaron Gray, who lost his infant son Joel in 2012, hosts with his childhood friend Jason, a therapist with 18 years of clinical experience. One of them has lived it. The other knows the language.
Together they talk about identity, trauma, presence, being a man, and what it takes to feel anything again — without judgment or performative toughness.
Also searchable as Guys Dealing With Feelings.
Episodes
58 episodes
Control: Why You Try to Control Everything (And Why It Backfires)
Most people think control is a strength. But for a lot of men, the need for control is actually rooted in fear, anxiety, and emotional discomfort.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, we break down why so many people try to con...
Resentment Is Quietly Destroying Your Relationships (Here’s Why)
Resentment doesn’t show up all at once—it builds over time.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, we break down why resentment forms, why so many men carry it without realizing it, and how it slowly damages relationships, commun...
You’re Not Burned Out — You’re Misaligned
Most people think they’re burned out. But what if that’s not actually the problem?In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, we break down the difference between burnout and misalignment—two things that feel very similar but require...
Worthiness: Why You Don’t Feel Like You Deserve More (And How to Fix It)
Feeling like you’re not enough doesn’t come from nowhere.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, we break down worthiness—why so many men struggle with feeling like they don’t deserve more, even when they’re doing everything righ...
Inner Strength: Why You Feel Weak (And How to Build Real Mental Strength)
Inner strength isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you build.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, we break down what inner strength actually is, why so many men feel weak or overwhelmed, and how to develop real men...
Why So Many Men Feel Lost Right Now (And How to Find Your Direction Again)
Feeling lost isn’t weakness—it’s a signal.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, we break down why so many men feel stuck, directionless, or disconnected—even when everything on the outside looks fine. This isn’t just about not ...
Why Anger Isn’t the Problem — What It’s Really Trying to Tell You
Anger gets a bad reputation—but what if it’s not the problem?In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, we break down what anger actually is, where it comes from, and why so many men either suppress it or let it control the...
Shame vs Guilt: Why You Feel Like You're Not Enough
Shame is the quiet belief that something is fundamentally wrong with *you*—not just what you did. In this episode, Aaron and Jason break down how shame differs from guilt, why it drives overwork, anger, and shutdown, and how it becomes woven in...
Why Most Men Struggle With Communication (And How to Fix It)
Communication isn’t just about talking—it’s about being understood.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason break down why so many men struggle with communication and how it impacts relationships, work, an...
Why Motivation Fails You (And What Actually Works Instead) | Discipline & Habits
Most men are "using" or trying to use motivation… and that’s exactly why they stay stuck. In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason break down the truth about motivation, discipline, and habits—and why relying on motivatio...
The Power of Gratitude: Why It Changes Everything
Gratitude is often talked about as a simple mindset shift, but in reality it can be one of the most powerful tools for changing how we experience life.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, We explore the deeper meaning...
Self-Trust & Intuition: Learning to Trust Yourself Again
Many men struggle to trust their instincts — not because they don’t have intuition, but because years of conditioning, trauma, expectations, and external pressure have taught them to ignore it.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Fe...
The Beliefs Running Your Life (And How to Change Them)
What if the biggest thing holding you back isn’t your circumstances… but your beliefs?In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason break down how deeply held beliefs—many formed in childhood or through trauma—...
The Magic of Boundaries: Why They Change Everything
Boundaries aren’t walls — they’re clarity. And without clear boundaries, relationships, mental health, and personal growth all begin to suffer.In this full episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason dive deep into w...
Emotional Awareness: The Skill That Changes Everything
Emotional awareness is one of the most important skills a person can develop — yet most men were never taught how to understand what they feel or why they feel it.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason e...
Happiness and Personal Responsibility | The Work No One Can Do for You
In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason explore the relationship between happiness and personal responsibility — and why lasting fulfillment can’t be outsourced, chased, or handed to us by circumstances.<...
The Invisible Weight of Trauma | What We Carry Without Knowing
In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason explore the invisible weight of trauma — the unseen burden many men carry without realizing how deeply it affects their thoughts, bodies, relationships, and sense o...
Why Presence Is So Hard — and So Important
In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason explore the concept of presence — what it really means, why it’s so difficult in the modern world, and how a lack of presence quietly impacts mental health, relatio...
Identity: Who You Think You Are vs. Who You Actually Are
In this episode, Aaron and Jason explore identity — how it’s formed, how it gets distorted through experience and conditioning, and why so many people feel lost when the version of themselves they’ve been operating from no longer works. T...
Grounding: The Key to Emotional Stability
In this episode, Aaron and Jason discuss the importance of grounding in mental health, particularly for men. They explore how external chaos can affect emotional stability and the significance of being present and aware of one's feelings. The c...
A Short Reflection to Wrap Up Season 2
In this episode of Guys Dealing with Feelings, Aaron Gray reflects on the journey of the podcast, expressing gratitude for listeners and discussing the importance of self-reflection and personal growth. He previews the upcoming season, emphasiz...
The Modern Man Under Pressure
Modern men are under pressure like never before—dating expectations, changing roles at home, economic strain, and a cultural message that tells us to “be strong” while giving us zero tools to actually handle what we feel.In today’s episo...
How Your Experiences Shape Your Beliefs
In this episode, Jason and I break down how our beliefs are shaped by the experiences we’ve lived through—especially the ones we never fully processed. We talk about why old emotions resurface, how unresolved moments keep showing back up,...
The Boxed-In Man: Why We Feel Trapped and How to Get Out
Most men don’t even realize they’re living inside a box they built themselves.Not a physical box — an emotional one.When we avoid emotions, ignore reflection, and push down anything that feels uncomfortable, those same unprocessed em...
Cultural influences can significantly impact communication styles
In this episode, Aaron Gray and Jason Adams delve into the complexities of men's mental health, focusing on the importance of understanding values, feelings, and communication. They explore how cultural influences and conditioning shape our sel...