Guys Dealings with Feelings
For men who say "I'm fine" when they're not.
Guys Dealings With Feelings is a podcast about what men actually carry — anger, grief, shutdown, the things they don't say out loud. Aaron Gray, who lost his infant son Joel in 2012, hosts with his childhood friend Jason, a therapist with 18 years of clinical experience. One of them has lived it. The other knows the language.
Together they talk about identity, trauma, presence, being a man, and what it takes to feel anything again — without judgment or performative toughness.
Also searchable as Guys Dealing With Feelings.
Episodes
67 episodes
If You're Always Waiting for "One Day"... This Episode Is for You
Most people spend their lives waiting. Waiting for Friday. Waiting for vacation. Waiting until they have more money. Waiting until the next relationship, the next promotion, or the next move to finally feel at peace.But what if the probl...
You're Trying to Control the Wrong Things (And It's Costing You Everything)
Most of us spend our lives trying to control people, relationships, outcomes, finances, careers, and even our emotions. The harder we try, the more exhausted we become.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jaso...
You Can't Change What Happened—But You Can Change What Happens Next
Life can change in an instant. One phone call. A divorce. A diagnosis. Losing someone you love. Losing the future you thought you were going to have. None of us chooses these moments.The real question is:What do we do after the...
Why You Can't Let Go (And the Mindset That Finally Sets You Free)
What if forgiveness has nothing to do with the person who hurt you?Most of us think forgiveness means excusing someone's behavior, pretending it didn't hurt, or allowing them back into our lives. It doesn't.In this episode, we cha...
Self-Sabotage Isn't Real: Why You Keep Getting in Your Own Way
You keep getting in your own way. You know what you should do. You can even picture yourself doing it. But when the moment comes — the cold call, the hard conversation, the next step on the thing you actually want — something stops you. And the...
You're Not Emotionless — You're Emotionally Disconnected
Have you ever looked at your life and wondered why you don't feel excited anymore? Why relationships seem distant, motivation is fading, or every day feels like you're just going through the motions?In this episode of Guys Dealings W...
How to Let Go of the Past Without Reliving It
You've tried to "just let go" of the past. You've thought about it, journaled it, talked it out. And it's still there — still running you.In this episode, Jason and Aaron break down why the past doesn't live in your mind. It lives in you...
Loneliness: Why We Feel So Alone (Even Around Other People)
Loneliness isn't simply being by yourself. Some of the loneliest moments in life happen when we're surrounded by people, yet still feel unseen, disconnected, or misunderstood.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron...
Fear Is Running More of Your Life Than You Think
Fear doesn’t always show up as panic or anxiety. Sometimes it shows up as procrastination, control, anger, perfectionism, isolation, or staying stuck in a life we’ve outgrown.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings
Control: Why You Try to Control Everything (And Why It Backfires)
Most people think control is a strength. But for a lot of men, the need for control is actually rooted in fear, anxiety, and emotional discomfort.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, we break down why so many people try to con...
Resentment Is Quietly Destroying Your Relationships (Here’s Why)
Resentment doesn’t show up all at once—it builds over time.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, we break down why resentment forms, why so many men carry it without realizing it, and how it slowly damages relationships, commun...
You’re Not Burned Out — You’re Misaligned
Most people think they’re burned out. But what if that’s not actually the problem?In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, we break down the difference between burnout and misalignment—two things that feel very similar but require...
Worthiness: Why You Don’t Feel Like You Deserve More (And How to Fix It)
Feeling like you’re not enough doesn’t come from nowhere.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, we break down worthiness—why so many men struggle with feeling like they don’t deserve more, even when they’re doing everything righ...
Inner Strength: Why You Feel Weak (And How to Build Real Mental Strength)
Inner strength isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you build.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, we break down what inner strength actually is, why so many men feel weak or overwhelmed, and how to develop real men...
Why So Many Men Feel Lost Right Now (And How to Find Your Direction Again)
Feeling lost isn’t weakness—it’s a signal.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, we break down why so many men feel stuck, directionless, or disconnected—even when everything on the outside looks fine. This isn’t just about not ...
Why Anger Isn’t the Problem — What It’s Really Trying to Tell You
Anger gets a bad reputation—but what if it’s not the problem?In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, we break down what anger actually is, where it comes from, and why so many men either suppress it or let it control the...
Shame vs Guilt: Why You Feel Like You're Not Enough
Shame is the quiet belief that something is fundamentally wrong with *you*—not just what you did. In this episode, Aaron and Jason break down how shame differs from guilt, why it drives overwork, anger, and shutdown, and how it becomes woven in...
Why Most Men Struggle With Communication (And How to Fix It)
Communication isn’t just about talking—it’s about being understood.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason break down why so many men struggle with communication and how it impacts relationships, work, an...
Why Motivation Fails You (And What Actually Works Instead) | Discipline & Habits
Most men are "using" or trying to use motivation… and that’s exactly why they stay stuck. In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason break down the truth about motivation, discipline, and habits—and why relying on motivatio...
The Power of Gratitude: Why It Changes Everything
Gratitude is often talked about as a simple mindset shift, but in reality it can be one of the most powerful tools for changing how we experience life.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, We explore the deeper meaning...
Self-Trust & Intuition: Learning to Trust Yourself Again
Many men struggle to trust their instincts — not because they don’t have intuition, but because years of conditioning, trauma, expectations, and external pressure have taught them to ignore it.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Fe...
The Beliefs Running Your Life (And How to Change Them)
What if the biggest thing holding you back isn’t your circumstances… but your beliefs?In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason break down how deeply held beliefs—many formed in childhood or through trauma—...
The Magic of Boundaries: Why They Change Everything
Boundaries aren’t walls — they’re clarity. And without clear boundaries, relationships, mental health, and personal growth all begin to suffer.In this full episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason dive deep into w...
Emotional Awareness: The Skill That Changes Everything
Emotional awareness is one of the most important skills a person can develop — yet most men were never taught how to understand what they feel or why they feel it.In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason e...
Happiness and Personal Responsibility | The Work No One Can Do for You
In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason explore the relationship between happiness and personal responsibility — and why lasting fulfillment can’t be outsourced, chased, or handed to us by circumstances.<...
