Guys Dealings with Feelings
For men who say "I'm fine" when they're not.
Guys Dealings With Feelings is a podcast about what men actually carry — anger, grief, shutdown, the things they don't say out loud. Aaron Gray, who lost his infant son Joel in 2012, hosts with his childhood friend Jason, a therapist with 18 years of clinical experience. One of them has lived it. The other knows the language.
Together they talk about identity, trauma, presence, being a man, and what it takes to feel anything again — without judgment or performative toughness.
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Guys Dealings with Feelings
Control: Why You Try to Control Everything (And Why It Backfires)
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Most people think control is a strength. But for a lot of men, the need for control is actually rooted in fear, anxiety, and emotional discomfort.
In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, we break down why so many people try to control everything around them—outcomes, relationships, conversations, timing—and why it slowly creates more stress, frustration, and disconnection instead of peace. Control can feel safe in the moment, but over time, it becomes exhausting.
In this conversation, we cover:
- What the need for control really comes from
- Why uncertainty creates so much anxiety
- The connection between control and fear
- How control damages relationships and increases stress
- The difference between control and responsibility
- Practical ways to let go without losing direction
If you constantly feel tense, frustrated, overwhelmed, or like things have to go your way for you to feel okay—this episode will help you understand what’s really driving that mindset and how to break out of it. Real strength isn’t controlling everything around you. It’s learning how to handle what you can’t control.
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