The Shadow of Incompetence | Sexual Shadow Work & Active Imagination Exercise

Ever feel terrified of being wrong, looking stupid, or not knowing enough? You’re not alone. This shadow is sneaky AF and can show up as perfectionism, overachievement, avoidance, shutdown, or even aggression—especially in sex, relationships, and creative expression. 

In this episode, I unpack:

What the incompetence shadow really is and where it comes from (especially if you were a gifted kid, overparented, or had trauma)
How this fear secretly runs the show in your adult life, career, and bedroom
How this shadow shows up in kink, shutdowns during intimacy, fawning, and know-it-all energy
The impact of trauma and loss of autonomy on self-trust and shame
Why vulnerability is the key to integration
⚡ Stay till the end for a guided active imagination visualization to help you integrate this shadow and reclaim your creativity, curiosity, and power.

Let’s make peace with the parts of ourselves we were taught to exile. Because when you reclaim the shadow of incompetence, you reclaim your ability to be seen, loved, and fully alive.

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About Jaclyn Proper:

Jaclyn is a Jungian Depth Coach dedicated to helping you explore the depths of your psyche, embrace your true desires, and transform your life through conscious exploration and self-awareness. Join her as she breaks down barriers and opens up conversations about sexuality, creativity, and the journey towards wholeness.

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