Shadow Work After Dark
Welcome! I’m Jaclyn Proper, a Jungian Depth Coach, Educator, Explorer, Underworld Doula, Artist & human doing my best on Earth. This channel is about what it means to be an explorer of shadow and self. We dive into shadow work, eroticism, spiritual psychology, kink, neurodivergence, sexuality, travel, and authentic living through the lens of my personal journey and Jungian psychology. If you’re an unconventional soul, queer, kinky, neurospicy, or simply shadow-curious, you’ll find lighthearted yet no-nonsense conversations here to help you embrace your edges, and uncover the truth of who you are.
Episodes
51 episodes
Sexual Shadow Work: Why It Changes Everything
What happens when we stop avoiding the most socially conditioned part of ourselves?In this episode, we go deep into sexual shadow work through the lens of Jungian depth psychology - what it is, why it matters, and how to actually start doin...
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Why You Keep Getting Ghosted (It's Not What You Think)
If you keep getting ghosted, this video is for you — and it's probably not the answer you're expecting.In this episode, I'm breaking down the pattern of being pursued, falling for someone, and then watching them disappear — from a depth ...
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What Your Sexual Fantasies Are Actually Trying to Tell You (Jungian Psychology)
Your sexual fantasies are not a problem to fix. They're psychic material — dream language with libido attached.In this episode, we're going deep into the symbolic erotic: what your fantasies, kinks, and desires actually reveal about your un...
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How to (Safely) Work With Deities: Archetypal Mediumship, Goddess Work + Guided Visualization
Are you being called to deity work but don't know where to start — or want to make sure you're doing it safely?In this episode, I break down deity work from a depth psychology perspective — what deities actually are, how archetypes li...
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Ego Death & Grief in Shadow Work: How to Let Your Old Identity Die
In this episode, we’re talking about death and grief in shadow work—the ego death / ego grief phase that happens when your old identity starts dissolving and your nervous system is like… “wait, who am I now?”I’m sharing thi...
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Trauma, the Golden Shadow, & “Dark" Parts (a Jungian & IFS POV)
If you’re afraid there’s something “dark,” “evil,” or fundamentally wrong inside you… this episode will change everything.In this deep dive on childhood trauma, the Golden Shadow, and IFS protectors, I’ll show you why those scary inner voic...
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Collective Sexual Shadow and the Roots of the Madonna-Whore Complex
This episode we are diving into the Collective Sexual Shadow — the unconscious web of repression, guilt, and control that shapes how we experience sexuality on a cultural level. We’re exploring how patriarchy, colonialism, and religious conditi...
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FEAR OF BEING SEEN: Shadow Work for Intimacy, Visibility & Success
Do you ever sabotage what you actually want — love, success, attention, pleasure — because being seen feels terrifying?This episode dives into the fear of being seen, the shadow behind self-sabotage, and how it’s wired into your nervous sys...
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Why You Feel Stuck: Understanding The Void in Shadow Work
Are you in the void — that confusing, restless space where the old you has dissolved but the new version hasn’t fully formed yet? 🌑✨In this video, I share my personal experience with the liminal space of shadow work, also known in Jungian p...
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What 5 Years of Shadow Work *ACTUALLY* Looks Like 🫣
So… what actually happens when you commit to shadow work for real?In this episode, I reflect on the last 5 years of doing deep unconscious work — the kind that changes your entire life, nervous system, sexuality, body, intuition, relati...
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How Your Father Shapes Your Identity, Success Patterns & Confidence
In this episode, we explore the father archetype and father complex—and how your relationship to this energy impacts your confidence, ambition, leadership, and sense of inner authority.Whether you had an absent father, a tyrannical fath...
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When Adulting Feels Hard: Dreams vs. Discipline + The Hidden Cost of Freedom
Why does growing up feel like punishment? Why do creatives, rebels, and free spirits often sabotage stability or crave constant freedom? In this episode, we explore the eternal child archetype (also known as the puer/puella complex in ...
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The Shadow of Incompetence | Sexual Shadow Work & Active Imagination Exercise
Ever feel terrified of being wrong, looking stupid, or not knowing enough? You’re not alone. This shadow is sneaky AF and can show up as perfectionism, overachievement, avoidance, shutdown, or even aggression—especially in sex, relationships, a...
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How Your Mother Shapes Your Intimacy Patterns (& How to Rewire Them)
Unlock the truth about your relationship with your mother—and how it’s still shaping your nervous system, attachment style, and romantic life. In this episode, we explore the Mother Archetype through a Jungian lens, including the wounded forms ...
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Neurodivergent, Kinky & Divine: Bella Kitsune on Conscious Domination
In this raw and revealing episode, I sit down with Bella Kitsune — a professional dominatrix, somatic therapist, conscious kink practitioner, and neurodivergent healer — to unpack the deep intersections of sex work, trauma healing, archetypes, ...
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Episode 38
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Ego Resistance in Sexual Shadow Work (Why It Can Be Hard to Start)
Let’s talk about the part of your psyche that freaks out right before everything changes. In this episode, I’m breaking down ego resistance—what it is, why it shows up during shadow work (especially sexual shadow work), and how to tell the diff...
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Episode 37
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8 Layers of Sexual Shadow Workshop
If you want to see the accompanying slides (not necessary but may be helpful) [you can watch the Youtube version here]Welcome to this free shadow work workshop on sexuality, embodime...
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Episode 36
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Dark Sexual Fantasies Explained | Trauma, Shadow Work, and Kink
Dark, taboo, and even violent sexual fantasies are way more common than people admit—and no, they don’t make you a monster. In this episode, I dive into the psychological, symbolic, and energetic reasons behind these fantasies and how they rela...
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Episode 35
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How to Fulfill Your Potential Via Sexual Shadow Work
Today we’re diving deep into how exploring your sexuality can unlock your full potential — especially if you’re kinky, queer, neurodivergent, or just done pretending to be someone you're not.So, what is the shadow? In J...
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Episode 34
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Consequences of NOT doing Sexual Shadow Work: My Manipulation Shadow STORYTIME!
In this candid and unfiltered episode, we’re diving into the consequences of avoiding sexual shadow work—what happens when we bury our shame, desires, and trauma instead of facing them head-on.I use the example of my own manipulation sh...
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Episode 33
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Is Your Kink Healthy or Unhealthy?
Many people wonder whether their kinks or sexual desires are problematic or rooted in trauma. In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the difference between healthy kink expression and compulsive or shame-driven desires. As a Jungian depth coac...
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Episode 32
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How Childhood Trauma Affects Sexual Shadow
Is your childhood trauma secretly shaping your sex life and attraction patterns? Today, we’re diving into sexual shadow work—a powerful Jungian psychology tool to uncover how early life experiences impact intimacy, pleasure, and relationships.<...
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Episode 31
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Inside a Legal Brothel: Truths & Misconceptions w/Electra Rayne
In this episode, I sit down with Electra Rayne, a seasoned sex worker, adult content creator, and founder of QueerCrush.com, a site dedicated to authentic queer representation. Electra shares her journey into the industry, from her early experi...
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Episode 30
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Political Anxiety, Tribalism & Your Unconscious Mind | A Jungian Perspective w/ Chuck Gafvert
How is political stress affecting your relationships, mental health, and overall well-being? In this episode, Jungian coach Chuck Gafvert joins me to dive deep into political polarization, projection, tribalism, and the hidden psychological tri...
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Episode 29
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WHY YOU WANT TO F*CK THAT PERSON! (How sexual shadow influences desire)
Have you ever felt an intense attraction to someone who isn’t your type—or even been repulsed by someone, only to have them show up in your sex dreams? These experiences are often messages from the unconscious mind. In this video, we explore se...
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Episode 28
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