Building HER with Katja Lillian

5 Ways To Make 2025 Your Best Year Yet!

• Katja Thacker

Share episode

In this episode, I discuss the following: 

  • Why you need to be well-versed with your money
  • How to set goals that are realistic & why they work
  • Taking initiative can change your life
  • The biggest issue I see with the personal development industry 
  • Why you need to grow comfortable with the concept "F*ck it up, figure it out"

Group Programs:


SUPPORT THE SHOW:

Please subscribe, rate and review over on Apple Podcasts & Spotify to help support the show! Share to your IG stories and follow along on instagram @katja.lillian for updates and inspiring content.

OTHER PLACES TO CONNECT WITH ME:

Sign up for my newsletter!
DM me on IG!
Customer Testimonials

Hello and welcome to this week's episode. Facade of the building, her podcast. I'm your host Katia, Lillian. And if you've been loving this podcast, go ahead and rate the podcast five. Five stars and DM me on Instagram when you do that, because I want to connect. Connect and personally, thank you. If you are new here, hit that subscribe. Button. It really helps the podcast grow and that way. You will never miss. Hey, my name is Katya Lillian, and I am obsessed with all things mindset, personal development, and helping you build the best version of yourself. I'm a women's life and mindset coach and an entrepreneur who started a fun hobby of posting hashtag sweaty selfies, grew a successful side hustle, and now I run a six figure coaching business. I teach you the secret of building a life that aligns with your deepest values and one that you wake up excited for. This podcast is designed to expand your mind and channel. Challenge the status quo. So get ready to uplevel your life and let's start building her. Hello, everyone. Welcome back. Back to the building, her podcast, 2025. Can you believe it? I always. Take a few days. To get settled in to. To the new year. This is why I hate new year resolutions because no one ever. Starts on January 1st. Like, let's be honest, half of us. Are hung over. So I digress. But if you're like me, It takes a minute to start the new year. It doesn't happen on the. First and maybe in the first week, but I feel like also. The first week, I'm just decompressing. From the holiday season. And yeah, I'm just kind of like resting. And then once I have the space more in like the second week of January, then I get to think about what are my goals for this. This year, what do I want from this year? What is my mission? Mission. What is like on my bucket list? Like that's kind of, when I go. Into planning mode. So I wanted to offer five. Five ways to make 2025 your best year yet. Yet. And this is coming from my experience with. With my life and how I've built and designed a life on my terms. But also the pace that I go out as well, I. Have definitely reduced the hustle nature and the go go. Go go. Energy and I have absolutely. slow down and trust. Trust. Trusted that. It will still benefit my. My work and my business, maybe even more so, so. I wanted to give you five ways. Do you have to do all five ways? Right at the same time. No. But if there's like one or two. Two that resonate with you because of the topic or because. As you struggle with it. Please, please, please take notes or pause. And. Play or come back to this and save it, whatever you got to do. So. So that you're not just listening to this on autopilot, but you also. So take notes or, or like a one takeaway that you can actually. Actually apply. An implement into your life. So. Let's get started. Number one. Everyone's favorite topic. Money. So I wanted to start with money. First of all. All the season that we're just coming out of. There's a lot of pressure and. And there's a lot of buying and spending and gifts and. All the things travel. And so I feel like at the beginning of the year, We are always like craving this reset financially. But. But I don't want you to just make a goal and then like, never look at it again. And then. And you never reached that goal or, you know, I really want you to be. Be aware of your finances and really feel like you are in control. Control. So I wanted to give you some pointers here on what I like to do. Which has all been learned again by building my own business. So the first thing that I start with. Is an annual. You will goal. So yes, it's arbitrary. I don't know if I will hit. Hit it, but it is a goal. And it is based off of last. Last year's income. So I will never be like, if I made. A. A hundred K last year, and now I'm like, I'm going to make a million this year. It can happen. Never say never, but also. What is the likelihood. So you want to be. B. Like you want to stretch yourself. And it wants to feel good, but also realistic because I think when. You just kind of shoot for the moon. You it's. Not realistic. And so you don't hit it and then when you don't hit it, you're like. Ah, see, I hate money and I never hit my goal. And why do I. I do this in the first place, we could build a lot of resentment going down that path. And so I like to be a bit more realistic while still stretching. My goal. So for example, If I made a hundred K last year, then maybe. I want to make 200 K this year. Right. That's much. More realistic because I know what I need to do to. To make a hundred K. So now it's just, okay. Do we need more people in group programs? Do I need to offer more incentives? Do I need another one-on-one client? Like there are ways then to hit that new goal. So annual. Annual goals, what I start with and then I reverse engineer from there. So. I reverse it first on a quarterly basis. So. So as an entrepreneur one quarters income. Some can look vastly different from another quarters income, simply because. Of what you're launching. So I have the big shift. I have Sheehy. Oh, Oh, I'm not launching that. All day, every day, I. I have two times in the year where I launched those two. Programs. So those quarters are going to look significantly. Huntley different and more than the other two quarters. Quarters. And so just counting on that and being okay that they look defer. Different. So what is the quarterly goal? Based off of. Of what I am selling and what I am launching. Okay. And then I break it down into monthly. So also. So monthly income looks different all the time. As expected. but just recognizing what. What is expected income. And. And then what would be like nice income. So, so giving you that freedom. Some of, Ooh, like what else could I create and sell? Or come up with kind of thing. And the way I do that is. In three ways. So my first one is my minimum standard. Which is my like, need money. Any meaning energetically speaking, like this is the standard I. I set for myself. I will accept nothing lower than this. So that's my minimum standard. And then. The second one is my stretch goal. So. You know, let's say your minimum standard is 10 K and then your stretch goal. Goal is 15 K so. 10 K is awesome. But. But 15 K would be more awesome. Right. And it's still. Still within reach. And then I have this dream. Team goal, the stream number where let's say it's 20 K. And so. So it's this idea of like, wouldn't it be amazing? To hit 20 K and that's where you really get to expand your mind. And. And go into that creative mode.'cause it's like, well, I don't know how. I could make 10 grand more, but let's be creative. let's figure it out. Let's raise the bar. Right. And. So that the point of that number is to really challenge. Myself in a very healthy way. So. I always set goals. For money. But. Then I also have to say on the flip side, I have to know what's going. With my current money. So this involves a bit more. More of like the deeper work, but, and if you haven't. Done this already. Well, what I'm talking about here is like knowing what's going on with your money. Money from a very like safe place, but, you know, well versed place in control place. So let's. Let's say you haven't really looked at your story. Around money or, you know, are you aware. Of limiting beliefs that you may have around money or. Are you aware of your relationship with money and how you treat. Treat money, right? That's some of the deeper work that needs. Needs to be done. If this is all brand new to you. Then. Then I would suggest. I'm looking at. At your. Looking at doing the deeper work we address. Dress this in my group, life transformation program, the big shift. Which actually kicks off later this month. So it's not a program completely designed for money. But we devote one entire week. To just money. And in that you're able to repair. Where your money story, you become aware. Of your. Your limiting beliefs and then the most important you start to shift. Those. Limiting beliefs into much more empowering beliefs that you actually. I actually start to believe. And when you start to believe. Leave different around money. And then your actions change. And therefore your results. So if you are brand new to that, I would. I'd highly, highly recommend. Getting. Into the group program. When we open the doors here later. This month. And what you could already do is hit the link in the show. Show notes below to get on the wait list. That way you'll be first to know. When doors are open before the rest of the public, but. But I really believe this is such an opportunity for you and. Especially if this is the year where you want to maximize your money and really. We look at the deeper work because. I'm just. Gonna be honest with you guys. Like you need to know what is going on with. At your money. You need to look at your debt. You need to know. I know what your debt is. You need to know what your student loans are. You need. I need to know what your mortgage is. If you own a house, you need to know what the interest. Trust is on all of these things. What are your monthly expenses? Do you even know how much you need every month to even survive? With your basic necessities. You have to know that. You have to become well-versed with your finances because. If you are not, you will never attract more money into your life because you can't handle it. Right. You're wasteful with it. But when you become well-versed with. Your finances, then you become an energetic match to receive. We've and hold and manage more money. So when you manage your money well, that's. It's assigned to the universe of like, she's got it. She can handle it. Let's give her some more. That's how it works. It's also with the relationship. With money. There's a great analogy and example that my mentor gave. Gave me once upon a time. But it's like, Are. You appreciative of your money. Right. The, the money that you do have maybe. It's not the amount that you want right now. But with the money that you do have coming in. What kind of energy are we putting towards it? So for example, Let's say you have a$5 bill and a one. Dollar bill. And there are two kids. One is a. A five-year-old or ten-year-old and one is a five-year-old. You give the$5 bill. Two. The ten-year-old let's say. And. The ten-year-old is like only$5. I can't buy shit with this. Hopefully he doesn't curse. But he's very ungrateful. Okay. How. How does that make you feel as the one who just gave that money to him? Meanwhile, you give the dollar bill to the younger kid. Who's only. Five. And the younger kid gets teary-eyed and he's like, Thank you so much. And I'm so grateful. And like really feels it and has this genuine energy. Towards receiving that$1. Which child are. Are you going to want to give more money to. Hopefully it's a, no-brainer the younger one. The one that was. So grateful because now it makes you feel good as the giver. So, yeah, you absolutely want to give him more money. You want to take that?$5 bill away from the older kid. Give it to the younger kid. That is how the universe works. Okay. So the more you can work on your money at your story. Corey, your limiting beliefs, your energy, your relationship with money. The more money you will be able to attract, but also. You need to know what's going on. With your money in. In order to attract that right. Two step process. So again, brand new to this and you don't know what it's going. Going on with your money and you do want to spend some time on it, highly, highly. We recommend joining us for this next round of the big shift. Doors open very, very soon. So get on the waitlist to be. The first to know. Okay. Number two. To take control. I'm going to be honest here. My biggest pet. Pet peeve in people. Is. Is when they are not proactive. And they just. Just kind of go with the flow of life and they're just kind of stuck. Stuck in this waiting game. I see it all the time. Time people consider joining my programs, whether it's the big. Shift, whether it's she E O whether it's one-on-one. And they always kind of just like, leave it up to the universe or. This imaginary other person. Like the answer or the response I get is like I'm just going to wait and see, or, you know, if. I have the money, then I might consider it. Or if. If I have the time, then, you know, maybe I'll join. Join. And I'm like, what is that type of energy? like, if you want something so bad. Bad. You're not like. Oh, well, if it works out, maybe. Maybe or, oh, I hope I could do this. No. No you're going out there and you're making it fucking happen. And the language changes. I will make time. Time, because this is priority for me. I see the opportunity here and what it could do for my life and how it. I could change my life. So I am in, I am. I booked, I am invested. I am paid. Let's fucking. Go. Another example, I will put. Put myself first. And I will make this a priority. I will show up. To live calls. Even if they're at 3:00 AM my time. True story. Side tangent here. Well, actually two stories. Stories. I last round in my SHEEO group there. There was one woman that joined us from London. Everyone else was here. In the United States, still all over time zones. But. Regardless. They're at least here in the United States, she was in London. My call. Calls we're at 5:30 PM Eastern. Do you know what time that. It is in the UK. 10 30, maybe even. 1130, but I'm pretty sure it was 10:30 PM. She's a mom. She has a job. She's a wife. Like her life is busy. Totally get it. But this. This matter to her. This was a priority for. For her, she did not have excuses. She was like 10. 30 I'm there. And she showed up. Every single. Single week for four months. She did not miss. A call. There were other girls in the group who did miss calls. She did not miss one call and it was the latest. Time for her. That is the shit I love because. Because I'm the same way. If I join a mastermind. If I join a group program and there's a call at midnight. Well, it looks like I'm showing up at midnight. Because it matters. There are all walks of life from the United. states. Or in the world on a global scale join. Joining these programs. There's no way, one. Time zone works for everyone else. Like that will never. Ever ever be the case. And so when you join. Program, you just make it fucking happen. You make it work. Two other stories, actually, I lied. So three total stories. He's another story. This last. Round of the big shift. Also just here in the states. It's no one was international. So time zones were better. But there. There were two girls that still had jobs when the calls. We're in the evening. It was also around 5:00 PM Eastern. And one was a group fitness instructor. And one was working at the Y M C a. And our calls were. We're on Wednesday nights at 5:00 PM and they had already pre. Preexisting jobs. So. They could have easily been like, oh, Katia. I can't join the. Calls. I can't even join the program because what's the point. If I. I missed the calls. And so I'm just, you know, may, maybe next round. Maybe if you know, my situation changes. Then I'll join. Join. Is that what they said? No, you know what they said instead, they're like, I'm going to talk to my boss and see if I can get those Wednesday evenings free. Cause they're also just. Every other Wednesday for a three-month program. That's six total calls. Calls, like, I'll figure it out. And that's what they did. They. I had conversations with their bosses. They're like, Hey, I've got a commitment on Wednesday evenings. Evening's is there any way I can work on Thursday nights now instead for S. For a 12 weeks. And they made it happen. Last example. When I was a coach for Rob dial. And I coached all his people that joined. And his program, they were from all over the world. I. Was a one-on-one coach for a woman specifically who joined from Australia. And our time was, I don't know. 9:10 AM Eastern. And so for her, it was something crazy. Like three, four in the morning. She showed. Showed up you guys on time with coffee. Dark kids sleeping also. She just had her second. Second child. So it's like, there are no excuses. Like, if you want something bad enough, you will make it happen. You will show up. You will put in the effort, you will do the worksheets. Sheets, you will. Do the journal prompts like you will get so much. Out of it. But the whole point of a program, like you'll. We'll only get so much out of it based off of what you put into. Do it. Right. There's so many books out there and YouTube videos. And podcast, episodes and programs out there. I mean, yeah, you could buy anything and everything and listen to it all. And. And read it all. But if you have facet that will. Absolutely impact your results. So. There's this like fire, there's this determination. Of taking initiative and taking control of your life. Like you would be so surprised. Of how much in your. Life would actually change if you just went through life with that type. Type of energy. That's it. And especially. For those that are listening that are business owners, you quite literally need. I need this type of energy, because it's just, you. You're the one who has to come up with the business plan. You're the one who has to come up with the. The finances. You have to be the one who hires. You have to be. The one that does everything, especially at the beginning. Getting you wear all the hats. And so if you're constantly in this waiting game, I don't know when. Maybe and. I hope and. Like, you're never going to get anywhere. You have to trust in your decision-making skills. And you have to trust that if it's not the best decision that you can make another. Another decision. And when you commit to something. You just show the fuck up. Like that's quite literally it. If it's a three-month program, you better believe I'm showing up for three months. If it's a four month program, you better believe I'm showing up for four months. I don't quit half way. I committed. I invested, I want. I want this change. I want the difference. I want the growth. Let's go. Go. So take. Control number three. Ask for help. So I felt like this was necessary right after that one, because. You don't have to do it all alone. Like I get. The grit and the resilience and the determination. Those are all qualities. These you need to have absolutely. But. There's that slippery slope of like putting way too much on your shoulders and way. Way too much on your plate or now you feel stressed and burnt out and. I have no time for fun. That's not what we're doing here. So maybe this is the year where you finally. Invest into a coach or you finally get a therapist. Or if you're a mom, you get a nanny or at least a babysit. Reset or once a week, twice, maybe. Hire a personal trainer. If you're working on your fitness. If you're a business owner, maybe you need a higher. A virtual assistant finally, to take some work off of your. Plater or maybe you need to start delegating work. To contractors. On Upwork or Fiverr. Asking for help is not. A weakness. It just gives you time back. And in some cases, it speeds up time. There's this. Great analogy. I always like to use, especially with coaching and my world. I for years, try to crawl. To my destination, to my goal. And I say. I say crawl because it took years of trial and error. I. I was like, Ooh, I want to do this. I'm going to try that. But no clue what I was doing. Doing no direction, no mentorship. And so I was like, Ooh. Oh, that didn't work. Okay. Let's try this one. So then that was set. Second attempt. And that was also trial and error emphasis on the error part. And I just wasted time. Yes. Yes, of course I learned things and it was a stepping stone. Of course. However. However, when I reflect back, that's actually my only regret and I don't have any regrets. It's my only regret is that I did not invest sooner because. Because with help. Instead of crawling to your destiny. Conation now you get to walk slash run. And when you. You hire a coach and you invest thousands of dollars. Well, now, Now ladies, we are driving to our destination. We got that shit on autopilot. We've got our music playing. We've got windows. Those down, we've got the wind in our hair. Life is good. That is how powerful it can be when you ask. Ask for help. The only thing that's getting in your way is your. Ego and whatever limiting belief and story you have in your head. About what it means to ask for help. Instead. Head of being stuck in a victim mindset and what was me and I. I have to do everything myself. And this is my job and nothing is working for. In life is so hard. Make a decision to go. Go get help. You do not have to do it all by yourself. I personally believe asking for help saves me time. Speeds up time and is an act of courage and bravery. Every cause sometimes like if it's a coacher or let's say it's a therapist, Pissed. That's vulnerable. That's like, shit, I don't. I have it all figured out. I do need help. That's brave. That's courageous. I've had coaches, you guys, since 2018. 2018. That's like six. Six seven years now. Are they all consecutive. No. But the minute I ran into an issue the minute. I was like, okay, there's a roadblock here. Okay. There's a wall of something. I can't do it by myself. I go get help. Number four, focus on the cup. Cup half full. Not half empty. These are for my pessimists. I think there's this misconception. With personal development in general. That in order to work on yourself, something. Thing has to be wrong and needs to be fixed. Or this lie. You're telling yourself that I am broken. If you start working with a coach. Coach or a therapist or whatever from that type of. Perspective. I feel like then. You get stuck in the healing trap or what is known as the healing trap. Trap where you're constantly fixing something. Because you are just never whole. And. And you never fully love and accept yourself. There's always. Always something you gotta be working on. And that's just a very unhealthy. Healthy place. To go from or to, to start personal. Personal development from so reframe for you. Different perspective. You are already whole. You. You are already loved. And you already have, so. So much in your life that is beautiful and full of love. And. And what you can be grateful for. Work on yourself from that place. Now that's fun. Right. We always focus on the future. And where we're going, but. We rarely focus on how far we've come. And this is a really powerful exercise for you. You to do. Because if you just took some time to, to. To write down, reflect however you want to do it. Maybe make. The list. But take some time to reflect on everything. You've overcome. Every time you felt fear. And you did it anyways. Any time you were anxious about. At something happening and it never happened. Every time. You thought your life was over during a breakup or getting fired from. A job. But now reflecting on those big. Moments you're able to connect the dots and realize how. These life moments actually worked for you. And the lesson. Lesson learned and not to you. If you reflect. Correct. On all of this, you are going to have a very long. Long list and you're going to realize, wow. I am powerful. I am. Okay. I have gone through some. Oh shit. And I am still here. And. There are so much gratitude to be found in that. I approach personal development. From a forever student perspective. So forever my entire life. I will always want to learn. I will want to grow. I will want to evolve from an already whole. Whole place. At the same time, I'm never settling. And I'm never becoming stagnant because. As Tony Robbins. Lynn says, if you're not growing, you're dying. So you can come from a very beautiful, healthy, Healthy positive place to continue. To do the work. But it's not like I'm fixing something. Because I believe I'm broken. No, I'm good. But I just want to constantly challenge myself and. Continue to grow because why the hell not? There's like that meme. That goes around. I don't know if you guys are familiar. But it's kind of like, you know, let's fuck around and find out how powerful we are or. Let's fuck around and find out how abundant we are. Right. Right. Like, that's the mindset I'm in. Let's just fuck around and find. Find out why not? It's fun. Let's go for it. Oh, Another limiting belief. Okay, cool. Let's rewrite. Let's shift. That's fun. Number five and it's the last one start. Before your ready. We put. So much pressure on ourselves to have it all figured out before. We make a decision. Or we have to have all our ducks in a row. So before we make a decision. Because we're unsure. Sure. We don't know. But the only way to find out. Is to make a decision so that you will know. And then you can always make another decision. My mentor used to say, fuck it up and figure it out. So being okay with the fucking it up part. And trust. Trusting you we'll figure it out. Worst case. You're not going to die. Worst case you have to make a new decision. And you'll probably fuck that one up too. And that's okay. If you're just sitting around twiddling. During your thumbs doing the same things every single day consuming. Coming the same shit every single day, watching the same news, every. Single day, hanging out with the same people every single day. You will not experience change. You will not get what. You want. But guess what? We love it. We love it because it's easy. You don't have to do anything. You don't have to lean to your fear. Fear. You get to live in your excuses, or I like to say, excuse Phil. It keeps us safe. And it. Keeps us small and we love it. But you even have to recognize that. At that part of you even exists. You keep saying you want all these things, you want money, you want success. You want. But our relationships, you want a healthy. Lifestyle you want. To rock in the hard body. But there's a part of you that doesn't want it. This is the foundation of shadow work. Shadow. Work is basically you saying, I know you're trying to protect. Correct me. But you don't. I don't need the protection. Anymore. I've got this. I'm good. Right. Right. You feel the fear? And the discomfort and you do. Do it anyways. One of. My guest experts in the big shift. Becca Nichols. Devoted an entire workshop to just shadow work. She made us stand up. She made us dance. She made us look at. Ourselves in the mirror. Made us act out what insecurity is. And what confident is it was wild. Wild and so powerful. Such an amazing experience and so enlightening and so empowering. but you don't get to do that. If you keep living in your excuse, Phil. Trust me. Safe does. Not exist. And small what's on the other. Side of small. Do you really want to get to the end of your life? And be like, I am so proud of myself for living safe. And small. No. I am so proud of myself for living in the same city. All my life and staying at the same job all my life and having the same co-work. Coworkers and friends all my life and never traveling out of my. My hometown all my life. And I'm so proud. Out of myself. What. No one would say that. You're proud of yourself. For the risks that you take, you're proud of yourself for the confidence you built. You were proud of yourself for getting out of your comfort zone. You're proud. Proud of yourself for trying new shit, traveling to new places, having. Having new conversations with new different people. That's where your proud. And that is living big. Big. And I would choose big over small Annie. Any day. So take these. These five. Listen to them. Listen to this episode again. Take one and actually apply something. Something to your life. Actually do. I do it. And when you do it, you're going to take a photo and you're going to. Post it, and you're going to tag me. And you'll be like Katia. Thank. Thank you because. I am living big and I started before I was ready or. Or I just looked at my finances and wow. There's a lot to work through. Or you just reminded me. I am whole. I would love, love, love, love to see that. So that's what I got for you this week. If anything, about this. The episode resonated with you. Like I already said, take a screenshot. Post on your stories and tag me, I would love, love, love to see. What you actually applied and implemented from this episode? So thank you in advance. I love you all. And I appreciate you.