Making Money Isn’t Greedy - It’s Your Duty (Here’s Why) w/ Reese Evans

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What if building a successful business wasn’t about doing more…
but about rewiring who you are at your core?

In this episode of Building HER, I sit down with Reese Evans (YES SUPPLY) - Mindset & Abundance Coach and creator of the YES SUPPLY METHOD - to unpack the real work behind building a business, making money, and becoming the woman who can actually hold it all.

If you’ve ever struggled with self-doubt, money blocks, or feeling like you’re not “ready yet”… this episode will shift everything.

Because the truth is - success isn’t strategy first.

It’s identity, energy, and what you believe is possible for you.

💥 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

- Why your subconscious mind is running the show (and how to rewire it)
- The real reason you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or “not ready”
- How to shift from self-doubt → self-trust
- The connection between money, identity, and energy
- Why making money isn’t greedy - it expands your impact
- How to stop saying “no” to yourself and start creating momentum
- What it actually takes to build a coaching business that works

✨ About Reese Evans (YES SUPPLY)
Reese Evans is a Mindset & Abundance Coach and the creator of the YES SUPPLY METHOD, on a mission to teach the world how to use the power of the subconscious mind, energetics, and universal laws to create a life they truly desire.

After spending years battling limiting beliefs, negative self-talk, and holding herself back, everything changed when she decided to say a full-body YES to herself - her identity, her desires, and her potential.

Now, through modalities like Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Hypnotherapy, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), and energy work, Reese helps people create deep, lasting transformation - not just surface-level change.

She has trained hundreds of coaches through her YES SUPPLY METHOD Certification, empowering them to help others break through limitations, step into alignment, and create quantum leaps in their lives and businesses.

🔗 Connect with Reese:
Instagram: @yessupply
Website: yessupply.co

Transcript

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Hello and welcome to this week's episode of the Building Her podcast. I'm your host, Kati Lilian. If you've been loving this podcast, go ahead and rate the podcast five stars and DM me on Instagram when you do that, because I want to connect and personally thank you. If you are new here, hit that subscribe button. It really helps the podcast grow, and that way you'll never miss an episode. So let's dive in. I am so excited for this guest episode. I am interviewing none other than Reese from Yes, supply, a very familiar name in the industry. We met at a mastermind retreat that I was a part of last November, and she was one of the panelists. She was one of the speakers, and she is a mom of two, four, and five. So my ears perked up when she was talking because she gets it. She is in the thick of it, and she was also tall like me, so I was like, oh, tall, girly. It's like an instant connection when we see each other, you know what I mean? It's like the eyesight is right there, it's in line with each other, but we hit it off right away. I loved everything that she shared and just resonated with all of her points, and so I invited her onto the podcast. And it was a really, really powerful conversation because what we talk about is, you know, building a successful business. It's not just always about doing more, but it's about one, becoming the woman who knows that she actually matters, her voice actually matters, and that there is a place for her in the industry and the society. And so in this episode, I have a raw, honest, and very real conversation with her about motherhood, about entrepreneurship, money, mindset, and the identity shifts that no one prepares you for. Because if I'm being honest, no one tells you what it actually looks like to build a business while raising babies. No one tells you how much you'll have to unlearn and relearn. No one tells you that success will require a completely new version of you. And your business, depending on what stage you're in. So this conversation is for the woman, the woman who is trying to do both and wondering if she's doing it right. In this episode, we get into the truth about balancing motherhood and entrepreneurship. Why doing everything yourself is keeping you stuck and burned out. The mindset shift from making money is greedy to making money is your duty, how to structure your business so it actually supports your life. The role of delegation, automation, and. Staying in your zone of genius, why women struggle with money comparison and feeling behind the biggest money mindset lie you've been taught and how it's holding you back and so much more. I say this every time when I have an amazing, an amazing guest on the podcast. And to be honest, that's. Every single guest on my podcast, but you're gonna wanna sit back, you're gonna wanna get cozy. Get that tea, get that coffee, get that mocktail, get that wine, whatever you prefer, get your notebooks out and sit back and enjoy the. Hey, my name is Kati Lillian, and I am obsessed with all things mindset, personal development, and helping you build the best version of yourself. I'm a women's life and mindset coach and an entrepreneur who started a fun hobby of posting hashtag sweaty selfies, grew a successful side hustle, and now I run a six figure coaching business. I teach you the secret of building a life that aligns with your deepest values and one that you wake up excited for. This podcast is designed to expand your mind and. Challenge the status quo. So get ready to uplevel your life and let's start building her.

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Grace, welcome to the building her podcast. I'm so excited that you're here for anyone listening. Two moms getting their schedules together and their babies healthy to make this happen is quite complicated. This is the third attempt over here, but we're sitting here and we're doing it, so I'm very excited. Made it happen. Made it happen. I know. I'm very, very excited that you're here. I met you when I was in Miami or Fort Lauderdale for the top tier immersion, the mastermind that I was in, and you had spoken, you were on the panel. And you talked about motherhood and business, and my ears perked up because I'm a new mom. She's 15 months tomorrow, and so everything that you said just resonated with me so much because now that I'm on the other side and I'm in motherhood, I'm like, oh my gosh. Like people really don't get it in terms of. The time that it takes and the commitment and the sacrifice and all the things that we could go on and on about. The number one question that I get myself now is how do you do both? How do you be a mom and how do you have a successful business and how do you run it and how do you operate it? So I wanted to ask you that question because you're, I think you have two kids and they're a bit older than mine. Four, four, and five now. Four and five. Yeah. So you're much more evolved into the motherhood chapter, so I'd love to hear it from you. What, what's the advice that you give in terms of doing both? You get to be a mom and run a business. Mm-hmm. I think. One of the things that really helped me now as a mom is one of the things that even helped me when I was first getting started with my business was I was able to see which tasks were repetitive or wish tasks I didn't need to be doing, and either outsource that, delegate that, automate that so that I could be in my zone of genius. So when I first started Yes, supply I was just sharing things that. Like lit me up in my life or mindset or things that empowered me. And I realized, you know, as people were reaching out to me saying like, Reese, this is changing my life. This is helping me quit a job I don't like, or get outta a toxic relationship or whatever. I realized it's not greedy for me to wanna make money from this. It's actually my duty because I'm helping people. And if I can't help people just a couple hours after work as I like, you know, grind and, and, and post content, imagine how many people I could help if I was able to do this. Full-time. So I think when we release feeling like it's greedy to make money and we realize it's our duty because we can do more of what's helping people, it helps a lot. And so. Every time I noticed I was doing something that was repetitive or outside of my zone of genius, I delegated that out. So one of the first roles that I um, gave out was customer service.'cause I realized I was answering the same, like I lost my email. Like, what's my password? Like I was. I was becoming a robot essentially answering the same question over and over again. So I outsourced that and that helped me eventually outsource the web development and IT and video editing and you know, all the things. And so now as a mom, I feel like my most important job is actually raising my kids. And of course, with what I do with yes supply, coaching my clients and creating content and everything that's outside of either working with my clients or. Creating a course or you know, creating content and marketing, all of that needs to be delegated. Yeah. Yeah, I love that. I was not like that when I first became a mom because I, um, I mean, my bread and butter is one-on-one coaching and then group programs as well. And so I would say it's less customer service and, and things like that. But the delegation and the way my business was structured was not. In a place to be, let's call it, ready to have kids. So I kind of had to learn postpartum. Mm-hmm. Like, you know, month three, month four, month five. I was like, whoa, my mat leave is over. How do I do this? How do I return? Yeah. I love what you said about money. It's not greedy. It's my duty that was so powerful and I could not agree more. I think. Um. There's still women that I know, and I'm sure you know yourself in terms of feeling like it is still greedy. You know, it, it is. They, they haven't made that connection yet. What would you say to them? What, what advice would you offer in terms of money reframes or just different ways to look at it or even how to get there? I would say think of who you've seen be successful and how that showed you proof of what was possible and realize that you can be that for someone else. So, um, like an example from my life is when I grew up being like a woman of color, a person of color, I never saw anyone who looked like me as the main character of. The movie, they were like always the sidekick or whatever. I didn't see that many examples of success. And even when I got into coaching, I didn't really see anyone in personal development outside of like Oprah or Lisa Nichols. But I remember hearing Lisa Nichols story. So her story is that she, um, had a little baby and she didn't even have enough money to. Buy diapers for her baby, but she figured it out and then went on to start a multimillion dollar coaching business. And so seeing what she did, I was like, well, if Lisa could do it and, and she was in a worse situation than me, then I can do it too. And so over the years, I've had so many women reach out to me who are either women of color or maybe they speak a different language or they are self-conscious because they have an accent and they're worried like. Can I run my business in English, even if I have an accent and they reach out to me and they say, Reese, because I saw you do this, it made me realize that I could do this as well. And so. For everyone who's listening you, whether you, you look like me or not, you all have something that makes you unique, that you might think is a flaw or a setback that can actually be your strength. And so it's not greedy for you to go and make a million dollars. You actually show other people who might think, oh, I can't because I don't have a degree, or I can't because of this and that. You show them what's possible and then we. Essentially change the consciousness so everyone knows that abundance is available to them. And I, I saw a stat the other day that was like 50% of women have the wealth in the world, but only 2% of women get money from, um, investors if they're investing to start a business. And so it's so interesting that. There's still so many blocks for women to, you know, rise up in business and rise up in success and abundance. And so, you know, like when, when you think you're, you're making more or you're greedy or whatever, like, we're still just scratching the surface of what's possible for us. Yeah. So having like too much is relative. Yeah. Yeah. I feel like we're just getting started over here. Yeah, exactly. Females in business, which is very exciting. I, I love that you just mentioned actually. Your experience a little bit, being a person of color, I really resonate with that. In terms of my daughter, she's mixed. Oh yeah. My, my husband is black American. I'm white European, and so I. It's so interesting. People already look and they're like, oh, like you're her mom? And I'm like, yes, yes. I'm, she's mixed, she's biracial. And I just look to people like you to pave the way for her. You know, like, I obviously am gonna do what I need to do for her. But having those examples is, is, um, really important I think with, um. What you just said. Seeing people like Oprah and Lisa Nichols, it showed you what was possible. Mm-hmm. And it was very inspiring. I agree. Anyone that is tall like me or looks like me or any kind of, you know, uh, resemblance, I'm like, Ooh, what is she doing? And it just. Gives me more permission to do the same. Yeah. Me and you are both tall. I know. We're the tallest ones in the room. I saw you. I was like, oh my gosh. Instant connection. But I often find, especially with my clients. And to your point, you just said, there's still so many blocks that we women have. I tend to see people fall into the comparison trap much more quickly than looking at it from a place of possibility. Mm-hmm. I mean, everything from Instagram following. From reels popping off. Like if a woman is winning, we tend to tear down. We tend to be like, oh, well I'm not like her. Like what is she doing that I'm not doing? It's like a competitive nature versus looking at it like, you go girl, and now you're paving the way for me, and now that's giving me permission to do the same. Why do you think we fall into that much more easily and quickly? As, as women, as females, yeah. It's definitely part of our consciousness. I don't know if this is necessarily for females, but I used to have an assistant who worked with me on my team and she went to school for economics and she was like, Reese, everything that you're saying is so mind blowing.'cause when she went to school, they told her that wealth, the money available to us is like a pie chart. So there's like a hundred percent of the pie, and if this person gets 50, then there's only 50% less. If this person gets 30, you only get 20, and it's getting smaller and smaller and smaller. So if someone's taught that the amount of money or success available is finite, and if. She gets it, then you can't get it. It makes sense why there's that competitive nature, because it's survival, right? It's like, are you going to eat dinner or am I going to eat dinner? But how I see money, and what I realize is that they are literally printing trillions and trillions of dollars. Mm-hmm. Every like day, every second. And money, in my opinion, is more of an idea than a tangible. Asset. So when you think about it like they're printing more and more money every day, pretty much every single country is millions or billions of dollars in debt. What does that tell you? If, if all these countries are in debt but they're still operating and they're still doing business and they're still doing all the crazy things that they're doing, we won't get into that. But you know what I mean? Like if they can afford, afford to do that while they're billions of dollars in debt, it tells me that money isn't a piece of paper or a stack of gold. Money is an idea. And so it doesn't matter if she has more or he has more, it really is about, well, what is your idea of yourself? How or how do you bring ideas to the table that can bring value? Because when you see that money is simply an exchange of value based on the idea that you have of yourself or the idea that you have of your product, when you convince other people of that same idea, so they're trading you in business, that's how you earn money. Yeah. It doesn't, it doesn't matter if Elon Musk or Jeff Bezos has more, they, they have more than me. It matters. If I have a idea that I can bring value and show someone else, I can bring value, let's exchange it for. Money. Mm-hmm. And that's it. It doesn't matter what anyone else is doing. Mm-hmm. A hundred percent. I had no idea that in economics they teach you money is like a pie. Like of course that's gonna create competition. Are you kidding? Yeah. I want my slice. Exactly. Exactly. And I'm sure, I'm sure different schools and universities are different, but that's her, her experience was. Yeah. No, that's insane. I, I agree with you. I had to do a lot of money mindset work. As I entered entrepreneurship five, six years ago, where I did have to understand and learn, oh, money is limitless. I mean, before we used to say printing paper, but now I, I say it's a series of numbers. You know what I mean? Yes. Like it's not backed by anything. Exactly. It's truly made up, I think of Bitcoin and all the stages of money that I've even been able to witness now in my 34 years. It's just insane. Mm-hmm. Um. And then also too, sometimes we think we need money in order to get an experience. Hmm. But sometimes the value that you bring can bring you an experience. I remember. Early in my career, I got, I got invited to a, uh, retreat in Nicaragua and I was like swimming in the pool and I was kind of visualizing like, what would it be like if this was my house and this was my pool, whatever. And then on one of the last days, the owner was like, Hey, if you want to create content for this space, you can come back and you can stay here as long as you want. I didn't end up doing it, but it's funny because if I wanted to, I could have just brought value. Got the experience that I wanted anyway, right? Mm-hmm. Sometimes money doesn't even have to be a barrier. You can just have the experience or the outcome that you want. Yeah. I love that. That's such a good example. I think also you were talking about investments and investments for women, and only 2% actually receive those investments. I think it's interesting because. The biggest objection I get when I'm on consultation calls is, oh, I don't have enough money, or I don't have the money for it, and. While that may be true on paper, I think it's interesting how we view money in that way and that that's like the most accepted objection. Because if you think about someone investing into your company, they have nothing to go off of but you and your idea. Right? Oh, true. Like, like there's no evidence or proof that this thing will be successful. It's just my idea and hyping it up and I have a good ass story. Yeah. Is to sell you. On this idea for you to give me lots of money in return dollars. Yeah. It's crazy. But it's like, we don't think like that. And, and I get from upbringing and if you were in the regular school system, and I guess you, if you went to this economics class, you know, it's like, I get it. Yeah. But at the same time, you get to unlearn a lot of this stuff too. What do you think is. It kind of ties to AI because we talk about the future of entrepreneurship, and then we talk about ai, and then we talk about, well, money's gonna be obsolete one day because AI's gonna take over. What? What's your take on all of that? Uh, I haven't heard, I haven't heard the concept that money is gonna be off because you're gonna have to educate me on that one. Uh, just, it, it was quick. It was from just like blow it just blowing my mind. Like out of the, I know, I think it's, it's a tech billionaire, Jeff Teal. Does that sound or is it Peter Thiel? Peter Field, the creator of PayPal. Yeah. I read his book like a long time ago. So he talked about it and he was like, AI's going to replace the, the basic jobs, right? Like the ones that doesn't really have a lot of creativity. It's kind of like clock in, clock out, your nine to fives. So if there's enough of those jobs that get replaced, what is the value of money? Right. What is the place of money? Because usually it's an exchange of some kind of job. We're talking about value, and so if that value is replaced essentially that humans give by ai, it changes the whole dynamic of money. What do you think? I haven't heard that. That con Challenge it. Challenge it. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I heard, I heard, well, I don't know if I could challenge it. I think I need to research it a bit, but like I do, I do agree that AI could potentially take a lot of the more repetitive tasks and more repetitive jobs. Mm-hmm. And then to what you're saying, but there's still money. Like, yeah. May, maybe if everyone who works like an admin job, they lose their job. Mm-hmm. But what about like the business owners or investors or real, like how are people? Has he said like how people are gonna exchange if we don't have money? Um, just like friend friendship. No. Kind of like, everyone would get like a paycheck, but it's not connected to work. So it's just kind of like, oh, like a social credit system type of thing? Totally. Oh yeah. Yes. Well, that's, that scares me. Um, but same, same, um, and then the digital ID and all that. All of that stuff, yes. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. That, that kind of scares me. Um, but yeah, in terms of like at the, at the. First idea of like AI taking the more repetitive jobs. Mm-hmm. I, I can see that obviously taking away from many people because, you know, someone who has their comfortable, repetitive job that might be replaced. So I, I do see the negatives and I do see the drawbacks, but I do, I do also see the positives maybe because I am very creative and I'm. And like the easiest thing for me to talk about is an ID is ideas and that type of thing. Mm-hmm. I think that where AI might take. Things that are more repetitive away from us. Hopefully. Ideally it actually gives us more space mm-hmm. To do the things that only humans can do. Yeah. So think of new ideas, innovate, be creative. Maybe we get off our phones and get back to doing more things in person when we're collaborating. Um, like if there's an AI that will come, like, fold my laundry for me, like I'll, I'll take it. Right. So like what we were talking about in the earlier in this conversation, I've always been for. Releasing the repetitive monotonous tasks that aren't allowing us to fulfill our potential. Because if you have space to think, because you're not doing the repetitive thing, imagine what incredible ideas you could actually come up with. Mm-hmm. I couldn't agree more. That being said, digital ID and tracking my iris and my fingerprint and everything that I do or say everywhere I go, that surveillance scares me. Mm-hmm. So it depends how far on the spectrum we're talking now. I know, I mean there's so many rabbit holes I've been down and the diary of a CEO has had a few people on there where I'm just like, I don't even wanna listen to this anymore. Yeah. Because when they talk about the future of ai, it does seem much more doomsday. Yeah. But the one thing I'll say,'cause everyone's like, ah, they're gonna take our jobs, you know, whatever, but it's. But then what you just mentioned, there's going to be new jobs or there's going to be new things that people create and you know, we have imaginations and like it's, it's actually exciting to me to see how the world might change because also, even if we're talking about. Technology and you being a mom and me being a mom, I want to make sure that my daughter is not always on an iPhone, an iPad or whatever, and actually in the world learning. And so it's like, I think the younger generations are actually going to crave community and getting out there and not just being at home, not just being on phones and computers. There's a guy in Japan, I just made a reel about it. He gets paid to go on walks. People. Mm-hmm. Like what? That's, I heard that saying that's a new job. You know? Yeah. So I, I think we really need to view it from a place of, and you and I are the same way in terms of optimism and possibility and abundance. Not focusing on what's going away or what's changing. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. And I could see why there's a need for that because of, for the last. Decade or 15 years, everyone's just been on their phone. They forget how to socialize, they forget how to be like, hi, nice to meet you. Let's be friends. So now you need to pay for someone to, to go for a walk with you. Um, not, that's a big reason why I'm currently homeschooling my kids because I remember disliking so many aspects of school. I remember feeling trapped inside. You know, doing the same math questionnaire over and over again looking outside, and it's beautiful and it's sunny and it's like, I just wanna be out there and living my life instead of re remembering like. Who such and such was from like 1783. And it's funny because it's like we had to memorize all of these facts of like September 2nd, 1629, and you know, our teachers would say, you're not gonna be walking around with a calculator in your pocket. And it's like, no, we don't have a calculator in our pocket. We have a literal super computer. With AI in our pocket. So our kids don't necessarily need, they, they should know, like, you know, in general the errors and things that happen, but I don't think they need to re remember all those little tiny, like monotonous details when they can have their personal assistant to do that. For them to memorize things for them or to, you know, calculate certain things for them. But they need to be full of ideas. They need to. Connect with people. They need to delegate, they need to be a leader. They need to problem solve most importantly. So I think like, giving our kids the opportunity to have the socialization, that's what's gonna set them apart more than just remembering a bunch of facts. Ugh. I completely agree. If you guys are watching on YouTube, I'm laughing over here. When you said you're nodding 1783, it's insane because I remember I was also, yeah, very fear driven and, and that came from my upbringing and my parents. But I was like, okay, this test matters and getting an A matters and. If I even remember it afterwards, that doesn't really matter. It's just about the test. It's just about my great, that's what matters, right? Yeah. Tell me, ask me something about history in 1783. Like I have no fucking clue. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. But, and that's, and that's like 10 years of our life. I know. And that building and not, I love education for sure. Yeah. But it's like, what? I, I hear some of the newer types of schools that are coming out now and it's like 10 year olds are learning how to start an Airbnb or something. It's like real life skills. Yeah. Is what our kids, we should be giving our kids to like set them up for success. No, I love that. I, um, I was just looking it up because I, I still have time with my daughter, but I remember you and I talked about homeschooling and I was just so amazed by that because I've considered it, but I was a little, mm. It felt a little daunting to me because I was like, Ooh, that's time, that's effort. It's also, I feel like a responsibility on me because. I don't wanna put her in a normal school because I don't want her to have the same experience that I had with, again, testing matters above all else. And you're in this room and the teacher is almost like an authoritarian and you have to listen and it's the whole dynamic of school, right? Forget what you're even studying and learning. It's more of like even how the desks are positioned. And I will never forget some of my teachers, it was like. Eighth, ninth grade, they'd have like Popsicle sticks and everyone had a name on this Popsicle stick, and it was like random, like by choice, Katya, what is the answer to blah blah, blah. And it was like, oh, just keeping you in stress and fear. Oh my God. For immediately my body would tense up. And then I always believed I was the problem. Like I had social anxiety. It's like, no, you were in an environment that actually failed you. Right? Yeah. Like you're not the problem. This. System is the problem That was so healing for me. And so I'm looking at homeschooling or even like a hybrid approach or you just Yeah, like a micro school or something. Yeah, or there's like an academy here. I think it's in Tampa. I don't know the name off the top of my head, but even the way they have the desks, it's like in a circle. And it's much more like group activity, learning outside, you know? And I'm like, that's so interesting. I would much rather put my daughter in something like that. Um, sure. That's more like collaborative and like if she, if she gets a job or whatever business one day that she's gonna be working collaboratively with other people, it's not gonna be. At a desk staring at the wall, like staring out the window like you just said. Yeah, I wish I was out there. Yeah. Um, what would you say is like the hardest part of homeschooling your kids? If you had to say there, there was just something that was hard or is hard, what would you say that is? Yeah, that's such a good question and I think like I'll share my experience, but I think. Everyone's different because every parent is different and every child is different. Um, so at the beginning when I first started, the hardest part was even just figuring out like. What do I teach them? What are the curriculums? How do I make sure that they're on par with the grade level or exceeding the grade level that they need to be at? So at the beginning, the hardest part was just research, getting it all together. And then now my kids are at different ages. So one of my kids loves homeschooling. He asked for homeschooling, can we do homeschooling? He'll sit for hours and do it. Yesterday I, I showed him a new math app and he just sat. Did it for an hour, but my other one is just not that interested and it's okay. He's young, he's got lots of time, he's got lots of energy, so he just wants to run around. So I, I want him to learn the things, but I don't want to pressure it so much that I take away his level of learning. So that's like what my current challenge is. It's like making sure that he's getting the information without. You know, being like authoritarian about it. Mm-hmm. Um, and so what I do as a workaround is I think about like, Hey, what do we wanna learn? And then I try to turn it into a game. Got it. Yeah, I love that. And um, I'm so grateful that I learned so much about the subconscious mind over the years because I bring a lot of it into teaching. And one thing I know is that the sub third little walking subconscious minds, and what I know is a subconscious mind learns through repetition. So something hasn't clicked. It's not like it's never gonna click. I just need to give it more repetitions. So like, we'll listen to songs on the topic that we're learning, like in the car, or we'll turn it into games, or I'll I love, I love a flip chart, so I put things on flip charts and put them up on the wall. So it's like, I know it's going in and sometimes I'll try to teach something and I won't be sure if he's getting it. All of a sudden it clicks. Or like, um, I, I don't know much Spanish, but my boys are in Spanish lessons, and so my youngest one has been singing like the little Spanish songs. And then yesterday he said two things to me that I'm like, I don't, I don't know what you just said. I love that going in. They, they learn so quickly. You're gonna have to learn some Spanish, right? Yeah. Well, it's funny because we used to, we used to go to a class, they used to drive them to a class, and so I would actually learn it all with them. Which was great, but now we have a new great tutor who comes to our house, and so I'm like, this is great. Like I can actually get a little bit of work done or, or clean up or whatever while they're doing it. So I haven't been paying attention and I'm like, yeah, I'm like falling behind. I need to start listening in while they're in their training. You gotta keep up, girl. Yeah, yeah. Five. Yeah, exactly. I, gosh, I just, I think I, I love being a mom. I love the business. My first born, as I always say, but once I became a mom, I'm like, oh shit. Like this is what I want to focus on and do, and I wanna be around her 24 7. But there was a huge identity shift for me as well when I first had her, because I was very like. Admittedly, hyper masculine, ambitious, like go, go, go, go, go. And I think I needed to be a version of that to get myself to a place of where I am today. Mm-hmm. But I, as soon as I had her, I realized that no, that will no longer serve me. Did you have an experience like that when you had your first child in terms of like an identity, death or identity shift? Like was there a part of you that you realized, oh, I need to let this version go in order to step into this next version or role? Yeah, for sure. I, it's funny'cause I had been around a lot of kids and babies. I was a nanny for a bit, my younger brother's like 11 years younger than me. So I knew how much time and attention it takes around, you know, having a newborn.'cause I know some people are like, I just had a baby and I've never been around babies. I didn't realize like there's diaper changes and, and whatever. So I. Knew that there'd be that much attention, but it still, I think I still was in like a boss babe era, so I was like, okay, I'm gonna have my baby and then I'm gonna take, what did I say, like two weeks or a month or something. I'm gonna have my baby, I'm gonna take two weeks earlier my month or whatever I did, and then I'm gonna hop back into it. And yeah, my first like, I love him and. He, he's just, actually, both of them are like very, very, very attached to me. And I didn't realize like how heartbreaking it is to like say like, oh, sorry baby, like I'm walking into a meeting or I'm walking into a call. So yeah, that totally, it totally caught me off guard.'cause I'm like, oh, it's like the baby like has the milk or I'll feed it and then I just go do my thing. And it was, even though I was. Aware. I still wasn't totally prepared for that, so that was huge. And I think like with anything with a mom, I just kind of worked through like I can't say like, oh, I had the perfect solution. Like it's like some days I said I'm not doing this call, or some days I breastfed my baby while I was on a call or some days I said like, sorry baby, you have to hang out with daddy for a bit, or babysitter for a bit while I do this. So I can't say I had like the perfect solution. It was just like I took it day by day and just tried to do my best. Day by day. As it came. Yeah, I, I'm laughing over here again because when you said like, okay, I'm just gonna like have a baby and two weeks month later, just go back to normal. I had the same experience. I built out my own maternity leave four months, which I thought was like. Four months. Okay. Yeah. That's a quite a bit of time. And then, yeah, month three came and I'm like, I'm, I'm not ready. Like I'm still trying to figure this whole mom thing out. Yeah. And so I realized this little human is going to need me much longer than four months. And I think that's part of, like I say, a grieving process that I needed to have too. Yeah, kind of retire the Boss babe era and step into this motherhood era. But, but it was like the ultimate uplevel. I don't mean that in a negative way. Like I'm glad I dropped the Boss Babe, you know, era so that I could. Be even like better and more mature and give less fucks. Mm-hmm. As a mom, do you feel the same? Yeah. Like you just have this newfound confidence, not that you weren't confident before, but it's like a whole nother level. It's hard to describe. Yeah, it's hard to describe. And I think as a mom, you're always just gonna put your babies first. Like you just have this fierceness, this protectiveness of like. Their life, their future. That's what matters the most. If it's not bringing me peace or supporting them, it's not part of my life. Yeah, I love that. I remember at, um, the panel that you were a part of, we talked about kids and showing them online. Mm-hmm. And I think at that time you were still torn of like Yeah. I mean, there. They're number one. Yeah. But I still have to show up online and so it's like this dance of how much do I share about my motherhood journey. If you wanna talk like personal brand, my kids, am I showing faces or not? Where do you sit with, where do you sit with that now? Yeah. So right now I am not showing their faces online. I think when, when I saw you. At the, um, mastermind. Mm-hmm. I hadn chilled their faces online for a while, but when they were little, I didn't have any consciousness of that. So I was like, here's me, here's my baby, here's what we're doing, da da. And just over the years I've had a few like instances that I'm like, I don't know. Even though I, I imagine when I post online that it's just like my group of girlfriends and like my dream clients, literally anyone can look at your stuff online. And so the more my awareness. Phrased around that, the more I realized like, no, I actually don't wanna post them online. So I stopped doing that. Um,'cause I had in the past, like, uh, someone send me a death threat, you know? And it's like, okay, they decided to send that to, it wasn't about my kids. I don't, it was about something else, but it's like. That if I'm showing my kids, I'm making them vulnerable to that. Um, I had in the past someone try to break into my house. It's like there's so many different things where. Originally, like when I first started, I showed everything online and it was like I'm tra like I'm traveling, like I'm leaving my house empty and I'm gonna Paris. I'm like, you know what I mean? It's like all these things that we just do without even thinking about it, right? It's like I live in this city and dah, dah, and we just don't think about like, even though 99% of people are good, they're still. Some people out there that aren't. Um, and so yeah, I'm just being more conscientious of it. I'm in a place where I don't show my kids online. I don't talk about like their, breakdowns or meltdowns or whatever, because I also wanna respect their privacy. Um, and it's funny because, uh, a couple months ago, one of my kids was actually like, I wanna start a YouTube channel. And then I'm like, Hmm, what do I do when I'm like, I haven't been showing them online, but now they wanna start when, like, do I stop them or do I support them? So it's a, it's like no one, no mom before this age has ever had to navigate this type of thing. So it's, it's so tricky to do what's. To know what's right and you know, if somebody else is posting their kids online, I'm not judging. But for me, and you know, the things that I've gone through, I feel like this decision feels aligned for me, at least right now. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I feel the same way in terms of when I first had her, I was so excited and I was like, here's my baby. Yeah, take a look everyone. Oh my gosh. Like a very, because I also used to do, um, more so like wellness blogging and stuff, more like lifestyle brand before I got into coaching. So I was actually very used. To just sharing everything. Yeah. And so I think also going through pregnancy and delivery and, you know, I do have a lot of women that, uh, follow me. It, it's like, yeah, I just wanted to share that with them, you know. But, um, there have been a few things that have also happened, not as intense as yours in terms of death threats or breaking into. My home, it's the comments mm-hmm. And the online cyber bullying where I'm like, I look at it differently now'cause I can handle it for the most part, but now I see it almost like in her eyes, in her lens. And what, when she gets to an age of curiosity and starts asking like. What does that mean? Or whatever. It's like, Ooh, I'm gonna have to explain that to her. Like, yeah, this man thinks that your mom is only successful because he thinks she has an OnlyFans account. Like, how the fuck? Yeah. And that just opening a whole rabbit hole of conversation, right? You don't wanna get into. That's what mom is dealing with. Yeah. Grant, let alone, what if I showed her online more so, and someone said something weird like, yeah, I drew it back. And yeah. So I was like, I don't wanna open her or expose her to that. But to your point, at some point she's also going to wanna start a YouTube channel or an Instagram account. And I think then it's like. We have to have that conversation around negative comments and where does that come from? Why does someone feel like they can do this? What's going on within them? How this has nothing to do with you like that. Like that's a very evolved 10 years old plus where they can actually register what you're saying to them. Mm-hmm. For sure. I think everything else is premature. For sure. And I feel like, you know, our, our kids are gonna become teenagers in one day, adults, and we're not gonna be able to protect them from everything unfortunately. But for this like really special age, especially from zero to seven, when their subconscious mind is wide open, we have the opportunity to. So yeah. Yeah. Are you ever afraid of, because they're in this ripe age and knowing subconscious reprogramming and doing your work, are you ever afraid of like saying something wrong, moving a wrong way, so like. I don't know that it would impact them in a negative way. Like to kinda watch yourself, you know what I mean? For sure. Well, like what we were talking about before, when I, I would have a meeting or have to do this or that, I'm like, literally my brain is like, I'm leaving for this meeting and like I'm gonna give them abandonment issue I think. Yeah, for sure. Okay. And yeah, I'm very, I try to be very careful about how I talk to them or like words that I use because I don't want it to be perceived in a negative way or I want them to be able to kind of like, choose their identity. I have uh, a friend or family member who, growing up, her parents said, you're the funny one. You're the funny one. And so she started to associate as I'm the funny one. And what she told me would happen is she'd be like out telling an embarrassing story about herself and she'd be like, why am I putting myself in this situation? And it's because she was living up to the identity of, I'm the funny one. So I'm always, I try to be very careful about like how I. Help them form their identity. So it's something that they'll want. Yeah, but, but like, there's, so, there's so much to, to think about and, and consider. That's something that I am aware of now. So to your point, I'm so, so happy and grateful that I have done the work and continue to do the work on myself to be hyper aware of the subconscious and how it all works with her at the ripe age of 15 months. Yeah. Something like, something like saying no. Like, I actually watched my dad, you know, bless his heart. He, he doesn't know, but he says no to her, and it just feels intuitively like, no, we, we shouldn't say that. You know, it even goes like this. Yeah. So I'm like, Hey dad, maybe we just start saying like, Hey, we don't do that. Because I think at a certain age she's gonna ask why, and then we can explain. Well, you don't run in the middle of the road because there's this risk involved. You know? Like, yeah. I don't know. I'm trying to think of all the ways. But little things like that I've already noticed. And I get super protective too. I'm like, I had to call my dad out a few times'cause you know, she's eating all the food. She's 15 months and she's like eating her dinner. And then he even said like, oh, like, you know, be careful you don't want to eat too much as a joke. But I'm like, dad, yeah, we're not gonna continue that. Like, what are you doing? Have you had experiences? Yeah. Don't need body image issues. Two years ago. What? Like, you know, how much unlearning I had to do over here? Like, we're not gonna do that with her. How do you, how do you protect if you can. With Yeah. People, like family members, friends, like, do you call them out or do you handle it later? How do you navigate that? Yeah. I, I just use like a calm but tone firm. Okay. Calm, but firm tone. Mm-hmm. Of like, oh, we prefer to say it like this. We prefer to say it like that. So I think like our children are looking to us to protect them. So if, like, if we're not protecting them, who is, and also too, like if we're conceding to make somebody else comfortable, we're teaching them not from what we're saying, but how we're modeling to them. So I think it's okay. I'm not gonna break out and be like, rah. But I think like communicating in a confident tone lets them know that they can communicate when they're uncomfortable in a confident tone as well. They don't just have to suck it up. I love that. Very well said. Okay. I have one last question for you. I know we're running low on time here. I always think of, well, people like you too, just. Super successful. You have yes. Supply. You have a following. People see sometimes that end result, right? Mm-hmm. Like the version that you are today. If you had to tell someone I work with early and aspiring coaches who are just now getting into the coaching industry, and obviously it's a different landscape than when you and I had started, what would you wanna tell? That woman who's getting started now, because you weren't always here, you weren't like, you also had a moment where you started right? At zero say. Yeah. What would you tell her? What advice would you give her if she was just starting here today? Mm-hmm. I would say don't, don't look to follow the rules, because I think, I think what happens is people get into business because they're like, I wanna do my own thing. I wanna have freedom. I want to be creative. Then in moments where you feel insecure or you don't know the next step you look for like, what is this guru saying to do? What is this? Dah, dah. And then if you listen to all the advice, you're gonna have a laundry list of like, okay, well webinars are dead. And YouTube is dead and I need to have this and I need to have that. And it's all of these shoulds and it's all of these rules that were placed on you just because that's what your algorithm decided to show you. And that can become overwhelming and time consuming and dunking. And you might just should on yourself and follow a path of things that you didn't even want to do because you think that you should do them. And it's so funny because really. The landscape is changing so much. There is no one rule. Someone might suck at webinars and they are dead to them. And someone, someone might be amazing at webinars and that's how they sign all their high ticket clients. So what I encourage my clients to do, and what I encourage everyone to do is start with the end in mind. Ask your, ask yourself the yes, apply question. Ask yourself, what would I ask for if I knew the answer was gonna be yes? And get clear on that vision and then reverse engineer it to where you are now.'cause you might find. Oh my gosh, I can get to this end result that I want and I don't need to do this laundry list of 60 things. I could do the simplest things that help me get the furthest with the most ease and the most peace and the most fun and the most alignment to who I really am. And it's okay to do things differently from other people that you've seen them, because if you do them with the right energy and the right intention and the right conviction, you're gonna reach the end result anyway. Yeah. Uh, solid advice. And I lied'cause now you just brought me to another last question. Okay. Because it is all about, a lot of it is trusting your own intuition and what lights you up and do you like podcasting over YouTube? Even though maybe someone tells you go on YouTube, it's booming. It's like, but I don't even like YouTube. I like podcasting. Exactly. Yeah. When do you use your discernment? Well, I guess you always use your discernment, but like. For the early and aspiring coach, when do they know that they should invest into mentorship? Like, like what would be the reason? Because we, a lot of us talk about listen to your own gut and do what lights you up and if you like podcasting over YouTube, do that. So at what point do they listen to that? But then also do they know, you know what, I need to hire someone. I need a mentor. Yeah. So I need to like put a chart on this, but. So you do need to know what your end result is so that you kind of know the path that you would need to get there, right? And then you need to know once you start taking action, even if it's the first action, like registering your business, once you start taking action, you need to be aware, is the thing that's holding me back, lack of knowledge or is the thing that's holding me back, lack of the belief or the emotion? So if it's the lack of the belief or the emotion. You can't move through it on your own, then that's where it's so empowering to have a mindset coach or you know, someone who can help you with your subconscious mind to help you move through that. So that you can take the steps that you already know to do. So if you're saying to yourself, I know exactly what I need to do, but every time I I go to do it, I don't, because of this emotion, I don't know how to get through this emotion. Get yourself a mindset coach. It'll save you so much time and energy. And then on the flip side of that, if you're like, I believe in myself, I'm taking the, I'm taking all the actions. I'm motivated, but I don't know what to do. Or I'm doing all these things and I'm running around in a circle, then look for someone who has achieved what you want to do. And hire them to show you the steps. Yeah. Uh, I love that. But don't just, don't just hire someone because you got an email and the countdown timer is almost at zero, and you have fomo. Make sure that it's like, okay, in order for me to get to where I wanna be, I need this skillset. Or I need this belief, and then hire the person. Who can fill it in. And I think that's where a lot of a, a lot of people don't have a great experience in coaching because they need the strategy and then they hire a mindset coach, right? So they might see a mindset coach that's made millions of dollars. And so they say, oh my gosh, let me hire that mindset coach. Mm-hmm. And then they get in and they're like, where's the strategy? But the mindset coach never said that they were gonna. Help you with a strategy. Mm-hmm. So you need to either get a course, ask cha GBT, or hire the person who's gonna teach strategy if you have the mindset and vice versa. Yeah, I love that. It reminds me so much of my story because when I first started into coaching, I hired a life coach. So more mindset focus.'cause I was going through an identity crisis. I was working in the tech industry, but I really wanted to do coaching. And I was like, how do I do this? So she really helped with that. But then I didn't have strategy in terms of building my own, so I created a six week program of$600 and I was just very motivated and hungry. And I put myself out there and I got 10 girls to sign up. Amazing. And I was like, this is amazing. Yeah. But. The money. I was like, this is cute, but it's not gonna replace my salary. Right? So how do I make more money? And then, you know, I put it out in the universe. And then I found my business coach online. My mom actually sent me a podcast episode of his, but anyways, I hired him$7,500 for a three month group coaching program. And it saved me so much time because I could have probably just kept throwing spaghetti at the wall to see what's. Stuck with my six week,$600 program, but I wanted to speed up time. Mm-hmm. And so when he showed me the strategy of maybe six month or a year long containers and high ticket coaching, then it's like, oh, it sped up the time for me to replace my salary so that I could leave and do this. Uh, and go all in. So, exactly. Yeah. Sound advice. So anyone listening and you're considering coaching or considering investing, that's such, such good advice in terms of the mindset, the emotion that you're moving through. And or the strategy and just lack of knowledge. Ah, Reese, I could talk to you forever. We might have to do a part two of this because I have all the questions. For right now, where can people find you? What are you selling? How could people get into your world? Give us all the information. Yeah, so if you're listening and you know you wanna become a mindset coach, you wanna help people reprogram your subconscious mind, that's where the guest supply method can help you. So we teach you subconscious reprogramming. Tools so that you can sell high ticket services and high ticket coaching and help your clients actually transform because they get the results that they want. So you can join and learn more@yessupply.co or you can find me on Instagram at Yes Supply. Yay. All right, thank you so much and, um, let us know if you guys wanna part two of this series and we'll have Reese come back. Thanks for having me. Thank.